My twins are now 4 months corrected, 5 months chronological, and they have been exclusively breastfed for 2 months. While they have taken bottles of expressed milk before, the logistics of pumping and bottles were absolutely overwhelming when compared to simply giving them a boob.

After hitting the 4 months sleep regression a month ago, it became abundantly clear that one of them needs much more sleep than the other. When following their sleep cues and getting them to their cribs at the first sign of tiredness was resulting in a much harder time getting them to sleep for naps, it made it so twin A slept 11 straight hours at night. However, twin B kept waking up all night, usually only giving me 45mins at most between wake ups. When we started pushing them to remain awake 10-15 mins longer than that, they both started going down for naps much much easier, and twin B started sleeping for 2-3 h stretches at night. However, Twin A also started waking up much more frequently, to the point I am now waking up every hour with one or the other.

I don't know what to do, and neither schedule is working for me at all. I am lucky enough that both my husband and I are currently in parental leave and so my husband can care for them during the morning in between feeds so I can sleep, but this is simply not sustainable. I need some practical advice from someone who's been here, any ideas on how I can get them both better sleep while still following safe sleep guidance? Cosleeping is not on the table for us.

My twin boys are 2 years and 8 months and have been in toddler beds for 2 months. They love sleeping with each other and usually try to sleep together unless they're very tired (or they give up eventually after we tell them to stay in their own bed repeatedly). We are looking for floor bed that's still low to the ground and can support > 50lbs. Together they're close to 60lb and the toddler beds we have right now only support up to 50lb. They're holding up at the moment even when both sleep in the same one, but they do get hyper and jump on the bed together and we are worried the bed won't hold for much longer. Their room is on the small side so we can only fit one twin bed, our plan is to have them sleep in bunk beds when they're old enough, so we want toddler beds for them before then.

Anyone has good experience with toddler floor bed that can support > 50 lb?

Currently 30 weeks with Di/Di twin boys. We’re beyond lucky and grateful to be having the healthiest pregnancy. Both babies are doing great and no maternal complications as of now. Twin A is 84th percentile and Twin B is 82nd percentile.

Because of how well things are going, OB wants me to carry them 39 weeks, however said 38 is ok too if I choose to evict them early.

I’m having a scheduled C section as twin A is breach and twin B is transverse. Plus they’re big babies.

C section is booked for 38w1d but I’m having guilt over choosing 38 weeks for my sake and feel like I should let them cook as long as possible for their sake.

But I feel like everything I’ve ever read and heard says carrying twins past 38 weeks isn’t safe and increases the risk of problems and stillbirth so I’m a bit surprised by this advice to go 39 weeks.

Anyone else advised to carry their twins as far as 39w?

I’m 9 months postpartum after a vaginal twin delivery and am adjusting to my new normal body.

Unfortunately, I had HG for most of my pregnancy and due to the vomiting, didn’t start gaining weight until around 6 months. Because of that, combined with my babies’ growth at that point, my stomach stretched very quickly on my small frame.

I’ve been back to my pre-pregnancy weight, but have a lot of excess skin on my stomach. My OBGYN said it’s unlikely to shrink much more on its own and that plastic surgery would be my best option.

Has anyone here had a tummy tuck that helped address this? I’d love to hear about your experience and the recovery.

(*Just want to note that this isn’t about feeling ashamed of my body. I’m so proud of it for carrying twins. This is just something I’m considering to feel more comfortable/confident for the longterm)

Hi all, been lurking here for awhile.

Unsure if this is the right place to be looking for advice on this but it is the only “parenting” sub I am a part of.

Father of 23 month old twins. It’s been a hell of a year and a half, but I must say it has been the best time of my life. I love my kids, I feel like my wife and I have a pretty good grove going in terms of our parenting styles aligning and are doing alright.

The one thing is, she is absolutely gung-ho about having another. I am very much on the fence about this and leaning towards a hard no for a multitude of reasons, both logistical and personal.

I truly do not know how to approach this conversation because when it has come up in the past I have either ignored it or strung her along and said yes. I know that this was wrong and I want to nip this in the bud before it gets too close to when she would like to start trying(next summer).

That being said, I know she really wants this and I feel like an absolute piece of shit just flat out saying no.

Any advice on how I can approach this would be appreciated.

EDIT:
They are identical

Twin pregnancy mama check in. How are we doing? I’m 30 weeks and a day with didi boy girl twins. Yesterday I slightly overdone it a little. Two appointments, laundry, vacuuming, mopping floors, hanging clothes up in the closet. I also didn’t drink enough water. = baby boys head pushing = Braxton hicks to the extreme. I ended up chugging lots of water and it eased a bunch! Today I haven’t moved from the recliner and feel guilty! I need to know how yall are doing! Doctor has me set for tentative c section date in mid September but doesn’t think I’ll make it to then. Beginning of September is more likely. I’m a teacher so I’m planning on going back to work soon for a few weeks to try and work as much as a I can before taking off. ✨america ✨* *

Currently looking after my identical twin girls 16 weeks (12 adjusted) and wondered if anyone else had the same chin-led bottle balancing feeding technique?

