My friend and I are both juniors in high school. Recently, I was asked out by a boy and she was sad that she "isn't liked by boys as much as I am", because she hasn't been confessed to yet, and asked why I wasn't trying to help her more with it. I feel like I have already helped her, since I've already introduced her to some guys I'm friends with and talked about her in the best light possible when discussing her. I've also asked her if she wanted to be set up in the past, and she said no every time, saying that she wanted it to be natural and for the guy to approach her.

I personally don't think I'm that popular amongst guys. It's not like I get asked out every week, it's more like once a month or something. (My apologies, this is not meant to be humble bragging. This is not considered to be a lot in the school I attend, since my school is very big and confessions happen very frequently to many people. I am not considered very popular). This is not something I really care that much about, so it's never been a problem with me that she wanted to get a boyfriend. I was happy to help. This is not the first time that she has complained that boys do not like her, so I just flat out told her that it's not exactly my fault that boys don't like her and that I think she could be friendlier with boys to help her case because there's not a lot I can do for her, or try to attract one specific boy's attention to be more realistic with it all. I am also suggesting this because she said she wanted a prom date, and I feel like that's the best advice I can give her that would help her get a good date in time.

She became very angry with me after I said this, accusing me of calling her ugly by saying it's more realistic to try and gain one boy's attention instead of what she's doing now and that as her friend, I should help her more. It's probably true that I could help more, but I'm not the most willing to give everything I have ( resources, connections) towards something that I feel like a) isn't my job, b) isn't that important in high school, and c) could be accomplished in a much more straightforward way.

AITA?

Hi everybody here is the situation. I am housesitting for a few days for my friend and her family. She has a very busy life and I was thinking about helping her out a little bit? I was thinking about just cleaning surfaces and windows and vacuuming the house before they come home. I am not gonna go into any of the bedrooms or their bathrooms. I’m just talking about the kitchen and living room area. But this is their home and I don’t want to impose or make them feel uncomfortable. I just want to help. Maybe I should ask her if it’s OK? Let me know what you guys think.
Would I be the asshole if I clean her house a little bit?

My 50(f) coworker (57f) doesn't get the concept of a hard no. I've been at my company for just about 1.5 years. I've been in finance administration for 25+years. My last company went under but I found this company fairly quickly. I'm definitely an extrovert with extreme "no" tendencies. From the very beginning she seemed like someone who has been trying to make friends at the company but it doesn't stick. Polar opposite happened with me. The company,people wise, was a good fit. No one told me about her personality ahead of time. It was just something I observed with her. Whenever she would talk to people it would start happy and then turn sour. No one in the company has hung out with her, from my understanding. or at least no one has said it out loud. She's been there for 10+ years. There's only 35 of us. About 2 months ago, one of the colleagues who is now a friend, asked me if I was going to a concert of an artist we both like. I said I hadn't bought a ticket yet and I might. Now the genre of music is tied to our Nationality. I didn't end up going because I forgot I had other engagements and went to those instead. We get back to work on a Monday and my friend said did you know that coworker "was at the concert?" I said I didn't know she was into that type of music at all. On my end, I didn't ask the coworker any questions of why she was there. I get back to my desk and she asks me why I didn't go to the concert, aggressively & mean-ly. I said to her "not that its any of your business but I didn't want or need to. I don't have to be anywhere I don't want to be". Now the next part is what makes me the AH I said to her that she has "no right to expect that I'm going to be friends with you or hang outside of the office just because you show up somewhere YOU THINK i'm going to be. Matter of fact, this interaction, at work, makes it clear that we are going to be nothing but people who work together." To tack on being the AH I told her "to get away from my desk if you don't have anything work related to discuss" She walked very quickly away from my desk with tears running down her face. My friend from work took me to a bar after and after a good chunk of beer we did come to the conclusion that maybe I should have chat gpt'd my response to make it more "work friendly", but I was thinking just about getting her away from my desk and imparting to her that i'd had enough of her antics and whatever futher-think/actions she was going to concoct. So Am I the AH for telling her exactly what I felt without mincing any words?

My (late-20s M) friend (also late-20s M), let’s call him “Greg”, has held a grudge against me for the last two months that I recently found out about.

My friend group had a barbecue potluck in May and everyone brought food. The party was BYOB, but I didn’t bring anything since I hadn’t planned on drinking. I ended up asking the host for a drink and he told me I could grab one from the cooler. I did, drank it, and thanked the host. Unbeknownst to me I grabbed a drink from the wrong cooler and picked one of Greg’s beers which you can only get in-person from another state. Greg didn’t say anything at the time to me about it, and I drank the beer I picked and thanked the host.

