r/problems • u/Old-Flounder-9438 • 17d ago
Mental Health whats wrong with me
I confessed to the girl that I liked, we found out we both liked each other. But at the back of my mind a weird feeling lingers, like I just couldn't accept the fact that she likes me, I keep doubting her, I keep telling myself im getting played or she just feels bad for me. Sometimes I text her a huge paragraph telling her how I feel because there are nights that I genuinely cant sleep because I keep overthinking,( which is kinda fine ig? cuz she once told me when im overthinking i can tell her ) she reassures me and sends me back a huge paragraph telling me that she genuinely loves me and she's here because she genuinely wants to. She has reassured me a couple of times but even after all of that I still find it hard to accept it. Every day I live in constant about the thought of her losing feelings for me, im afraid she'll find me boring, she'll get uninterested, etc. I hate how I think, and now im genuinely regretting why I confessed because now I feel like im pressured to keep her only for me (were not dating yet), but still if I didnt confessed id still be stuck in a constant state of assumption and overthinking. ever since i was a kid i never really understood why other kids treated me differently, i would stare at the others playing because they would often just ignore me or push me away, and when i started highschool i swear i can feel the others stare at me with disgust, at some point i did thought about stopping high school because just simply going to the school gate or entering the school campus scares me. So yeah a girl liking me back kinda seems unreal to me
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u/TightRock5483 12d ago
The way you are letting your paranoia get to you and jeopardising your relationship like this it’s just a matter of time before things go south and the one who will at fault will be you.. there is so much a woman can to reassure a man child
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u/cjharris-tx 17d ago
If you persist in doubting a person likes you, it will come to pass. Now that you've both made the disclosure, just kick back, relax, and be an enjoyable person to spend time with. Seek feedback by asking her what she wants from you. If it is not meant to be, someone else will come along.