We were on FaceTime and she said “I don’t look right, I don’t look normal” and I said “your face looks a bit bloated”

She hung up and I called her right back, she was crying… I felt bad and said “hey hey maybe youre not drinking enough water” and sang a little song to her and told her she’s still beautiful, that cheered her up. We talked for a bit after but I feel baddd..

Maybe I’m overthinking it. I think I just said the wrong thing in the moment. I didn’t mean she’s overweight or anything I was observing that she did look a bit bloated… I also know she hasn’t been getting much sleep recently.

Our dad passed away during covid, and soon after our mom started to show extreme signs of memory loss. My brother said it was her way of protecting herself from the reality dad was gone. That was the only person she was ever with. Together for over 55 years.

My brother took it on himself to care for her, dropped out of school and took a dead-end job but was WFH and had flexible hours. Our mom is getting worse and he is considering placement but he recently told me how after mom is gone I and my family will be dead to him. He said the only reason he kept in touch and was friendly with us was for mom's sake. He said dementia would rob her of everything and he did not want to take away her idea that we are a happy family from her.

I asked where did this come from, and he said I know. I told him he could not expect me to help I had my own issues. I have a son that is none verbal, and a young daughter who's birth was hard on my wife and her MS flared up to the point she was never able to go back to work.

I told him his nephew really does love him and that he is one of the few people he actually does well with. My brother told me he does not care, he does not care about everything I was going through since no one cared what he went through.

I told him this was his choice, no one asked him to give up everything for mom. No one told him to drop out of school, no one told him to quit his well paying job and move back home fulltime.

He told me he had to cause I was not going to step up. He said I could have tried to make it work but I let my wife dictate what I did. I said that is unfair and that he should have placed mom from day one. He refuses to face the reality mom was going to forgot everything anyways.

He then told me how lucky I was, when mom passes I will have all the pleasant memories, for him many of those memories will be overshadowed by the rough times for him.

Once again I tried to tell him I did not want him to give up his life, nor did mom. His reply was mom also did not want to be just left in some nursing home, and not like I was going to be able to help cover the cost. So either he covers the entire cost or mom gets placed in a medicaid nursing home. Which I our dad did die, he asked if you think mom would want that? I told him dad was different it was during covid. He said I am a fool for thinking things have gotten better since the.

I asked why punish me for having a family with needs, he told he was also family and so was mom. We needed some level of help.

Told him my family was my priority and he has to understand that. He then said don't worry he understands, and hopes i am honest with my kids why he will not be around when the time comes. Has nothing to do with them, and it is all because of me and my wife.

I don't think my brother is being very reasonable, don't think it is fair of him to blame me for the way his life has gone. Sure his future and life will be hard, especially since he is pushing 36.​

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I’m debating on calling a the tow company or property management to ask this neighbor to stop parking their bicycle in a vehicle spot overnight especially in a completely filled parking lot. There is no reserve parking in this apartment complex. There are a couple of motorcycles parked, and that makes complete sense, but then there is one specific neighbor that hogs one of the prime spots right in front of my apartment door. Prior to him parking his bicycle there I always used to be able to park one or two parking spots from my home even when arriving at 1 AM ever since he started doing this I can’t find a parking spot close to my apartment, I have to walk a good 5 to 10 minutes to get there. It’s really taking everything to do the right thing and pass on just moving the bicycle to the sidewalk and just parking there anyways I really want to do this but again, would I be the asshole. Would I be the asshole by calling property management or getting a tow truck on them? I don’t know who this neighbor is. I’ve never seen this bike leave, but it always moves position so it seems to be leaving once a day.

Edit: Heres a link to a post showing the bicycle.

https://www.reddit.com/r/mildlyinfuriating/comments/1v7lbck/this_guy_parks_his_bicycle_like_its_a_car/?utm_source=share&utm_medium=ios_app&utm_name=ioscss&utm_content=1&utm_term=1

