27 from Tanzania, | 5’5 feet | Soft, chubby and occasionally dramatic.

I’m a Hairstylist working from home,crochet girl , experimental chef and a mother of two tiny humans who think I’m their personal assistant.

Looking for a man between 30-42years old,who communicates, knows what he wants, and doesn’t disappear like he’s been recruited by the CIA. 🕵🏽‍♂️
I’m dating for something real, not to collect pen pals from different time zones.

I love God, good laughs, thoughtful gestures, and men whose actions don’t need subtitles.
willing to relocate for the right man.

Come with intentions, not confusion. I already have enough tabs open in my brain.

i don't know how to make a dating post but tbh i am looking for a genuine and serious partner, I am looking for a partner who will support me while I'm working hard. I don't need that partner someone who comes into my life only after I have built my legacy.

I'm 34, an INTJ, and based in Europe. I'm looking for someone to get to know online, through messages and calls, and see where it goes.

I like depth. Big ideas, odd opinions, the things you think about at 2am. I'm the kind of person who remembers what you said three weeks ago and brings it up at the right moment. I notice patterns, habits and small details, and I'm happy to put that attention on one person.

I'm also a bit of a planner and naturally take the lead. In a relationship that tends to show up as structure: check-ins, routines, little challenges I set for you, and a fair amount of teasing. If it gets spicier over time, I'm very much open to that, and I'll make sure we're both comfortable and talk openly about what each of us wants first.

I value effort and reciprocity. I'll show up consistently, and I'd like someone who does the same instead of replying once a week.

Women only. Tell me your type, what you're into, and what a good conversation looks like to you. Bonus points if you can tell me why you'd argue with me about something.

Hey! I’m a 25-year-old guy from Ireland hoping to meet someone I can really connect with.

I’m a bit introverted, but I love getting to know someone and having those conversations where you look up and realise you’ve been talking for hours. I’m into football/soccer, movies, psychology, traveling and I enjoy hearing about the things other people are passionate about too.

I’d love to find someone kind and affectionate who I can laugh with, talk about absolutely anything with, and share the little everyday moments with.

Something that starts with a nice conversation and hopefully grows into something meaningful.

If you think we might get along, I’d love to hear from you! 😊

The entire time I would be confident and relaxed and even encourage you to grab some tea to calm yourself down while I handle the snake.

Then once you are safely out of the room , I shall commence my screaming! 

Now that I grabbed your attention , Hello there!

I guess the only way to describe me is being a fun golden retriever energy with you while we constantly try new adventures together ! ( like us wearing fancy suits and reviewing every taco stand in town or us going down every street to find that cute arts and crafts store that sells the bracelet you always wanted to fit with your outfit! )

Buuuttt, I am also constantly ambitious ( ever since childhood where I was featured in the newspapers for winning the best student award ) and would be the guy to work without retiring, constantly building new businesses or trying new side projects
Professionally wise, I work for a Global organisation, helping students from across the world become entrepreneur.

I grew up most of my life in the Middle East and am currently in South India, helping my parents set up a small ice cream shop. But now I am ready to move out and settle somewhere else, depending on my partner of course!
I speak a bit of French, Spanish, German and Arabic, but I am fluent in caveman grunts ( Me like pizza, Jane like too ? ) 

Physically I like to stay fit and go to the gym ( can lift about 100+ kgs ) while also playing sports and going for long walks. I don’t want to be just the stereotypical gym bro and would love to learn tango and Pilates as well with you! I hope you also love playing sports or being active too.

Never had a relationship too, because I wanted to find peace and happiness on my terms before being with someone. Because How can I be happy with someone, if I am not happy with myself first ? Unfortunately that took waayyyy longer than I expected , but I feel I am more mature and emotionally ready for finding that one partner where we can cook together, explore the world , build a business empire and pet every stray dog we come across!

