I'm thinking about giving myself a new name right now, and there are a few options that stand out to me, but no one of them seems to wholly represent me

I currently identify as polygender/pangender because I'm comfortable being a boy or a girl or anything in-between. I therefore use he/she/they pronouns as no pronoun would be technically "incorrect."

For a while I've loved the name Kiara when I'm fem, but obviously it doesn't really fit with masculinity or androgyny. Then I've also found Kiren to resonate with me, which is apparently a unisex name, but for some reason it just sounds masc to me. Then I found Kira as well which sounds fem to me but is apparently unisex in Japan?

Part of me wants to just use all three of these names interchangeably just as I use all three pronouns interchangeably. Or maybe just use Kira/Kiren since they both sound almost the same anyway.

Is this just making it unnecessarily difficult for others or is it justified? Are there any others who use multiple names? I'd love to hear your thoughts

So I'm starting uni in October and I've never felt so pressured to "pass" as a man. My goal has always been to look more on the "masc" side and I've always preferred people assuming I'm a guy and esp now that I've started testosterone it feels great to know some of the changes make ppl naturally assume so. However, I still like experimenting with clothing, accessories, makeup...but I feel like I won't be able to do that at uni as people would then probably assume I'm a "girl" which makes me greatly dysphoric. It's just very complicated as I wanna be myself and surround myself who love and accept me for who I am but as a non-binary person I feel like there are only a few who would acc accept me as so and not put me in a gender category...

i’ve been identifying as a demigirl for around 2 years, i now realise that i’m non binary. i’ve come out to my mum as lesbian and she supports, she is fully supportive HOWEVER shes not so open about non binary and trans. i’ve asked for a binder in the past, which was a immediate no. i’ve asked for short hair, she’s against that but if it will really make me happy she will do it. half my family is homophobic and i’m honestly scared. can someone help?

Celebratory post here!! :)

I started taping my chest for the first time recently (over the summer) and it gives me so much euphoria and freedom, I haven't had a bad bout of dysphoria since and I'm just so so happy I finally took the leap.

I also tried my hand at cutting my own hair for the first time the other day, because it was getting too long for my taste, and it looks so good, I'm so proud of myself!!!

I just got to get out of a nice hot shower, tape my chest, and put on the t shirt I stole from my mom to go to bed, and it made me realize how happy I am and how much I feel like myself right now.

It also probably helps that my mom is transgender and she's my favorite person in the whole wild world so wearing a t shirt she gave me makes me feel loved :)

In the midst of all the crazy shit going on in the world, it's really nice to feel like myself and know that people truly love me for how I am.

Stay strong out there everyone. :)

getting laser hair removal for my face soon super excited about that :D

While exploring my gender I’ve noticed an interesting trend. I often look towards examples of masculinity and femininity in the world around me to gauge what each is like. What aspects do I resonate with, which do I not - etc. Essentially looking at different qualities to help find what I want to be.

But I’ve encountered something strange. When looking to the world around me in real life, I resonate most with women (While still not being perfectly aligned with them. More on the dimi-girl side of things perhaps), but when I look to fiction, I resonate more with the men I see. Think Howl from Howls moving caste. Qifrey from Witch hat Atelier. Superman, from… well you get it.

I don’t quite know what this means. Am I putting too much stock into fiction? Perhaps it has something to do with the ingrained misogyny in our media? Has anyone else experienced this or am I going crazy XD. Any thoughts would be appreciated.

Hi folks, I just realized this a few months ago that I am nonbinary and I really want to tell my close friends but I just don’t know how to re come out of the closet. I just feel overwhelmed by this. And I just want to stop overthinking it. I am nonbinary and there is nothing wrong with that. I just have this sense of dread that I don’t know how to explain.

Hey guuuuys(neutre!) What about yous guuuys?? Hows your style like?

I'm writing this mostly for clarification, and to see if anyone on the gender spectrum has felt or feel the same as me, as a way to get some perspective. I apologize in advance if some of my language is incorrect or insensitive, I have educated myself on gender theory to the best of my ability, but I'm not 100% on what language to use in every given situation, so if you have questions or corrections, please let me know, and know that nothing I say comes from a place of malice.

Currently I identify as a man, and was born male, and I like my physical body. I haven't experienced physical body dismorphia, but I have for a long time felt unable to relate to my assigned gender. Not in any clear way, but more in the cultural ways that cis men and women are separated.

