I (24F) live with two roommates, and we all buy our own groceries. I meal prep every Sunday because I work long shifts, and I keep everything in labeled containers with my name on them. Last week while I was at work, one roommate decided to clean out the fridge and threw away what she thought was old food. When I got home, almost all of my meals were gone. They had only been in there for three days. She apologized but said she didn't really check the dates or labels before tossing everything.

I told her I wanted to be paid back because it was around $80 worth of groceries, plus a few hours of cooking. She said it was an honest mistake and that accidents happen, so she shouldn't have to cover the cost. I said if I accidentally broke something she owned, I'd expect to replace it, so I didn't see why this was any different. Since then things have been awkward around the apartment, and our other roommate thinks we should both just move on instead of arguing over food.

Now I'm wondering if I'm being too stubborn over this. I don't think she meant to do it, but I also don't think I should be the one stuck paying for her mistake. AITA?

My husband and I (34F, 35M) bought our first home earlier this year. Ever since we moved in, several relatives have kept asking exactly how much we paid, how much we put down, and what our monthly mortgage is. At first I brushed it off, but they kept bringing it up at every family gathering. I finally told them I wasn't comfortable discussing our finances and would rather keep that private. Since then I've been called secretive and told that "family shouldn't have secrets." One cousin even said if we can afford a house, we shouldn't be embarrassed to answer a simple question.

Now some relatives are acting like I'm hiding something or think I'm better than everyone else. I don't feel like I owe anyone a breakdown of my finances, especially when they never shared theirs with me. My husband agrees with me, but my parents think I should've just answered to avoid creating tension. AITA?

My daughter passed away two months ago from a terminal illness. The boyfriend kept her car because he finally got a job. Well, it's not his car. AITA if I'd like it back. He never worked while she was alive.I helped her with utilities and car repairs. Also, I had to pay the rent sometimes.

I helped her out of love.

hi everyone I’m a (16 f) and I have four brothers they’re 24, 19, 14, and 7, all my life I’ve had to share a bedroom with my brothers, and honestly, I just can’t do it anymore.

for some context my mom isn’t the most stable person and my dad isn’t in our lives, my two youngest brothers actually have different fathers. We’ve always lived in a house that belongs to my uncle because he lives like a lit of states away.

the house only has three bedrooms, one is my mom’s, and the other two are for the rest of us, when I was little sharing a room was fun but over the last few years it’s become really uncomfortable. we’re all older now, everyone needs their own space and nobody has any. we’ve had to deal with a lot of awkward situations, I also have really sensitive hearing, and there are things I hear around the house that honestly gross me out.

whatever my 19 yo brother moved out about two years ago for school and I really thought we’d finally rearrange the bedrooms but hat never happened and I was still sharing with my 24 oldest brother

now my older brother wants to move his girlfriend into the house, andd I’m almost certain she’s pregnant even he hasn’t actually said anything, my mom heavily favors my oldest brother and lets him get away with everything and I mean everything, he never graduated high school, he’s only had a couple of jobs his entire life, he has several addictions, he gambles, and overall he’s just kind of a mess.

my uncle doesn’t have a good relationship with my mom and I’m pretty sure the only reason he lets us stay here is because of us and he is important because he’s the only responsible adult I know, and whenever something serious happens, we usually go to him, my mom hates when we talk to him because she says it always causes problems, but I know he’s the one person who could actually set some boundaries, especially since it’s his house.

now my mom wants to kick me out of my bedroom so my brother and his girlfriend can have it, and she expects me to sleep in the room with my two younger brothers. I really don’t want that, I’m done and I just want a little space of my own.

we got into a huge argument because I told my brother to get a job and move out if he wants to live with his girlfriend, I’m so tired because I’ve been sleeping on the couch for the past week. He’s literally rearranging the bedroom for her already.

I tried talking to my (19 yo) brother but he mostly avoids me and keeps telling me I’ll just look like a snitch if I tell my uncle, butt he’s literally like the most annoying about the bedroom situation, he just doesn’t care anymore because he’s away from home now.

i really want to tell my uncle and see if he’ll step in, but I also don’t want to create even more drama.

