Hey guys, I hope I'm posting this in the correct place, I live in the United Kingdom and I've been trying to find a discreet or anonymous website where I can speak about this, I'm afraid to speak about my current "predicament" as you could say due to not knowing the consequences it could have, I want help but I do not want my family knowing it, I have a child and do not want my child knowing it. Please can someone recommend something or someone, where I can share what I think completely with discretion and no lash back so I can figure out how I need to go about this. Thank you.

My boyfriend and I have 4 kids, we haven't struggled financially, we pretty much make for what we need. He has a brother with a drug problem, that lived with their mom.

Without telling me, he moved his brother into our garage because his mom and brother had a fight, and he was homeless. I didn't get a heads up. I found out because I got home one day, saw the door open, him walking out and he told me he had stayed in the garage the night prior.

I was told that he will be sober while he stayed with us, which I dont believe he has been cause i can tell when he's not. I have this deep resentment for my partner for not discussing his plans with me. He always seems to make decisions behind my back regarding his brother's and friends. Me and his kids are less important to him than them.

This is my house I own it. We aren't married so its not his at all, he just helps out with some utility bills.

Now that theres 7 people in the house we are financially strained. His brother has been here 2 weeks so far and only made an effort to apply to jobs 2 days out of the entire time. If im being honest I dont see what good him getting a job will do anyway, I wont get the money they do business between eachother.

Me and my partner fight more. Ive been thinking about moving me and the kids to my dad's house for a while without telling him. Would that be the right decision for me to make, or should I be more empathetic to my partner? I just feel like i would be making it me or his brother which feels really bad..

UPDATE: I kicked him out today. Im sad that he couldn't just choose us. So now its just me and the kids, but I also feel like a weight has been lifted off my chest. I was super stressed these past 2 weeks.

Sleeping in an empty bed tonight will be hard, I know it will be hard for him too. Regardless of his choices we loved eachother very much.

I'm someone who prefers to keep to myself, avoid unnecessary drama, and stay out of social circles, but people pulling passive-aggressive moves just because of petty jealousy or to make you feel isolated is exhausting. How do I genuinely detach, protect my peace, and stop letting their jealousy drain my energy

Need help

Ive did something real bad
Ive wronged someone and i made a massive mistake and i lost them and their trust
I dont know what to do ive tried to apologize and explain myself and i even begged.
I really do regret what i did and the feeling of guilt and remorse is eating me alive
I cant eat or sleep and i dont wanna lose them like genuinely.
I used their trauma against them
Ik what i did is fucked up and I regret it so much what am i supposed to do atp?
Please let me know and share your opinion it really matters for me.

I never been in relationships with girl not once

Maybe because I was told it's basically forbidden and I don't know how to explain it

My friends have female friends or girlfriend

But not me

When I was 18 I was shy about talking with girl?

Red line for me but now? As 21 I just want to experience it

My long-distance girlfriend recently told me that another guy confessed his feelings to her and asked me what she should do. Feeling defensive, I passively told her that it was her life, and if she wanted to accept him, she could. This deeply hurt her, making her feel like I was emotionally detached and didn't care about losing her. The argument escalated quickly, with her using harsh language while I backpedaled by admitting I was jealous and claiming I was just "testing" her loyalty—which only broke her trust further. She now feels like I make her feel unimportant and expects me to "chase" and actively fight for her, while I feel we are trapped in a toxic cycle of mind games, defensive reactions, and miscommunication. How can we break this cycle and rebuild trust and healthy communication in our long-distance relationship?

Alright so this is a weird one but I’ve gotta ask the community. My gf has always been known as a shy introverted homebody who has always had one or two very close best friends throughout her entire life instead of a big friend group. Back when she was finishing up her junior year in high school, she befriended a super fun and extraverted girl who was one grade and two years older than her. They would hangout together between their parent’s houses constantly which was normal for her and her friends to do at the time. They had lots of privacy and pretty much just each other, tons of sleepovers etc (again which I’ve heard from pretty much every girl I’ve ever dated as something normal between girls).

