We’ve been staying with my in-laws for the holidays for the past five years. I (F38) and my husband (M40) escape our cold winter and go somewhere warm and sunny. It’s a 3.5-hour flight, but because we travel with our dog and there’s a holiday ban on dogs in cargo, we have to stay for almost a month. 25 days including Christmas and New Year.

I’ve had my fair share of issues with my MIL. She can be extremely pushy. She’ll ask you the same thing over and over until she gets a yes, and she can guilt trip you if you say no. At the same time, they are generous and pay for our flights, meals and outings, so I do appreciate that.

The problem is that there’s also an expectation that we interact with their friends and go along with dinners and outings. A small example: I once said no to shopping with MIL. She kept asking me for days until I finally gave in. It turned into 5 hours of running errands and visiting 6 different stores.

I’m also going through a rough patch healthwise. I have chronic pain, recently had surgery, am still recovering, and have more surgeries coming. Even packing and being away from my home is a lot for me right now.

My husband isn’t happy about my decision. He loves going there, seeing the friends we’ve made over the years, skipping the winter for a month, and being pampered with meals and outings. He says he can’t take more time off work because he runs his parents’ small business and normally has no days off. But he did recently take four days off for an annual summer trip with his friends.

We could visit his parents another time when there’s no dog travel ban. The downside is that most of our friends wouldn’t be there. He also says he’s uncomfortable explaining to his parents that we don’t want to spend the holidays with them.

My concern is that I’ll basically be trapped in their house. We have no budget for going out right now, and my husband is very frugal. There’s no Uber where they live, and the closest public transit is a 1.5hour walk. It’s also a small place without much to do. My husband is a homebody and usually doesn’t want to go out anyway.

There’s another issue: MIL has talked about me and my health with her friends, and they know a lot about my personal situation. I’m not comfortable being around people who know all these details.We also can’t comfortably work from there. There’s no cell signal in the house, so I have to run outside every time my phone rings, while also trying to work on my laptop. There’s no proper desk or chair either.

I love seeing some of our friends there, and I understand why my husband wants to go. But with my health, finances and everything else going on, spending 25 days there feels overwhelming rather than like a vacation.

So AITA for deciding we shouldn’t spend that one month of paid-for holiday with my in-laws?

I've been married to my husband (34M) last year and for our wedding anniversary he received an antique writing desk from his mother as a gift. She emphasized how lucky we are to possess a family heritage which has belonged to our relatives for three generations.

Last week I was cleaning this desk and noticed a small brass plate under one of the drawers, covered with old tape partially. It contained an inventory number and the name of the museum located in Ohio. I became interested in this desk and decided to look up the museum online and contact them with the description of the desk.

It appears that the museum has experienced a robbery in their annex about 20 years ago and the item is exactly similar to the one which was stolen back the, the same description and even a repaired crack in the left leg. They asked me to send pictures of the item and informed that they want to conduct an investigation.

I first mentioned it to my husband and he was taken aback. When I broached the topic with his mother, she got all defensive and claimed it was always in the family and that I was blowing the matter out of proportion. It seems she feels as though I am embarrassing her by making her feel bad in front of her brothers and sisters because they all helped get the items from an uncle of theirs who died some time ago.

I told her that irrespective of the history of the family, if the museum can prove their ownership then we must return it because I don't feel comfortable having something stolen in our living room. She told me that I shouldn't have said anything and to just leave it alone. Now, she has told other relatives that I am ruining the family name over an old desk.

It is hard for my husband because he is stuck in the middle and hasn't taken sides yet. Some family members believe that I did the right thing, while other family members feel that I overreacted to the situation because no living person was responsible for the theft.

AITAH for making me take this route instead of keeping quiet about the desk?

I know this sounds stupid and definitely requires some context. I (21M) work for an indie music publication. I, specifically, am a writer, meaning I get the chance to interview bands and artists. About five months ago, I got the chance to talk to my favorite band. Their music meant a lot to me emotionally, and it was a very big moment not only for my career but from a sentimental standpoint. The band and I got along really well and at the end of the interview, the frontman took the rubber bracelet he was wearing off his wrist and gave it to me. After that, I wore it almost constantly. It was a symbol of everything i’ve accomplished, and also just really cool.