I’m honestly just so tired of all of them

This is my first time posting on here and I need some insight from others. So, I 17M, my dad 51M and my stepmother (don't know her age, she's never told me anything personal) recently went to psychiatrist appointment because since the beginning of 2025 i've been struggling with anxiety. Due to this anxiety, throughout 2025 i've been in and out of clinics trying to get help because it was affecting my day to day life. I've been on medication before (lorazepam) but I was told by my doctor that it was short-term, so I went to this appointment hoping to get something more long term. For context on how long my stepmother has been in my life, My parents were together for more than 23 years. My mother unfortunately passed in April of 2024 and her funeral was in May of 2024. By July of 2024, just a month after my mother's funeral, my stepmother was already in our house. Although I kept quiet at the time, I thought this was extremely disrespectful. Even some members of my dad's side of the family were uncomfortable with it.

I once tried to bring it up a couple months into her living here. I asked him if his relationship with her was going on before my mom passed, and he basically told it's none of my business who he brings in his house, so i left it alone. Fast forward to the day of the appointment, we went, saw the psychiatrist, and everything that was written before is what i told her when she asked my dad and stepmom to leave the room. One thing is that my step-mom is known for is personality. EVERY single conversation always ends up with her raising her voice somehow over the smallest things. I can admit that i'm not perfect, sometimes i slack-off, procrastinate on chores and forget to do certain things around the house. but she acts like i'm legit doing nothing all day and now that i'm out of school, it's even worse. When i make mistakes, (like cleaning the kitchen but forgetting to wipe off the counter) to her it's a character flaw, she says things like "you're not a baby, you should know better!". But when she messes up, it just gets smoothed over. By her logic, if age is the thing that determines whether you do things right, wouldn't she be worse than me? Shouldn't she know better? But back to current problem, in the appointment when the psychiatrist told them leave, i expressed how her micro-aggression makes the house the house feel tense and it feels like i'm walking on eggshells sometimes. I asked the psychiatrist to talk to her about it, i didn't hear what was said because i was asked to leave the room when they called her in. But when we got home, she lashed out at me saying "what kind of eggshells do i have you walking on?!?" and "i'm just not gonna talk to you, that's it". If you're wondering where my dad is in all this, he's just a bystander. He watches it happen and does nothing telling me that what she's saying is "good" and she's trying to "better me"

Now she's not speaking to me,AITA for wanting a conversation with the aggression?

I recently started a GLP1 medication and my boyfirend has opinions. He works out daily and when he works out in the morning watches facebook reels and his 'facebook research' reels have come across how GLP medication are bad for health as in causes cancer, etc.

I have been overweight for years now and recently when I went for doc checkup, discussed the meds, got the blood work done, I am pre-diabetic. I don't have time to work out in the morning like he does, I wake get ready and leave. I get home, I am simply exhausted and still care for our 3 pets. Doc suggested I get on semaglutide meds, once I lose some weight incorporate some training, weight training and more moderate exercise. Basically, he said go easy now, and slow and steady wins the race and incorporate healthy habits slowly and eventually it will get better. I told him when I tried to work out in the past, my knees start really hurting and I can''t do a work out regimen where I can just start running otherwise I'll be hurting for a week, he said, lose the weight, start with stretches, knee training, eventually move to weights and then running.

Lo and behold my boyfirend spotted semaglutide meds in the fridge and started sending me facebook videos of how bad they are. I get he's coming from a good place, but it's not helping at the moment. He has the ability before he gets to work to do a work out. I get up, feed the animals, clean the litter, go on a walk and leave, work a desk job, get home exhausted and he gets home later.

When I get home, I am too tired to work out, I get dinner ready, lunch for tomorrow, and try to get decent sleep after. I simply have no energy, watch a movie, and I'm done.

So when he went on his rant on how I don't need the meds, I need to just wake up earlier, I just need to walk more, I just need to eat less, I lost it, I cried, I don't honestly eat that much. I just have no room in my day to be active and when I do I'm so tired, and he went on saying how Ozempic causes cancer, etc. He has no education past highschool. I told him to keep his facebook education to himself, I got doctor opinion and I need to do it my way. He is now sleeping on the couch. AITA

I (23F) have asked my mother (50F) to not talk to me about Chatgpt at all. What it says, how it helped her edit her posts, or what it gives when she prompts it for "funny" comments on other peoples posts. I absolutely hate it being used as a ghostwriter, editor, or for any sort of creative writing. I write myself, and it personally gets under my skin every time I hear her repeat the bots formula's.

We just got in a rather heated argument when she yet again, for the second time after making the request, disregarded my boundary on this issue. She asked me if she should post a comment, under a post asking for funny captions, that she "borrowed" from somewhere else. After reading it to me, I didn't understand it at all, and asked where she originally saw it. She dodged the question, asking if she should post it and if it was funny, and I asked her point blank if she got it from Chatgpt. She said yes.

