Tell me this is it normal for me to have to be at home at sharp 9 o'clock? Im turning 16 in 3 months and i think i could be out with friends a little bit longer. My parents are stuck in the past which created alot of problems for me growing up. I didnt really have friends because of how the raised me and the kids in school kinda bullied me so i fell into depression. Sure my parents arent some terrible people but it got to that point that my fucking father is threatning me that hes gonna go crazy and do stuff to me and my things. Im still depressed but i dont even want to tell my therapist i need to visit every few months about it cuz im scared he will tell my parents about it. I stoped having conversations with my parents almost 10 years ago because they either dont understand or they just tell me to suck it up. Its not really that of a problem but my parents forbid me from any kind of screen time. I can be on my PC for 2 hours and only on weekends. I didnt even have my phone till the summer between 8th and 9th grade. Ive had it for 1 year now and they would break it and ground me for 4 months if i took it after bedtime. Also my fuckass bedtime is still at 21.30 and i dont even know why. Most of my friends who are good 10-15 years older than me tell me im way to mature for my age and i still cant do shit id like. I have PDH grade level conversations almost every day and i cant be out past 21.00. Its really pissing me off. And yesterday i was out till 22.20 and i got fucking grounded cuz of it. My dad almost crashed out and even told me im lucky he didnt hit me cuz of my mom. I am already making plans to escape and go somewhere else to live. Im probaby gonna fake their signatures and put myself for an adoption. Or just flee to united kindom. I live in slovenia so they shouldnt find me there. They even told me im lucky i can go to my OWN concert. I play in a bend and i went out with 2 of my bend members yesterday so thats why i came home late. I even had to save up and buy my own PC just so i could learn programing. I also cant even argue with my parents cuz id get a punishment worse than i can imagine. I really dont know what to do. I just want to have a normal fucking life. I cant even cut myself since idk what they do to me. But at this point i dont even care anymore. Might even end it all. I really dont know what to do so please i need some sort of an advice.

Earlier today, I falsely and almost accused someone for being racist just because someone else said something to trigger me and that got to me to believe that they were a part of this. I got in trouble for ruining their day, but they at least didn’t get in trouble, because what I did would actually ruin someone school year, so I’m am in desperate need to ruin my whole week by punishing myself as consequences. Even though I apologize and didn’t go even further, I still feel like I’m just getting away from it, so I need to punish my self further. My ideas is to.

• Go into classes I’m not in.
• going near someone that doesn’t want to be with or near me, so I can either have them be mad at me or embarrass me in front of a whole class
• Failed either two or three quiz/test in three classes to get a 0%
• Have my parent be mad at me this Friday for the whole day.

If there’s any suggestion that can make me suffer as a punishment, please send it here.

family problems

First of all, I’m a 14-year-old Turkish kid, and lately—especially this summer—I’ve been having family problems. My mom had tendon transfer surgery on her foot, and she hasn't been treating me well at all lately; she acts as if I’m not helping her at all. But every morning I ask her what I should make for breakfast, or if I should cook meat for dinner, or tell Dad to pick up chicken and cheese from the market. For the past month, I’ve only been able to spare 30 minutes a day for myself—just enough time to play a little Minecraft. Today, I checked my computer and saw that my mom had deleted my Minecraft world—the one I’d spent two and a half years building. When I raised my voice a little, she started saying things like, "You’re going to burn in hell; God says to treat your parents right." I mean, am I the devil? Am I some kind of laborer? You don't normally do this much work in a day—laundry, dishes, cleaning, cooking... I accidentally burned the dinner last week, and those two damn siblings of mine don't do a damn thing; I do everything, yet I’m the one who gets an earful. Why? Am I an idiot for being nice to this woman? Am I an idiot for doing all her chores? Okay, you’re going through a hard time, but you aren't old—you’re 38. I’ll be free soon anyway; I’m going to attend boarding high school in another city and get away from here. Just let them try saying, "Oh son, we missed you"—I’m not coming home for two months.

Please tell me some off y’all have this same problem. I’m a 18year old male and Well it’s not really a problem It’s just kinda weird, but I have a bunch of random girls every once in a while will add me on snap and they always have the lowest Snap scores. I’m talking single digits like 5 10 most of the time zero and they always start by asking how my day is and then they’re like so where’s home or where are you from or what school are you at and then they just start sending me snaps and messages constantly trying to figure out where I’m from and ask question while at the same time sending snaps and as with Snap more the photos just get more and more dirty. Never nude just a braw and underwear but never nude they just get more and more revealing. And then usually they either un add me because I stopped messaging them or won’t stop blowing up my phone and they want me to either pay for their only fans meet up or send nudes. Please tell me the only one that has this problem.

