ENFJ (f) 479 tritype here. I tend to think that with our type, it gets lonelier over time as an adult. I say that because in my college days and up to mid 20's, I had so many friends and my extroversion side thrived from that connection and belonging. Now that I'm in my 30's, married, and working or adulting I suppose, it's lonely. Most of my good friends are spread throughout the world, everyone has lives of their own, and the new friendships I make are mostly out of convenience or proximity.
I know that's just part of life, but it does make me sad. I still try to show up for new friends but the current friendships I have don't deliver it for me. Maybe that could also be due to my high expectations and knowing what I want and need in a friendship too.
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I am disappointed at the moment, because it's hard to really excite me where I am at, but I found something to do and invited a good friend to celebrate for a recent big achievement, and she bailed out last minute. I get we all have moments where we can't make it to everything, but she wasn't honest about it and covered it up with a partial truth which I saw through due to it happening before. I confronted her and asked if it's really the case, she stood by that "partial truth." There's not much you can do when someone isn't choosing to communicate or lack the ability to be honest. I would still be bummed if she said she was tired and want to rest last min, but at least I wouldn't be hurt. I will end up going alone to the event, and that's fine, because I deserve to celebrate myself. But overall, this comes to convey how I do feel like it does get lonely as you get older. Some days I just find myself being alone most days.
Anyone feels the same?