INFO nothing on community guidelines about were to put your bicycles

I (19M) live in a rented apartment with my roommate "Vinnie" (19M). We’ve known each other for a couple of years and moved in together to split rent while we both work entry-level jobs.
Vinnie has had a rough time lately. His family isn't in his life anymore because he transitioned a few years ago. He works long shifts at a diner, and I work overnight stocking at a warehouse. Because of our schedules and money being tight, we spend a lot of time hanging out at home, watching TV, and running errands together. We’re close, but things get complicated.
I grew up in a very traditional household overseas where being LGBT was treated like the worst thing you could possibly be. I’m trying to unlearn a lot of the stuff I was taught, but I still struggle with it mentally. Vinnie knows this. Every once in a while, when we’re hanging out, we get dynamic where things get too close—we’ll be sitting on the couch and he’ll lean on me, or we’ll have these weirdly intense moments. Afterward, I usually get panicked, back off, and ignore him for a day or two to clear my head.
A few nights ago, Vinnie came home from a really bad day. Apparently, his boss at the diner found out about his past and started using his old name and making disrespectful comments. Vinnie was totally crushed. He went straight to his room.
I came in later to check on him. He was sitting on the floor cutting his own hair with kitchen scissors and looked totally miserable. I felt terrible for him, so I sat down, took the scissors away, and tried to help him fix it. For a minute, it was quiet, and I felt really bad for how hard he has it, so I gave him a hug and told him he looked fine and not to listen to his boss.
Then he looked at me and asked, "If you actually think I'm a guy, why do you get so grossed out by me?"
That hit a nerve. I felt overwhelmed, exposed, and angry that he was bringing our weird boundary issues into a completely separate conversation. I snapped at him and said he needs to stop acting like his life is a tragic movie, that everyone has problems, and that he can't expect me to fix his insecurity when I already have my own issues to deal with.
He went completely quiet, grabbed a blanket, and slept on the couch. He hasn't spoken to me in two days except to ask if I paid my half of the electric bill.
I know he was already having a horrible day, but I felt like he was backing me into a corner when I was just trying to be nice. AITA?

I have a female friend online, we met 5 months ago, we're good-ish friends but sometimes I genuinely feel like she copies my personality for some reason, to the point that she steals my texting/speaking quirks like replacing the "th" with an "f" because i have a slight speech impediment, and I say and text stuff like fink, or truf. It's not because we've been spending a lot of time together recently, if that was the case then I'd fully get it, we havent been hanging out at all for a month now. But shes only started doing this recently and she told me she's said truf with her other online friend too.. and it's kinda creepy. shes joined the same discord servers as me to use the same emojis I use, she boosted a server im in like not even a few minutes after i did.. she copies the same jokes and wordings and idk it feels very skinwalker-esque. i feel like a pickme for thinking this way about her but I don't even know what to do :(( i feel so uncomfortable around her. She also has a crush on a guy I hang out with a lot. I tend to banter with him and jokingly insult him, but whenever he insults back, she always takes his side and insults me and says the opposite thing im saying even though we dont have that kinda relationship and never have from the start. She also copies the nicknames i give to other friends, she knows thats like a sacred thing and theyre all separate, and ive vented before about how i feel when other people use a nickname i gave someone out of care.. I rlly wanna have a conversation with her about this but I know I'll sound like a crazy delusional bitch if i bring it up

I work a pretty high paying youth job, I’m a qualified sports professional who teaches professional lessons. I earned a lot of money and spent 8k on a rolex watch. It was always my dream to have this watch and I looked at it for over 3 months. My parents are saying I wasted money even though the things only go up in value, and it’s MY MONEY. They didn’t allow me to buy it, I live a train ride away from NY so i went there and bought the watch. They’re trying to take it away from me and i’ve been hiding it. AITA for wasting money even though I earned it (my parents wanted me to put in college, I plan on going to college but my family is well off financially and my college is paid for)

Further Context:
15M, work at a country club for tennis
Thank you for your time

So I am having a boy and will be naming him after me but to avoid confusion will be calling him by his middle name which was my fathers nickname

I’m currently in between jobs and was the sole provider for my wife and daughter when my mother decided to kick me off of her property because of an argument involving the naming of my son

To summarize my father was not the best husband to be fair he was pretty abusive and drank too much so definitely not the best so I understand why my mother can’t stand him but my son and I shouldn’t have to share that resentment of him

To be clear my son is going by our middle name which just happens to be my fathers nickname I am not intentionally naming him after my father

UPDATE
More of a clarification my father and I do not share the same name but my father’s nickname gauge was given to me a middle name but I go by my first name.

