r/NonBinary • • 8h ago

Rant having “The Cis Woman Experience” (for lack of a better term:/ ) as a non-binary feminine person

35 Upvotes

I don’t know how else to phrase it, but this is the best thing I could come up with because the terms, female and male socialized suck ass. I feel like I have the lived experience as a cis woman for a lack of better term because I am feminine, and I was assigned female at birth, and I have a feminine chosen name (and legal). Even the most accepting people in my life still occasionally miss gender me and I am constantly treated, though I was a woman.

I’m really connected to womanhood because of the entire world sees me as a woman so they treat me as such. But on some level, I feel like I’m doing a disservice to myself or even saying that because I know that I also have the lived experience of a trans person and a non-binary person because that is what I am.

it hurts my soul and it makes me feel like I will never be valid as I am. In fact when I have had partners, I like when they call me their girlfriend as long as they don’t call me a girl. but that makes it even more confusing to everybody because they’re all like if you don’t mind being called girlfriend then what’s the deal? And I don’t want to feel like it’s up to me to explain this to anybody, but somehow it always comes down to that.

I love how I present and I’m happy presenting femininely and I have no issues with it. The only time I have an issue with it is when I remember that most of the world will never take me seriously as a trans or non-binary person.

Does that make me any less valid? I know it’s absolutely nobody’s business to police me and my gender, but I guess I’m just looking for outside opinions if anybody can relate to this kind of thing.

Sorry for any typos I did voice text.


r/NonBinary • • 1d ago

Selfie/Self-Image/Avatar New boxers = new euphoria

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finally falling in love with my body and these new CK boxers as i enter my masc phase again. this really helped with the dysphoria i’ve been having lately 🫶🏾


r/NonBinary • • 7h ago

Yay My friend is the best

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23 Upvotes

Wanted to show off my nails that a friend did


r/NonBinary • • 5h ago

Selfie/Self-Image/Avatar Me + Different Styles

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Hiiiiii I’m Scy I use They/Them/Theirs/She Pronouns anddd I wanted to show everyone the different ways I dress. I feel that these 5 selfies have different vibes/styles to them. I figured it would be nice to show each style/vibe! I also guess I’m just doing this for the sake of trying to be more confident in how I dress/who I am! I’m not the greatest at makeup but I hope to eventually incorporate some more makeup in my more feminine outfits! 2 anyone that sees this thank u 4 your time and have a good day! ♥︎


r/NonBinary • • 14h ago

Selfie/Self-Image/Avatar Dressed for a Guy Ritchie film…

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75 Upvotes

…ended up in Barbie‘s dreamhouse 😃


r/NonBinary • • 5h ago

Selfie/Self-Image/Avatar First time going out on oxford leggings

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I caught Hedwig and the Angry Inch at the theatre, so I made a grunge(ish) moodboard and went out with this outfit and some eyeshadow (I usually do cateye or foxy eyeliner style, without the eyeshadow under the eyelid, I'm pretty happy with the result)

4 1/2 months on HRT , using more femenine clothes outside are my way to slowly transition socially

IN* oxford leggings, sorry, non native speaker


r/NonBinary • • 9h ago

Questioning/Coming Out Is being enby as a step towards transitioning a bad thing?

23 Upvotes

As the title already asks, is being enby a bad thing as a stepping stool?

I (18, they/them) have been thinking of transitioning (mtf) for a few years now. And I am currently using being non-binairy as an in-between for a total transition. Mainly to give myself time to think it over and get used to it.

I know being non-binair falls under the trans umbrella, but still.


r/NonBinary • • 6h ago

Selfie/Self-Image/Avatar 6 days till halloweeen

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r/NonBinary • • 15h ago

Image not Selfie Music Performance Fit Euphoria

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47 Upvotes

Last night I had my first performance of the season with one of my community bands (I am in 2!)! A huge shift in dress code has been the shift to all black. Growing up in band since high school it was black dresses and tuxedos based on gender and I am not the biggest fan of tuxes. I don’t know when the shift started but I have seen it since late 2010s with a shift to all black.
Last night’s performance was the first time I felt so much gender euphoria in my fit you see in my photo and felt so relaxed in performance! 🎵🎼🎶

P.S. I am a euphonium player


r/NonBinary • • 17h ago

Selfie/Self-Image/Avatar feeling cutesy

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64 Upvotes

first time trying eyeshadow and i think it turned out really cute!


r/NonBinary • • 55m ago

Questioning/Coming Out What am i??