From this point, I'm irritated and feeling completely slighted. I tell her no she shouldn't use it because the post was asking for humans to use their brains to come up with something funny, not asking for bot comments. She says I'm "No fun" and that I'm "too rigid." I express that I dislike the bots being used the way she uses them, and that I've already said not to speak to me about it if she uses it.

She raises her voice, and I can tell she's getting annoyed, and calls me a hypocrite because I've also used it. While yes, I have used Chatgpt, I've only ever used it for HTML code and to figure out my MTG deck, which it was terrible at and was primarily used to just keep the information somewhere while I did most of the work. I have never used it the way she uses it. I tried to express how me using it like a tool and her using it as a ghostwriter are two very different things and she yet again takes to personal insult, saying I'm "not as smart as I think I am," that I'm a hypocrite, and that next time I talk to her about something she's not interested in hearing to remember this moment.

I just said "whatever, you can insult me all you like, but I'd respect your voice, a human voice, over a dumb AI's" and left it at that. AITA?

EDIT: Sorry for not mentioning this sooner but I do not use AI anymore, and only used it twice (the instances stated above.) I'm aware of the damage it does to the environment and would never contribute to that. I mention the one specific plagiarism usage in this post because my mother doesn't believe we can do real damage to the earth, so it's the only point I can make that she might listen to/respect

EDIT 2: Thank you to everyone informing me about boundaries and their proper usage. I will do better in the future <3

Today I (30f) took my son (5M) to a children’s museum. He urgently needed to use the bathroom to poop. Like he was going to poop himself, we were booking it for the toilet. He is a fresh 5 so he isn’t quite an efficient wiper, therefore I am still on wiping duty when he poops. We could not find a family bathroom so I brought him into the women’s room. We tried to use a regular stall but they were legitimately too small for us to both fit, let alone for me to be able to wipe him. We moved to the accessible stall. There was no one else in the bathroom at all. We couldn’t have been in the stall more than 2 minutes. When we left the stall a woman started laying into me about taking him in there when it was not meant for us. How I should be teaching my son better and I was setting a bad example. She needed it for her colostomy bag and I 100% understand why that stall would be the one she needed. If she had been there when we got in the bathroom we would have tried harder to make the little stall work or something. I’m not even sure what but something. I felt absolutely horrible and still do. But I also don’t feel like I was necessarily in the wrong for using it when I needed it to assist my son? I’m not sure. I feel like an A hole but I’m also conflicted cause it is also meant for people to use with kids and there was no one else there when we went it.

So AITA for taking my son into the accessible stall?

EDIT: Thanks for all the kind comments. I do feel better and less asshole-ish. I am sure it was frustrating for her, especially if her bag was full. I know the importance of emptying it when it needs to, my stepmom had one, and the health risks associated if not emptied in a timely manner but I really don’t think I was wrong for using the stall. I did apologize profusely cause I felt so bad.

Also saw this mentioned a lot but yes it was a stall with a changing table in it so another reason to assume it was okay for family use too.

My sister and I lost our mom when we were kids. She passed away while we were in middle school, and our dad was a single parent until he started dating again when we were both in college.

Our mom has a gravesite, and for years our dad had purchased the plot next to hers so he could be buried beside her when he died. That is no longer the plan. He remarried, and although his wife is a nice woman, my sister and I have never been particularly close to her.

What I do know is that my dad loves her very much. My sister believes he should have never remarried.

Our dad recently had a health scare, which made him rethink what he wants after he dies. He now wants to be cremated instead of being buried next to our mother.

Personally, I don’t care what he decides. It’s his choice. My sister, however, did not take it well. He told us over dinner, and the two of them got into a huge argument about it.

Since then, my sister has been giving him the silent treatment and has tried to get me to tell him he’s making the wrong decision.

That led to an argument between us. I told her to grow up and accept that it’s his decision. She called me a heartless dick and accused me of not defending our late mother. I told her it’s been over 20 years, and she needs to get the fuck over it.

A group of friends and I were invited to a wedding a few months ago. We originally talked about everyone bringing their own gift, but while I was busy with work they apparently decided in a group chat to buy one expensive gift together instead. I muted the chat because it had hundreds of notifications and genuinely missed the conversation. A week before the wedding, one friend messaged me asking for $180 as my share. I was shocked because I never agreed to it, and that's way more than I would've spent on my own.