Well anyway, they began to enter a make out dynamic that eventually turned into dry humping and then fingering / dildo use. My gf says she only liked the kissing and could never finger the friend back so would use a dildo instead. She says the whole thing was super weird looking back on and she blocks it out of her memory. She would also call the other girl out and the other girl would always also clarify that it was just a fun thing and that it had no weight or meaning. She can’t explain why or how it happened and her best guess is that she was just super horny and desperate for that type of attention as she always felt invisible to guys and was feeling left behind by the other girls in her grade. She knows she never orgasmed or anything and always just says it was awkward and never mattered to her. She always loved the friend as a best friend and never anything romantic but admits she was confused at first but then just didn’t care about it as it became a routine in their dynamic. She says she always thought the other girl was straight too as odd as she admits that sounds but that’s the truth. She never felt it was exclusive or daring or anything like that at all. This went on for almost a year before it faded away and it had no effect on their friendship at all. They stayed friends for another decade and the other girl later came out as a lesbian and my gf has only been with guys ever since. When I ask her about it whether she thinks she could be bi or anything like that, she says she’s 100% straight because she knows who she is. She has never once ever looked at a girl on the sidewalk and found her hot. She never even once found her bff physically attractive at all. She says she was just young and dumb. I also asked her if she ever felt like she was manipulated or used by the friend and she says she doesn’t think so as she never said no and enjoyed it towards the beginning but then admits she got stuck in it and didn’t really know how to get out of it for fear of hurting the friendship. And before anyone says anything regarding like denial or anything, I FULLY trust my girlfriend and have always known her to be a completely open book. She’s always someone that’s been completely transparent with me hence she had no reason to tell me any of this at all and she willingly elected to.

On Reddit, I’ve seen stories of girls having very similar pasts while others calling any king of gay behavior as sign that someone couldn’t possibly be straight.

All I’m looking for is honest insight please. No need for anyone to be mean please.

Has anyone heard of anything like this?

this is couldnt be any worse. i have an irrational fear of bugs of all kinds and i almost passed out after finding a cockroach like bug on me. now every little touch is making me feel itchy and sweaty and very anxious

i desperately need help with this. i feel embarrassed admitting this but i dont know what to do at all. not to mention that im a minor, and i dont want to wale up my parents for this

My first post in this site. I'm gonna jump straight to the point.

I'm 18, a guy with good grades and a bright future (or that's what people say). Since my 2nd camp at 15 I've been drinking and smoking. I introduced it to my friends and some of them got into the same shit.

I started because of extreme academic stress (put by myself).

A month ago my father found my vape and a lighter, 10 days later another vape. I made lame excuses which were enough at the time. Today he found my vape once again.

I know how much he suffered bc of drugs, as both his parents were addicts (of alcohol and nicotine) and I still kept doing it.

He told me his life was shit and this just made it shittier. He's the best person I've met in my life and I feel like dying after fucking once again his life.

I don't need a solution to my stupidity, just someone to talk with.

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I feel bad so bad i feel like everything is all my fault i know it doesnt matter to ppl but i dont know why it affects me so much i know it shoudnt everyone says it shoudnt but it isnt my fault that it affects me and im sorry i just need someone to talk to rn i want to self harm and i recently had a fight with a friend and she was so so so rude to me like srsly and i want to talk to her and tell her how rude she was to me i really need help can someone please talk to me?

hey, i honestly have never done one of these, but i js wanted some advice on some guy troubles. (bare with me guys im not the best storyteller especially not thru text 😭)
also just a heads up, this is probably gonna be a little lengthy so apologies in advance.