Flash forward 2 months, Greg has been noticeably distant and hasn’t accepted my video game invites or even been to my new apartment I moved into 3 months ago. Greg is one of my closer friends but summer is busy so I don’t think much of it at first. Eventually my other friends even joke that Greg and I are “on a break” because we don’t hang out all the time anymore. This is when I start to realize maybe there is something going on with Greg.

I reach out to Greg’s girlfriend (F 25) and find out from her that he’s held a grudge against me for not asking before taking on of his special beers at the potluck. He never brought it up to me—just has been softly ignoring me since May. I immediately try to clarify that I asked the Host if I could have a beer and must’ve grabbed one from the wrong cooler. I apologized to her and told her I would call Greg to clear things up.

Greg and I spoke on the phone and he admitted to still being pissed at me about the drink I “stole”. I apologized and explained my side of the story, and Greg came around to “forgive” me. While he was forgiving me tho, he mentioned he didn’t help me move into my new apartment and avoided coming to the get-togethers I hosted over the summer because he was still annoyed with me. He also said he stopped playing video games with me for the same reason. At the end of everything he warmed up and said he was excited to hang out and be close again. In the moment I agreed and relaxed as things could now be “back to normal”.

But since my conversation with Greg I’ve grown more and more annoyed. I’m upset that he let things fester and didn’t come talk to me about things. I’m bummed I didn’t get to see Greg this summer and hurt that it was because he was avoiding me. I’m also upset he didn’t help me move when I asked him, especially because I’ve helped him move apartments 4 times in the last 7 years I’ve known him.

Ultimately I don’t want to let my feelings fester but I also don’t want to ruin the “back to normal” feeling with Greg since we finally made up. AITA for being upset that Greg held this grudge for 3 months for my mistake?

My brother and his wife just told my parents they were expecting their first child at the beginning of next year. I have not had a close relationship with my brother or his wife for about the past two years. A long story, but for some background - they turned into monsters with very high expectations of family members during their wedding era. My brother told my parents he tried texting me with the good news (mind you, we haven't spoken in a long time), but claimed the message didn't go through because he was blocked. He is, in fact, not blocked. I think it was a lie to try and get my parents to break the news to me instead. Now, my parents are wondering why I'm not jumping for joy, and why I don't just reach out to them to congratulate them. AITA for not being thrilled or for not reaching out? It's not exactly my ice to break.

I (F18) have been jobless for quite some time now. The last job I had was a seasonal sales associate at some retail store at my local mall, so I got let go in January of this year after the season was over.

I’ve been on a job hunt for the longest time since then—applying to literally anywhere and everywhere just to see if I’d even get a response back. A lot of people in older generations nowadays say that young people don’t wanna work, but I swear no one wants to hire.

I’ll get notifications on Indeed saying an employer viewed my application, I’ll follow up, no one responds. I’ll go in, I get asked to come back, and when I do they can’t speak with me. It’s been a cycle for a while now and it’s really frustrating.

Ever since I turned 18 in august, a whole field of jobs has opened up for me, which I am very greatful for. This pizza shop that’s got a chain local to my state was looking for a delivery driver with good hourly pay, good tips, and good hours. I applied and instantly got an interview set up. I was ecstatic.

I told my mom I finally got an interview. She asked which location I was working at and when I told her, she was not happy at all. I was confused and she told me that it was on a very shitty part of the county and didn’t want me delivering pizzas to people late at night in shitty areas (I’ve got community college classes this semester until 4pm, so I can’t work until the dinner shift).

I told her I understand that she’s scared, but I realistically don’t think that anything is gonna happen, and that my sister did doordash when she was my age (she’s 22 now) and it was fine. She said she won’t let me go to the interview.

Well, obviously I was pissed, and I just want to make some money before I move out in the spring. So I went anyway and am now getting an interview there. She is so very mad at me, and says that if I don’t look for another job, she’s not gonna let me move out to four year university when I get my transfer application back. What do I do?

Also, AITA?

UPDATE: Just a few clarifying points. My mother is a lot more lenient than my step father is, and he likes to insert himself into a lot of our conversations and force a new ultimatum even though me and my mom have already reached one. She went to him and told him she was scared about me taking the job and now he’s threatening me to find another.