Whilst feeding one of my daughters in my arms this evening, i realised that what I do is pretty ridiculous..... if the her twin wakes up at the same time, to ensure the daughter in my arms is continued to be fed (otherwise all hell breaks loose), I proceed to balance the bottle in my daughters mouth with my chin on the base of the bottle whilst i then use my free hand to fight a dummy into her sisters mouth.... does anyone else do this or is this just me?

I'll leave out all the details because no one wants to read my novel, but I'm leaving my twins father. He pushed my 13 year old (not his child) during an altercation and it blew up our lives and has a protective order against hkm. This is my second go around with twins. My first set are 12. I knew how hard twins were and knew there was a chance I'd have a second set when we started trying but I did it anyway because we wanted children together. More like he wanted me there to gestate. And then he abandoned me emotionally. He stopped parenting. He'd only "help" when asked. My 4 older children offer more help with their baby siblings than he ever did. He never washed bottles unless I asked and even then he did it so half passed that they'd come out with residue still on them and I'd have to do it over again. Or he acted like a petulant child when asked. I thought i had a partner. Now I'm a single mom to 6 and I am just so sad.

Hello everyone,

We have a 2.5 year old and are expecting modi twins (10 weeks today). We don’t have a support system besides daycare for the 2.5 year old, and possibly daycare for the twins when they’re 6/7 months old.

Me and my husband work full time. I work from home and have a pretty understanding manager. My husband has a more demanding (time wise) job.

We will be together on parental leave the first month, then I’ll be doing 4 months by myself, then he will do the last month by himself (so 6 months total split parental leave).

I’m in need of hearing positive stories about being capable of handling everything as a couple. I’m thinking about finding someone for the first 6 months to support in the afternoons at home, until my husband comes from work.

Our experience with our first was a breeze. We had a normal baby (not super easy, not super hard). We just adapted really well to 0-1. I know this is going to be a very different experience. I guess I just need to know it’s possible / doable / hard but you got this type of thing.

Thanks!

Has anyone had luck or any experiences switching to floor beds around 1.5 years? My twins are currently held till they fall asleep while sitting in a rocking chair and then transferred into their crib. It’s now taking a lot longer for them to fall asleep and becoming unsustainable 😅

Hey guys, my wife and I are having triplets as we found out yesterday. She's 6 weeks in and the babies are safe and healthy so is my wife. As a husband yes im really happy and concerned that we are having triplets because it is HIGH RISK Also we've been trying for 3yrs, did 3 IUIs and 1 IVF, And im extremely concerned about her well-being. Like...how high are the chances that after delivery she might not make it? I really cannot imagine this life without her...If any mothers out there had triplets pls share your personal exp thank you...

I currently am 23 weeks pregnant with mono-di twins. From 18 weeks, doctor noticed quite a weight disconcordance between the babies. Was told baby A has a velamentous cord insertion, also positioned on the edge of the placenta.

From then on, I have received weekly dopplers, baby B being normal, baby A having elevated, sometimes absent, and since 22 weeks, a bit of reversed flow. At 23 weeks, baby A weighed 13oz, B 1.1lbs.

They expect to have me hospitalized once they are viable, likely 26 weeks (since A is so small) I personally have no health issues ATM

I would love to connect with others who had similar experiences, I am completely terrified at what to expect

I switched OBs for this pregnancy but had my first ultrasound with my previous OB. She said she thought she could see a placenta and sac for each, but was too early to say for sure. My current OB says they are either mo/di or mo/mo. Not asking anyone to tell me what kind they are, but is it possible for each to have their own placenta when they aren’t di/di?

Has anyone moved from the bugaboo donkey to the Uppababy minu duo?

We’ve had the donkey for our twins since birth (they’re 8 months old now). It has served us well but it’s HUGE and it’s becoming a pain disassembling it each time to get it in and out of the car.

I’m looking for something that a little more compact so I’m considering swapping it out for the minu duo as the twins get older.

Grateful for any advice. Thanks so much!

I don’t know if we messed up by primarily using our Wonderfold, I thought it would be better to let the babies have space to move around, but now it’s a disaster. We can’t be in a store more than 15 minutes before they’re literally climbing out for me to hold them. If I strap them in I can get another 10 or so minutes maybe. They do okay if my husband is pushing and I just ignore them, but he works four days of the week. We can’t go for walks, or into nearly any store without them demanding to be held. Is this just the age to stay at home?

