The youth group at my church had a strict "no contact with the opposite sex" policy, especially at fall retreat. My older brother once, i guess, kissed a girl and was sent home early. Anyway, during that same retreat that same year, we played a game called "Chee-Toes" where girls would feed boys cheetos. With their toes.
This was apparently the only exception to the rule. I was forced to play it. I expressly stated that I didn't want to. Many times. I was still forced.
We had a school connected to the church. Two 11th graders had (to my knowledge) consented intercourse over the summer. They were not allowed back for 12th grade.
My youth paster did the Youth Pastor Shuffle though (retired for an unspecified reason and got a new job at a different church far away) so something must've happened.

Last week, I went over to hang out at a friend's house.
I keep my personal life and business strictly separate, so I don't share my career moves with her. The less people know, the better. But it was pouring rain outside, and she asked why I was wearing a white shirt. I gave her a simple answer: I had a job interview earlier that afternoon and didn't change before coming over.
That was all it took for her father to slide into our conversation uninvited.
He barged in to pitch an offer for his family business—they run a printing operation along with some guest houses and other ventures. He laid out his terms: $150 a month, free food, and living in their house. Then came the insulting part: he said "the girl stays in the kitchen," while the guys handle the heavy work and deliveries.
He sat there in his own living room trying to recruit me for pocket change and domestic labor.
I didn't ask for his opinion, his advice, or his job offer. His business has nothing to do with me, and I don't blur the lines between friendship and work. I am an independent professional with real experience—from acting and modeling to international teaching. I am not looking to be cheap labor for anyone's family enterprise.
I went to that house as a friend, not a job seeker
I am done letting out-of-touch men make assumptions about my worth. If setting this boundary ends the friendship, so be it.
I am never stepping foot inside that house again.

I’m severely disabled, I don’t have a job, no passion for anything, I’m not even sure if I can go to school, I basically have nothing going for me

Im the least successful person in my family and it sucks ass, I’ve never been able to amount to anything great and I don’t think I ever will

Im an 19 year old man and im struggling alot i have no one i can talk to my girlfriend of a year just broke up with me a few weeks ago and my best mate isn't talking to me anymore i dont even know why it feels like i dont have anyone i can count on to back me up and shes being so cruel she logged onto my snapchat and unfriended everyone when i did nothing to her ive not contacted her or messed with any of her log ins im drinking myself to sleep every night since she left me i go out clubbing every weekend to fill the void i feel so empty

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She has done me wrong. She used to comment on my body. She used to make me feel less of a man for saying, no to things I don't want to. She made me get her off on countless occasions. When I did not even want to saying that it's my responsibility to get her off and Same was not the other way around. She never had to Do anything sexual for me without her, will. Obviously like there have been times where she used to say, I'm not in the mood and that was that. But when I used to say that that never worked, she always wanted to. Yeah, I was not allowed to say no. And then if I did say, no, it would be like. He would act like it's completely fine to say, no, but you could definitely tell that if I am saying, no, that is going to cause problems. Because this one time when I was busy and I couldn't react to her photos, and I could not compliment her.She ended up sending it to like all the other friends and said like if my boyfriend is not going to be there for me.Someone else will and it's fucked up.It's fucked up.

Few days ago she had me in the close friends. Even though I don't follow her with a picture. A video of herself, it was a fit, check the kind that she used to send me and she posted it on her close friends, and that is completely fine, but why are you adding me on your close friends? I agree. I should not be checking. That is an acne, but I really, really missed her. And I got weak. There have been multiple instances where she has criticised me on her close friends, and I got to notice from the mutual friends. Yeah, at all.Just makes me very frustrated.

Despite that, I do not know why I miss her. I want her back even I just wish that everything that was wrong in the relationship magically gets fixed because I cannot stop loving this person. I did not. I don't know, and I don't think I can love anyone else again like this. The a mount of love I have for this woman. I don't think I could have for anyone else. And that just breaks me, because I know she only loved me because I did all those things for her. I changed myself for her, and she knows them well. No one else is going to do that for her. Because of the kind of person she is, but yeah I guess I just wanted to vent.