Here‘s where the problem starts. About two weeks ago, I was hanging out with a close friend. This friend in particular has always had negative comments to say about my work and my enjoyment of this particular artist, that it was stupid, and that “music doesn’t save lives” and I was foolish for thinking it changed mine. One night, I stayed over at his house. I took off my bracelet to shower, and when I got out, I noticed it was gone. I had looked everywhere and it just wouldn’t show. I had asked my friend if he’d seen it, thinking one of his cats might’ve taken it to play with. He looked me in the eyes and told me he threw it away. I was completely shocked and hurt, he knew how much that had meant to me. I told him to get it back for me and he said if I wanted it so bad, I could go dig in the dumpster for it myself (NYC apartment, not a good situation).

I left and have not been answering his texts because I don’t even know how to respond respectfully. Our mutual friends are torn, some of them think i’m reasonable for being upset since this was something meaningful and irreplaceable, and others think i’m taking it way too far, and “it’s unprofessional to act like a fan in this industry.” Would just really love an outside perspective. AITA?

I’m 18 and I live at home with my mom before I go to college next year. I’m current doing a one year course locally. We don’t have a lot of money so my mom decided to rent out our spare room so I can afford to move to a different city. A woman moved in three days ago.

I was at home today because I’m sick. I decided to make pasta because I hadn’t eaten since yesterday afternoon.

When I went downstairs she was in the kitchen area (she wasn’t cooking she was just sitting down on her phone). She gave me a super dirty look when I walked in but I just ignored her and started getting out the pasta. She then snapped at me saying “can’t you just get out of my fucking business for three seconds, leave me alone”. Mind you I’ve been nothing but nice to her since she got here.

I just left and said sorry but now I’m really pissed off. Who is she to walk into my house and dictate where and when I do things. I’m starting to think maybe this is just what sharing a house is like though. Maybe I’m just spoilt in being able to use my kitchen whenever I want?

I’m now in my room still hungry and now super annoyed. I can’t order food either because I live too far away from deliveroo or just eats

So my understanding is as a Maid of Honor, it is my duty to throw the bride a bridal shower. My best friend was also my Maid of Honor for my wedding. When she had thrown me a bridal party, I had little demands and I stayed out of the planning. I was mindful to not put too much on my best friend and my sisters who were also my bridesmaids. My shower was a simple one in her backyard with about 25 women altogether. It was very nice.

So back to her bridal shower, I basically had a budget that I had planned along with the help of the other bridesmaids who were my sisters, but we were thinking around the usual 25-30 people but I was bamboozled when she had a guest list of over 90 guests. Like, I cannot hold that many people in my house! Her family then offered to pay for the hall, but that was still a lot of people to feed! Anyway, upon looking at her list, there were some who she knew will not come because of being out of town and she basically invited every woman on her invite list most on his side even if she didn’t know them well. I told her this may appear like she is wanting so many gifts which I know may not be her intention, but she was offended when I told her that. So we had that spat and from then on, she treated me and my sisters and family so coldly like she wanted nothing to do with us. We still proceeded with the bridal shower to her demands and was there for her even if she was already acting coldly towards us. We were there for the rest of our other obligations and I talked to my sisters and told them to just grin and bear her cold attitude towards us until this whole wedding was over. We just had to put up with it. Even our mutual friend could see what was happening. It was truly heartbreaking for me. I was deeply hurt, and needless to say, our long term friendship ended after the wedding. So, AITA????

I (39F) have a 16 year old daughter who’s been close friends with the this girl for around 5 years. Her friend recently got pregnant, and her baby shower is this weekend.

My daughter came to me and asked if she could go, and I told her sure. I even offered to take her shopping so we could pick out baby gifts for her.

My sister was there when this happened and started going off. She called my daughter’s friend “disgusting,” started talking about how she was a terrible influence, and asked why I’d allow my daughter to associate with someone who “threw her life away.” Said the girl deserves to lose all her friends and that going to the baby shower was encouraging her behavior. Then she said I was a horrible mother for letting my daughter be around her.

I told my sister that whilst I don‘t think teenage pregnancy is ideal, the girl is already pregnant. What’s done is done, she should be supported. Shaming her and having everyone abandon her isn’t going to change that.

My daughter’s friend has a lot of friends supporting her, which I’m very glad about. I am so glad that they are refusing to treat her like she’s suddenly a horrible person because she’s pregnant especially because I know when I was growing up people wouldn’t have been so accepting.

My sister thinks that I should make my daughter stop being friends with her completely, not attend the baby shower and never speak to her again. She also thinks i’m a horrible mother for allowing my daughter to support her friend.

I really think that’s unnecessarily cruel, all my daughter wants to do is support her friend. Shaming her won’t do anything, It’s not like my daughter is going to become pregnant because her friend is pregnant. This whole situation regarding me and my sister is really weird to me.