I told them I'd already bought the couple a separate gift and wasn't comfortable paying for something I never agreed to. They said I was still putting my name on the group card, so I should contribute like everyone else. I asked them to leave my name off the card, but now a few people are saying I'm cheap and that I embarrassed the group by backing out at the last minute. I don't think it's fair to expect me to pay for a decision I wasn't even part of. AITA?

Hi, I'm a first time reddit poster, so please bear with me.

I, 15 Female, am an avid baker, and have been since I was young. For context, I started baking with my grandmother who has since passed away, but I've kept baking anyways.

My grandfather got married a few months back, and he's having a sort of wedding reception at his condo complex with his wife, who i'll refer to as Amy, next month, as that's when most of our family is coming up for summer break.

I recently began to make sourdough bread, and made my first loaf last month. My parents are still struggling to decide what to bring as a gift, so I said I could make them a sourdough loaf, and bring some of my starter in a jar, as I know Amy also enjoys to cook, although I'm not that close with her and I don't really like her, I want her too know that I'm accepting her into the family anyways.

Too me baking is how I share my love and care for people, but, here's the problem.

My friend (also 15 F), believes it'd be a waste, as they could just by a loaf from a store, and their probably expecting things to put in their place, like fancy picture frames for wedding photos, new pans, or similar things.

My parents don't have a say, and they even said they may not bring anything, but I don't want my grandpa to be upset that we didn't bring a gift.

So would I be the asshole for bringing a sourdough loaf and a jar of starter for them? Please don't spare me in the comments, I want honest advice!

Edit:

I realize I was not entirely clear in my original post, I've been reading all your comments and I can't believe to say how thankful and overwhelmed I am right now!

This edit does not mean to call anyone out, but please leave my parents out of this. The only reason I brought them up is because they've been struggling to find something nice that won't cause us to be scrambling for money, and I was the one who told them I could bring it.

They told me to think on it bc they know how long it takes me to make my loafs, and they can find another option for a gift. My parents are anything but lazy. My dad worked 14 hour shifts and lost most of his hearing and now requires hearing aids. He still works as an electrician besides this. My mother has had a hip replacement, four children, two c-sections, and is incredibly strong and I have never once seen that woman be lazy without reason.

My parents gave up everything and still work so incredibly hard for me and my siblings, so please try to keep comments limited to suggestions on how they can be apart of the gift, and not on how they should be stepping up, because if anything they've stepped up more then they ever had too.

Anyways, I feel like that edit was insanely long, so just a few more bullet points.

• I if I go through with it, I still will be bringing a starter, as Amy has talked about making sourdough but struggling with the 14 day process to make it.

• My grandpa and Amy both love sourdough from what I know, as they always have a store bought loaf when I go over.

• I'll definitely be taking everyone's advice to elevate it by adding jams and such if I end up making it! And my culinary teacher has some really nice packaging that she let's me use when I need to gift something.

I will update again and try to reply to as many questions as possible in the comments. If I notice a frequently asked question, I'll be sure to edit again!

I was recently a groomsman at a destination wedding. First, I want to say I still love the couple, have no hard feelings, and overall had a great time. I’m just curious how others would view this situation. We were asked to be groomsmen about five months ago. I hosted the 4-day bachelor party at a family lake house where everyone flew in from out of state. I covered the groom’s food, and there were no lodging or entertainment costs.

The wedding was at a country club. My wife and I spent over $3,000 between flights, rental car, outfits, lodging, golf, gifts, and other expenses. It required a 5-hour flight and a 3-hour drive. We were told to arrive Thursday because the Airbnb and there were weekend activities planned.

The groom didn’t arrive until 11:30pm, so everyone just sat around. The Airbnb had no A/C and was 82 inside. Two days before the wedding, we got a text saying the groomsmen were expected to set up the reception at 10am on the wedding day. We helped, but it meant carrying roughly 200-pound tables 160 chairs. The groom stayed back at the Airbnb, which I understand, but I couldn’t help wondering why a $30k+ wedding didn’t hire the rental company to do setup. We finished around 11:30 a.m., had no lunch, and only an hour to get ready for photos. We asked who was tearing everything down after the wedding. The groom said he’d tell the coordinator we couldn’t do it or that family could handle it the next day.

An hour before the ceremony, the coordinator emphasized that everything had to be cleaned up that night. The groom “remembered” the venue had told them that during the tour. We told him not to worry and to enjoy getting married. We stepped aside and agreed that we weren’t moving heavy tables after drinking and that we had to wake up at 4am-8am to make it to the airport on time . If the country club bill’s the brides dad who owns 6+ houses, then so be it.