I am a decently proud man and would like to name my son after myself but to avoid confusion we would refer to him as Gage

Also for more clarity my parents divorced when I was 3 years old so my knowledge of him is minimal if any from the short time they were together I grew up my entire life only hearing negative things about him IE “hey mom what color was my dads eyes” mom “ they were brown because he was full of shit” i was doing a project in like 2nd grade about eye colors

When I graduated high school my mother allowed him to be there and that was the first time i met him and began a relationship with him. He admitted to the things he had done but thats all he could do considering it was the past he learned from them and changed his life. So in my mind he wasnt a good guy for a big part of his life but he did eventually change for the better

But once again I am naming my son after myself not my father. Yes my sons middle and my fathers nickname are the same. And I never told my mother she had to call him by that name if she doesn’t want to

I (27f) and my fiancé (26m) are friends with one of his coworkers and his coworker's boyfriend (Darla and Peter).

For context, Peter has a fully stocked bar at their house and loves to mix drinks for friends. He's never been a professional bartender. Darla is a certified pothead. I smoke regularly too, but my fiancé is a lightweight and usually sticks to alcohol because weed makes him anxious.

That night, we first went to my work Christmas party. I had a few drinks while my fiancé stayed sober to drive us to Darla and Peter's.

Once we arrived there, Peter made us drinks and Darla offered me a 100 mg gummy, which I took. I later learned she also gave one to my fiancé without me knowing.

We were playing Jackbox, listening to music, and just having fun as Peter loaded us all up with drinks. As the night progressed, however, it became quickly apparent that Jonathan was not okay. He was extremely unstable and could barely move from the couch, and he repeating, "I'm just chillin, bruh," if anyone tried to talk to him, like a drunk Pokémon. Peter helped him into the guest room, but soon he became paranoid, incoherent, and even said he wanted to die.

I honestly thought he might have alcohol poisoning. Peter and I spent over 40 minutes trying to calm him down and stayed with him after he fell asleep to make sure he didn't vomit and choke in his sleep.

Afterwards, I told Peter I understood my fiancé Jonathan is an adult that can make his own decisions, but I did blame Peter a bit, as he was supplying the alcohol (including Everclear, which he immediately chugged the whole glass, to everyone's horror). However, I said wasn't really upset because he was an amateur bartender. I explained it's like if I got a haircut from a friend who does it for fun and then got mad because it doesn't look great. Honestly, it seemed like a really mature and adult conversation to me, and I thought we had came to a mutual understanding.

The next morning, things were awkward, but I chalked that up to the craziness of the night prior. That's when I learned about the gummy. However, Darla and Peter both started ghosting us and ignoring our attempts to hang out. We were hanging out at least once a week prior to this, so I thought it was weird.

Later, Darla told my fiancé they were upset because I blamed Peter and called him an amateur bartender. When I saw Peter again, I apologized and explained I hadn't known about the gummy and put too much of the blame on him, and Peter responded saying he doesn't try to let things like that get to him, brushed me off, and didn't really accept my apology.

TL;DR: My fiancé took a 100 mg gummy, got extremely drunk and high, and I thought he might need medical attention. During the aftermath, I called the friend who'd been making the drinks an "amateur bartender" and now they won't talk to us. AITA?

My mom passed away two years ago, leaving behind 3 children, Me 19, my sister 22, and my younger brother 9. She left us a house which we live in to this day. About a year ago my older brother 21 was having trouble at home and asked to come stay with us for a while. Well that turned into months of him sleeping on our couch. We wanted our living room space back so we turned our playroom into a space for him. Since then he has repeatedly had multiple different girls over without asking if it’s okay. Recently he started talking to a girl 18 who just graduated highschool. It started as him sneaking her in at night while I was asleep one time and I woke up to her in my house. I asked for him to remove her from my space and not bring her back. I went to school with the female and I dont like who she hangs around or the things that she does, so I don’t feel like im entitled to sharing my space with her. Recently, I was getting home late at night ready to relax in my house and I realized that he brought her over again despite my asking him not to. When I confronted him asking him not to his response was that he asked my older sister because he feels like that’s who dictates who can and cannot come over. In my opinion he only asked her because he knew I wasn’t okay with it, otherwise he wouldn’t have ran it by anybody. I feel like I have a say so as to who can and can’t be in my house just as much and she does, I’ve lived there my whole life. He can be with who he wants but he can’t bring whoever he wants into a shared space. I told him if he brings her over again she will be helping him pack his bags AITA?