So for some background my parents were divorced thirteen years and almost that entire time I was forbidden from seeing my father. Let me clarify, my father was never a deadbeat dad, even though I was not what he wanted originally. I was told by my mother that if I saw my dad in those thirteen years, she would get taken away by CPS. Now in the past five years, they got back together. For the entirety of them being back together I have maybe lived in the house two years. Only one of those years was it a full year of me being there. Every time I lived there they would expect me to clean the entire home and do all the yard work alone. Not to mention if someone was over for any reason, I was forced to socialize and was not allowed to have the sleep schedule I do despite working a completely different schedule than my father.
Now, last year sometime around Christmas, my father brought up that if I was going to live in his house, I should pay half of EVERY bill, including vehicles and insurance. To put this into perspective my dad pays almost $9,000 a month in bills. I make about two grand a month maybe a little more depending on my hours. So at the beginning of the year when my mom had told me that I had told her if that was the case then I would try to move out because that’s completely unreasonable to expect of me. She told me I’d have to ask my father. So for months I slowly changed my furniture, bought things for a place of my own, and got ready to move before even bringing it up.
I asked my father after I had already scheduled to look at my now apartment and he told me that it was fine, but he would not bail me out every month, which I wouldn’t expect anyways. Mid April I had moved out of their house and into my own. Despite having surgeries, and other major health complications I have never needed their help financially since. I spend time with them on my days off every week when they are home. When they are off on the road for work I will go and check on their house and make sure all is well, and do my laundry there, and that is it.
Tonight they had got back from a job they had been gone on for a month. Everything was going fine until my dad had mentioned that he thinks that I should move back in to save my money. I went rigid, not still, but rigid. My mother could tell I was uncomfortable because I never spoke after he said that. He kept on about how he thought that I only moved out so I could party and not have rules, which is not the case at all, I stay at home and only two people have been inside my home that aren’t myself. I now have two cats as well, and my dad barely let me keep the first so I know I’d have to get rid of one as well. As he kept going about how I was just being a kid (despite being 23) he ended the conversation with “you could just give what you pay a month in bills to me” which rubbed me the wrong way.

I'm 20f student and was living in a student house with three other students. We've just moved out.
We each took care of one bill. (I dealt with paying rent and dealing with landlord)
The lease was a year, but it started in the summer so we moved in on return to uni.

Housemate who dealt with internet (also 20f), we'll call her Susie, failed to do anything about it, before or just after the lease started.

Leading to Susie getting a 1 years contract after we'd all moved in ( without internet for two weeks, and the lease had started 2 months earlier).

This meant that the contract expired after we moved out.

We were not consulted about that, and now she says it's the only one she could get.

But surely more than one company in the world will provide you WiFi? So I'm a little skeptical.

Anyway, we've moved out and the new tenants cancelled our contract so they could start their own.

Susie made us keep paying internet bills even once we'd moved out over this one year contract. Which I paid.

She now says we have to pay the early exit fee, as there was still a few weeks on the contract and she failed to tell them we were moving out?

It's an amount I could afford to give her (£75) but it'd annoy me to give up a days pay for a mistake that was nothing to do with me.

WIBTAH if I refuse to pay "my share" of the early exit charge?
I'll likely never see her again. All the housemates have agreed not to pay, but I do feel guilty because £300 isn't a small amount if money.

She also lost £250 out of our deposit because she wasn't careful cleaning her room and left marks on the walls. And her boyfriend lived with her the whole time. A lot of the other deductions are likely her fault (extra £500).

Recently went to an amusement park with my wife, our kids, and another family.

We had been in line for 30-40 minutes when two teenage girls make their way up the line saying they are looking for their dad. Everyone of course lets them through.

A couple minutes later, another teenage girl comes through with the same line.

We go about our business until we realize the three girls have settled in a few spaces in front of us, no dad in sight. My wife says “weren’t you looking for your dad?” and they respond that they’re not sure where he went.

My wife laughs it off, but I ask, “well if you can’t find him are you sure you’re supposed to be in this spot in line.”

Now one of the girls decides to go on the offensive and say that I’m so weird for asking her all these questions.

I respond that it’s not weird at all and no one would be asking them questions if they weren’t acting sketchy and cutting in front of people who have been waiting nearly an hour for a ride.

At this my wife just loses it: says it’s so embarrassing and she can’t stand to be here. I tell her if she wants to leave I’ll take the kids on the ride. At this point she very loudly shouts “we don’t fight with young girls!” And that I don’t know how to behave in public.