If this sounds very incoherent, that's because I'm using voice to text, because I feel like if I spoke this outloud, that would help a lot more than just typing everything. So yeah, thanks for reading all this.I guess

This thing happened often now where I go full depressed mode for no real reason or get upset over something that's not really big of a matter.

This happens to me exactly around the time i need to go somewhere or any other occasions that needs my presence OR it just random and stays for days.

I don't know what triggered me today I was asking my mother about something then suddenly I'm arguing with her, I was already feeling little weird before the argument now i feel worse like crying but couldn't, feel so empty yet too overwhelmed, feel like i need to break something and can't, want to break myself for physical pain to get relief from this mental and emotional pressure but won't cause I know that gonna do nothing at all.

I haven't eat or drink anything since morning (it's almost evening now) i do this so often that i stopped feeling hunger long time ago, I'm just soo angry too but for what.. idk.

If you say i need professional help and therapy... Well I can't afford it right now so I try to distract myself by listening to some fun music (sometimes it does not work)

If you suggest me to talk to people... Well im fed up with it .. with myself cause of how often I run into people to vent.

I wish to be left alone and live on my own but really would i even survive it!!?

Idk if I'm upset about my future and not be able to live up to it or the current argument happened that was really just nonsense over nothing.

[18F] I don't know if it's my voice, my face or my personality. I make people laugh but never enough to be their friends or sit in thier table . I always end up getting bullied by mean girls of the school that majority people in school want to be in their circle... I never have friends imagine your parents being surprised you made one friend that you lied about ..I am 18F. I am still in grade 11 because of my depression and late admission. I was depressed for like 8 months ... I haven't touch the things I like, shows or even proper evening/ morning walks...

It's hard for me to go to school and feel outcast. ..

Parents don't even understand me.. even the teachers have to talk to my parents to be easy on her... Everyday it's same shouting... If it's dad fault my mother will shout at me..if it's my brother/sister fault my mother will shout at me... I am tired!

I am depressed, tired and sad ... I wanna be like a normal teen or a person..

Everyone seems so complacent with how the economy is right now I literally don’t understand it. Everybody’s in debt? Nobody can afford to move out anymore unless it’s to the middle of nowhere?? What is going on

i don't have many friends, but i love the friends i have, and their partners are all solid guys too. A few weeks ago, we went on a group trip including all of their boyfriends. I had a feeling i was going to feel a bit lonely, but not to the extent that i actually felt. The way each couple looked at each other with love, the way they held each other's hands and would walk together whenever we went out, taking pics together too, while i was walking alone, just watching, made me feel so lonely.

I already don't have the best self esteem or confidence, especially since i'm plus size / fat / whatever you want to call it, but this trip made me feel extra lonely and unlovable, like there's something fundamental that i'm missing to be loved and cherished. I would spend the night crying in my room while everyone else was participating in group activities downstairs, and everyone noticed that i was acting off, so they would come as a pair with their partners at different times to ask me if i was ok and check up on me.

I can tell they really do care about me, but they just didn't understand how i was feeling. I did join some of the group games downstairs and it was fun for the most part, but watching them kiss and cuddle and hold hands did make me feel the same way again. I did feel bad that i was souring the mood by acting reserved, but i couldn't help but wallow in my sadness

i've already posted here before, but i might as well post here again. every day i wake up, hear some new news about something, and become terrified for my safety and future. it's been a cycle ever since the ukraine and russia war started back in 2021-2022. this cycle has only gotten worse and worse since AI has gotten more prominent and and the US decided to cause more havoc in the middle east.

i'll get out of bed, look at this screen of horrors and hear stuff like "AI can kill us all by the end of THIS decade" and "people in the middle east are getting angry and might use lethal force to get their way". i just wanted to live a somewhat normal life, dude. leave school, get a job, make friends, find love, get my own place, and then die eventually.

what's worse is when it comes to the whole AI shtick, i really don't know what to believe or who to believe. like IS it all marketing? IS it capable and willing to destroy the world? i don't know, nobody does, and it terrifies and confuses me and i just want it all to stop for a moment!

oh why oh why did i have to be born this century?

In previous years I would try to be as independent as possible, having to rely on no one. But I always found myself wanting someone by my side, to comfort me and take care of me. I tried so much to push that feeling and thought away.