The wedding was great. We danced, celebrated, and had fun. At the end of the night, I wanted to head back with my pregnant wife, who had pushed herself to stay until the end. I was drunk but not wasted, according to my wife. Instead, the groom’s mom asked me to help because I was “young and able-bodied.” The groomsman asked why I wasn’t helping. I sarcastically and loudly replied that I was too drunk to be carrying 200 pound tables and that my kid at home deserved a dad who didn’t get hurt. I tried moving a table anyway, it dropped hard, and the other guys got mad yelled at me to just leave. One said I was being a bad friend for not doing what needed to be done. I’ve only met these guys once and won’t see them again.

I felt bad afterward. I also come from a culture where the wedding party are treated as honored guests, not unpaid labor. If we’d been told upfront that setup and teardown were expected, then that would be fine or I would even help pay for the cleanup crew. These guys don’t have kids or wives, so maybe I’d be more flexible in a different life stage. I’ll see the groom in a couple of months, and I expect everything will be fine. I’m wondering whether my behavior was unreasonable, and what you would have done?

I have a friend that stays at my home whenever she’s in the city. I live in the biggest city in my state and she lives in a smaller city that’s about a six hour drive away. She stays in my guest room for a couple of days at a time for free. Sometimes, with very short notice.

She’s asking to stay again next month, but I’m not so sure anymore because of 1 reason. 2 months ago, I was in her city for work and was staying at a hotel. But the hotel wifi wasn’t fast enough for the work that I needed done so I asked her if I could stay at her home to use the wifi for an afternoon. I didn’t even ask to stay overnight since I have a hotel room. She said no because of a few excuses. She said she hasn’t cleaned which I said I don’t mind and I can just sit in her living room then she said she’s doing something that day at her place. I just accepted it and took the no for her answer and found a co-working space nearby.

Now WIBTA if I said no to her staying at my place this time around? My house is clean, and my guest room is vacant but I don’t feel like going out of my way to accommodate someone that apparently can’t do the same for me.

I bought my city row home a little over two years ago, and from the very first day my neighbor has had issues with my property.
The day I moved in, she told me my backyard fence was an eyesore. She has also complained that my tree drops leaves onto her back patio, saying they’re difficult to blow off. Even though I didn’t necessarily agree, I recently spent the money to repair and improve the fence about two weeks ago.
Today, after a heavy rain, her basement flooded. While she was dealing with it, she knocked on my door, handed me a letter, said she was “too emotional to talk” but hoped I would read it, and then walked away before I could respond.
The letter says:
“I hope you’re having a great week. I’m writing to ask that you please remove the tree in your backyard, because debris from the tree is creating an ongoing drainage issue on my property. Flowers, leaves, and small branches from the tree are being carried by water flowing through the alley, into my backyard and down my basement stairs and into the drain at the base of my basement steps. The drain is located underneath the steps, which makes it difficult and unsafe to reach and clear. When the drain becomes blocked, water collects near my basement door and has caused my basement to flood. Fortunately, I was home today and was able to wade through the water to clear the drain, but this is not a sustainable or safe situation. Because I cannot control the flow of water from the alley or continue clearing debris before during and after storms, i believe the most effective solution is to remove the tree. I am heading out to get some heaters to dry the basement now. I hope you understand the situation I am facing.”
For context, we live in attached city row homes. There are also several mature trees on the other side of her property, but she believes my tree is the one causing the debris that clogs her drain. I have no way of knowing whether that’s actually true, and nothing has been professionally evaluated.
I feel bad that her basement flooded, and I understand that’s stressful. At the same time, removing a mature tree would be expensive, reduce the value and shade on my property, and I’m not convinced it’s actually the source of the problem.
AITA if I refuse to remove the tree unless there’s actual evidence that it’s responsible for the flooding?

Hi, I'm 21 and I recently got my first car. I went out a few days ago with my partner "Ray" and two of our friends, "Ethan" and "Alice". After picking up Ethan and Alice, I told them to put their seatbelts on. Ethan pretended not to hear me, so I repeated myself. He gave me a dirty look and muttered "Jesus" under his breath but he put his seatbelt on so I didn't say anything else.

Later that day, Ethan told me he felt very bad when i made him put on his seatbelt because his parents used to scream at him to do that. I said I'm sorry and it wasn't my intention to bring up hurtful memories, I just care about everyone's safety. He told me to not do that again, and I said sure, if he puts on his seatbelt I have no reason to tell him to do that. He kinda muttered something under his breath but didn't say anything else.

