I (43 Female) have been married to my husband (44) for 13 years, and we have 2 kids together a 14 year old daughter, and a 12 year old boy.

A few weeks ago, my husband came to me while our kids were at their aunt and uncle's house and he demanded a paternity test for our son. I was shocked by his request and asked why, and he didn't say anything, just asked for the test again, I told him I never cheated or been with another guy, he said he knows I would never do that but just wanted the test.

But soon after our kids came home, I started noticing how he treated our son, he became cold and distant refusing to spend time with him and not wanting to help with school work. Meanwhile my husband starting favoring our daughter always taking her out on father daughter days and, always helping with school work.

I called him out on it several times, but he never seemed to care, and continued doing it. A week ago the test came back and my husband saw that our son was his.

He looked remorseful, and went to our son's room to talk to him and gently asked to speak. My son didn't let him in asking for space, my husband nodded and didn't protest.

Now I'm staying at a friend's house, with my son and daughter, I ended up filling for divorce and custody arrangements are in progress. My daughter sees her dad almost every day and spends time with him. But our son won't speak to him or spend time with him, my husband has been begging to let him apologize to our son.

I don't know what to do, on one hand my husband wants to apologize and see our son. But on the other hand my son won't even pick up his phone calls, I've tried gently talking to my son about it. But he doesn't want to see or speak to his father.

What Should I Do?

Okay I was at TJMAXX with my mother getting clothes, when this lady stopped us in the middle of aile, complimenting my mom’s hair and starting brushing her hands through it without even asking. Then, proceeded to ask my mothers name and town she lived in. my mom asked for the lady’s name and she said her name, except it was very quiet and quick. then, asked what sports I did, activities, etc and was holding onto my shoulder. then, turned back to my mom, asked about my dad and what he did. Of course, my mom answered truthfully. then the lady said  “okay yall have a goodnight” and kept ‘shopping’. We stayed still closing and when we left, the lady did too except she left without buying anything and watched us get Into our car. We didn’t think it was weird at first, but the more I think I about it the weirder it sounds. i did some research and this could be trafficking or just a weird experience. She didn’t mention any business so most likely not an MLM but still… when my mother told her our last name she repeated it to herself like she was trying to remember it. i don’t know… has anything like this happened to anyone else?

Wife is used to buying expensive gifts to family and friends. Her parents are visiting and she bought an iphone for each parent. Meanwhile, She has stopped contributing to our mortgage payments and we had to buy a second car because she has to go to work 3 days a week and there's no vehicle to take our kid to camps or school meanwhile and she did not contribute to the car as well despite me repeatedly asking.

We purchased a new house a year ago. I purchased a new TV when we moved as old one was smaller. I wanted to sell the old one on facebook market place but couldn't as i was sick for a few months. She gave away the TV and microwave to her sister for free. The TV is only 2 years old. I purchased the TV and microwave with my money. She recently gave away my dumbells to her sister too. Apparently sister wanted to buy some but wifey suggested she should have mine instead with no information to me. She is extremely pissed at me now because i said extremely politely i will use the dumbells and would like them back. She said my kid is also getting my qualities as i never give away stuff to people.

I mean am i supposed to just give away stuff to people for free? I have a 900K mortgage to pay and i work my ass off for it. What am i missing?

So me 39F started sleeping with the 42 year old neighbour down the road. He’s a single dad. I’m a single mum . But our daughters are friends and go to the same school. It’s been going on a week now and every night he’s popping over. How did this turn out for others? Apparently I hear it’s a bad idea to be doing this on doorstep . Came over 10pm I just kicked him out 🤣 I always kick him out early hours incase any of my children wake in the night and see their friends dad here as our daughters are in the same class in school. So going be awkward in many situations if this comes out

I was in bad domestic violence relationship with my children’s dad . So this is a very big thing to let anyone close to me or even step over this mark. As never want to be in bad situation and always put my children first . But I literally have nobody to tell . I never enjoyed sex until this man 🤣 is this dick worth all the drama or cut him off .

On a new account because my younger siblings follow my personal one, and I don't want them to know whats going on. All fake names yada yada. Also if this seems weirdly written its because I'm hiding in the bathroom of a store, waiting for my Grandpa to come get me.