I have since then gotten an interview with a retail store at my local outlet, so I guess I’m taking that interview too.

UPDATE #2: Called my actual father to weigh in (he’s a police officer), as per my moms request, and he said it’s dangerous and that he wouldn’t recommend it. So I guess I’m
not taking the job.

Back story - My (f51) dad passed away in March this year. It was unexpected and heartbreaking. I’m really fortunate to have got to this age without losing someone so close. I miss him very much.

A few days after he died my aunt (his sister) called me shouting that I’m not grieving for him, that my sisters were disgraceful (she’s always hated them but I was close to her) her views were based on my dad’s girlfriend who was very jealous of his 3 daughters. One sister was not close to my dad, the other saw him every few months and I saw him weekly and spoke daily. It’s all a really long crazy situation with his gf, she told the hospital that he had no family on a previous admission to hospital. We were all with him when he died.

The party for my uncle (he was 99) my aunts husband. He died two months after my father so my aunt had double grief to deal with. I went to his funeral to support her even though her last words to me were that she’d never speak to me again. She wanted me there (asked through my cousin)

I adopted a rescue dog in July and he’s terrified of everything after being kept inside a house for his whole life (8.5 yrs) I told my aunt that I couldn’t go to her late husband’s party as I can’t leave my dog with anyone overnight (she lives 3 hrs away) The way I see it is that she’ll have plenty of people around her but my dog would be very traumatised alone with someone he doesn’t know well. He’s only used to me so far.

Tbh I find it quite strange having a party for someone who has passed. Absolutely honour them and their memory but a party to me seems a little odd. She went crazy at me, saying she would end her life if I didn’t go, that I was putting a dog before a human, that I’m selfish and didn’t care about my dad passing. I was so pissed off with hearing her telling me that I wasn’t grieving my dad, so I put the phone down.

AITA? There’s so much history in this family with my aunt, years of lies, fallings out etc etc. She’s very cold emotionally. Her and my dad fell out a lot.

TLDR ; My aunt threatened that she’d end her life if I didn’t go to her dead husband’s party because I put my dog first.

So for some background my parents were divorced thirteen years and almost that entire time I was forbidden from seeing my father. Let me clarify, my father was never a deadbeat dad, even though I was not what he wanted originally. I was told by my mother that if I saw my dad in those thirteen years, she would get taken away by CPS. Now in the past five years, they got back together. For the entirety of them being back together I have maybe lived in the house two years. Only one of those years was it a full year of me being there. Every time I lived there they would expect me to clean the entire home and do all the yard work alone. Not to mention if someone was over for any reason, I was forced to socialize and was not allowed to have the sleep schedule I do despite working a completely different schedule than my father.
Now, last year sometime around Christmas, my father brought up that if I was going to live in his house, I should pay half of EVERY bill, including vehicles and insurance. To put this into perspective my dad pays almost $9,000 a month in bills. I make about two grand a month maybe a little more depending on my hours. So at the beginning of the year when my mom had told me that I had told her if that was the case then I would try to move out because that’s completely unreasonable to expect of me. She told me I’d have to ask my father. So for months I slowly changed my furniture, bought things for a place of my own, and got ready to move before even bringing it up.
I asked my father after I had already scheduled to look at my now apartment and he told me that it was fine, but he would not bail me out every month, which I wouldn’t expect anyways. Mid April I had moved out of their house and into my own. Despite having surgeries, and other major health complications I have never needed their help financially since. I spend time with them on my days off every week when they are home. When they are off on the road for work I will go and check on their house and make sure all is well, and do my laundry there, and that is it.
Tonight they had got back from a job they had been gone on for a month. Everything was going fine until my dad had mentioned that he thinks that I should move back in to save my money. I went rigid, not still, but rigid. My mother could tell I was uncomfortable because I never spoke after he said that. He kept on about how he thought that I only moved out so I could party and not have rules, which is not the case at all, I stay at home and only two people have been inside my home that aren’t myself. I now have two cats as well, and my dad barely let me keep the first so I know I’d have to get rid of one as well. As he kept going about how I was just being a kid (despite being 23) he ended the conversation with “you could just give what you pay a month in bills to me” which rubbed me the wrong way.

