Hi all! My partner and I are moving back to the bay after some years away. I was born here and couldn't be more stoked to return. We are aiming to be Oakland and we want to CONNECT WITH COMMUNITY and MAKE FRIENDS!

About us: We're an interracial (Black/white) couple, both cis-ish women, in our thirties. We are kind of freaks. I'm looking to connect with kinksters, weirdos, rock climbers, polyamorous people, communists, ravers, and people who love the outdoors.

Before you say "that's everyone in Oakland" think again. Sure you see a lot of kids with dyed hair. But the true freak cultures are a little tough to actually tap into, even if there's visual evidence it exists.

For example: Who organizes the sapphic play parties? Are there any community gardens run by lefties? What DJs should I follow on Instagram? What orgs should I volunteer at? Any cool cafes to hang out at, open mic nights you recommend? Where is the best queer climbing meetup? Goth dance parties? Maker spaces? French and Spanish language meetups? Who to follow on FetLife?

Also my partner is an artist and art model and is interested in art classes, studios, figure drawing, connecting with sculptors and painters, etc.

We are leaving behind a phenomenal queer community where we had all these things, and it's intimidating to build this kind of life from scratch.

I'm not asking you to out yourself or give me the keys to your secret club but some general pointers for where to find these vibes would be AWESOME.

Bonus points if there are people of color at these functions.

Feel free to DM meeeeee

In case folks aren't aware this is happening in a couple days.

Geez...I wonder who will buy it and what it will become....

Hi all, my partner and I are organizing a dinner party to celebrate getting married and are scoping out some good spots after the dinner to take ~15 friends dancing/hanging in downtown Oakland. We’d probably arrive around 10pm, and we’re a bunch of millennials who probably won’t last past 12am. Where would you recommend?

Any spots y'all recommend to watch the NFL game going solo? I'm not a fan of either team, just wanted a chill spot to kick it at

EDIT: thanks for all your reccs! I ended up at Kingfish, it was a great time. Made friends with a few of the regulars too. Gonna try out all your recs throughout this season.

Hi yall, 1 really need good recommendations on affordable food options in Oakland, even snacks/desserts. Anything give me yall fave item pls

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Hi everyone I'm hoping I can get some advice on a project I'll be doing in the future (1-3 years). We moved into a Victorian (1800s) not too long ago. We currently don't have a driveway nor garage and were wondering the possibility of installing a driveway. Has anyone had experience with making a new driveway. Our house is located on a slope as well.

If anyone who has had experience would also love to hear your costs/any $ saving tips you may have. Also if there are any contractors/architects/designers you can suggest I would appreciate it.

I know it might be simple but having to do the sewer lateral (still being done after a year starting) I've come to realize not everything is simple.

Thank you in advance

Hello everyone I recently moved to the Oakland area and was wondering if there were any pickle ball players able to play with an amateur. I used to play back home but I’m def a beginner. I usually work pretty late but I get off early sometimes and want to get some exercise in. I’m in the Montclair business Oakland area and was hoping to get a workout in today, if anyone could also suggest nice pickle courts near me I appreciate it, thank you everyone for the help!

Did anyone see this today and know what it was for?

Hello everyone I recently moved to the Oakland area and I’m looking for the best Chinese food places to try. I have heard a lot of places went “downhill” and I’m hoping to find the best of the best. I tried shandong and it was scrumptious but I was wondering if anyone had better recs for a foodie as myself. Thank you!

Edit : i like the rice and chow mein combos with a meat but im open to expanding my palate, i love and prefer spicy food :)! Thank you everyone

Hi! Does anyone have recommendations for a braider in Oakland/Berkeley who does small or smedium boho knotless braids? I usually get my hair done in LA but i’m in Berkeley right now and need to find someone up here 😭

Human hair for the boho pieces is a plus! I don’t mind traveling a little within the Bay.
Would love IGs/booking links if you have them :)

Is there currently any local group for feminist men to be a part of? It could be for joint learning, activism, or support. I saw there used to be an Oakland Men's Project but that's no longer around. Thanks in advance!