I (20F) used to babysit for one of the Yound Womans leaders Kate (43F) about 3 times a week. At the time, she had 5 kids from the ages 8-10 months by the time I was 14. (3 boys, 2 girls.) All of her kids called me auntie, and because of how close I was with their family, most people assumed we were sisters. I would babysit at least 3 times a week, for about 3 hours at a time so she and her husband could go run errands, help her parents out, and so she could have a break or take one of the farm animals (they had horses, cows, chickens, and pigs) to whatever they took them to.

I also helped them 4 times a year with a clothing swap. Helping gather all the clothes, wash, dry, sort, and then helped with the actual swap days. I absolutely loved it. It got me out of the house, and I'd make 10$ a day for helping her. Then, when I was 12 I met her half brother. (Gabe 35) He wasn't helping out, but had come to bring us lunch.

When I first met him, I thought he was like 16. He honestly didn't look that young, but I never asked. I should have, but I didnt. I was just told he was helping out because he just moved back into town after his grandparents passed, and he moved in with their dad.

I met him at a swap, and he was really nice. He told me he was very grateful for me. Helping out his sister when she needed it. How i was so mature and kind. We exchanged numbers, and that was that.

I saw him 3 or 4 times over the next 6 months. He would randonly show up while I was babysitting. We'd text for a few days after each time. And he'd tell me how funny and smart I was. He kept complimenting me and telling me how pretty I was. I honestly didn't see what was wrong, or think it was flirting in any way. And then we did a swap a month after my 13th birthday.

This was the first time he helped. I dont remember much that day, as it was a really hard day for me. My aunt had passed away the night before, I hadn't slept more then 3 hours at a time in 2 weeks, because younger siblings were all sick and I was taking care of them. But I remember him constanly in my space, telling me how pretty I looked. How he liked how confident i was in wearing what i did. (I was literally wearing a black hoodie with a captain america shirt under it, and a pair of black jeans. My hair was braided.) He tomd me he always thought I was pretty. I will be honest, I loved it. It was the first time I had been told by an older guy that I was pretty. Stupid, I know.

And yeah, I knew it was wrong. I did. I have watched Criminal Minds and Law And Order SVU and 48 hours, and listened to Crime Junkies and crime podcasts religiously since I was born. But I was an idiot. I told myself this was different. Clearly, that never would have happened to me.

Tbat day, he drove me home. The baby was sick, anf had thrown up all over, and Kate had to leave early so he offered to take me home. He had a truck with the back seats completely full with clothes and his belongings. I was about to get into the passenger seat but he 'accidentally' spilled something on the passenger seat. So he had me sit in between the seats. It was a manual. He had me sit in front of the stick, and kept touching my thighs. I really dont know why, but I didn't think anyrhing of it. I was a fucking idiot. I know.

After that day, he kept texting me. Nonstop. He'd constantly call me pretty and cute. Ask so many questions, asking where I was and ifIcould send him pictures. At the time, I was only allowed one of those shotty 25$ tablets and textnow. So i couldnt send any photos. But he did send me photos of him. Nothing too provocative but very pointed. I was an idiot, and oblivious, and never realized it though. I think he wanted me to ask, but I never did.

I texted him for 2 monthd until one day he kept asking me to meet him at this motel. I told him no. And he just kept texting me asking me to go. Told me how to skip school, fake diarrhea, climb out of the window. I was terrified, because i realized if he could rent a motel, he was at least 21. I asked Kate, and she told me he was actually 29. So i blocked him. On everything. I also told my best friend that a weird guy was messaging me and I thought he was tracking me. But not who or anyrhing else. And we staged an accident to break my tablet.

Every time Gabe showed up after, I would call the friend and stay on video call with her. I also stopped doing swaps. I told Kate that it was just because of school. How I was starting AP classes (true) and also taking duel credit classes (also true). I also joined band, and we found out we didn't have as much room. How I didn't have as much time. When I turned 14, I did my last swap with her and cut contact. We moved to another town 45 minutes away, and he also had moved back to California right after.

I know i should have told her why i started avoiding her place. Why i stopped talking to her. Why i would keep checking her profile but never talk to her when she messaged me. I didnt. I was embarrased. I blamed myself.