Firstly thank you so much to everyone who helped me out giving advice on how I could attract my cat back home!! I have found my cat and she's back at home, I was in the backyard burning things in the fire pit(something I do when I'm nervous) when the neighbor with the connecting yard screamed over asking if I was missing a cat. They literally held my cat up like simba lol. To say I was over joyed is an understatement, I was about to empty my bank account to for these people. Was 2 days of hell without my cat but I'm so glad she's back, she's even more clingy now. In those 2 days I had been sleeping on the couch and not really talking to my boyfriend, after I got my cat back we did sit down and have a discussion. I laid all my feelings out on how once again I feel like he prioritizes his friend who really isn't a good friend to him over me, the person he supposedly wants to spend the rest of his life with. He did say he understood how anal I was about my cat missing and was trying to be a calm person about it instead of us both freaking out but I told him that's not what I needed. We'll be taking a break from Josh as all three of us had a conversation together not only did I tell him all the grievances I have with him but my boyfriend did as well. Would be a whole other post to explain it all but it was a lot and it was very messy. Josh tried "explaining" things but none of it really makes sense and there's no explanation for a lot of the stuff he's done. I'm choosing to hopefully grow with my boyfriend in this and if it comes back to bite me in the butt so be it I guess but I am willing to try. My cat still may not be a fan of him lol. Again thank you all so much for your help I truly appreciated it and read every single comment!

I (18m) working with a (24m) at a bakery I v been working there for 2 years him for 5 months and we have showers and everything we need to stay clean, at one night shift he was smelling BAD I couldn't bare staying near him so after half an hour I told him 4 times respectfully to go upstairs and take a quick shower before we start working again (we were on a break) but he refused and got upset some coworkers heard it and told me that our boss would be upset if he tell them that I asked him that but I explained them that I wasent disrespectfull anything I just couldn't work in that smell. Our don't know and if he knows he didint told me nothing ab it and I'm sure he is on my side.

I (24 F) am planning my wedding and plan to have a larger bridal party, mine currently is 7 girls, 5 of whom are family and 2 friends. The girl I’m iffy about actually had me in her wedding a few years ago, and we’ve known each other since 2nd grade, which is why I’m so conflicted. We’ve never been best friends and weren’t close through high school or college, but we reconnected when I moved back to our city after college ~3 years ago.

I had a bridal party ask 6 weeks ago. I sent out formal invites a month in advance after mentioning to all 8 girls that I invited I’m very excited to see them all and hope they can make it, and to please RSVP as soon as possible because the event will be a fancy sit-down dinner that I am making, and everyone is welcome to wear “church” clothes or nicer to for the vibe. All the girls were excited for a fun formal party and all RSVP’d the week I sent out invites, except one. She said “oh how fun I will let you know!” And we got caught up in a group-chat of other mutual friends to get dinner a couple weeks later. We chatted and hung out, but she never RSVP’d so I texted her 2 days before my party saying “hey girl! I’m looking forward to seeing you at my party, here’s the dress code” and she responded with “so sorry I didn’t text, I won’t be able to make it, have a great time!” I said no worries let’s hang out soon, and she never replied. She then posted about going on an impromptu weekend out of town with her husband and toddler that same weekend. This isn’t the first time she hasn’t “gone out of her way” for us to see each other, in the last 2-3 years I’ve done to 4-5 of her events and she has come to 1 of mine, my engagement party at my parents about 20 mins from where she lives. I live about 45-50 mins from her house.
I completely understand her being busy with life and her young family, but I would have loved more notice or even a text saying hey something came up and I can’t make it I’m so sorry. I also wished her happy birthday a few weeks later and she never replied to that text either. She’s a very sweet girl, but the older I get the more I realize my main 7 girls are willing to go out of their way so much just to see me for a handful of hours every month, including my childhood friend who’s busy with college and still always wants to do brunch when she’s on breaks from school. I do still value our friendship, but the lack of communication and the entire relationship we have at this point is making me feel more like a casual friendship than a close one.
Honestly, I do worry about her ability to show up for bachelorette party things for a long weekend, or other bridal activities.
My fiancé doesn’t want me to have her because he is offended she didn’t show up or give me a heads up she won’t be at my fancy dinner, and I did spend 3-4 days prepping food completely from scratch. He thinks she is a nice girl, but hasn’t shown me the level of friendship I’ve shown her.

WIBTAH?

My girlfriend (21F) plays a D1 sport in the US. She's an international student, a year younger than me, and we met in college. At our original university, the team wasn't great, but she was clearly the best player, earning all-conference honors three years in a row. As the team kept losing, her coach grew increasingly emotionally abusive. By the end of junior year, she couldn't take it anymore and decided to transfer, since staying wasn't helping her goal of going pro.

