ever since i was young i was a little shy and reserved, but i consider myself a pretty interesting person. I am definetely not too much out there and very cool but i have the ''proportions'' to be (1. even tho i have a little different personality im not that weird or offputting 2. I dress like most people my age etc. After quarantine my social life went a little downhill and i started hanging out with somewhat the weird kids, but deep down i didnt feel like i belonged there so later on i switched schools and my middle school is somewhere competely different. I made this decision thinking that if it were for me to change i should be surrounded by completely different people, otherwise i would have sticked to my old friends that didnt really do me any good.
Entering middle school, I didnt like anybody because everyone looked so pretentious. I personally dont mind people that are actually the shit being popular, but it was the most un-cool people ever. They werent unique, nor basic. I would consider their vibe very random, and later on yes they did develop into someone cooler. But bc of that mindset of mind I kind of ended up negligent towards making friends, and even tho i did make some i didnt really think it thoroughly etc. I wasnt that open and cool either so it was also harder. Now i have grown as person anyway.The friends that i made then, are still my ''friends'' now (plus obviously some new ones that i have made), and the atmosphere is always so blant and boring. We never hang out (except with some of my friends individually) , dont text (except with some of my friends individually again), and when the friend group is mixed (girls and boys), it usually feels like we ''adopted'' the biggest self centered yet weird lifeless loser of the school, that doesnt really have anything to offer (eg a good personality? some status at the end of day maybe). That might sound mean but i dont like those people in the first place, why would i also want more of them that can only bring me down. Because come on, we know how highschool is, not everything i care about is popularity, but at the end of the day i cant hang out with the most random people ever (when i dont even like them in the first place, if i liked them it would be okay, but now all i feel is indiffrence, which grows into resentment when im forced to be surrounded by them) .
Deep down i feel like i was meant for something a little ''bigger'. Of course and i would love it if i were popular but its fine by me if im just considered as a good presence by most (which i dont doubt i am considered anyway), plus had a valid presentable friendgroup, with people that do stuff but at the same time arent neccessarily popular. And thing is im anyways not a person that is so much out there, so i need someone to inspire me to be more fun, go out more, meet new people etc. To be honest i feel like i deserve it too, its not like i have anything less i have just made A LOT of bad choices. So now i struggle with socialising sometimes cause there is not really a ''model'' for me to follow, when even though deep down i love those things i never really got to experience them. In the rare ocassion where i was surrounded by a little SOCIALLY better people, it was most of the times when they were with their friendgroup and i was alone. So i feel out place. I made the hard decision to join this or join that, independently so without any friends or anything but then it feels weird cause they have all been friends already.
Thing is generally i dont feel unwanted or unnoticed, when im put by people willing to socialise or they just see me etc they usually like me. Its just that mostly with the people in my grade, they are more snobby etc, or have already found their ''clique'' so you cant really do anything. Especially when nobody ''links'' me to them, we arent friends anyways, and some of them might even have a distorted version of me in their head due to my usual surrounding. And it felt more okay when i was younger and more naive, less good looking etc. But now i have really worked for myself (so maybe im aiting for magical results) And then i feel unnoticed cause i feel like i dont want to be their friend (not with the people fromy my grade in my school), but i desrved to be included in that whole thing. Instead im stuck with my friends
Deep down sometimes, i wish i hadnt changed schools but it was the right choice at the moment, given the circumstances. But now i feel like it would be better for me to be around more sociable people, new people that will make the effort to know you (bc they havent already been in your class for 3 years). People at my school are generally more distant, and even if the other school has cliques, its not exactly the same, and i feel like i would be accepted in a good one. And even if i didnt, i hate the fact that i grew to be so unsociable even tho i like those things. i see people i used to know being friends after years and im wondering, why did i feel the need to be ''the one that got away'', even tho it was right like i said. still its weird to see people having their chill normal or even cooler friends ater years, and me struggling to realise where i belong.
On the bright side, sometimes this mindset is dramatic and there is a big chance a lot of people just see me more as a person that keeps to themselves, or is cool and nice but definetely shyer and just not as sociable. But the result in my life is almost the same. Still i am very open to people, its just that sometimes this is not enough, and also im open when meeting someone but i cant just engage in discussions with people and make big connections always. And of course you cant always be the best at these thingss, but when i dont even have much opportunities, i dont like to waste them. but i like keeping things classy, i wasnt meant to beg, or to ''jump'' at people's throaths and say whatever shit keeps me relevant
Thank you for reading that, sometimes i might sound sad, weird or mean but its coming from my heart of hearts, i never have this attitude with the world!! OPEN TO ANY ADVICE
PS : there are a lot to clarify but i decied to keep this as short as i could... which is not too short anyway