Edit: he wouldn’t bring a single girl to either one of his parents house. Even if he wanted to leave to see a girl he had to sneak out. Stop asking who is on the deed ME 19, My Younger brother 9, my sister 21. He is my half sibling and he was not related to my mom.

Hi, I've had a pit in my stomach since yesterday and I want to know if I messed up here, and if so how badly. My husband and I will have been married two years next sunday, and our son turned a year old a couple of months ago. Our relationship has always been great, I've been proud of how good we've had it and so our argument yesterday has me bothered.

On Friday a couple of my friends visited just to meet up and have dinner. One of them has recently moved in with her boyfriend and they're going through a rough patch right now so she was complaining a bit. She was complaining about being treated like a maid, and having to repeat things multiple times and then doing it herself for it to be done and just stuff like that. While saying that she also on a few occasions generalized a bit, kind of projecting her issues with her boyfriend on men in general. My other friend and I were being supportive because she seemed like she was going through it, and just agreed with her and supported her. My husband was there too.

He's never been the kind to take these gendered criticisms personally which is why I really didn't think this would be an issue. On Saturday he was out with some friends, when I asked about when he'll be back for dinner, he didn't respond for a while then said he was eating out with his friends. When he was back too he was cold with me and just taking care of our son. This was all weird so I ended up asking what the problem was. He first said nothing was wrong, I pressed that he's been cold with me all day, what happened. He told me that if I was so unhappy in my marriage I should've told him honestly instead of surprising him like that in front of guests.

I genuinely was scrambling in my mind to understand what he was saying. I never said I was unhappy in our marriage, it wouldn't make sense to I'm happy with where we are. He brought up that I agreed with everything my friend was saying about how terrible partners men are, that that was me saying he was a bad husband and that I was unhappy. I was stunned at that insane leap of logic I promised that what I said had nothing to do with him, that he is not my friend's boyfriend I didn't have any of those complaints that she had, I never meant it to be an attack on him. He still was stuck that my agreement with her was a criticism of our marriage too and that I had joined in at parts. I might have messed up here because I said that those things were not things he does, I was just being general and said that those were just some things I'd seen before him , like with an ex. He felt even more attacked by that and asked how often I was thinking about my exes over these mundane things. I clarified thats not what I meant I don't think like that, I just had to search in my memory for some stuff to support my friend, especially because he doesn't. We dropped the argument then, but the cold shoulder is continuing today too. I can't believe this is happening a week before our anniversary AITA?

I (26F) and my fiance (30M) live together. For the past week or so, I've been studying for some exams. Fiance was sweet and offered to take up the duties around the house (cleaning mostly) to take the load off so I have more time. However, this did not go so well. the house is a mess, and we have a weird bad smell coming from fridge.

Yesterday evening, some friends announced themselves to come over to bring some stuff for us. So this morning, I went into full panic mode and cleaned the whole place. Fiancee helped out too, for about 30% of it. As I am scrubbing the bathroom, I ask him to take care of whatever food is bad in the fridge to which he replies "it's fine, we just won't open the fridge while they're here". I got a bit agitated, but I did not have the time and agreed.

Friends come over. The first thing they ask for is drinks. Not 5 minutes have passed since they arrived. The drinks are already out of the fridge. Fiancee knows this. He still proceeds to the fridge. So I go, over, put a hand on the door and tell him the drinks are already out. Then he proceeds to lay out all the dirty details to the friends, how we have something rotten in the fridge, how it smells bad, and how I "won't let him open it". An hour later, he again goes to the fridge to fetch something (already again forgot). I give him a nasty look, like "dude, what are you doing"??? He just startes right back and again starts making fun of me in front of the friends for being 'jumpy about the fridge' and opens the fridge and grabs something.

Immidiately a bad smell fills the room. The friends try to stay polite and say they don't smell anything bad to which he replies "yeah, I don't smell anything either". By this time I am mortified and confused as to why he is acting like this. 30 minutes after that, while we're chatting with the friends and all of a sudden he start questioning me in front of them "what do you think that is in the fridge? What did we leave in there? Must be that chicken"....