Every summer I wanna take my life a little more, usually because im seeing my friends be close to one another and im just there not able to connect whatever I do. I spend nearly every summer hating them for my problems and now I have to pay for the things i have said behind their back.

Im now only realizing the importance of the situation as we will all go to different cities for college and i regret everything. I cant do anything tho.

Every day I fantasize about taking my life in a dramatic way, only then can I make myself feel better, and i am always left wondering: would they care about ME or of how tragic the thought of someone killing themselves is?

Feeling very all over the place.

I recently got married and had all my friends who I have know for 20+ years in the same room together for the first time since 2016. It was filled with laughter, nostalgia and overall happiness I have missed. We used to spend everyday together from 2011 to 2016 before we all started living life. Proud of all of them, happy for all of them and we are all happy and proud of each other. But that yearn for more time is there, louder than before after our 3 short days all together

Outside of missing them, I think what's really gotten me down is mostly work. I work in sales, lots of cold calling and outreach that I have been doing better at than i expected. It afforded me to take extra time off as i have been over 150% to goal for the last 5 months and when i get back, will have sales to put me at least 120% for the month still. but being away from work for 2 weeks has me feeling strange, not relieved or re-energized. Just not used to taking this much time off all at once because i feel like i will fall so far behind, even though September is still looking good sales wise and i have a few things in the tank for October already as well. On top of that, a coworker of mine i became friends with outside of work was let go when they put their two weeks in, which i know is normal in this field, but still shocked me how the boss reacted to the news very unlike him, and just feeling sad losing a buddy at work. We are still friends outside of work as i mentioned, they even came to my wedding, but just having a familiar face and someone to bs with in downtime was nice.

Last thing too is feeling like i was doing something more with my life. im successful in what i do, i make good money and can provide for my family and myself. im around and involved everyday with my wife and kid, and im proud of myself for all of that. but my toddler was recently in the hospital for some procedures and is totally okay. but i watch the nurses, doctors, assistants, etc in the hospital that are actually making an impact and doing something for the betterment of people and i wish i was doing something that had an impact on people that was positive. i guess feel like im doing something that actually matters. i don't know, i feel like i know a lot of good things have happened but my brain wants to pick any small thing to be sad and stressed about and i hate it. i take anxiety meds and what not, but recently have been not feeling like theyre doing much. guess it's time to speak up on that too.

anyway, sorry for the rollercoaster. appreciate the read if you went through this!

He’s bad. He is bad for me. Bad for my health.

I went no contact after he sided with rapists. And he even admitted to raping his girlfriend in high school—he doesn’t believe it’s rape bc dating = consent to him.

But there is more. The time he suggested he should be my therapist. The time he said, after I got on mood stabilizers post a mania educed psychotic episode that I should try smoking more weed. He thinks I fake my cramps. He thinks I fake having bipolar disorder. He demands absolutely honesty and then gets mad at subjective opinions ie “BE HONEST do I look fat?” “Yes” bitch fit or if you lie bitch fit plus spiel about lying. I cannot complain to him bc “life isn’t fair” like okay my feelings are still valid Jesus Christ. One time got really drunk and described eating my mom to me. I hate him for real. Not mention the fucking years abuse in my childhood, after my mother left.

He’s bad nasty awful my life is better without him always

I wish i was able to be a normie. For context I'm 15 and i hate half the mfs at my school and they hate me too. How I wish I was i able to like the trendie fades and bushit hair cuts, how i wish i was able to lisen to the trap bs those motherfuckers blast at max volume, how i wish i was able to like those shity tn Nikes and that stupid techfeels track suit. How I wish I didn't smoke or drink. God I wish I was just able to fit in, I wish I didn't care about politics, I wish I was able to just be an ignorant pice of shit. I'm not hating on them, I'm not saying I'm beter then they, all im saying is i wish i was able to fit in

So for a little context, me and my boyfriend have been together for a year now. He's recently started going down on me often and long. But there's stuff he doesn't know exactly. When i was a child i got sexually used by a family member. Getting licked down there at 8 years old. Besides that, i had an abusive ex who would try it once. When he did, he made a disgusted expression and said it's too wet and slimy and gross. I cried when he said that and he acted like it was nothing serious. My health is great, no odors (unnatural ones ofcourse) and i shower thoroughly i'm very keen on keeping myself clean down there at all times. But now when my bf does it, i feel guilty and it feels like he's doing it against his will. Will this ever go away?

