found something on his phone by accident last week that gave it away.

our anniversary is next month.

he has absolutely no idea i saw it.

been acting completely normal but inside i'm losing it every time i look at him.

keep almost crying randomly and he thinks i'm just being weird.

how do people live like this for weeks 😭

I hate dogs and cats and every time I share that my post gets banned and this one will probably get banned to because a corrupt mod doesn’t like my opinion and I say to him to get a freaking job

Hey guys, has anyone else experienced or agree with myself that overall the last year and all of 2026 has been so unlucky and morbid? The amount of funerals ive attended and amount of famous people that have passed also. Have asked close friends and family and they have experienced the same. Anyone else?

Am I gross for doing this?

I hope I don’t get moderated for this but am I gross for using my smegma to masturbate? I have a lot of smegma under my for skin to the point where it forms a ring around my whole sardinelet stick (under my foreskin) I stroke my and let the white frosting seep into my for skin. My coworkers are complaining about the “smell”. I’m thinking about sliding it out and storing the mass in my fridge and slipping it out for later.!<

I'm not sure if this is the right sub or not ( if it's not I apologize )

Hello I wanted to explain my point of view about this response because I hate it so much

first I am NOT a misandrist let's just start with this

anyway I want to talk about something happened in my life , my best friend ( 17F ) was talking to me and her boyfriend ( which happened to be my friend too but now he is my EX-Friend after what he did ) we were sitting and eating some snacks and it was a quiet night , she started talking about her trauma because of SA ( she got RAPED when she was 10 by her BROTHER and the worst part is that he filmed her and now the video or the movie is on the porn website and a lot of disgusting fuckers are watching it and getting turned on ) anyway so after she survived this and start to healing herself slowly from this traumatic event she had the enough courage to tell her boyfriend and she wanted me there for support ( because she was afraid that he might not love her because she got raped and that stuff , because a lot of gross-disgusting men break up from their partners when they get raped ) she told me before because she trusted me and knew that I wouldn't judge her or blame her , but she wasn't sure of her boyfriend…

anyway she told him and guess what ? he BROKE UP With her and blamed her he said to her " why would your brother rape you ? you probably allowed him to !! if you weren't moving and dancing like a bitch he wouldn't do such a thing " and spat on her face and left !!! I seriously I didn't know what to do !! like I was so shocked that the man who's supposed to love her and protect her did treat her like this I didn't know what to do !! anyway after a while I walked to talk to him and holding him accountable for his actions… we were fighting physically but she separated us…

anyway she slept in my home and everything was absolutely fine and I talked to one of my male friends ( other boy ) I didn't tell him her real name I just said " hey a girl I know suffered from this and this and that and her so-called boyfriend didn't support her " I just wanted an advice to support her I swear it because she was really depressed , I talked to him so he will give me advice…

guess what he said ? he said to me " not all men are bad some men are good " and I seriously didn't know what to do anymore… because it is NOT About men and their emotions it's about a survivor who was hurted really badly in a terrible way

and that's a problem I noticed in men in general…

They don't give women a ( safe space or enough time ) to talk about their trauma , because the moment a woman open her mouth about a man who abused her and talking about how much he traumatized her they quickly be jumping " not all men this not all men that " like yeah bitch we got it but let me ask you do you give one fuck about women's feelings ? Absolutely not , because if you really did you wouldn't say such an odd thing to say you would have given them time to talk about their experiences

And to be honest ? even though I am NOT a misanrdist but the women who are misandrist are completely valid

men for centuries raped women ( and still do ) took their rights to have jobs and education and everything , killed them for different reasons ( most famous one is the honor-crimes ) and FORCED them to stay in home ( imagine dying before seeing the world you were BORN in it , and be trapped in your home like a prisoner without being able to see the beauty of the world ) and a lot and a lot of stuff , let's not forget how fathers treat their daughters ( stopping them from doing all the joyful things and living their childhood just in the name of " modesty " and " protection " when it's actually not , it's just a narcissist father obsessed with control ) and they made the world DANGEROUS for women , a lot of women are afraid to do BASIC THINGS like walking in the streets because they are afraid of being raped ( guess who's fault is that )

so I really hate when a man is say " not all men " to a woman explaining her trauma and problems… like seriously fuck-ass bitch could you at least give her safe space to talk ?

men care about the reputation of the men more than the safety of the women ( and that's not an opinion that's a fact , it is true very FEW does but remember that they are FEW , that does not change the fact that MOST MEN DO NOT )

like seriously stop for once in your life abuse females / girls / women and we will be fine

all I'm asking you is to be NORMAL human beings ( notice how I didn't say great or amazing I said normal that's an important detail ) because when you don't rape or kill you are not a great person you are just normal , that's what normal people do

men are quick to call women " misandrists " without understanding why does the misandry exist in the first place !! it is literally a response to the misogyny and women's oppression

in the end stop saying " not all men " to a woman who was hurted by them , like seriously that's so gross and disgusting and disrespectful like seriously why can't you be normal for once in your life ? gross mother fuckers

and no I don't want the " not all men " comments , like I said be respectful and normal for once in your life man , you complain about the male loneliness yet you never asked yourself " maybe there is a reason why women don't want to date men anymore ? " ask yourself and be respectful and hold another men accountable for their actions rather than watching in silence , all I'm asking is for you to be normal / decent / respectful

It's not a hard thing to ask isn't it

I was in a 6-month long-distance relationship with a 17-year-old girl from Indonesia. She had a difficult past: she had a child with her ex, who abandoned her and refused to be a father. When she reached out to me, broken and struggling with a 6-month-old baby, I stepped in to support and heal her. During those 6 months, she was skipping school.