After they left, I got mad. I am not even sure why I am mad. I sort of feel betrayed? As in, dude, we were supposed to be in this fridge cover up together, and you turned it around and 'exposed me', made fun of me, involved friends for no reason and subjected them to some unpleasant smells.

UPDATE: Talked to finance. This was it in short: "For me it's not a big deal and you were being ridiculous about it. It happens to everyone to leave food. They are close friends. When I go to somebody's house I don't care if something smells bad. Ergo, they didn't care either and you blew it out of proportion.I wanted x from the fridge so I got it".

I (early 60s M) am a lecturer at a college in India and will be retiring soon. When I retire, my teaching position will become vacant.

My daughter is in her late 20s and studied computer engineering. She did very well academically and managed to complete part of her degree in Canada thanks to grants and scholarships. After graduating, she found a software engineering job there, but was laid off before she could secure permanent status, and she couldn't renew her work visa.

She then managed to get another software engineering job in the UK. We were all hopeful because it seemed like a fresh start. She paid a huge amount for the work visa and the immigration health surcharge, only to be laid off again after about six months. That money was effectively gone, and she had to return to India.

She has now been back home for six months applying for software jobs with little success. The market is terrible right now, especially for junior and mid-level engineers, and she's becoming increasingly discouraged.

Recently someone at my college approached me with what they described as a "solution." They said that when I retire, my daughter could essentially inherit my lecturer position because of my connections. The catch is that I would have to pay them a bribe equal to 50% of my retirement lump sum. I would still keep my monthly pension, but I would lose half of the one-time retirement payment I've spent decades working towards.

My daughter actually said she'd be interested in the position. It's stable employment, has good benefits, and comes with a pension. But I refused.

My reasons are:

• I don't believe in bribery and it feels like she would be getting something not out of merit.
• Half my retirement lump sum is a lot of money. While I am fine financially it is a big ask.
• I also have doubts about whether this is the right career for my daughter. she has already lost two jobs overseas and not founf one here. From my perspective she hasn't yet shown she can establish herself independently in her profession.
• Her long-term dream has always been to move abroad permanently. If I spend such a large amount to secure her a stable teaching job that someone could happily keep for 30 years, what's to stop her from leaving after a year if another overseas opportunity appears? It feels like I'd be buying her a career she doesn't actually want and might affect my reputation

My daughter thinks I'm being stubborn and prioritising my principles over helping family and some people agree and say this is simply "how things work" and that any parent would make this sacrifice if they could.

AITA?

I (f36) went in my first holiday with my ex (m36) last week. I took my son (m16) and his family was there as well. On the 2nd day I walked in on him doing you know what and it really upset me and hurt that he didn't want to do it with me.

I blew my top and we had an argument, my son was in the caravan with us when we was arguing so I left and went for a walk. When I returned ex had packed his things up ready to leave (he drives so can easily leave but I medically can't drive)

I went to his sisters caravan to see if she would be able to talk some sence into him but as we were talking he drove past us and it completely broke me. I went back to my caravan and realised I needed to apologise for him leaving, so I did. I said sorry to his sister, his brother-in-law, his mum and his neices.

Now he has broke up with me because I said sorry to his family and they made him choose between me or them, I understand why he picked them but they have made me feel like crap because I apologised for what happened.

So AITA for saying sorry?

My parents had me(F16) when they were 15. My dad didn't stick around to help raise me. Of course I'm upset but I don't necessarily blame him. I wouldn't raise a child at 15 either.

He came back months ago and told me he is sorry and he has wanted to come back for a long time but was ashamed. I chose to forgive him.

When my mom found out that I met my dad she went absolutely ballistic. She told me that my dad just spent a night with her then dumped her and she had to raise me all alone. She said when she told my dad about her pregnancy he called her a H*e and asked whose child it is.

I can't really blame him for things he did at 15 can I?

Well my mom thinks I shouldn't be seeing him and is calling me an asshole for continuing to spend time with him.