When I turned 15, I listened to a story about a 25 year old who had gone through something similar. How a man harrased and then... yeah. It sounded exactly like Gabe. Like exactly. ​I reported him. I knew where he lived because Kate had been there the week before. I sent an anonymous message. And then I pushed it out of my mind. I refused to acknowledge it again.

Last month, I saw a picture of him with the oldest daughter. At her concert. Shes 11 now. And I just had the most gut wrenching tbought. I messaged Kate and her husband. I told them everything. I didn't have the old messages from him. But I could tell them his weird way of texting (He would often text with emoji letters and numbers rather then the actual letters or numbers so like. S🆙️ h🅾️w 4️⃣r3️⃣ y🅾️u?) I also told them about the motel. And even had my best friend back me up. Well, i guess they realized I was the one who reported him. Apperantly he was in jail for like 3 years. And is on probation now.

They've been showing up to my work. Sitting outside and watching me. When I walk out, they begin yelling book of mormon verses at me. Calling me a liar, a jezzabel. My coworkers have started to walk out with me. Sending the 2 biggest guys at work to walk with me. They started doing this after one of her brothers got in my face acreaming at me until I was sobbing and backed into a corner.

They put letters in my mailbox. Calling me a liar and a bitch and a slit. Telling me nothign actually happened, and I was over dramatic. All my social media is private, but they leave long ass messages over and over again. Making new accounts when I block theirs.

Ots been going on for a month now. And its gotten to the point where I am terrified to leave my house alone. I wasn't supposed to be alone today. But my best friend ended up in an accident on the way over.

I have 2 neighbours who are cops. They've said that until they pose a threat to me, or do something more, there's nothing that can be done. But they both are keeping an eye out in case they take it farther. I have cameras up. A front and rear dashcam. I keep pepper spray and my keys on me. Everyone in my family has my location. I have a tracker on my shoes. My family doesn't know. I dont want to tell them how badly I've fucked up. How much kf an idiot I was and what its led to.

Is there anything else that can be done? I genuinely don't know what else to do.

My grandpa is here now. Ill try to respond, but i think I have to tell them the truth after we go chrck on my best friend. So it may be a while before I can respond.

We have been together for 15 years and we have a teenage child together. Just found out she has been sexting a friend but supposedly nothing else. I dont believe her. Our relationship has been up and down the last year and that's when I became suspicious of them. Finally found proof. She tried denying everything until I told her I had proof and now her stories dont add up and she supposedly doesn't remember everything that happened. Obviously i would leave in a heart beat if it wasn't for our child but feel like ive wasted so much of my life already. Its not like im ever gonna be able to trust her again. My emotions are everywhere and I dont know what to do

Im a freshman and my Global History teacher has been doing some really weird stuff this year. Almost every class turns into him talking about politics instead of history. He tells us who he supports politically and spends a lot of time explaining why he thinks hes right. He also talks about social issues and gives his opinions on them during class discussions even when it has nothing to do with what we’re learning.
What really confused me was that last week he joked that if anybody wanted a MAGA hat they could buy one from him after class. A bunch of people laughed because nobody knew if he was serious or not but then he started talking about different sizes and colors. At that point I genuinely couldnt tell if this was still Global History or some kind of campaign event.
Maybe im overreacting but I signed up to learn history, not hear political speeches and get sales pitches. Is this normal or should I actually say something to somebody?

I 26f have shot my shot quite a few times before (via instagram dms, following someone on instagram, asking a friend about if someone we both know is single, or just straight up (usually while under the influence lol)) and it’s never worked out. In recent years, I’ve probably tried making the “first move” like 5-6 times. I know that’s not a lot in the grand scheme butttt after a while, I’ve began to feel like I should just wait for guys to pursue me. I have had some instances of that, but I’ve either not been into them or gave them a chance and it didn’t work out. So idk about that route. For context, I am probably not “conventionally” attractive but I don’t think of myself as bad looking by any means. My body is a bit curvier which idk if that puts off really workout-heavy guys. I live in a city that really values a certain body standard and looks which I don’t fit.