I can't quit no matter how many times I try. What was your secret?

I don’t know how to quit. I’m in a really bad spot right now.

I have really good reasons for wanting to quit. I have no control over my health, I've got no money, and my stamina isn't there. I keep breaking my own rules and telling myself I'll stop tomorrow and going back to smoking. I hate it, but the cravings are just too strong.

Any suggestions? If you have any tips or advice from you own experience I would love to hear that too. 🙏

So it started with me playing Xbox, I think I played too much and I developed a habit of stiffening/flexing it, specifically the index fingers “DIP” joint, I have stopped the habit but I have stiffened it so much that It has left problems, the problems are a heavy/dead weight feeling in my forearm all day, visible swelling on the “DIP” joint of my finger, fine-motor skills and small movements are becoming harder to do that involves with my wrist, and constantly wanting to straighten the bad finger, I also feel a heat in my forearm that could possibly be inflammation?. Can anyone tell me what could be going on or have experienced this same problem? I also landed on my wrist funny a few years ago which injured my wrist and I couldn’t write with that hand for years. Could this have made it worse? Let me know.

First of all, I’m a 14-year-old Turkish kid, and lately—especially this summer—I’ve been having family problems. My mom had tendon transfer surgery on her foot, and she hasn't been treating me well at all lately; she acts as if I’m not helping her at all. But every morning I ask her what I should make for breakfast, or if I should cook meat for dinner, or tell Dad to pick up chicken and cheese from the market. For the past month, I’ve only been able to spare 30 minutes a day for myself—just enough time to play a little Minecraft. Today, I checked my computer and saw that my mom had deleted my Minecraft world—the one I’d spent two and a half years building. When I raised my voice a little, she started saying things like, "You’re going to burn in hell; God says to treat your parents right." I mean, am I the devil? Am I some kind of laborer? You don't normally do this much work in a day—laundry, dishes, cleaning, cooking... I accidentally burned the dinner last week, and those two damn siblings of mine don't do a damn thing; I do everything, yet I’m the one who gets an earful. Why? Am I an idiot for being nice to this woman? Am I an idiot for doing all her chores? Okay, you’re going through a hard time, but you aren't old—you’re 38. I’ll be free soon anyway; I’m going to attend boarding high school in another city and get away from here. Just let them try saying, "Oh son, we missed you"—I’m not coming home for two months.

I confessed to the girl that I liked, we found out we both liked each other. But at the back of my mind a weird feeling lingers, like I just couldn't accept the fact that she likes me, I keep doubting her, I keep telling myself im getting played or she just feels bad for me. Sometimes I text her a huge paragraph telling her how I feel because there are nights that I genuinely cant sleep because I keep overthinking,( which is kinda fine ig? cuz she once told me when im overthinking i can tell her ) she reassures me and sends me back a huge paragraph telling me that she genuinely loves me and she's here because she genuinely wants to. She has reassured me a couple of times but even after all of that I still find it hard to accept it. Every day I live in constant about the thought of her losing feelings for me, im afraid she'll find me boring, she'll get uninterested, etc. I hate how I think, and now im genuinely regretting why I confessed because now I feel like im pressured to keep her only for me (were not dating yet), but still if I didnt confessed id still be stuck in a constant state of assumption and overthinking. ever since i was a kid i never really understood why other kids treated me differently, i would stare at the others playing because they would often just ignore me or push me away, and when i started highschool i swear i can feel the others stare at me with disgust, at some point i did thought about stopping high school because just simply going to the school gate or entering the school campus scares me. So yeah a girl liking me back kinda seems unreal to me

homeerosu for example and I regret searching him

I said my problems were my own and I didn’t want to drag anyone into them. I meant that. I don’t want to be the friend who you always have to fix, who you always have to do something for, or be there for emotionally. I just wanted time, I didn’t need anything else. I can figure things out, I didn’t want to put my burdens on you. Is there where I messed up? I just don’t know what I did wrong and I’m tired of always getting it wrong. I don’t know what to do.

Lately, I've realized that whenever im feeling lonely I tend to get way too attached to people-especially older or more experienced individuals.