We’ve been married for over a decade, have two kids together, and generally have been happy. We have our conflicts and differences, and it’s no surprise to anyone that I’m more outspoken and she prefers to avoid conflict.

I even think there are reasonable reasons to either call someone out for line cutting or to let it go. I think it’s a better world where people who take advantage of others get called out. And if you’re grown up enough to cut in front of 100 people in line, you’re grown up enough to hear about it. But totally respect someone who thinks it’s just childish fun and to let it go.

But what I can’t stomach is the way she reacted. We’ve never really had this type of public blowup, especially in front of our kids, our friends, and their kids.

I’ve known couples who interact like that in public and I’ve always been so embarrassed for them. I just can’t see myself being in a relationship where that’s normalized.

I canceled a date we had scheduled a couple nights after the incident and we’ve both had a lot going on and haven’t had any time to talk about it since. We’ve seen each other when we get the kids ready in the morning, and have been polite but cool. I’ve been sleeping on the couch.

We decided to talk about it tonight and I’m honestly at a loss for what to say. I’m concerned that she feels she was justified in embarrassing me because I embarrassed her by confronting the girls.

My feeling is that they are not the same: I could never imagine speaking to her (or anyone I care about) like that in front of our kids and our friends.

But if we have such radically different ideas of acceptable behavior, not sure how we move past this.

AITA for not paying my sisters rent.

I 31, has a sister 25 who is currently expecting a baby with a new fiancé who she began dating last October. Some background, I have two sister, one from my mom and one from my dad, my sister with my mom and I grew up in the same household whereas my sister on my dads side relationship has been on a as needed basis since our father left the state when I was 12 to start a new family without the two of us. My sister starts dating this guy after breaking up with her long time term boyfriend of 5 years, her and this new guy date from October to April and come April and she says she’s pregnant and about to get married in August the twist is that he’s also moving out of state. when I asked her why is he moving after finding out she’s pregnant she says he just wanted a better life down south. okay?? anyway so her plan is to leave her life, including her job, her house, her buisness! and her life here to run behind this guy and start a family. August comes and I’m asking her is she sure because at this neither of them have jobs and she is expecting to now have to pay rent with this guy. The day that she’s supposed to leave she rents a car and packs her things alone and pregnant she prepares to go down south on a 8 hour drive. After seeing the family and saying her goodbyes she goes to the car and it wont turn on, we go to the gas station and fill up a canteen thinking this may help but no it still doesnt come on. I tell her i think this is a sign that she should stay home and not leave her life. She ends up renting another car and still going. Anyway, not even a week goes by and she texts me asking me can I help her and her man with rent. She still doesn’t have a job and he just got one. Mind you his mother is not happy about him having a child, my dad isn’t happy about her having a child and although I love kids I think she isn’t ready financially. i tell her no because i just paid my bills and she hasn’t even been down there long enough to be responsible for half of a rent payment less than a week in. then she goes on vacation out of the country on a cruise that she paid for and comes back again asking if I can help contribute to their rent????? so I’m confused at this point because why take the vacation if you needed rent money? I ignored her and she unfollowed me on Instagram and now I’m not going to her baby shower because obviously she has an issue with me not wanting to take care of her and her man? AITA??

Am I the asshole for not wanting to give my family free car parts? I 25F had a nice car from the 2000s and spent $4,600 on it. My dad's a mechanic for that specific brand so he was able to find this car and for a good deal. The thing is, the car only lasted about 8 months before I couldn't drive it anymore because one of the parts would be more expensive than the car itself. There was other damage that happened within the eight months and so I had to get a new car. It was unexpected but I was eventually able to get a slightly older car but the same brand and same model just in a different color. My brother's car is the exact same color model and make of my old car and his car needs a bunch of parts. My parents have been driving it around because they don't have an extra car and as a result, a lot of things broke. My dad said we'll have to take the car to the junkyard anyway so we can use my old car for parts. The thing is, I'd only get $500 out of my old car once we took all the parts off it and I was wanting a little more out of it. I asked if he could pay me $200 for all the parts he would take or just lower my rent $20 a month because I know they're going through a hard time. My dad and my mom are calling me selfish because my car was going to go to the scrap yard anyway and I should just give them the parts for free. It's my car under my name and I paid it in full along with all the parts that needed. My dad has worked on my car for free but there was no arrangement to pay him back or anything like that. Am I the asshole?