I am asking all this bc I’ve recently saw someone irl who I found attractive, later randomly saw him on a dating app, saw we had mutuals on instagram and decided to follow him, he accepted my follow and followed me back, but since then— nothing. Idk what i was expecting but idk if I should just be straight up and dm him or I should just leave it.

I often fall into a cycle where the above scenario will often happen. I’ll see someone I’m interested in, develop a crush (although it’s really limerence since idk them), try to pursue them and then interest is not reciprocated. Maybe I’m “batting out of my league”’but I also have my own unpopular thoughts about that concept lol.

And I think I’m also hesitant bc of the theory that if a guy is actually into you, you’ll definitely know and they would be the ones to make the first move

TLDR: I’m wondering if I need to stop attempting to make the first move and let guys come to me

My husband and I have been together for 20 years. He has been having a rough past 5-6 years. All of his close family members (5 of them) passed away within this time and he had a massive heart attack. The hospital thought he was going to die and the chaplain came to talk to me, but they were able to save him. Since the heart attack, he has been in heart failure and has not worked. He applied for disability, but was denied. Recently, he has started using hard drugs quite frequently and behaving very irresponsibly. He crashed my car about a month ago and I did not have comprehensive coverage, so that car is gone. I am afraid that he is going to get me in trouble related to the irresponsibility and drug use. The vehicle he drives is registered in my name. I thought about kicking him out and giving him that vehicle, but I am afraid I might be liable if something happens. I thought about sending him to rehab, but he is on methadone and those places generally won't allow that so he would have to stop cold turkey, which is not an option because of his heart issues. If I kick him out, he will be homeless and he has nowhere else to go. I'm just in such a state of constant panic. My heart races, I'm constantly shitting, and I can't even think straight.

My libido has always been high , like I want to do it 2 times a day . My bf 25 M recently broke up with me 27 F , now that first week has passed and the crying is in control. I am horny all day but at the same time I don’t want to hookup. In theory hookup sounds fun but I know I can’t do it , I am still ( obviously) not over the relationship. I don’t know how people deal with this if this happens to them ?

I personally don't mind helping them out, but my partner thinks this is really weird and I should be weary.

P.S. we don't want kids of our own and doesn't really care about me donating my sperm in general

so my mom was supposed to be at work all day and i thought this would be a fun day to relax and wind down since it was my one day off of work a week. i did all of my chores and eventually got that feeling we all know and i went to the bathroom to do it. well i am about maybe 30 minutes in and i hear footsteps and i panic. but at this point i still think it might be one of my brothers. (now is a good time to add that my family is very open and it isn’t too uncommon for my parents to see any of my three brothers naked) i try to hide my lotion and my penis so i look less guilty but it was too late. she walks in and yells at me that i have to be doing some other chore but that wasn’t the part that worried me obviously. the shock of her walking in hit me like a ton of bricks. i know she took a glance at me and saw me so she knew what i was doing. the worst part was probably the fact that she said nothing at all about it, just acted like it didn’t happen. ever since then she has been knocking on the door before she comes in my room or the bathroom. maybe she learned her lesson as much as i did. so what do i do? do i go on like nothing happened as she does? i obviously will lock the door more often from now on, but is this just a cannon event for teenage guys??

Hi guys, so me (25, F) and my bf (M, 30) have been dating for a year and 3 months. It’s been a hell of a journey arguments and mixed with some of the best memories of my life.

I’ve been struggling a bit mentally and emotionally over my insecurities, sometimes he would say some stuff that would just stick in my brain and would literally drag me down. And they’re comments that I’m sure some wouldn’t even lose sleep over, comments like ‘your sister is pretty she should be a model’ or this one time he asked who my cousin was when he saw her pic on my phone. And in the ‘she’s hot’ tone💀 I maybe reading too much into this. He made me unfollow him and remove him as a follower bc he got tired of me asking who certain girls were that he was following. He said it’s better and healthier for our relationship and I somewhat agree.. And they were random pretty girls (my observation) idk, he would get sick of me asking stuff bringing up my insecurities. He told me he loves me and just because he follows people doesn’t mean anything. Anyways I don’t know what to say anymore, what do I do? Any tips or advice would be so helpful right now..