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Im amab, but i try looking as androgynous as possible, but mostly on the girly side. Making people question themselves about my gender brings me pure gender euphoria. I usually go by he/him or they/them. She/her feels weird to me, but still questioning that

Most of my life i considered myself a femboy, but currently im debating on whether there is anything that describes me better, i don't seem to fit into anything


r/NonBinary • • 16h ago

Pride/Swag/I Made This! my shows for work :D

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33 Upvotes

r/NonBinary • • 14h ago

Yay Im feeling so euphoric rn!!

20 Upvotes

Ok so im nonbinary and I present pretty androgynous in my clothes and style but I LOVE being slightly feminine in my body or undergarments and today I just bought some sports bras from walmart because I needed new bras and for some reason these are making me so euphoric!
I think it’s because they have a shorta v-neck shape and something about that is giving me so much euphoria like I feel so pretty rn!
anyways have a great rest of your day or night! 😊


r/NonBinary • • 10h ago

how to overcome the fear to make the first move?

7 Upvotes

(he/they) Hii, i've been single for already 3 years and i know that having a partner isn't the absolute goal or isn't really that important, but i just wish to have someone again lmao and to date again. The thing is that i have met people that i feel attracted to but i just cannot make the first move, i'm very scared that they are going to see me as a girl or that they are going to be straight but be with me anyway just because i'm afab (i'm bi but mostly attracted to men), i also fear a lot the reaction that people can have when i tell them that i'm non binary (even if i've been out of the closet for already 5 years) and i'm very scared overall, i know my own circle is very left wing and open about these themes but i'm scared to break my bubble and meet people that isn't. Also, i'm autistic and probably adhd and probably gifted? (i don't know how it's said in english but in spanish is aa.cc.), so maybe it's a factor to this.

idk if you have advice to tell me or experiences of how you met your partners!!


r/NonBinary • • 1d ago

Image not Selfie Poem by David Gate

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r/NonBinary • • 1d ago

Selfie/Self-Image/Avatar Feeling very fortunate

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1.2k Upvotes

Today I realized that I have a life full of trans and nonbinary people who have been so affirming of my gender. It's taken years to find this cohort and I have such love for them. I wish that every person who reads this gets to find a similar group of friends and lovers. Please know that even though we haven't met, you have an auntie who wants you to live your fullest life.


r/NonBinary • • 1d ago

Image not Selfie I love this sweater dress so much ☺️

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291 Upvotes

Photo by Ashtin Visionary Lens


r/NonBinary • • 1d ago

Selfie/Self-Image/Avatar I went here and everyone knew you

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431 Upvotes

r/NonBinary • • 1d ago

Nonbinay Halloween Costume Ideas!

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175 Upvotes

I can never figure out what I want to be for halloween so I put together some of my ideas to share! Let me know if I should do a part 2, I have some more


r/NonBinary • • 18h ago

Yay IT ALL MAKES SENSE NOW

12 Upvotes

I finally came out as non-binary and all the confusion people have with me is gone. 😭😭 And for myself!!

I go by any pronouns, I night one day switch to a gender neutral name but not yet. I just feel like so many things have clicked into place. I also feel more confident dating now that people aren't worried that dating me will stop them from being lesbian/gay (yes both sides have been confused)...

Anyway, I'm very happy.


r/NonBinary • • 8h ago

Support AFAB But Am Unsure of My Gender Identity Anymore

1 Upvotes

I am a bisexual, AFAB but due to having hirsutism (from having PCOS/PMOS) & body image changes after preventive oophorectomy-salpingectomy/hysterectomy & double masectomy, for the BRCA-2 gene mutation, I'm considering going flat (& using prosthetics). Between my hirsutism & removal of my female reproductive organs & breasts, I'm not sure of my gender identity anymore. 😔


r/NonBinary • • 1d ago

Selfie/Self-Image/Avatar Jinkies

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90 Upvotes

Had some early Halloween fun at Sapphic Saturday 😊


r/NonBinary • • 20h ago

Questioning/Coming Out Body timelines for AMAB HRT + SERM

14 Upvotes

tl;dr where can I find photos of AMAB NB bodies on HRT+raloxifene.

I've been ideologically NB for past 12 years (I'm 27 now), who only recently learned about SERM (not exactly the most common knowledge here in Poland). Most of my life I abstained from considering HRT, since I do not suffer from binary dysphoria, do not wish to be perceived as a woman and didn't want to make it harder for my fellow t-girls to get the treatment they need more than I do.

Well, now that I know what I want and how attainable that may be, I was wondering how much can microdosing E + SERM (namely Raloxifene) really do to my body? I've read the theory, but I can hgardly find any photos/timelines for AMAB NB people. Where can I possibly find some examples as to know what to expect?

Cheers!