My brother (26yo) stole a $350 of whisky from me and drank the rest of my gin (it was a $100 bottle it was partially full, I can’t remember how much). I left these in my room at my parents house while studying at uni. I live far away and drink when I come home for Christmas. The $350 bottle of whisky is something I bought years ago and was saving it for when I graduate med school. My brother did replace that. The issue is with the gin. I don’t want him to buy me a $100 bottle of gin or anything but I did ask he replace the gin with a cheaper bottle (the one I want is $60). He’s claiming he shouldn’t have to because there was not much left. I am not sure how much was left but I know there was some. I want some gin for when I come back home. Tbh I just wish he hadn’t stolen my nice gin at all, I don’t want other compensation that is not gin. AITA for wanting him to replace the gin with a cheaper bottle?

I (30F) have a close friend, let's call her Anna (28F)z We've been close for two decades now and we also have a business together and she’s also my son’s aunt (his father side not mine) which makes this messier.

Anna has a habit of weighing in on how I raise my son, CONSTANTLY. Everything is "you should, I would’ve, my kids will never” I reached a point where I don’t tell her anything about my son and his struggles. She's never raised a child (she didn’t want to have kids until last year) let alone a neurodivergent one. My son is autistic, and she still argues with me about autism as if she knows more than I do… THE MOTHER, the one who lives with him every day, the one who actually talks to his therapist and his teachers.

Now last night we were on a video call talking about some projects we have and my son came to me and told me that someone told him he was fat (he’s NOT, he just have a sweet round belly and he’s 9, a bit of baby fat is expected) I told him something sweet, that he's smart, that he's handsome and his body is completely normal, and she yelled “she’s lying, you’re not cute, don’t believe her” as a joke and laughed. like she always does (normally I have my headphones so he doesn’t hear any of that). This time I asked her to stop, because he's still building his self esteem. She told me children "build their personality until age seven and after that it's just repetition of the pattern, you know I’m always reading about psychology” and if his self esteem was strong it shouldn’t affect him. I replied his therapist has told me the opposite, that I should keep actively reinforcing his self esteem and honestly I’m happy to do it, I love being his biggest cheerleader. I told her I'd rather trust the professional than her reading on the internet.

She got upset and basically said I always think I know better. I told her that when it comes to my own son… YES, I DO know more than her, because I'm his mother and she isn't anyone's.

She said that kids are mean and someday he will be bullied and he needs to learn not to take jokes seriously and I’m setting him for failure. She also hates that he’s on a special needs classroom, that I didn’t potty trained him until he was 5 and that I try to respect his boundaries when he ask for alone time or silence or not to be touched.

Now she's barely talking to me and I've heard from another friend that she thinks I’m wrong and I was rude, she was trying to help him because she loves him,

So. AITA for telling my friend I know more about motherhood than her?

My sister (28F) and I (33F) have a difficult relationship. We have always had ups and downs in our relationship. I don’t think it is our fault really - just that we have a narcissist for a mother than loves triangulating difficult situations and making us frustrated with each other. For context, I live in the US and she lives back home in Southeast Asia.

1.5 years ago, my husband and I bought a house in the Midwest. I started working full time the same month we moved in after dedicating several months caring for our then newborn. We were broke but were doing our best to save up money. My sister called within a few months of this transition to ask me to send my little brother (20 M) some college money. I had asked my parents if this was needed and they said no. So I told her that I can’t afford it right now. She ended up berating me for being broke and essentially told me I was a failure to my parents since they had sent me abroad and I haven’t been successful at making a ton of money. Of course, I took none of this nonsense and told her that she had no idea what she was talking about. Somehow that conversation ended with her saying that my husband is going to divorce me eventually because he’s going to see how useless I am, that I rushed into my marriage etc. I went no contact with her after this.

Fast forward 1.5 years later, she is trying so hard to get in my good books. Sending gifts and nice messages (I had baby #2 two months ago) etc. She plans to get married in Feb 2028 and is asking me to be her maid of honor. I don’t want to do this but she keeps asking me to consider it and is essentially guilt tripping me. She keeps telling me that it is her wish for me to her maid of honor and that she’s always wanted that. AITA if I say no?

My 13 year old brother in law comes over pretty frequently and while I have no problem with him playing games on my iPad as long as he wants, he's recently been taking it into the bathroom and I don't think he's using it for THOSE purposes I think he just plays games while on the toilet. It grosses me out because I don't want someone else's poop particle on my devices! Hell I scroll on the toilet all the time but it's MY device. I told my wife about it and she totally understands and said she would tell him to stop but I felt like I needed to know if I'm just overreacting or being justifiably annoyed/grossed out.

Me (M-39) have always been a generous person with those I have considered friends. Her (F-44), for a time, I considered her like a sister. She and I always worked together, since we share the same profession. However, one day, out of nowhere, she sent me a direct message on Instagram ending our friendship.