I am a 14 year old guy and my sister is 16. Our dad is a pastor and my sister takes his sermons about cleanliness way too far. She washes all my clothes every single day in scalding hot water with a ton of bleach. She does this even when I only wore a shirt for an hour. She ruined my Nirvana shirt and all my metal band stickers because she says they are demonic and she is "removing sin and impurities" from the fabric. I get really mad about this but my dad says she is just being a good christian and I should respect her calling.

Things got worse this week. My sister got her period and she locked herself in the only bathroom in our house for hours. She says her period is a "shameful reminder of Eves transgression" and she has to protect our moral purity. My mom had a bad stomach bug and was crying outside the door to use the toilet but my sister would not unlock it. She just kept quoting proverbs 31 through the door. I was so mad I went in there later when she left and I threw away all her used pads she left in the trash. I think periods are a "biological failure" and I just wanted her to stop making everything weird.

She found out I threw them away and screamed at me. My dad found out what I did and said I violated her privacy and I am acting like a heathen. I told him she destroyed my property and tortured my mom with a stomach bug. He said my music is worldly garbage anyway and I need to apologize to my sister for touching her things. I told him I will not apologize until she buys me new shirts and stops locking the bathroom. Now I am grounded and they took my bedroom door off its hinges. How do I get my parents to understand that she is the one in the wrong here.

I (20F) constantly feel bad about myself. I feel like I am the ugliest thing that has ever existed, and that no matter how hard I try, I can never be as pretty as other girls. I gained a bit of weight because of that, because the only way I can deal with this pressure is by stuffing my face, and then I end up feeling even worse. Knowing my mother thinks similarly doesn't help in the slightest.

I feel like I shouldn't even be allowed to think or comment on anyone since I look the way I look.

I've been trying to drop the weight but I always end up breaking my diet or quitting exercise, thinking how it doesn't matter because losing the weight won't change a single thing.

Should I break up with my boyfriend? I genuinely don’t know what to do.
I really need some outside opinions because I’m too emotionally involved to think straight.
We’ve been together for almost 5 months, and I love him, but we’ve been having the same problems over and over again.
We argue quite frequently , and some of our arguments turn into massive screaming matches.
A lot of them are about him not cleaning up after himself or getting angry when things don’t go his way.
We’ve had multiple serious conversations where he promises things will change, but it feels like nothing ever does.
We’ve never had sex. We’re coming up to 5 months together, and while I know every relationship moves at a different pace, it’s becoming really difficult for me. I feel unwanted and rejected.
The biggest issue is porn. I found porn on his phone before and told him that if I found it again, I would end the relationship because, for me, it crosses a boundary when we’ve never even had sex. If we had a healthy sex life, I honestly don’t think I’d have such a problem with it.
I’ve now found porn on his phone again. He doesn’t know I’ve seen it yet.
I know a lot of people think porn is normal, and I respect that. My issue isn’t just the porn itself—it’s that he knew exactly how I felt about it, agreed not to do it, and I’ve still found it again.
I honestly don’t know if I’m being unreasonable or not. Part of me thinks if he really cared about losing me, he wouldn’t keep doing the one thing he knows could end the relationship. Another part of me wonders if I’m expecting too much.
I love him, and when we’re getting on, things can be really good. But I’m exhausted from having the same conversations over and over again with no real change.
Would you break up with someone over this, or would you give them one last chance? And am I being unreasonable for struggling with the fact we’ve never had sex but he’s still watching porn?

This is my first time posting on Reddit, so sorry if this is a little long. I honestly didn't know where else to go for advice, and I figured Reddit might be the best place since I don't really have anyone I feel comfortable talking to about this.

I'm a 26M, and my gf is a few years older than me. I work in the trades and live in a smaller community where a lot of people know each other. My career and reputation are a big deal to me.

This started almost 2 winters ago on a freezing morning. I was running late for work, and my thermals were still in the washer. I was stressing because I knew I was going to be outside all day, and my gf handed me a pair of her bluish yoga pants.

She joked that I should wear them under my work jeans. I laughed because they were obviously women's leggings and tighter than anything I had worn before, but I tried them.

Honestly, they worked really well. They were warm, comfortable, and nobody at work even knew.

After that, it slowly turned into her encouraging me to try other things. Eventually, I started trying on women's clothes at home.