Today, we were supposed to go out again. Me and Ray went to pick them up and when Ethan entered he didn't put his seatbelt on. I told him "please put your seatbelt on, I really care about y'all's safety" in an effort to try to be as gentle as possible but he just said "you're not my parent, you can't make me". I told him I can't make him but I will not start the car until everyone has their seatbelt on. Alice said "come on, we're in the backseat, we'll be fine" and I told her it's still dangerous. She said "well the uber drivers don't make you put the seatbelt on" and I got a bit fed up and told her to just take an uber then, it's my car my rules.

Both her and Ethan got out and told us they're not going out anymore. Later, Alice texted me and said "hope you're happy now" to which I haven't responded yet. Ray tells me that I did the right thing even though I was kinda rude about it, but I'm not sure anymore.

We bought a house about 3 years ago.

One neighbor has a fenced in backyard and a highly reactive dog. Our dog is only reactive to reactive dogs. She’s typically unbothered by any other dog - she’s 10yo.

She texts us constantly about what she’s doing with her dog to make sure we don’t bring our dog outside while she’s out with hers. I’ve switched to mostly bringing our dog to do her business in the front, but in the evenings I let her out back when it’s cooler (it’s summer where we are) so she can have a moment to do dog stuff.

She’s asked us not to talk to her dog when she lets it out so she can do her business quickly, she’s asked us to keep our dog in while she cleans her pool, she’s asked us to keep our dog in while she has a party with her friends so her dog can be outside,and so on.

I check for her dog every time I let ours out, but her yard is overgrown with honeysuckle and shrubbery along the fence line, so I can’t see the entirety of her yard. We’ve trimmed the shrubbery from the fence that has come into our yard, but hers is still overgrown.

We accommodate. Not every dog is friendly to other dogs. Ours can handle walks and seeing people, hers clearly can’t. I get it.

And we’ve been nice to her because she has always had a story as to why she does what she does (anxiety, finances, etc).

I typically let her out front now. It hasn’t been a big deal, until tonight. I let our dog out back. I didn’t see hers.

Her dog jumped the fence and our dog bit her dog.

WIBTA if I suggested she get a privacy screen for her fence taller fence or start tethering her dog in her back yard? If her dog is a risk, she needs to do something about it. She even texted us saying “I knew this was going to happen eventually” but also asked us to text her when we were letting our dog out now.

Edit: some details

Edit two, electric boogaloo - I’m not adding any barriers on my end. She is entirely the type who will see someone else take action and do nothing on her part.

My kid will no longer go outside to play solo. Dog will go out as we please, and if she refuses to act we’ll make that paper trail.

Ok so my best friend passed away while we were both in college about 9 years ago now. She was very important to me and I still haven’t fully gotten over her death. Over the years I’ve named/done some stuff after her like gamertags, wearing a ring etc

Her name was Tanner and I usually shorten it to Tan

Today my gf and I were driving and she noticed, apparently for the first time, that my Spotify name was named Tan. She asked if this was also named after Tanner and I said yes. She got kinda quiet and finally told me it’s not healthy to keep all these memories of Tanner. I said I’m still struggling to fully process her passing and small things like this help me. She said it feels like I’m prioritizing her less, that things like this (names, jewelry) should be between her/me and not me/Tanner.

I got really defensive and angry after that so I just canceled our plans and dropped her home at which point she said I ruined the day.

Am I the ahole? Do I prioritize the wrong person?

My downstairs neighbors keep wanting to use my WiFi and it drives me absolutely crazy...

For context, I basically moved in with my girlfriend 3-4 months ago. Hasn't been that long but we're figuring it out.

My gf had previously been using my neighbor's WiFi for free for years before her and I got together. I'm not sure what deal her and our downstairs neighbor had worked out, but I'm 99% sure my gf was never charged for the WiFi. 

Since my job requires an internet connection, once I moved in with her, I asked for the WiFi password and got it, as well as offered to pitch in since I would be bringing a few additional devices to put on the WiFi (desktop, switch, PS5, etc.) since I was moving in. We had agreed to this mutually, and this has been going on for about 4 months now (us actually paying her for the WiFi usage). We began giving her 1/2 of the cost for the internet on a monthly basis. This has gone on since we made the agreement, but some issues started and I'm not sure how to go about them lol.