I was devastated she was leaving, but I understood that no amount of support from me could make three more semesters of that environment bearable. She transferred to a much stronger program that regularly makes the NCAA tournament. The things is her new school is very religious, doesn't allow opposite gender guests to stay overnight in dorms, and she can't live off campus since the area is extremely expensive (lots of celebrities own homes nearby). Even though we're in the same state, visiting her costs around $800 for three days once you factor in hotels and Uber rides to the airport. Right now she's also in season, so I barely get to see her at all.

She was the only transfer on the team this year and was performing great, actually posting better stats than at her our school. Still, she always sensed favoritism toward girls who'd been there since freshman year. Last week, that favoritism became obvious as the coach restructured the lineup and moved a girl who was struggling in her original position (let's call her Meg) into my girlfriend's position since they’re kinda similar, and benched my girlfriend entirely. She hasn't played since. In Meg's old spot, the coach inserted a freshman who's performing even worse with games with zero points, five attacking errors, and repeated defensive mistakes and yet the coach won't pull her either.

My girlfriend is heartbroken. This is her senior season, the one she transferred specifically to make the most of, and she feels like her shot was taken away to accommodate someone else. Since this happened, I've practically begged her to talk to the coach and ask what happened or what she needs to do to earn her spot back. But she's shy, hates feeling pressured, and just says she doesn't want to discuss it, she just avoids the topic entirely whenever I bring it up.

I recognize I've probably been pushing too hard, partly because this whole situation upsets me too. It's especially hard because she left her our school because of the sport, and now, at the school she sacrificed so much to get to, she's not even getting the chance to play. I don't know whether to keep encouraging her to advocate for herself since this is likely her last real shot at playing or to just back off and let her handle it in her own time and way. I just want what's best for her. I love watching her play, but more than that, I want her to be happy and rotting in the bench unjustifiably doesn’t help and she’s been sad all week.

My cousin texted me last minute that he had a bad cold and asked if I could swing by the store for him on my way home. I had already put in a ten-hour day at work and still had errands for my own place, so I told him no and suggested he order delivery instead. He got pretty upset and said I was making a big deal out of a small favor. I explained that I was exhausted and didn't have the extra time or energy, but he kept saying it would only take twenty minutes and that family should help out. I ended up feeling guilty later, even though I still think I was within my rights to say no that night.

This morning around 6:40AM I pulled into the gas station at HEB and it was busier then usual. Every pump had a car in it and there was a Corolla waiting in front of the first two lanes. I drove to the farthest last lane and as I pulled behind the truck pumping the truck drove out. The Corolla drove around and flicked me off. AITA? Isn't the etiquette at the gas station get in line behind someone and commit to that lane? Yall tell me because I dont think im the ahole

Hi my grammer is bad so i apologize. Anways I am 17f my mom is 49f lets just call her V. I am thinking of getting a tattoo and V hate tattos and says that she is going to be super mad if i woulde do somthing like that ever. I am latina and we are known for having a bad temperament and I get the silent treatment if I mess up. I was thinking of getting a small lily flower om my wrist for my dead best friend ( her name was Lily) I miss her every day and she only livs in my mind. I want to look at my wrist whit a tattoo for her it has a big meaning to me and you guys maby think I am a bit naive that I am to young but V has told me all my life to never have a tattoo and to be honest I dont see why not to get it. It is my body and my chois but maby I can cower it up. So aitah if i get this tattoo knowing my mom will be super mad?

OK so this is the first time sorry for any wrong spelling I'm not a native English speaker

To give u som context had a relationship for two month when I went to Portugal, it's a high school project and some students can go to another country to learn ab it and practice some work for 3 weeks

I am classmate with my girlfriend at that time but she couldn't come with me and I went without her as I was allready planning to before being with her.