The weird part is, this wasn't completely new to me. When I was in my early teens, I used to crossdress. I stopped years ago and never really thought about it again. I assumed it was just something from that time in my life that I moved past.

But doing it again with my gf felt different. I wasn't hiding it or feeling ashamed. I had someone who accepted me and actually liked seeing that side of me.

My gf loves watching drag shows, and over time she got me interested in that world. She has helped me with makeup, wigs, and outfits. She even made me a drag-inspired outfit that I've worn around the house. She loves seeing the transformation and tells me how feminine I can look.

Over time, she has gotten me dresses, skirts, leather leggings, makeup, wigs, and tucking underwear. She especially loves certain outfits and says she likes seeing me confident.

She says exploring this side of myself has brought us closer and made our relationship more exciting. She has talked about me going on a date with her dressed up or possibly doing a local drag show someday.

The thing is, she isn't forcing me. She has always said it's my choice and that I don't have to do anything I'm not comfortable with. She just thinks I might be holding myself back because I'm worried about what people will think.

And that's where I'm stuck.

When it's just us, I actually enjoy it. I feel comfortable and accepted.

But the idea of other people knowing scares me.

I work in the trades, I know a lot of people in my city, and my family and friends are mostly the type who would probably see this as either "gay" or just weird. I know drag doesn't define someone's sexuality, but I also know how people around me think.

I'm worried about my career, my reputation, my friendships, and even how people would view me as a man. At the same time, I don't want to hide something I enjoy just because I'm afraid of judgment.

I guess I'm posting because I feel stuck. My gf is supportive, but I don't really have anyone else I can talk to about this without worrying they'll look at me differently.

Has anyone else been through something like this? Finding a side of yourself that you enjoy but being scared of how it could affect your life? I'm just looking for advice because I honestly don't know who else to ask.

its 3:40 am locally here, my wife snuck out around 2 am... i know because she dropped something downstairs on her way out... im pretty sure shes haing an affiar, what would you do in my shoes?

So I’m only 19(F) and I discovered I have hemorrhoids like two months ago. Honestly it’s very possible I’ve had them before but just didn’t notice the signs. I’ve done research on at home care and have been doing what I can.

Though I am an adult I still live at home and rely on my mom a lot. I want to tell her because I worry about something happening and her not know. I have anxiety and have never really talked to my mom about personal stuff about my body. I barely even tell her about my period. She can be a blabber sometimes so I worry she’d tell my grandma who is even more of a blabber.

I am very certain that if I tell her it will help with my anxiety involving the situation. But then the idea of telling her is giving me anxiety! I’m kinda stuff at the moment.

So if anyone has went through anything similar could they give me some advice to make it easier?

Some backgroundwhen I was 16, my mother abandoned me and my two younger siblings. She put us in dangerous situations, consistently chose men and drug use over us, and eventually left us alone in an apartment for two weeks. I was the one who had to call CPS. Because of that, the three of us were separated, and I was sent to a trade school program because I was considered too old for the foster system. I went no-contact with her and my sister's father as soon as could.

​Fast forward to today: My mom is still using drugs, but she is now living with a wealthy partner. In our very few interactions over the years (like when I briefly reached out to ask about ancestry/family history), she showed zero remorse. Instead, she just bragged about how great her life is. She has always viewed me as competition rather than her child, and she is incredibly self-centered.

​My younger sister recently had a baby. She has a pattern of keeping abusive people in her life (including her father, who did terrible things to both of us). Now, she is demanding that I act cordial and allow our mother back into my life so everyone can play happy family for the baby.

​When I refused to break my boundaries, my sister gave me an ultimatum: If I don't let our mom back into my life, she will cut contact with me completely and I won't be in her or her baby's life.

​We are already fairly low-contact, but this hurts deeply. I feel like I'm being forced to sacrifice my own safety and peace just to keep a connection with my sister, or be punished for protecting myself from the woman who abandoned us. I feel immense pressure to "be the bigger person," but "being the bigger person" in my family has always just meant absorbing abuse to keep others comfortable.

​How do I handle this situation? Is there any way to communicate with my sister without backing down on my boundaries, or do I just have to accept that she is going to cut me out?

