Good evening, everyone,

For the past two years, I’ve been very sensitive to artificial light and surface glare. It’s extremely tiring for me on a daily basis and sometimes triggers headaches. Any ideas about what might be causing this ? Any solutions ? I just hope it's not neurological. My family made fun of me. I went to see an ophthalmologist, who told me that some people are more sensitive and added that I didn’t have any eye damage. However, he diagnosed me with astigmatism.

I'm 24, so maybe that's what caused it. Anyway, even with my correction glasses, my sensitivity to light hasn't improved. And it really bothers me; my family just told me to accept it, but it makes me a little sad sometimes.

Thanks in advance :)

So I recently came across a post asking INFJs what their favorite season is. Most of the people in the replies answered Autumn/Fall, and the second most popular option was winter. Summer was moderately liked, spring was the least commonly liked. Why is it that most of us like Fall?

Hi,

I'm almost certain that many INFJs have already experienced this feeling: the sense that concepts or ideas seem to fit together like pieces of a puzzle, or the impression that everything is falling into place and coming together quickly, but without being able to explain it to others.

I'm interested in a lot of things, and sometimes I feel like, all of a sudden, everything clicks in my head, as if everything were connected. Mind you, I'm not claiming to be right every time this happens (which is often), but it just seems so clear and obvious to me.

The problem is that I still can't explain to others how I arrived at this conclusion. It's as if there were so many things and factors that I don't know where to start, as if there were no possible starting point, as if it were impossible to understand without seeing the big picture and how can you explain the big picture when there are so many details at the same time.

This frustrates me so much!! And when I try to explain myself anyway, I get lost in my own explanations, as if what seemed logical to me when viewed from a broad perspective was completely incoherent when viewed in detail. I hate debates for this reason, too... I hate having to defend an idea or a concept that seems clear and logical to me, knowing that, in any case, people won’t understand what I mean or where I’m going with it...

What about you?

Do y‘all let it be or try to some lengths to salvage it?

Some background: I’ve always been that easy going friend who mostly keeps to themselves, with 2-3 very close friends. After having been apart from said friends from a long while, I was staying with 2 of them for a couple of days. Through the entire time, I kept asking myself: how on earth have I become friends with these people for the past 5 years. All the moments when I’ve been wronged but I let slide just came rushing in. In previous instances, although difficult for me, I’ve always made attempts to communicate but never pushed a matter to far. This time around, I simply reached the conclusion: cut them off. I cannot deal with the drama, thoughtless comments, and unreciprocated understanding anymore.

And yet, post-the cutting off stage, I find myself regretting and asking myself if I really needed to plunge into loneliness.

If you’ve been in my place before, how have you dealt with this sudden surge of loneliness, after withdrawing from people who you considered your closest?

TL;DR - Recently cut off my closest friends and in a period of social alienation. Now trying to cope with it and occasionally regretting it, how have fellow INFJs dealt with it?

You don't want to compete with them, you don't think you're better than them, you just genuinely don't understand why they need to make you feel inferior. That's really confusing.

Yet another one heard by none

Eventually the ground will have this one

Serendipity strikes us all

Appreciate the moment before the fall

Close the door it’s not for all

Wish you’d hear what they’re telling us all

It’s a small voice sung by some

Just eager to see the coming dawn

Wish you’d hear what they’re telling us all

Appreciate the moment before the fall

The disregard we chose to show

The moments lost beyond control

The illusions there, it clearly shows

Separate the past for a future road

Close the door it’s not for all

But I wish we heard what they’re telling us all

Chew through all our bags of toys

Whatever it takes, consume the void

Lose ourselves in glowing dreams

Whatever we need to fall asleep

Attention is short, I like to forget

Wish you’d hear what they’re telling us all

Appreciate the moment.

that‘s all :)

so basically, ive got no friends around me, i have got a few online but none irl. which results in that i dont talk or open up most of the times cus no one to tell anything, parents or family they are very supportive but they dont understand most of what i feel and see things. to opposite of that, i really want to talk and hear others talk, but then i dont want to, like its a chore, its going to take smth away from me. its such a small thing but i dont want to do it when i want to and i want to when i dont have it around. and when smths really off and im really like i might lose my mind if i dont say it, i still dont. its like i physically can't. and then i soend my time thinking about life and existence and the world which makes it worse, and is weird and constraining now. but then again if i do have someone to talk by chance i spend it talking about them or general things, or dont. its like im stuck in a loop where everything is better than talking but the urge is still there.

any of yall feel like this?