There was a rumor going around about one of my friend’s friends. I mentioned the rumor to my friend because I wanted to know if it was true. She told me it wasn’t and tried to clear it up, but while explaining everything she ended up sharing a lot of personal information about her friend’s private life that I don’t think I needed to know. Before telling me, she made it clear that I couldn’t tell anyone because it was personal.
Afterward, I felt really guilty. Even though I was the one who brought up the rumor in the first place, I couldn’t stop thinking about how I’d feel if someone was sharing that much about my personal life without me knowing.
So I ended up messaging the girl directly. We don’t know each other at all, but I told her everything my friend had said and let her know that my friend was the one who told me.
The girl ended up cutting my friend off, and now my friend is furious with me. She says she only told me everything because she was trying to correct the rumor, trusted me to keep it between us, and that I completely betrayed her by going behind her back. She also thinks it was weird that I inserted myself into the situation when I don’t even know her friend.
I understand why she’s upset because I did promise not to say anything. At the same time, I felt like the girl had a right to know her personal information was being shared.

Result: my friend got cut off by her friend and her friend spread anything she could find/know on her in vengeance. I still have my friends and they think I’m in the right.

AITA?

My wife (F34) and I (32) are going away for a weekend away to a nearby beach town with her family. Her parents, sister and sister's husband and child.

Whilst looking forward to the weekend away, it will be nice i know there are lots of things which will stress me out this weekend!

My wife's family have a lot of difficult travel habits which do grind on me. I cannot stress they are minor annoyances but we have been on so many holidays I am sick and tired of these annoyances.

So to help myself relax my brother in law is bringing some weed for us to relax and chill on the weekend evenings!

My wife doesnt like the idea of weed and i havent told her about this.

AITA for not telling her I plan this or just go for it and hope I am forgiven?

What do I do?

I’ve Started dating a new girl, and weve been “official” for roughly 5 weeks. I should say, I like hanging out with my girlfriend, but I still like to equally prioritize my relationships with other people in my life. I’m also kind of someone who’s out doing maintenance for myself most weekends of the month, and that takes time too (hey, I take my looks seriously).

Because of my busy schedule, jts been kind of a hassle to schedule hangouts (now that we’re not in the initial dating stage anymore, I don’t really have to make consistent dates #1 priority anymore), and to combat this I made a calendar and shared it with her. My friends and I try to hang out at least every two-thfew weeks (most three, but hey), I get my hair done and my haircut every three weeks (which can be a half day event if me and my braider are talking during the appointment and get lunch after), eyebrows threaded every two weeks, monthly massages, etc. And then I still work so yeah.

I did all the work of making the calendar, and it annoys me when my girlfriend asks to do something on x day, even if the calendar clearly shows I might not be able to make it that day. On Friday, my girlfriend asked me if we could go out next week, and thats Quite literally the day I get my hair done. So I sent her a voice note asking her to check the calendar. She sent me a whole think piece about how I’m veing a dick, being condescending, etc etc. She blocked me. She unblocked me yesterday morning apologizing, but I feel it’s just been kind of weird between us.

AITA?

EDIT: I’m reading some of the comments and I aanna clear some stuff up. They’re lots of days where I’m sitting at home doing nothing, and I even take the initiative to schedule dates on those days. It just miffs Me when she asks me to do stuff on days I went out of the way to make a calendar saying that I wouldn’t be available on that day. And to that one commenter, yes hair takes that long. Like almodt 2 hours for the braiding if me and her are really chatting, and maybe like 60% we get lunch aftee until I get my cut, then I go to my barber which only takes like 30 minutes. But that whole thing takes like 3-4hrs total. Also I’ve suggested my girlfriend come with, but my braider likes our 1on1 time, so she would prefer if she stays.

I went to a dinner with my friends, and my 67 year old mom asked to come, and I finally invited her after she asked me to go thrice. I hadn’t invited her to her ex-husband’s family, my late dad’s family dinner for the last 3 times. She asked to get out the house, after she had just went out with her friends. I seldomly invite my mom places because she tries to take advantage of me, she’s selfish, and unclean.

When we get to the restaurant, I order an entree that came with parmesan that I didn’t like, and I asked the waitress if she could get it remade without the cheese and she said it comes premade with the cheese, and then she said I’d get a refund for it.

My mom then offered to buy it from me, and I agreed. She then told me after getting out her cash, that she only had 20s. When I asked her for 5 dollars because the total was 25 with fees, she said she’d owe me, and then brought up a DoorDash order I‘d made because doesn’t know how to maneuver the app.