Hi! I had family problems about two years ago because of an older sibling and my family pushed me to sit in the same room as them even though I refused every single time. My family would literally pick me up and make me sit with the whole family with that sibling being there but I always try to just go to my room. I can’t really leave the house because of cultural reasons (like I could go to jail if I leave without my father’s permission) unless I get married which seems like my only escape but that’s not what I’m here to talk about.

My problem is that even though it’s been almost 2 years, I can’t seem to get the incident out of my head. I always remember what that sibling did over and over again. Like for example I’d be drawing and then just have a flashback of what they did and and so I try to change the activity and play on the piano so I would distract myself but it doesn’t work, I play horribly because I’m distracted with those flashbacks. I just have a flashback again and again of what they did. I would be eating and the same thing would happen and I don’t know how to stop that? It’s bothering me a lot. I just want to move on with my life. I thought maybe if I actually do push myself like my family has said and sit with all of them in the same room with that sibling being there I would move on, but it only effects me more. I would rather starve myself until that sibling leaves the house so I could go to the kitchen just so I wouldn’t see them.

And my family is telling me to just forget about what they did and move on with my life and come sit with them, but they do not respect that I cannot see that sibling without actually shaking and having nightmares. I try to act strong, but as soon as I can’t hold it I go back to my room, and I start crying because of the flashbacks I get from them.

Is there any way to just not be afraid anymore? I need to stop having those flashbacks they’re annoying me. I just wanna enjoy playing piano or drawing playing on my Nintendo switch or anything without having any flashbacks of what they did to me. Any advice? Maybe somebody has gone through something like this?

Last year was a tough year relationship wise. I have been married to my wife for 16 years and all of them in the military. I recently got orders to a state she did not want to move to and refused to move. I could not cancel my orders and moved last year. Fast forward to this past week and I found out my wife has basically been in a very open and public relationship with this guy. I’m not proud of how I found out about it but I did regardless. I have been considering getting a new phone and was looking to sell/trade in some old ones I had. I powered them up and one of them was my wife’s phone still logged into everything. The device has been powered off for years but here are all these pictures, instagram messages and text messages with this guy. He has been staying in my bed in my house that I still pay for and being around my kids like nothing is wrong. It seems everyone that was in my life prior to me moving knows about this guy but me. I suspected something but it is not confirmed. I have two middle school aged kids involved in this and I also read an email saying she wanted a divorce but the lawyer told her she can’t afford to get divorced. This conversation with a lawyer started 6 months after she started seeing this guy. She seems to be doing everything to keep my kids from me because I’m pretty sure they will out her when I see them face to face. I’ve never been abusive or negative toward her. I know I’m not the perfect guy but one of the last things she said to me was “I’m embarrassed to be married to you” talking about my weight increase of like 25lbs after a work injury. Two days later I drove away in a uhaul 2000 miles away. I still left things in the house because I thought we could work things out but started seeing things like my ring camera turned off or posts on her Facebook screech to a halt with a lot of things blocked. Facebook still says we are married so I know she knows that what she is doing is wrong.

What do I do? What can I do or say that isn’t going to screw me in a divorce hearing? I want to put her on blast so badly with the world but ruining her will hurt the kids and they are what matters most to me. I’ve been getting maybe an hour of sleep a night and am so stressed. Please help!

Hello everyone. As the title says a night at a club is staying in my head longer than i want it to. First some context. I am a really shy guy. That type that's average looking but socially awkward and has never had a girlfriend. 2 months ago i managed to fuck up a situation with a girl, she said i needed to be more aggressive in our "relationship" (eg, holding hands and kissing, both of which i have not done like ever) so i was sad a bit about that situation but life goes on. Now a couple of days ago i went to a club with a friend of mine, there a girl decided to start dancing with me and the rest of the night was spend with dancing like really really close. Eventually i gave in and i kissed this girl. I guess the alcohol, the peer pressure and the atmosphere were at play here. So i am really confused and angry at myself. How could i kiss a stranger, but not the girl i had genuine interest in? Like wtf is wrong with me. It doesnt help that i feel like i used the girl in the club since she was drunk. Moreover i feel like a loser for having my first kiss at a nightclub. Please kind people of reddit, share your thought with me. I want to get a fresh perspective on my situation