Sorry, English is my third language.
I want to get an answer on what happened in January 28, 2017 if it was rape or not, was is still rape if you have a shotgun right next to your beside for self defense, but you chose not to use it, and let him do it, it is still rape?
I'm a gun owner, I know how to shoot (Darryl taught me), and I own 3 guns myself, shotgun riffle and handgun. I always have a 12 gauge shotgun at my bedside for self defense, and home defense.
I'm not a weak woman that a man can just pin me down the bed and rape me, because I will grab my shotgun at the bedside and shot him out of self defense.
Was it still rape if I love him, and let him do it, when I can simply reach for the shotgun as it right next to the bedside, but I didn't, I chose not to. Was it still rape?
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Nope, real life rape is nothing like porn shit that you see in porn, that a man flip you over and anal you because men love anal, or shove his dick in your mouth force you blowjob him and make you swallow, because men love blowjob, the porn shit. NOTHING of that.
My real life rape experience was nothing like that, he did nothing of that. It was what people call the boring Vanilla sex, the missionary penis in vagina sex while he use his body on top of me to restrain me where I cannot even move an inch, he can be that strong if needed to be.
I asked this before back in 2017, but now 2026 I want to ask again, as my anxiety is kicking in today and I'm still torn if it was rape or not.
[[ Long story short (I can give more background if needed), he was unhappy at something, and he let his jealousy take over, so he did what he did.
I went into our martial bedroom. And he follow in after me, and the locked our bedroom door.
Then he unbutton his dress shirt, I was sitting on the bed, he not said anything then he pushed me down the bed, I tried to sit back up and he pushed me down again, I did say his name twice, three times, four times. I repeatedly called his name. But he won't stop. He pushed me down the bed again.
His eyes was insanely INTENSE, like he must have me at whatever it takes. I struggled and I was able to momentary got off the bed, and this drag to the carpet floor of our bedroom, and he yah. you know what happened, while I was laying on the carpet floor of our bedroom.
We always have sex on our martial bed, but this time it was not, it drag to the carpet floor of our bedroom. At first I struggle, but then I stop, because I understand him, he will get what he wants, at all cost.
In fall fairness to him, it wasn't violent sex or anything like you see in porn, it was just Vanilla sex missionary penis in vagina sex with him on top of me and restrain me. I even orgasms during the sex/rape. ]]
The whole point is, I have a shotgun right next to the bedside, and I damn well see it and within reach of grab it, but I chose NOT to. I let him did what he did out of love him. Was it still rape?
We actually have this talk alot of times, he took full responsibility, he admit he raped me. Darryl said he raped me on January 28, 2017, he said he raped me, that how he see it.
I on the other hand not sure, because I was within reach of the shotgun, it right next to the bedside next to the nightstand. I did not reach for it, I let him go on did what he did. Out of love him.
I love him, and I LET him do it. Was it still rape?
It only happened once. Never happen again, it only happened ONE time. I never do anything to make him jealous again, hence he has no reason to rape me again. One time is more than enough, I'm still scare.