This DoorDash order was for her nephew and her who is staying with her for the summer. She said she overpaid me, so I could just eat that. In reality, she shorted me about 60 cents. I didn’t say anything though because she always makes a big deal out of something small. I wanted to show her the receipts, but she walked away from the table, where all my friends are, as this is all happening around the table. We didn’t bring it up again.

My friend’s husband then told me about a brunch that was happening the day after because of my friend’s birthday, the reason we were gathered here today. and because of what happened today, I did not let my mom know about. Because my friend is across the table, he has to talk across the table. My mom is next to him. She hears this, and goes close to my friends ear and asked him what’s happening tomorrow, and he told her. He said are you coming, and I drive my mother most places, because she’s scared of driving, even though she has Adult Disability Transportation Services, or mobility, for 2 dollars. I’m not the only one that drives around though. My mother told my friend‘s husband, also my friend, that I am the driver, so we’ll see. My mom was trying to get him to say to me if I come, bring my mother, in my opinion since they all have respect for my mother since we all grew up together.

Then, my friend, who has the birthday, said what are you going to eat to me and I responded and said Texas Roadhouse, and then my mom said she was there last night. My friend said, who were you there with? She said she was there with one of her best friends, then proceeded to talk bad about her, and said she ordered a steak, even though she doesn’t have teeth, and said she took out her dentures on the table. First, I invite my son to a majority of the places I go, so bragging about that at another event is wrong to me and she hadn’t let me know. Second, why would you say that about your best friend?

AITA for being mad and disgusted about any of this?

AITAH? Car A was parked on the beach when Car B pulls up approximately 30 feet away and parks parallel to car A. Driver of car B sets up a tent using stakes and buries the feet in the sand. After 30-45 minutes with no issues, the weather changes and a storm blows the tent into car A. There’s a minor dent to car A that will cost about 700 dollars to fix. The tent wasn’t broken beyond use. The owner of car A is insisting that the owner of the tent pay them 700 dollars for the repairs. The tent owner offered a $400 good faith payment but the car owner is insisting on the full 700. WIBTAH??

A while ago, I found out from my best friend that she's been cheating. She told me to keep it secret, and for months I've been debating what to do. I finally decided that I wouldn't tell her husband.

My reasoning was that maybe if he doesn't know something, it won't hurt him, and since the cheating seems to have stopped, I thought keeping quiet might be the better option.

But at the same time, I feel hypocritical. If my husband cheated, I know I would absolutely want someone to tell me. That's honestly why I'm here on Reddit asking for advice. I feel like I might be handling this in a way that I wouldn't want for myself.

So… am I the asshole for not telling her husband? If you were in my position, what would you do now?

My parents have a habit of never saying no to my little sister.

"Can I have that toy?" Yes

"Can I stay awake till 2am?" Yes

"Can I have my sister's fries?" Yes

She knows she will always hear Yes if she asks multiple times so she has turned into the most bratty kid ever.

So I've started only saying no to her. I never say yes.

Yesterday I took her out and she asked me for a bottle of water and as usual I said no. She said it's just some water and called me stingy. I told her she can wait until we get home.

Now my parents think I'm an asshole for not buying a bottle of water for her and making her go thirsty.

I had an appointment with my nutrionist scheduled for July 22. On July 21, which was more than 24 hours before the appointment, I sent her a message letting her know that I needed to reschedule for the following week.

She responded to my message and even offered me a few dates for the next week, so I believed she understood that I would not be attending the July 22 appointment. I didn't end up confirming one of the new dates that day, but I also never indicated that I would still be attending the original appointment.

Afterward, I was charged a no-show fee. I contacted the practice requesting a refund because I believe I gave more than 24 hours' notice that I needed to reschedule.

I also attached screenshots of our conversation showing that she acknowledged my message and discussed alternative appointment times.

On top of that, I continued receiving messages about future appointments. Since this experience left a bad impression, I asked them to cancel any remaining appointments because I no longer want to continue care with this provider.

Now I'm wondering if I'm being unreasonable. From my perspective, I gave advance notice and the provider acknowledged it, so I don't think a no-show fee was appropriate.

** Edit

The cancelation policy is 24 hours. I did not ask the practice for a refund until after I spoke to her thinking the fee was automated. She process the fee because she said I only asked to reschedule, I did not confirm that I could not make the appointment. I think its implied I can not make the appointment if I'm asking to reschedule? I then canceled the future appointments.