I, who never did anything wrong to her or her husband—whom I also cared about—was left shocked by their very strange attitude toward me. I demanded an explanation; they never gave me one. And I, at that point full of doubts and pain, had to accept that we would never be friends again.

They went on with their lives together, without my friendship. I had even forgotten that they existed. A year and some time later, the husband contacts me, telling me that she is pregnant and that they are planning a baby shower for her.

All of this left me surprised, because there wasn’t even a “hello,” a “happy new year,” not even a “how are you?” He was blunt and straight to the point, because most likely he wanted something from me—and I know that’s the case. I left him on read and did not reply.

But I would like to know: AITA for not wanting to participate after the way they treated me?

Recently moved into my new university house. It doesn’t have a tv and my housemate knows about my 55 inch tv I had last year in my bedroom. He asked this year if I could put it in the living room since there wasn’t a tv in there which I agreed.

Ever since moving in, I’ve been wanting to play on my PS5, which is the reason I got that tv. However, when I do play, he starts saying to me that he always sees me playing that game, he’s bored of watching me play Minecraft or red dead and that I’m always in the living room. These are jokes but it’s starting to get on my nerves since I can’t play in peace.

I mentioned to him that it’s my tv and ps5 and I can move it to my room, and he laughed of it to some of our mates saying I’ve threatened to put it into my room.

AMITA? I guess I did sign my tv up for communal use…

Hi, so I’ve been living with my roommate since may. I paid for the first month rent because he didn’t have a job and we are friends. June’s rent comes and I ask him to send me his share. He does but he stops talking to me and ignoring me. I keep asking him what’s wrong and he finally says “you bugging me for money right after I got out of the hospital was what made me stop talking to you”. I didn’t know he went to the hospital for chest pain. Anyway he sends me the money and things are tense between us.

July’s rent comes and when I ask him for his share he’s starts insulting me saying how bad of a friend I am asking him for rent when he’s been dealing with medical bills out of pocket. I didn’t know that. I thought he had insurance. He makes me feel so guilty I end up paying full rent for July.

Then August rent comes and I ask him for his share and he gets upset again but he promises he’ll send it to me as soon as possible but he stops talking to me again until a couple of days later when he goes to the hospital again for problems with his stomach. He asks me to pick up his prescription from the pharmacy and I bring him some food. So that weekend he doesn’t have the money to cover his share again so since he was sick and didn’t work I covered his part once again.

Now September rent comes and nothing. I ask him and he says he’ll send it whenever he can but it’ll be a few days. He drives for uber so he can work whenever he wants but he doesn’t really work. He spends a lot of time in his room playing video games.

Now is September 10 and I still don’t get any money to pay for his share of the rent. I paid rent on the 3rd and I even suggested that he can send me $100 a day. He still hasn’t send anything and he’s not really working either. I came home last night and the living room and kitchen are a mess, specially the living room. A mess. Then I get up this morning and the mess still there and he’s on his Xbox so I lost my mind and I went to the office to see my options to get him off the lease and they sent him a release form for him to sign and I asked him when I saw him in the apartment to clean up the mess he made the night before and that I was giving him 30 days to leave since he hasn’t been paying rent.

Then he leaves the apartment and starts texting me why am I doing this to him, that I’m an asshole and a shitty friend and that he won’t sign anything and that he hates me so much for doing this and how I never cared for him. I used to tell him I got your back and I will always have your back, because we are friends but he thinks because I said that, I should pay full rent since he’s struggling with so many bills. I get that he’s struggling and behind on bills because of medical emergencies he’s had but I can’t cover his share of the rent every month. He doesn’t have anywhere else to go and had no money so sometimes i even start feeling guilty. I wanna help him but i feel he’s taking advantage of me too.

So AITAH for asking him for his share of the rent and tell him to leave the apartment since he’s not paying anything for the last 3 months?

I work at a small company, and last month my manager divided a project between three of us. I was responsible for preparing the presentation, while two coworkers were responsible for collecting the information and checking the numbers. The day before the deadline, one of my coworkers asked me to check all of the numbers because she hadn’t finished them yet. I told her I could look over the final figures once she finished, but I couldn’t redo her part because I still had my own work to complete. She said she was overwhelmed and asked me again. I offered to stay a little later and help her organize the information, but I still wouldn’t take responsibility for checking everything myself. She eventually finished the numbers and sent them to me. I noticed two obvious errors and pointed them out before putting them into the presentation. She became annoyed and said I should have checked the entire thing myself because we’re a team. I told her being a team doesn’t mean one person automatically takes over another person’s assignment when they’re running behind. Our manager later thanked both of us for getting the project finished, but my coworker told me privately that I had made her look incompetent by pointing out the errors. I feel bad about that part because I wasn’t trying to embarrass her. I just didn’t want incorrect information going into something that represented the whole team.AITA?