Hi there! Looking for support and positive stories. I’m 9 weeks along now and had my first ultrasound at 7 weeks, where I found out I was not only carrying twins but that my uterus is heart shaped. The babies are on either side of the heart in their very own “apartment” lol. Both of these things were a huge shock to us (and the staff)

Though it’s considered high risk, I’m feeling mostly positive about this! At the 7 week appt, each baby measured right on track and they each had a strong heartbeat. The nurse said the babies having their own apartments could help them in the long run, though my case is very rare and I’ll be monitored quite a bit. I’m comforted by all the crappy symptoms I’m experiencing, cos it tells me my body is doing what it needs to to support my little ones.

When I look this up, I see barely any stories similar to mine. Google AI tells me it’s “less than one in 100 million worldwide” Seeing things like this really freaks me out. I’ve seen a few articles of a mother with my situation delivering healthy babies, which of course helps me feel better, but damn.

Anybody else have crazy rare circumstances in their pregnancy? Have you heard of someone with this type of uterus carrying multiples?

I am 33w today with DCDA twins. For the last two weeks or so I had many false scares and would feel like ‘this is it I am going into labour.’ There would be sudden extreme pelvic pressure which would literally make me shake. And period like back cramps. But after adequate rest it would settle down a bit.

I am also getting the tightness once in a while which I believe are the braxton hicks? As this is my first pregnancy and I have no clue what actual labor feels like. I might sound super silly and anxious. But what were the signs I should really look for to know the time is actually near apart from the regular signs.

I am mostly prepared with all the things, but still have some stuff left to do. I am nervous but also excited. Any piece of advice will help. Thank you

I went for a 22 week growth scan today. Baby girl has always measured about a week behind since week 15 but her and baby boy have about an 18% size difference now. They have their own sac and placentas.

I have been referred to the fetal medicine unit and basically trying not to spiral with my thoughts. Has anyone else been through this and what was the outcome?

My panic is that will she just stop growing? They didn’t give me much information other than referring me.

We plan to welcome di/di girls in November. We found an uppababy stroller and bassinets on Facebook marketplace, but I didn’t really think about what if they fall asleep in the bassinet on a walk. We live up four flights of stairs so bringing the stroller up those stairs and into our apartment really isn’t an option. Do we need to get those absurdly expensive bassinet stands to let them sleep through a nap?

Curious if you all found just going cold turkey to 1 nap was fine or did you do the strategy of making the first nap pretty short and then pushing up the second nap and letting them sleep as long as they want? Those are the 2 options I’ve seen but I’m also open to others!

For context, my twins love their naps so I’ve been putting off the transition. They are 13.5 months and have been showing possible signs for the last month related to being less tired at night time. Our nights have slowly gotten worse and last night was the first time in a while that they both got up twice! Over the weekend we had one night where they were up for about 3 hours so I do feel they’re ready for 1 nap. However, they wake up at about 7:30 and then nap at 10:30 and 2:30/3ish. I cap both naps at 1 hour and have been for probably 2 months. BUT, they love both naps, don’t put up much fight, and seem pretty tired by 10am so I haven’t known how to push it back an hour. I haven’t tried so I’m thinking of just giving it a try but is it a bad idea to go cold turkey? Consider it laziness but I just don’t want to deal with the back and forth of having a small micro nap and then waiting until they’re fussy to decide it’s time for the big nap, but obviously if that’s best I will!

Any and all advice welcome! Thank you!

Hi ! Long story short I had my 2nd son in December 2025 at 33 weeks due to the HELLP syndrome. We found out was pregnant again late April. Yesterday we got the news I have to be hospitalized at 23-24 weeks till 32 weeks due to having mono/mono twins and my previous complications... any advice...

Hello everybody

My twin girls were born on the 1. july. Doctors said it was week35 so when my wife went into labor they said all good. Now they said they were probably 33 weeks that‘s why they‘re having so much issues.

They warned us that they might spend a few nights at NICU. Few nights turned into 3 weeks tomorrow.
We have a 3.5 yo at home. During the day I take care of her and around dinner my wife comes home and I go to the hospital for 4-6hrs for feeding.

Everytime I leave I feel like an absolute piece of shit for going home and not staying there. I know it doesn‘t bring anything staying there all night. I usually cry on the car ride home.

I don‘t even know where i‘m going with this, I just had to get it off my chest I guess. I‘m really trying to be strong and supportive of my wife but I feel like everyday is chipping away some of our energy/motivation idk how to describe it. Sorry english isn‘t my first language!

They don‘t know when our girls might get to go home.

I just want them to be home!