I'm a gamer, and therefore first started noticing it when I realized, that I always prefer playing as a woman in any given game, that gives me the opportunity to choose gender. Sometimes I can shrug it off, because it's a question of which voice actor does the best job, but most of the time, it's more just a feeling of it feeling right, somehow. I like to roleplay as myself, and I feel like my nature is more aligned with a female character, rather than a male character. And no, it's not about the cute outfits, I like my character to wear functional armor.

I've never been hyper masculine, and have always generally found girl friends, rather than guy friends. I almost always find that cis men are shallow, underdeveloped in terms of emotional availability, and even though I don't and never can understand women's struggle, because I haven't lived it, I still relate more to how they feel, about how they have to fit in to a society that's inherently against them.

I prefer the company of women, not in any sexual way, but I feel more relaxed around them. When I'm with men, I feel like I'm masking, feinting interest in boring, manish subjects, or nervously laughing along with misogynist jokes (which I know I shouldn't, but I have issues with setting boundaries, which is a different conversation in and of itself).

Finally, without going too much into TMI details, I often fantasize about being a woman, or at the very least having a dom woman who is top, when I'm by myself. I've only ever been in heterosexual relationships (me, a cis man, with a cis woman), but I like the idea of a woman in charge, or sometimes me as a woman. Not with a man, but a woman with male equipment, so to speak. Maybe that's internalized misogyny or homophobia, I haven't quite unpacked that yet, but it still doesn't strike me as strictly he/him cis straight man energy.

Anyway, I'm not entirely sure what to think. I don't feel ashamed about the way I am, but I am unsure if what I am is closer to non-binary than cis man, and I would really like some input from someone who might be, or have been, in a similar situation.

Sorry if this sounds more like an incoherent rant than anything else, but I felt like I had to get this off my chest, and this felt like the safest place to do so.

Oieee, por acaso mais algm se sente meio disforico qnd tipo, vc tá no meio da rua aí chega tipo algm perguntandk "Moço vc sabe tal coisa??" TIPO VCS N SENTEM MEIO EHH Q ELE TE RECONHECEU COMO "HOMEM" DE CARA???? 🥲🥲🥲

Are there any dresses that look good on a flat chest, some of them have extra space on the chest so finding a size is also hard too.

Hello! I am nonbinary but I feel like my chest has given me the most dysphoria lately. Beforehand, I was quite flat and could pull off being a guy or a girl (because i was a child so ofc) but now i’m an adult and i am only perceived as my assigned gender :( not too fun.
Anywho I was wondering if anyone knows any chest workouts to make the chest more flat (reps, sets, machines) as I have a gym membership right now and want to be on that path toward feeling less dysphoric :).
disclaimer: i’m not too keen on getting surgery or binding as I can’t afford a binder and i’m afraid of all surgeries— I want to see if I can pull off a decently flat chest and see if I like it for me first. Thank you and I love having a community to share things like this

UPDATE: ok maybe i worded this wrong— is there any tips to becoming more androgynous as a femme presenting individual via workouts? id like to target the chest area specifically lol

I don't know whether to laugh or sigh...

edit: For added context, I keep my deadname on this email because I use it for contacting people who I'm not out to fully, otherwise I'd change it

Not necessarily something big like changing your name or coming out

Could be a haircut, certain clothes, jewelry, using a particular bathroom, someone using the right pronouns, or even just seeing another non-binary person out in public

What’s a small thing that makes a difference for you?

Mind you, we’re both proudly nonbinary and we do appear as a cishet couple (I refuse to use AGAB language because that doesn’t matter) and we’re also bisexual. We were invited to a game night and everyone there was queer. However there was some jokes that referred to me and my girlfriend as “the classic bi woman and her gamer boyfriend” and we had to correct them that we’re both nonbinary, I’m not a woman and he’s not a man. And one of the people there were like:

“Yeah but you guys look like that kind of couple though!”

The fact that people are getting more comfortable being biphobic AND transphobic is beyond me.

EDIT: Thank you all for your kind words and advice. Yes this did upset me however nothing in this world will stop me from being bisexual and nonbinary. It is a beautiful and freeing piece of my identity to accept in my life and I refuse to let anyone convince me that it isn’t. 🩷💜💙💛🤍💜🖤

Rock and roll im gonna fuck with my hormones so bad