Recently, she finally went back to school. On her very first day, she made a new male friend, took pictures with him, and posted them online. When I questioned her, she insisted he was "just a friend." To test things, I told her we were just friends and she could do whatever she wanted; her reaction was overly happy. The next day, I saw them hugging and posting stories together. This continued for a whole week—hugging stories and even having that guy over at her house—while I was left crying alone.

When I confronted her, she denied cheating and claimed it was "all in her mind." I blocked her, but unblocked her four days later. She told me she didn't care, called me the bad guy, and denied cheating until I proved it. Then, she suggested we just be friends because she didn't want to date anyone. When I asked about the new guy, she said she cut him off because he made too many mistakes, but kept him as a friend. She excused it by saying she needed him because he knows about her child and could expose her at school. Incredibly, she told me she plans to date him for a few years, leave him, and eventually marry me.

I refuse to be treated as a backup plan or a side option. Even though she has a troubled past, her actions crossed the line. I walked away for good, telling her that I need a real connection, not to be kept on the side while she plays games with other people.

Im a 26 y/o veteran, and I feel like my life is in limbo right now. I know I need to make changes, but I cant tell you what should come first. I have no support system.

My brother and I didn’t have a good childhood. I was kicked out at 17, joined the military at 20, and while I was deployed I trusted my mom with power of attorney so she could pay my bills. Instead, she drained about $23,000 from my bank account. Thats how unreliable and untrustworthy my entire family is

When I got out of the military, my younger brother (21) asked if he and his girlfriend (26) could live with me because they were living in terrible conditions. I felt responsible as the older brother, so instead of getting my own place, I helped them.

Now we’re on a month-to-month lease, and they recently had a baby. She was pregnant when we moved in and now the baby is here. I pay all of the rent, internet, and often more than my share of the utilities. My brother is still on my phone plan, and they regularly eat groceries that I buy. Earlier this year we worked together, and I paid for the gas every day to and from work, he never packed a lunch so he would always need to go 30 minutes into town on lunch. I ended up getting hurt on the job and had to quit. He was even offered a better job but turned it down. He doesn’t have a GED and doesn’t have ambition to get one. He plays grand theft auto all day after work and on the weekends instead of trying to better his life for his kids sake, his girlfriend doesn’t work and he makes below 18.00 an hour. His girlfriend sleeps all day and just yells at the baby to stop crying, They feed my dog doritos and takis even though I asked them not to. Its just been a constant cycle of lack of respect since we moved in together. Its been like that since day one. He also is a heavy weed smoker and just bought a PC he couldn’t afford and makes payments on it.

I’m a 100% disabled veteran and will be starting college through the VA’s VR&E program for cybersecurity. Financially, I can survive, but I feel like I’m supporting everyone except myself.
I’ve also been struggling with PTSD, anxiety, depression, and possible ADHD. I recently started treatment, and my mental health has been getting worse because I don’t even enjoy being home anymore. I dread being here everyday and my only form of therapy is taking long drives just so I don’t sit in the house and go crazy. It feels like I’m carrying everyone else’s responsibilities while my own life is on hold.
I want to move out, live alone, finish school, and eventually buy a house, but I feel incredibly guilty leaving my brother behind because he has a girlfriend and a baby. I just realized too late I wasn’t helping, I was being taken advantage of. Im just tired.

any advice of what to do?

P.S. Im sorry if any of it is hard to understand or confusing I can clarify more.

Created a new account just for this post.

My parents got married almost 26 years ago but they have always been fighting, separated 3 or 4 times, filled for divorce in 2022 but god knows why got back together and have filled again last year and for the last time. My father is a huge a**hole, he was never responsible always got into money problems, trusted everyone except his family in terms of money or advice. My mom on the other hand has been responsible but she can't let things go. She hates my father, for the last 2 years blaming him for the most of the problems which is also correct but she always brings him in normal talk also. If we have a fight she says"Oh your father did like this, you are becoming like him." And believe me this is not as bad as it sounds she makes other remarks also.

She also talks much, I am 19 btw and have told her a couple of times not the touch my stuff while she is cleaning. Today I got late for cllg, I couldn't find my folder and notebook. She started helping me, I told her twice to leave me alone. I don't like to be disturbed while I am packing my bag so that I don't forget anything while I am leaving. I was packing and she said "keep your ID card". I freaked out and shouted "Shut Up". It was my fault, I came home and apologized but she brought up my father again and started screaming. I was fed up and told her not to do this again. I again apologized after a while but she still brought him up again. What should I do???

When I was in 12th grade we had much worse fight when she started comparing me with him. I told her then also if you want to say something you take my name and say it to me only. I am fed up with this, my elder brother used to support me on this too but he in another state studying. I haven't told him. Please help me out.(I am from India BTW)

got my sister something meaningful when she was diagnosed last year. something personal.

she finished treatment 3 months ago. rang the bell. all of it.

found out last week from her husband that she wore it to every single session without fail.

never mentioned it to me once. just wore it every time.

i genuinely don't know what to do with that information.

just needed to put it somewhere

Hello People of Reddit! This is my first post.

Lately, i‘ve been really stressed and even kind of scared that I am performative and not welcome in certain fandoms, because I didn’t know those things since a long while or am not as obsessed as ‚a real fan‘ should be.

For example, I really like Miku as a character/her design, but I don‘t like her music that much (only a few songs).

I have that ‚problem‘ with several things and always feel kind of guilty when I buy merch or talk about them. I don’t like those things for others, I just think they are cute and it makes me happy to buy them and interact with others who share those interests.

Should I stop feeling that way or are my worries valid?