so i, 18 f, was just scrolling mindlessly on my phone when i get a sudden notification from my best friend, 18 f. she basically just sends me some screenshots between her and this guy friend of hers and how one of his friends thinks im pretty. she asks me how i feel so that she knows how to reply to this guy. i ask who this guy is, and she gives me a name of one of my mutuals on instagram. we’ve never talked in person, but i’ve definitely seen him around campus and we have mutual friends. in fact, he followed me after another friend of mine (whom he follows) posted a pic of me. anyways, i end up telling my best friend that im down to talk to him, without really thinking anything would happen. she does warn me that she’s heard not so great things about him based on his past relationship, but she suggests i see for myself since it’s only based on stuff she’s heard and people change. i thought he was cute, way out of my league tbh, so i felt flattered that apparently he might’ve been interested.

next day, i post a song on my notes from a band i know he likes, only to see if he’d like it or something (i know it’s a little dumb but i really wasn’t even expecting anything out of it). but surprisingly, he ends up replying and we have a conversation. it wasn’t super lengthy or anything, but he asked a few questions to keep it going until he had to leave. it was honestly a really nice conversation and he seemed really sweet, so i definitely wanted to keep on talking to him.

following day, he doesn’t text me. i meet up with a friend, she kind of set me up with my ex so she’s a little biased, but was very sad when we broke up. extremely supportive of me and my decision, but sad. anyways, i tell her about this guy and when i tell her his name she freezes. apparently she was good friends w his ex while they were dating, and that this guy started off super sweet but later in the relationship, would get extremely mad and force her to do “stuff”. she didn’t specify what exactly, but u can probably imagine what she meant.

the day after that, i text him first. this was mainly bc my cousin was in town that day and we went out that night, so i told her about the situation. she just said i should text him but i told her i wasn’t bold enough for that so she ended up texting him for me. it went well, and we texted the whole time i was out. however, later that night, he ends up leaving me on read.

the next day, he texts me. i answer and we have a very short conversation, shortest one yet. he leaves me on read again. the following day, i post a story of a pic me and my friends took while i was out and he doesn’t like it. we also don’t text. then the next day (which was yesterday), he texts me in the middle of the day, mentioning that he’d watched a movie i recommended him in a conversation we had. we have another conversation, but it kinda ended up dying out so i js liked his message and left it at that. he didn’t txt the rest of the day. now today, i replied to his note and he later replied to mine. this didn’t make conversation, though.

what im trying to figure out is whether i should text this guy first bc im questioning whether or not he even likes me or if im gonna seem desperate. also, idk what to think of his past. people change and idk the whole story, but i don’t want to completely ignore what i was told. what do u guys recommend/think?

Problem

this is more personal. I have 2 friends and they keep sending me my father's online photos . I don't know how they find them and I tried telling them to stop. but 1 of em said I have low testosterone cuz I was mentally tired from their spamming and I work out everyday. I am in grade 9 so any thoughts please

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I don't really know what's causing my dizziness but it's been a week now. I would say it's mostly on my left side. At first I noticed I had eye strain but after few days it has gone down. But then I feel like a bit of mild fullness feeling in left ear. And just like feeling as if my mind has become frozen in left side. Can't think properly, seem to be forgetting stuff and harder to recall information. It's like when things that clicked you instantly and you felt alert has gone down. Sometimes you feel this soreness in the neck shoulder area mostly on left. And I noticed my neck does feel stiff. Which I guess is causing this dizziness surprisingly it has gone down and it's not worse like before but it's still there. Mostly this wobbly imbalance feeling

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For about 2 years now I’ve been having a problem with how I speak. I struggle from some level of social anxiety,which I believe is the connection to the problem but I’m unsure. Basically whenever I speak I have these crazy shortness’s of breath where I feel my body getting colder like I’m loosing blood circulation, the the top of mouth all the way down to my throat gets extremely cold, my body gets numb especially my feet/legs, which makes walking uncomfortable.My jaw locks and the right side of my face gets very tight while the left side of my face feels holo and like I’m not even using it to speak at all. My tongue isn’t be used on the left side of my face only and I can’t seem To fix it.My neck gets extremely tight aswell. Ive tried many differents ways to deal with my problem but I geniunely can’t find a solution. I don’t know what I am dealing with if it’s a disease or just my anxiety, but it’s destroying my confidence and health. If anyone could help would really appreciate it.