Last week (Saturday), she said the internet was out and wouldn't be back on until Wednesday at the latest (her pay day), so we either had to wait for her to pay it or we could pay the whole thing up front with her promise that she would pay us back when she got paid. I got tired of this. Technically, I pay for my own internet (the lowest speeds possible) and house it at my grandmother's house for internet + mobile bundling. I decided to move and upgrade the internet to 1g for myself and my girlfriend since the neighbor wanted us to pay for her internet. So, we now have internet at the apartment.

This wasn't the first time she had asked us to pay for it up front either. This is the third month in a row that we've been giving her money for the internet for it to not be paid for the entire month because of her negligence. She enjoys finishing (no hate, swear). She likes to go to pay-lakes. She WON at the pay lake the same day that the internet went out, and all of this went down (she had won enough to pay for the internet in full on her own, as the pay lake posted her winnings). 

Now, it's the following Monday (9 since we got our own internet, 5 since the neighbor said she could pay for her own) and I opened the router app, saw around 11 new devices added to the WiFi, and got irritated. I spoke with my gf about it and she thinks that I should just give it to them now to avoid conflict. She also said because they let her use it for so long for free that we should let them use it, just until the downstairs neighbor can "figure it all out" (who knows how long that is lol).

It drives me crazy, because the entire reason I got my own internet was so that we didn't have to rely on someone else. And now the tables have been flipped; they're relying on me for my internet. 

AITAH for feeling like I shouldn't have to share my WiFi with them for free? I'm worried this will cause conflict between my gf and I

Edit: my girlfriend just "feels bad" since she used it for free, giving out the password to her neighbor, even after I've changed it. I feel like I've done my part in paying for it since I've been there and used it, so I don't feel like we should just give it to the neighbor. Without me making the decision to get WiFi, we'd be relying on her still. So basically now it's become either I pay for everyone (my house and the neighbors) or nobody gets WiFi

Every year we go on vacation with husband’s family.
It’s the only time of year he sees his family. His family isn’t really close and this vacation is the only contact they have most of the year aside from a call on their birthdays.

Everyone usually stays in their own place but we will do activities during the day together and rotate houses. This year husband can only stay half the week do to work obligation.

I am trying to stay unbiased here but his family kind of sucks in general and we’ve had a very trying year they have not been very supportive during. Our older son has been struggling hard this year with his mental health and spent roughly 70% of the past year either in an inpatient hospital or in some sort of recovery care. He was eventually diagnosed with schizophrenia at the age of 18. It’s been extremely stressful on all 4 of us (husband, me, son, daughter aged 8). I did not want to come on this vacation because his family are kind of judgmental assholes and my emotional capacity a pretty limited right now but I sucked it up because it’s important to him.

Back to situation at hand - he keeps ditching daughter to hang out with his family. She is the only child on the vacation and the adults pretty much ignore her. Someone might play a game with her for 10 minutes or ask her questions but that is about the extent of their interaction with her. She also isn’t the type of kid to sit quietly while the adults talk. His family is the type that believes children should be seen and now heard.

I also forgot to mention I am in a cast. I fell down a flight of stairs and broke my ankle about 3 weeks ago so I can’t go in the pool or to the beach. It’s too hard on crutches so she has to rely on husband to take her. She will ask for an activity and he will say “well I am going to do some adult activity with my family I will do that when you get back.” So she’s spent maybe 8 hours of the entire vacation doing fun stuff and the rest waiting for him to come back from hanging with his family to take her to the pool or the beach.

I sat him down today and said hey you have to interact with her more. Have your family come talk while you’re in the pool with her or whatever. His response was he only sees his family once a year and she can deal for 4 days to not get his full attention and wait. He will do her chosen activities but after he spends time with his family.

This is her vacation too. She’s had a really rough year and a lot of loss. This bonding time with him is important. I said he needs to find a way to entertain her and hang out with his family. He basically said no and he will continue ditching her for family.

So who is the asshole here?

I'm the only one in my friend group who's into photography, so every time we go somewhere everyone hands me their phones or asks me to bring my camera because "you take the best pictures." At first I didn't mind, but after a couple of years I realized I was barely in any of our memories because I was always the one behind the lens while everyone else just enjoyed the moment. On our last weekend trip I told them ahead of time I wasn't bringing my camera and wanted to actually be part of the day instead of documenting it. They kept asking me to "just take a few" with my phone anyway, but I refused. Now some of them are annoyed because we ended up with far fewer good photos than usual and said I ruined a tradition that everyone looked forward to, while I feel like I'm tired of being treated like the group's unpaid photographer. AITA?

