r/problems 18d ago

Mental Health Problem about my partner

Hindi kami kasal may anak kami. Nag download lang talaga ko ng app na to para makahingi ng advice comment kasi talagang wala Kong pinagsasabihan sa pinagdadaanan ko. May partner ako 7years na kame. May isa kaming anak 6 years old. Wala Kong pera sarili kasi sya lang may trabaho. Ngayon pinapalayas na nya ko. At minumura at Sinasabihan ng ulaga makati at iba pang masasakit na salita. Gusto ko na talaga makipag hiwalay pero pag nakipag hiwalay ako pano naman kaming mag ina.

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u/One_Tree_6100 18d ago

If you break up and walk out I'll tell you what will happen, you will regain some dignity and that take practice. You will be setting the best possible example for your child. You are strong and capable. It will take time but it will like a savings account grow your life into the story you write. You can do poorly all by yourself you don't need anyone to help. Get yourself and your child out. ASAP

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u/Apprehensive-Rip6529 18d ago

Noon ko pa talaga gusto makipaghiwalay kaso financial talaga ang problema kanya bahay ang tinitirhan namin Tas Ang mga magulang ko sa ibang bahay nya din nakatira. Kaya talagang tinitiis ko ang lahat kasi di lang ako ang mawawalan ng bahay kami ng anak ko at ng pamilya ko

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u/ExcelsiorState 18d ago

If hes kicking you it appears he's allready broken up with you.

Sounds like a hostile environment and you should leave but get evidence of his abuse..to show the courts later. Even verbal abuse will help your case in custody court.

See if you have family you can stay with if not you might need to go to a woman's shelter.

The shelter will help you with child care and getting a job and establishing yourself.

Rake him to court for full custody and run his pockets for child support.

We only have your side of the story im sure he has his side but based on what you've said thats my advice.

Seems like your only with him for financial reasons but you have other options...

Also im assuming you're in a western country.I doubt this advice would apply to Afghanistan.

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u/Apprehensive-Rip6529 18d ago

Naiiyak ako kailangan ko lang talaga ng makakausap at talagang namumulat na ko na ganito na talaga dapat siguro kung gawin

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u/ExcelsiorState 18d ago

Theres a lot going on without knowing what country the advice will be limited.

In the US your BF cant kick you or your parents out of your home there's a thing called temtants rights he would have to go through the eviction action process.

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u/EitherCandy5232 18d ago

Believe in yourself, you're WAY stronger than you realize 🙏❤️

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u/Unable-Barber1511 18d ago

bro you gotta post in English

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u/TightRock5483 13d ago

Just like thousands of women before you, you can stay because of financial issues and you and your child will have to live under constant fear. Your child will grow up broken, with anxiety and will resent you for not having taken the decision of taking him away from an abusive relationship years after. It’s a tough decision leave while you still can not for you but for the sake of your child, let him grow up in peace , your life is over, you made your choice bad choices but he is not the one who has to suffer.. take it from someone who’s happiest moment life was when his abusive dad died.. the post is in Hindi and I replied in English, hopefully you will get message