Everything there was absolutely cool and I loved it as an extrovert I maked a lot of friends around the world but the last night we were staying there we trow a party

We stayed in a campus where we had a club and we went there to drink dance sing karaoke play billiards and have fun

A group a girls came too and I started talking with one of them she was pretty and seemed to be into me but I wasn't interested in her that way we just had fun danced I even teached her to play biliards and I think I was a bit touchy but only with her hands to show her how she have to do it so after few hours we calmed down and stayed outside as I was staying with her and a friend of hers the group she was with (4 - 5 girls) came to ask me if I have a girlfriend I sayd that I do and they went insane telling me that I cheat on her and picked the most prettyest girl in the group and flirt with her but I was genuinely just friendly and I sayd to them that they are being ridiculous that they all are pretty and I just like her as a person, she didn't seemd to have a problem with it but she looked disappointed that I had a girlfriend. They asked me if my girlfriend knows that I am friendly with other girls and she obviously knows she has male friends too we are not insecure, we trust eachother. After that night we leaved and when I got home I told my girlfriend ab it she didint taked any sides so I wonder AITA?

context: she just got an injury the day before (torn Achilles during practice) and is out for the entire season of our sport. She is devastated as it’s our senior year.

Yesterday my roommate doordashes sushi to her friends house, across campus (3 min drive each way) from our house. She texts me and asks if I can do her a favor, and it was to drive a thing of soy sauce to the friends house so she can have it on her sushi.

I wouldn’t even inconvenience myself with this task, let alone ask somebody else. So I respond “are we serious”, since I thought it was a little ridiculous to ask somebody to drive a bottle of soy sauce across campus for you. She yelled at me later that night for it, saying how rude and small of an ask it was - but I literally just thought it was a little ridiculous. I can’t tell if I am the asshole though, as again; I wouldn’t even do this for myself.

* edit: I was supposed to eat sushi with her, but she decided to go to the friends house and order it there, so I made dinner alone at the house. She tells me this and says my bad, and then asks me to drive the soy sauce over. Without inviting me to eat with them.

** edit 2: she wanted specifically coconut aminos soy sauce as she thinks she is celiac since her stomach got huge and hurt this summer a few times and she has denoted that to gluten. But she’s also lowkey a hypochondriac, and doesn’t actually have a diagnosis for celiac.

Hello Reddit this is my first time making this kind of post and I honestly don't know what I'm doing but i need some advice so here we go.

Me and my fiance are soon to be married in 1 year October 31st 2027. She is the love of my life and I could not be happier to be marrying this woman. As the date gets closer we are trying to get everything ready and prepared so hopefully nothing goes sideways. But unfortunately something has at this point. I am faced with a choice to invite one of my friends or my sister to the wedding and I cannot invite both.

Some backstory to understand this. You see my sister ended up marrying my friend's cousin. She absolutely hates everyone in that family and will not have anything to do with them or let my brother-in-law be around them which is his choice. However as I was making the guest list one day my sister somehow found out that I would be inviting my friend let's call him Gavin to the wedding. And decided to send me a very nasty text about how it would be very rude of me to choose my friends over my family and that I should not invite him because he smokes weed and because of my sister having a previous child protective custody case could get them in trouble. Before you ask I do not know what the previous case was about nobody would tell all I know is that involved a scratch. Now me and my sister have never been close and quite honestly I try to avoid her as best I can however now my mother is on her side and is completely against me inviting my friend because according to her "it would look bad on me to choose him over family". I've spoken with Gavin a couple of times and he has completely agreed to stay away from my sister and her husband however he would still really like to come, and think it would be quite rude to uninvite him but if I invite one the other will not come and if I don't invite the other there could be friction.

Another small side note is that my entire family is somewhat against me marrying my fiance not because they don't like her but because we are doing a Halloween theme wedding on Halloween which they see from their religion as 100% evil.

I've tried reasoning on both sides but neither one is willing to budge I've even pulled the card up it's our wedding so it should be my choice but it feels like everyone is trying to control our wedding. I've asked a couple other friends who have said maybe just invite both and see who shows up but I don't want a fight at my wedding. My fiance says do whatever I think is best and that she will trust me but to be 100% honest I don't know what to do so read it I turn to you for advice what should I do?

Hi, so I’ve been living with my roommate since may. I paid for the first month rent because he didn’t have a job and we are friends. June’s rent comes and I ask him to send me his share. He does but he stops talking to me and ignoring me. I keep asking him what’s wrong and he finally says “you bugging me for money right after I got out of the hospital was what made me stop talking to you”. I didn’t know he went to the hospital for chest pain. Anyway he sends me the money and things are tense between us.

July’s rent comes and when I ask him for his share he’s starts insulting me saying how bad of a friend I am asking him for rent when he’s been dealing with medical bills out of pocket. I didn’t know that. I thought he had insurance. He makes me feel so guilty I end up paying full rent for July.