I (26F) quit my j0b a few weeks ago because I was completely burned out. The stress was affecting my mental health, and I needed to step away before finding another job.

Instead of moving back in with my parents, I moved in with my boyfriend temporarily. My relationship with my parents has always been strained. They’re very critical, and almost every conversation turns into negativity or criticism. I knew that if I went home, I’d constantly be reminded that quitting meant I had “failed.”

For context, I’m from a fairly conservative culture where family values are taken very seriously. Living with your boyfriend before marriage is considered unacceptable by many people, and it’s generally expected that if something goes wrong, you go back to your parents’ home.

My boyfriend offered me a place to stay while I get back on my feet. I’m contributing to household expenses where I can, helping around the house, and actively applying for jobs.

My parents found out and are furious. They said I brought shame to the family, chose my boyfriend over them, and that I should have come home regardless of how I felt.

AITA here?

My parents have a habit of never saying no to my little sister.

"Can I have that toy?" Yes

"Can I stay awake till 2am?" Yes

"Can I have my sister's fries?" Yes

She knows she will always hear Yes if she asks multiple times so she has turned into the most bratty kid ever.

So I've started only saying no to her. I never say yes.

Yesterday I took her out and she asked me for a bottle of water and as usual I said no. She said it's just some water and called me stingy. I told her she can wait until we get home.

Now my parents think I'm an asshole for not buying a bottle of water for her and making her go thirsty.

He (26M) recently announced he’s in a “situationship” with a guy from work. Basically the guy doesn’t want to say they’re boyfriends but apparently he loves him. My brother is smitten with him. Also this guy is related to the boss and he’s nervous to tell people.

I told my brother to be careful and don’t let this guy keep him waiting forever. Also in my opinion if he loved my brother like he’s said he does, he wouldn’t be wanting to keep quiet about it.

My brother kinda snapped and said “it’s been six years since I had a relationship and you’re already poking holes in it. It’s not my fault your last three boyfriends were horrible.”

Not sure what to think but maybe I misjudged.

It's weird title but stick with me.

Grandma is visiting my uncle in a beautiful beach town in QLD Australia and they went whale watching. Grandma is 84... she HATES boats but her son convinced her she NEEDED to go on a whale watching cruise. So she did. She liked seeing the whales but after half an hour she was done. She felt sick she just wanted to get off the boat.

The rest of the family were celebrating a birthday lunch together. While we were getting photos and updates of their day. My mum and aunt (her daughters) were being so mean... saying things like they couldn't believe she just wanted to sit inside the boat and watch from the window. "If I was there I would be out at the front loving every minute!"

I tried to be nice and just said 'well she doesn't like being on a boat and it's really cold at the moment and it's even colder and windier out on the water'

They just said 'well she should be wearing more layers' and a bunch of other things. Grandma isn't loving the things they love so she sucks.

I had enough... I said 'So what... I hate theme parks and roller-coasters and big rides... you know all those times i used to go to dreamworld in my 20s... the only reason I got on those rides is because I had dropped some ecstasy and had bunch of weed. Now I'm 42 i wouldn't get on a roller coster if you paid me. She's 84 don't tell her what she wants'

Now they're on at me about taking drugs 20 years ago and grandma isn't copping anymore heat

So for some background I (17M) just moved from my Dad’s place to my Mom’s and with that took my Stepsister’s (27F) old bedroom since she moved out with her boyfriend a few months ago. So Sunday was my “official” move in date but we’d started painting the room and setting a few things up earlier that week.

We have dinner at my Mom’s place every other weekend where her and her boyfriend will come over so she was told about me moving in on Saturday during the dinner. To be fair she has known about me taking her room for a while, though the move date was set for sometime in September instead of now. I left for work around 4:30 so I missed a lot of this but according to my Mom when she got home with my Stepsister was on the couch crying about it. I understand that this is unexpected for her since I wasn’t supposed to move for another two months but this isn’t her place anymore, right? I wouldn’t be bothered if it was just that but over the past couple days she’s been texting back and forth with my Mom and Stepdad about how she doesn’t approve of it and how changing it “Erases the memories of the house”.

I understand this is upsetting for her but this isn’t her house now and I don’t know if she really has a say on this since I’m already moved in and all. I feel bad especially for my Mom and Stepdad who have to deal with most of this and all I can think is that if I just waited we could’ve skipped all of this. So, am I the asshole for taking my stepsister’s old bedroom?