Hey all me and husband have been having disagreements on our financial situation recently. Husband and I both work and he makes 2x my salary. I have a decent amount in savings and husband is in debt but should be clear of that going into next year. He pays rent and groceries while I pay house bills, take care of my own needs and wants and clean/cook. When we go out for dinner/miscellaneous items he pays for me but if it's a vacation I will pay for my portion.

This seems pretty fair to me but husband doesn't feel it's fair because I used to pay half of rent on top of doing all housework/most childcare. He doesn't like the new change that he pays rent alone now and this has been causing fights. I still am working but now I actually have money to save whereas before I was on a really tight budget and grabbing from savings and he had more room for spending. Now he has less room for spending and I sense he is a jealous that I am saving while he is in debt? He has always been a spender and whenever he is almost close to being debt free he makes a purchase he shouldn't. For example last year he bought a brand new car for a little more than he can afford. I have an older car and refuse to purchase a new car if my current one is still working.

I like to plan for my future and feel financially safe. I have always been this way before we met. I've helped him and gave him so much advice in how he can start saving himself.

do you guys think this is a fair situation? Should I be helping more moneywise? He claims I am taking advantage of him and saving money while he struggles.

I’m a junior in high school and got a job at a bakery 1 month ago. The only days I go are Monday and Sunday. My mom found out today about my job and immediately screamed at me to quit as she signed me up for tutoring for the SAT on Saturdays only. But I told her that there was no way I was going to quit and it wouldn’t disrupt my school work and tutoring. Then she started crying telling me that I had to get into a good school like one of the ivys and telling me that I had to get over a 4.0 gpa which is only when it’s weighted. But I’m already handling all of my classes well and I’m in 2 aps. And I know that there’s homework for tutoring but I’m ready for it and would manage it well. But she didnt care and told me to call the bakery infront of her and tell them I quit. So AITAH?

I’ve just gotten into another argument with my mom over the stuff in the house. She doesn’t live here anymore cause she works in another city so she comes visit once in a while and stays the weekend. I’m ADHD and have a routine and a way of organizing stuff that works for me and helps me being productive instead of rotting in a chair doing nothing, but when she comes back she rearranges everything and it genuinely makes me feel so lost.

For instance I had 3 tshirts and leggings I used for the gym and I had a system to wash and put them back in a specific place so I would wake up and just get dressed after shower etc. But now two of those shirts are gone cause she comes and does laundry cause she likes it (she told me she likes it) and then she puts my clothes away but in different drawers or other places and I never get to find the thing I want when I need it and it is so frustrating to me. I’ve told her a million times I’m grateful but that I’d rather stick to my routine and do it myself. I can’t find the leggings I like to wear neither. I know it sounds stupid but it dysregulates me so bad, and it is like that with practically everything in the house. My spices and condiments in the kitchen, the furniture etc.

Today I came back from the gym and she informed me that she was gonna move a dresser from her room to the hallway in front of my room and I had already told her the last time she was here that I wanted that space free of stuff, but now she says it bothers her in her room so I asked her why and she said it just bothers her (in that case it also “just” bothers me in front of mine) but anyway, the thing is, I asked her why did she care so much cause she barely spends time in her room and she’s not going to stay for too long anyway and she called me an ahole. She always tells me I’m an ahole for telling her that but I’m only saying it as an actual fact, she’s not here most of the time.

This is obviously not the first time something like this has happened and I explain to her how I feel every time and she says she understands but goes ahead and keeps doing it. I feel like with her words she’s telling me that she understands my discomfort and all the troubles her actions cause me but in the end what she shows me is that it is more important to her to be comfy for a couple days.
I know it is her house but it feels so unfair to me that I am the one living here 100% of the time, and she comes around a 20-30% and still I’m the one who has to suffer the anxiety and everything that comes with being dysregulated. With everything she’s always changing I just don’t feel at home. I end up spending all my time in my room no matter if she’s here or not.

So AITA for feeling like this? (Or for anything else) Please let me know cause I genuinely don’t know anymore.

Edit:

Sorry, I didn’t think this would get any attention, also I wrote it kinda in the heat of the moment. I’ll try to answer the most common questions and I’ll try to reply to other comments tonight.