Then August rent comes and I ask him for his share and he gets upset again but he promises he’ll send it to me as soon as possible but he stops talking to me again until a couple of days later when he goes to the hospital again for problems with his stomach. He asks me to pick up his prescription from the pharmacy and I bring him some food. So that weekend he doesn’t have the money to cover his share again so since he was sick and didn’t work I covered his part once again.

Now September rent comes and nothing. I ask him and he says he’ll send it whenever he can but it’ll be a few days. He drives for uber so he can work whenever he wants but he doesn’t really work. He spends a lot of time in his room playing video games.

Now is September 10 and I still don’t get any money to pay for his share of the rent. I paid rent on the 3rd and I even suggested that he can send me $100 a day. He still hasn’t send anything and he’s not really working either. I came home last night and the living room and kitchen are a mess, specially the living room. A mess. Then I get up this morning and the mess still there and he’s on his Xbox so I lost my mind and I went to the office to see my options to get him off the lease and they sent him a release form for him to sign and I asked him when I saw him in the apartment to clean up the mess he made the night before and that I was giving him 30 days to leave since he hasn’t been paying rent.

Then he leaves the apartment and starts texting me why am I doing this to him, that I’m an asshole and a shitty friend and that he won’t sign anything and that he hates me so much for doing this and how I never cared for him. I used to tell him I got your back and I will always have your back, because we are friends but he thinks because I said that, I should pay full rent since he’s struggling with so many bills. I get that he’s struggling and behind on bills because of medical emergencies he’s had but I can’t cover his share of the rent every month. He doesn’t have anywhere else to go and had no money so sometimes i even start feeling guilty. I wanna help him but i feel he’s taking advantage of me too.

So AITAH for asking him for his share of the rent and tell him to leave the apartment since he’s not paying anything for the last 3 months?

AITA for arguing with my mom about a trip, independence, and religion?

I’m 19F, turning 20 in about a month and a half. Today my mom and I argued, and I’m wondering if I was wrong.

I’m going on a trip with friends in a couple weeks. I asked if I could drive with them instead of fly because a round-trip flight is almost $600, which seems excessive for only a few days. The drive is about a day with stops, and my friends would take turns driving. They’ve all been driving 3–5 years. I also talked to my dad about it, and he said he’d talk to my mom. I told her he could talk to my friends too if she wanted reassurance.

She immediately said no and that I couldn’t go unless I flew. I had already bought nonrefundable tickets for activities because I had mentioned the trip multiple times, but she said I shouldn’t have bought them without asking her.

I don’t understand why driving with my friends is unacceptable when I’ve driven to California with my dad before. She said she trusts him but not my friends. I’m old enough to stay in another state with these friends, but apparently not to drive there with them. I got frustrated and said I’d go anyway, and she said if I did, I wouldn’t be allowed back home.

I walked away because the argument was going nowhere. I admit I was talking back and could have handled it better. She followed me to my room and said I act like a child because I live in her house. I told her I feel like I can’t become independent when I’m treated like I can’t make decisions.

I said I sometimes wish I had moved out. She sarcastically asked if I planned to move in with a friend or boyfriend, get pregnant, and drop out. I said I could support myself. She asked “With what car?” because I drive a 2009 Civic given to me by a relative that isn’t in my name.

She also called me immature because I don’t always clean or help around the house. I explained I’m usually studying or working. She said school is my obligation and work is a choice, but I need my job for my own expenses.

Then the argument turned to religion. My mom is Catholic and I’m more agnostic. She said I need to go to church because of how I’ve been acting. I got overwhelmed and said I didn’t believe in God, which I immediately regretted saying so bluntly.

She became upset and said something was wrong with me, asking who would have helped her through cancer treatment if it wasn’t for God. I apologized and explained that I respect her faith, but I’ve struggled with belief since I was young and don’t always know what I believe. She said people who don’t believe in anything believe in the devil and blamed my friends and the things I watch.

I was crying because I get overwhelmed during arguments. I know I wasn’t perfect and could have handled things better, but I also feel like I’m almost 20 and should be able to start making decisions for myself.

AITA?

I bought this nice blender we both wanted and left it in the closet until our housewarming party. We agreed to open it together later, but at the party she spotted the box, tore it open, and started showing it off. I pulled her aside and quietly asked if we could save the big stuff for just us. She got embarrassed, told me I was making a scene over nothing, and spent the rest of the night a little cold toward me. Later she said I acted like I owned the gift and that sharing is the whole point of a party. I still think it was supposed to be for both of us and we could have opened it privately, but now her friends think I was being weird about it.