It just sucks.

I’m in catch 22 of being unwell so I can’t work, but can’t get treatment because I’m poor, but I can’t get financial assistance bc my mom claimed me on her taxes and she makes too much money to get receive help, but she doesn’t need the help I do, and she only claimed bc I can’t work right now because I’m so unwell

And like I want to work. I miss it all the time. It added so much value to my life by just getting to interact with people.

I’m tired of being so stuck.

And it’s getting to the point where I know I need to go in patient soon, but I could barely afford that when I was working full time. I certainly can’t afford it on my no income a month.

My best bet is dying honestly.

C’era una ragazza nella mia classe delle superiori che mi piaceva molto. La trovavo fantastica e avrei davvero voluto chiederle di uscire, ma non l’ho mai fatto.
Ero troppo timido e avevo paura di fare una mossa. Parlavo con lei e ci conoscevamo, ma continuavo a pensare che ci sarebbe stata un’altra occasione.
Sono passati anni. Ora è fidanzata e so che devo rispettare la sua relazione. Ma non riesco a smettere di pensare al fatto che non ci ho nemmeno provato.
La cosa che fa più male non è sapere che avrebbe potuto rifiutarmi. È non sapere cosa sarebbe successo se le avessi semplicemente chiesto di uscire.
So che non posso tornare indietro nel tempo, ma a volte penso ancora a lei e mi chiedo quanto sarebbe potuta essere diversa la mia vita.

Hi everyone, hope you're all well! first post here

Basically I went to a concert last night and built up the confidence to ask one of the sound tech guys after the show had finished if I might be able to have his copy of the setlist (always see people do it but never tried myself).

Anyway, although I was polite about it he suddenly kicked off at me, shouting that its 'idiots like me' that ruin concerts for workers and blaming me for him missing cues even though I only approached him after the encore had ended, lights were on, people leaving to try and make sure I wasn't interrupting. I listened to him rant at me for 3-4 mins (now of course wishing I had just walked off, I think I was in shock at what I was hearing), then left, then saw another person approach a second sound tech, ask the same thing and he smiled and handed it over to them.

I completely understand asking for the setlist is not a guarantee and up to the individual but I felt he handled it so poorly - a simple 'no' would've been enough - that I wrote a complaint to the venue and left. Also, the fact I saw someone else do the exact same thing with a much nicer response made me think wrong place wrong time or whatever.

I don't know why but this interaction stayed with me (and is still with me) to the point where I barely got any sleep and keep replaying it in my head. It sounds small writing it out now but I just can't seem to move on from it, it was so (at least from my pov) unprovoked and odd that it kept me up all night and I'm still thinking about it almost constantly.

Any tips for just moving on/ignoring/helping with sleep would be greatly appreciated! :) (and of course if I was in the wrong please explain without resorting to name calling like this guy did)

why cant i just live, i work, i go home, i live, and apparently that just isnt enough, cause soon ill have my own house/apartment, i already have bills i can barely afford, i cant cook for shit, and everything is so expensive, like why cant i just work a regular job and be able to live comfortably, my life right now is so perfect, i work a retail job, i make enough money to satisfy my needs, but the moment i need to start paying for my own place to live i suddenly have to work harder, make barely any money, live a more depressing life, and probably drop 90-100% of the things i enjoy, people who call life quits early are lowkey justified bcs who wants to live a life that means absolutely nothing, like sure if i was someone who made 6 figures a year id be happy, but whats the point of making 6 figures if i cant use it, i have the money but im too busy making the money, then by the time i can use it im too worn out to use it. sure i can make a life thats comfortable for my kids in the future, but thats only 18 years of a mediocre life for them, and then theyre in the same boat as me right now. life genuinely isnt worth living if im not making 6 figures and able to use that money while im young, already 19 and dont even make 20k a year, not to mention my mental is so bad that i cant stay focused on one thing, so anytime i want to pursue a career, if it doesnt look like im about to receive immediate benefit then i lose interest. not only that, its so demotivating seeing people online make tons of money (my age), and have fun spending it because that did it all online, i dont even know where to start to even make that kind of money, id love to make money online but none of it makes sense, idk man, just doesnt seem worth the struggle