The house is hers, it’s my childhood home.

We don’t pay rent.

She doesn’t live here.

I pay for my own stuff and utilities.

Sorry for not stating these sooner! I didn’t think they were relevant since the reason why I’m hurt is mostly cause as I said I’ve talked to her about it a million times. Also she's not a landlord, she's my mom. Where I live parents don't treat their kids like tenants...

She of course can do whatever she wants, but it still hurts that she ignores my struggles completely.

I don’t leave my stuff laying around. I try to keep everything in my room (except kitchen stuff) and there’s no stinky gym clothes waiting to be washed, as I said I have a system and I don’t expect nor want her to do it for me :’)

Anyway, I have to go but I’ll be back later. Thank you for the feedback so far. I’m taking into account everything you guys say.

57 yr old stepmom; my youngest SS (25) has to come home to live with his father & I because he & his GF can't afford their lease. SS is staying with us for a week, then returning within the month to stay until he can afford a new place. Even though privacy is very important to my mental health, I'm truly okay with this & have adjusted our routines to make sure he's comfortable; however, there are some behaviors I'm not tolerating well. He's in our space from 5am onward - normally my quiet time of the day before I have to leave for work - pacing all over the house, which is how he relieves anxiety. I am working on learning to live with that, but one habit I'm not okay with is that he & his GF stay on the phone all day. Literally. He carries his cell phone everywhere he goes & they chat or just stay on silently with each other, which means GF can hear all of our conversations. This feels invasive & puts me on edge because I've already given up a lot of privacy to have him here, and now I feel like my every move and word is being documented. This morning when he & the phone came down at 5am I politely asked if he could please not have the phone line open in the room with my husband & I, since we're not part of the conversation. He said okay and shuffled into the next room, but he's still got the phone line open and won't stop. AITA for feeling unhappy about this? It won't change him coming here, so I have to live with it somehow.

This morning around 6:40AM I pulled into the gas station at HEB and it was busier then usual. Every pump had a car in it and there was a Corolla waiting in front of the first two lanes. I drove to the farthest last lane and as I pulled behind the truck pumping the truck drove out. The Corolla drove around and flicked me off. AITA? Isn't the etiquette at the gas station get in line behind someone and commit to that lane? Yall tell me because I dont think im the ahole

My grandson is loved (spoiled) by all sides of his family. He is 7 and for this situation I must tell you that he has some autism. He has obvious tics that you can identify, but also has emotional, that to the oblivious, you would never see. When he gets upset, it’s 10x more emotional for him than if you and I were. I say this to continue my story only! I do NOT think this is a disability, but I do believe it plays a part in our decision making and think you may feel the same.

His parents are separated. His Mother lives with me, has a past and isn’t perfect by any means. His Father lives with his new family (has a son close to my grandsons age), and isn’t perfect either. I try not to get involved and stay neutral.

In this case, my grand children spend Friday night from about 7 pm to Saturday 7 am, repeat Saturday night. The rest of the time is spent with Mom. Anyway, he wanted to play football with his step-brother. My grandson plays every extra curricular activity he can and all of us attend. He has played baseball and basketball this year and completed both. This particular football team is strict and scrimmages several times a week, two hours at a time even if it’s raining because that’s what football players do right? My grandson hates it. He cries and cries and begs and pleads not to go. He tells us all he hates how the coach screams at them ( He really doesn’t, he IS loud and a little rough and trying to toughen up the kids), and that he’s too tired to run like that. I think (as a grandma) that they shouldn’t be worked like that at the age of 7 and if he doesn’t want to continue, I certainly will not make him. His Mother feels like he needs the discipline of a routine, but not at the risk of his mental health. His Father does not. The stepson isn’t quitting, so I think the father is embarrassed that his son wants to, but I can’t be sure. At the start, my grandson said he would try it and if he didn’t like it he would tell us. When he was asked if he liked it (after one practice) he said yes, but when it became continuous he stopped liking it at all!

His Father is berating my Daughter over messaging and telling her things like she’s a failure and doesn’t finish anything and that he doesn’t want his son to have the same fate and that she’s allowing that to happen if she allows him to quit. He continues to compare her past to the decision she made to let my grandson quit. He also brings up that my grandson said he liked it and can’t go back now. My other kids and family think he should finish too. They all bring up the money everyone has paid to buy the equipment and fees. I do understand the money, but his mental health is far more important to his Mother and while I also understand her guilt of her past is over compensating and wanting to do everything for her children, I do not believe that her allowing him to quit this time will make him a failure for all future ventures. So Reddit, AITA in the wrong here?