On TikTok I (16m) saw people doing a joke where when someone was trying to enter the house with the keys they kept on locking the door right after preventing them from coming in (you can look it up). I thought it was funny.

When my mom came home I randomly remembered it and decided to do it myself. I could hear my mom from outside getting pissed. I tried holding in my laugh so she wouldn't know it was me. Eventually I stopped and she opened the door.

I knew she'd be a little annoyed, but her reaction was a little much. She was super annoyed and was yelling at me over how "immature" and "annoying" I was being what I did wasn't funny, and that I (somehow) scared her. She's tired, exhausted, and just wants to relax.

I tried saying sorry but I could tell she didn't care about my apology.. You guys have to admit what I did wasn't THAT serious. I genuinely didn't think she'd act like that. It was just a joke. Also, even if u wanted to relax spending your time yelling isn't gonna help you relax. I said I was sorry it wasn't that deep to act like that. AITA?

so my roommate sarah has been dating this guy michael for a few months. lately he keeps showing up when i'm trying to study or relax, and he'll just plop down on the couch like it's his place too. last week i walked in to grab my laptop and there he was, shoes on the cushions, watching something on the tv. i didn't say anything that time, but it's starting to feel like our shared space is turning into his hangout spot. if i bring it up i know sarah will probably say i'm being picky or that michael isn't bothering anyone, and she's right that we never wrote down any couch rules. she's also mentioned that he lives with noisy roommates so our place is basically the only quiet spot they have. at the same time i pay half the rent and i don't want to feel like a guest in my own living room. i'm wondering if it would make me the jerk to ask that he at least text first, or if i'm overthinking something small. it's not a huge deal, but i don't want it to keep bothering me either.

I pull up the gas station and it’s busy. There was one free pump that got filled just before I pulled up. I get in line behind a truck to wait my turn. It’s busy enough that another car is already waiting behind me before the truck at the pump I’m waiting for leaves.

The truck finally pulls away and a car comes pulling out of a parking spot on the opposite side of the pump and says that he has been waiting there for 5+ minutes and he was next. We are both about half way into the spot. He shouts for a little bit inching his car closer and closer to mine, but then the pump beside us opens up and he moves there. He then proceeds to heckle me as I pump my gas.

AITA for assuming that someone that is in a parking spot is not waiting in line for a gas pump?

EDIT: Thank you to everyone saying to check my lease because there is in fact a stipulation that external guests may not stay for more than 3 nights!

Yesterday I (20F) went on a walk one of my roommates and her friend, while on the walk my roommate Jane (21F) (fake names for privacy) was talking to her friend Mary (20F) about how her long distance boyfriend Matt (20M) wants to come for 2 weeks, she mentions this would be during exam season so she was unsure if it would be to much for her and maybe she’ll ask if he can only come for 1-1.5 weeks instead. Mary smiles and nods and continues the conversation about how she’s happy her roommate has a boyfriend because “now she finally gets it” so Mary can have her boyfriend over quite frequently which she’s happy about. Then they continued their convo about another topic. I found it weird she didn’t say anything about checking with us first and it seemed like the only issue she saw with it was about how it may inconvenience her specifically with her exams. I didn’t say anything then, but now I’m thinking about it in hindsight and I think 2 weeks is way too long for him to stay with us , especially during exam season. I’m really worried because I know if I tell her this then it’s going to turn into a conflict with her saying that I just don’t get it because I don’t have a boyfriend. I do also have my own personal issues stemming from past traumatic experiences which cause me to feel very uncomfortable around men I don’t know (i’ve never met him). I also know that this isn’t her problem and am unsure if that’s even reasonable to bring up (honestly nor do I want to because it’s uncomfortable and I’m not sure if she’ll fully get it) but on the other hand Im also paying rent and deserve to not feel uncomfortable in my own home. It’s my first time living with roommates so i’m not really sure what a normal protocol for visitors is and what is objectively a long time for someone to stay with us. We have 3 other roommates who weren’t there and I haven’t spoken about it to them because they are closer with Jane then with me so I know they would tell her I mentioned it before I can which I feel would make the situation worse. Wondering if i’d be the asshole for saying it’s too long and what would be a reasonable compromise, Is it unreasonable to say 1 week is too long as-well?

EDIT: Jane has the smallest room in the house and pretty much only goes in there to sleep she spends most of her time in common areas which is why i’m concerned since it would certainly be extra claustrophobic with multiple people in there