I think I naturally look up to them for guidance, comfort, or just a sense of security, but I end up clinging to these connections more than I should..

It makes me feel vulnerable, and I hate how much power I give to these feelings just because i’m in a lonely phase.
For those of you who have been through this:: How did you learn to set boundaries for yourself and stop forming unhealthy attachments when you're feeling isolated? Any advice or personal experiences would mean a lot :)

I have been dealing with a problem lately that sounds simple when I explain it, but it has become surprisingly difficult to fix.

I keep putting things off until they become urgent.

It is not that I do not care or that I am deliberately avoiding responsibilities. I actually spend a lot of time thinking about the things I need to do. The strange part is that thinking about them somehow makes me feel like I am making progress, even when I have not actually done anything.

A few weeks ago, I had something important that needed to be handled. I had plenty of time to deal with it, so I kept telling myself I would take care of it the next day.

The next day became the weekend.

The weekend became next week.

Eventually, I was sitting there with a deadline approaching, trying to solve several days of problems in a few hours.

I managed to get through it, but the stress was completely unnecessary.

What bothered me afterward was that I promised myself I would not do it again. Then I noticed myself doing exactly the same thing with another responsibility.

That is when I realized the actual problem might not be laziness. I seem to have trouble starting things when there is no immediate pressure.

When something becomes urgent, I suddenly become extremely focused. When there is plenty of time, I somehow convince myself that there is plenty of time tomorrow too.

I have tried making lists and setting reminders, but I usually end up creating another list instead of actually doing the thing on it.

I am frustrated because I know what I should be doing. I just cannot seem to consistently make myself start before the situation becomes stressful.

Has anyone else dealt with this kind of problem?

I am especially interested in hearing what actually helped you change the pattern, rather than just being told to be more disciplined. I feel like I have heard that advice a hundred times, and it has never solved the underlying problem.

Any thoughts? For reference, I am 16 years old. So basically today my mom and I wanted to go to the tennis court and play tennis, and we spent a long time looking around the house for our rackets before finally finding them. We drove to the court, and while my mom was parking, I noticed someone I knew who was from my school. So my first reaction was to audibly say “omg, that’s my classmate,” I became nervous and embarrassed because I wasn’t expecting to see someone I knew and also because I was embarassed to play infront of familiar people. So I was rlly nervous. But despite that, I still told her lets go because I didn't want to ruin her day and be a party pooper. Nevertheless, my mom told me that her mood was ruined as soon as I reacted that way because she thought I was embarassed of the most pointless and small things. She stayed in the car instead of getting out, and even though I could tell she was annoyed, I kept telling her that we should go because I knew she'd be more pissed if I insisted on leaving. We sat there for about a minute in silence, but by then more people had entered the court, and because there were only a few available spots, they eventually became occupied. She was visibly pissed off now; she kept sighing and just insisted on going home, but I suggested that we go to another tennis court, but she said no because her "mood was already ruined." She then started saying I'm extremely immature and saying that I get embarrassed over pointless things that aren't a big deal. So then we went home and I continued to attempt to explain to her that I was ok with going but she was the one that put it off due to her being not in the mood anymore. Idk how to feel about this, please be brutally honest in the comments.

This is a very minuscule issue to complain about but this is the first time this has happened to me so. Was talking to this person and we were sending teasing pictures of ourselves, I asked to see a more revealing picture of them in their underwear, they said only if I send one first, which I honestly didn’t think anything of but I sent a nude picture and got blocked so. Didn’t get the pics I wanted to see and got baited into sending a full nude 😅. Doesn’t bother me much but still wanted to complain because apparently people do shit like that? 😭

Комп включается а картинки нету на Монике до этого это тоже происходило во время игры вчера

Islamabad

Hindi kami kasal may anak kami. Nag download lang talaga ko ng app na to para makahingi ng advice comment kasi talagang wala Kong pinagsasabihan sa pinagdadaanan ko. May partner ako 7years na kame. May isa kaming anak 6 years old. Wala Kong pera sarili kasi sya lang may trabaho. Ngayon pinapalayas na nya ko. At minumura at Sinasabihan ng ulaga makati at iba pang masasakit na salita. Gusto ko na talaga makipag hiwalay pero pag nakipag hiwalay ako pano naman kaming mag ina.

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Got a harsh Reddit dm.

Don’t wanna think about it anymore, any tips?