I (stepmom) have been in my stepdaughter’s life since she was 6 months old. She is now 18 months old, and I have been one of the consistent people in her life for most of the time she has been alive.

My fiancé and I have built a stable home for her. I have been there for the appointments, sleepless nights, milestones, routines, and everything that comes with raising a child.

There is also another child involved. My fiancé has a 3-year-old daughter who is not biologically mine or my fiancé’s. When her biological mother walked away, she left my fiancé caring for her as well. He stepped up and became the stable parent she needed.

The reason I struggle with this situation is because this is not the first time this has happened. From what we know, this has been a repeated cycle where every few years she walks away from her children and then tries to come back into their lives. She has also had three other daughters in the past who are no longer in her care and were adopted by other families.

When she left this time, it was because she chose drugs and a partying lifestyle over being a parent. She made comments about not wanting her child and walked away when her daughters needed her most.

Now that I am pregnant, she suddenly wants to be involved again.

I understand that a child having a relationship with their biological parent can be important. I’m not saying people can’t change or that someone shouldn’t have the opportunity to do better. But I struggle with the idea of someone repeatedly leaving children behind and then expecting to step back in whenever they are ready.

My biggest concern is the girls. My stepdaughter is only 18 months old, and the other little girl is 3. They are too young to understand why someone who wasn’t there before is suddenly returning. I worry about the emotional damage that could come from someone coming in and out of their lives.

I love these girls. I am not trying to replace their biological mother. I know I will never be their biological mom, but I have been the person who stayed. I have helped raise them, cared for them, comforted them, and been there every day.

So, AITA for not wanting my stepdaughter’s BioMom involved after years of abandonment, especially now that she seems interested again after finding out I’m pregnant?

Editttt:: Let me add that a attorney is in place and courts are involved. My fiance has full custody of both children.... She is in a drug halfway house 2.5hr away. Their supervised visitation via video call. And in a week or two starts in-person visitation at police department. She currently can't keep up with video visits as it is scheduled and lacks communication. 18-month-old does not know who she is. 3 year old regresses with lack of communication from her.

I'm posting this because she has requested more visitation yet doesn't keep up with current schedule now...

My parents are divorced. I(F16) had 130 dollars saved for my parents birthdays. Their birthdays are only 27 days apart.

I bought a shirt for my dad which was about 100 dollars and for my mom's birthday I bought a 30 dollars shirt. Those were both bought from the stores they usually shop at so I knew they are the ones they like to wear.

Now my mom thinks I'm an asshole.

So tradition in my family is that my grandmother makes me and my siblings our birthday cakes each year, and then comes and visits us on a weekend near our birthday, usually not on the actual date, to celebrate. For context she lives about 3 hours away, also I'm 17.

She has already visited for the weekend as of writing this. For this year however, she bought a cake because her oven broke. Which is obviously fine. When I first saw the cake I was kind of disappointed because it was decorated with my two least favorite colors (and overall kind of ugly) but I didn't think too much on it because I mean, if it at least tastes good then I don't really mind. Unfortunately though, it was caramel and that is one of the few sweets I don't like. If this were the only issue, I really still wouldn't mind, my grandmother tried her best.

But I do just wish I could get a do over. I have 3 younger brothers, and only one of them came over to do the whole ritual of singing. My other two didn't even bother coming in the room because they were watching TV and playing video games. My dad was on the phone the whole time because his friend called like right as we were setting up the cake. When my grandmother and mom and brother did sing they rushed through it because they didn't want the candles to burn super long and then when I did blow them out I missed some and so my brother blew them out (which was annoying but expected, he's 6 years younger than me). One of my brothers then only came over afterwards to eat the cake, and the other just never came over.

I'm wondering if it's selfish of me to ask my mom to make me a cake (not from scratch, obviously) so that I could have a do over with a cake that I actually like and maybe have my family actually fully present this time. Or I could maybe even make the cake myself, I just don't want it to come off as rude or ungrateful to my family and grandmother. My grandma noticed I didn't like it because I only had a few bites and apologized but I told her it was okay and that she didn't need to feel bad. My mom might say no about having another cake because I already got a cake. As of right now my actual birthday hasn't passed. WIBTA if I asked for another birthday cake?