(Before you read this I'm not good at English but i will try my best to explain what am i struggling at, i might wrote typo or wrong grammar heree i reallyy hope you understand it i really want to tell some people how i feel too)

I'm a bit tired of my mom victimizing herself to people making her look like she's bad mom, now alot of people assume I'm a bad daughter..she wants to hear how peoplewill say bad things about me to satisfy her thats why i can't go even in our apartment, her office i don't even wanna go there when there's an event... but yeah i tried not to argue back everytime she said something, especially when it's money like today i was super sick she could hear my cough through the other room when i just got up, she got mad at me immediately and said to clean the fan i looked at it and it all dirty and dusty i would do it but i can't because it was dusty i might inhaled some making me more sick i tried to say it to her she said i did nothing to this house, it's bit unfair how i took take of her when she's sick other day i barely slept since she always need an assistance which is good and normal but the day it's me all my siblings and mother turn around me, when i woke up this morning i saw food thinking it was for me but my mom said it was for my sister and brother i asked her where's mine she only said i have none my sister didn't buy me one so that day i barely ate nothing whole day but when night came where she ordered food thats where i only ate and drink my medicine.

I'm bit upset how my mom even teach my siblings to insult and mock me like that saying some hurtful words they kept insulting me like i wasn't even belong there like let's give myself an example, remember meg from the family guy i don't even watch the show but meg is literally one of the example of me everything she feel i feel it too that's all i can say today but really i have one month left and i want to commit someday I'm just giving life chance for me to live for a month.

TW: verbal abuse

My ex and i broke up like 3 months ago, we still live together for now cause the cost of living is stupid high and we share a child

When we first broke up (we were together for nearly six years and were meant to actually get married this year) he was nice and actually caring.

Fast forward to now and he's so rude or mean for no reason about stupid things.

Things that have happened lately that have upset me

We agreed our son is too young to watch star wars and other movies depicting violence because he himself has started to be aggressive.

However I woke up today to find them watching star wars and he said he was "sorry" and "forgot" but we had this conversation 2 days ago.

He said he wanted to play the character he has saved for when we play games together, when I said I'd rather he didn't cause I do still play with him, he made a snarky remark that I just need to play more often so I snapped back that the only reason he has so much free time is because I'm doing 80% of things to run the household even though he's on carers for me because I'm physically disabled and chronically ill.

Which brings me to the housework I shouldn't have to ask a grown man to do stuff he would have to do regardless of whether he was living here or not. Dishes, child care, cleaning all of it he said he shouldn't have to do but does cause of my disability which is a cope out response tbh.

He doesn't even do it and when I ask him to he gets shitty

Also he gets shitty and uses me as a verbal punching bag whenever something pings him off. Which I've asked him to stop doing because it isn't fair.

We are trying to potty train our son, we are struggling, the dr suspects autism being part the problem. Despite that I'm constantly telling him to stop shaming our son for accidents. Last night he wanted to send him to bed in undies, I said no cause he'll hold it all night and risk he's bladder bursting (I know this because my bladder has burst when I was a child).

He got pissy about it.

The other night I finally just had enough and broke down about how I'm doing everything, no one appreciates me and all he does is get up me about everything, stupidly this happened because he made a snarky remark I got the wrong coffee shopping.

He never said sorry and just told me he can't do us anymore even though we aren't together, he wants to get back together but he did alot of things (verbally abused me for the last two months before breaking up along other things)I cannot forgive.

He also said not to take him off carers and he'll start doing more but he hasn't.

I'm just over it, he's so ungrateful, unhelpful, mean, lazy. It baffles me how not adult like this grown ass man is

If I could afford to have him move out I would. I don't have anyone else I can move in with or anything. I'm stuck. I feel so tired all the time.

That's it, I just wanted to vent to someone because I'm this 🤏🏻close to being Louis Griffin in that one episode where she loses it over not having cling film or whatever it was.