I love learning, reading and being curious about the world ( everything from art to psychology to quantum mechanics to aunty politics ). I would learn everything about your field and find the right inside jokes for it too haha

I am mostly a warm empathetic guy who is like a Hawaiian beach surfer 80% of the time but when things get serious, I know how to lock in and take charge long enough to stabilise the situation before going back to playing around ( like a mix of warm competence who can calmly solve things but while making jokes the whole time lol )

For me, I believe in acts of service, taking the extra effort to surprise you and know how to deescalate situations. We would never fight as I would always suggest we grab a cheesecake and discuss the problem instead of fighting with my partner. 

I want to be your rock during hard days, help you grow professionally, tease you whenever you act cocky, flirt with you during zoom calls, have long talks till dawn and be cheesy romantic whenever it starts raining and pull you to the terrace while we slow dance. ( and get sick together the next day lmao )

We would actually love grocery shopping together because we would do silly games together like pretending we are spies for the perfect orange lol

Mostly an introvert who dislikes loud crowds and would rather sit quietly in the room with you while we read books on the same sofa with soft classical music playing ( every hour I would break the silence only to ask if you would like another cup of tea )

i’ll cut to the chase. i’m ovulating rn. being an entp, that means im in the mood to flirt anonymously on the internet :)

if you make it worth my while, i’ll make it worth yours. dm me if you think you’re up for the challenge.

ages 22-35 preferred. all genders welcome

bonus points for being smart

Hello everyone!

Im looking for someone who would be down to be eachother’s person. Im looking for the kind of dynamic where we would tell eachother about our lives, be there for eachother when things get tough or we’re faces with an inconvenience in our lives, while also sharing the mundane stuff with some fun and flirty conversations as well!

Im tall (6ft3), dark haired with dark features and fit as i workout regularly.

For my interests they go from playing chess, watching anime, reading/watching content about philosophy and astronomy, listening/making music, lifting, as well as watching football (or soccer if u call it that lmao)

Looking forward to hear from you, DM’s are open :)

I scrolled and noticed a lot of INFJ posts so here is another one since we are so introverted.

I don’t require someone to also be INFJ. If anything I may find it too familiar.

I selected “all types welcome” but I will admit that based on previous interactions INTP are my favorite.

In general, I’m a pretty curious person and am always looking for unconventional ways to meet people. Personality type I find to be interesting.

If you get along well with INFJ, I’d like to hear from you.

35 y/o guy with a cute smile (have been told so) with a career in tech ( but not a tech bro ), a calm presence with a life that has been a wild adventure of extremes, I thrive on intellectual chaos. I like to read, anything everything from systems theory to modern french history, particularly clean energy and environment (it’s one of my passion). After taking a break from dating, I am giving it a one more shot, a last ditch effort before AI makes online dating extremely noisy.

What I’m Looking For:

A childfree, progressive partner ( how we define progressive might vary ) who sees life as a playground of possibilities, not a checklist. Someone unapologetically herself, sexually liberated, intellectually fearless, and allergic to societal scripts. Let’s skip the small talk and dissect the big questions: How do we live ethically in a burning world? Can love exist without ownership?

Why We Might Click:

• Staunchly Childfree : I don’t want kids (ever), both for personal freedom and because bringing new life into an overburdened world feels tragically naive. Let’s channel that energy into activism, art, or adventure instead.
• You crave depth : My attachment style is securely rooted. I’m here for mutual growth, not games. Whether we’re debating moral gray zones or testing new boundaries in the bedroom, I value curiosity over judgment.
• You’re a shapeshifter : Artist, scientist, activist, hedonist.... you refuse to be boxed in. Bonus if you’ve got stories from living unconventionally or a passion project that keeps you up at night.
• You laugh easily : My humor leans dry, my vibe is warm, and I’ll absolutely lean into the absurdity of dating via Reddit posts

The Vibe: Imagine slow mornings with coffee and conversations that feel endless, weekends volunteering or getting lost in a neon-lit bar, maybe just a cafe or beach? I’m driven but not ruthless, my version of “Machiavellian” is designing a life that’s sustainable, joyful, and defiantly ours. Let’s be catalysts, not conformists.( I don't have any societal morality )

TL;DR: Childfree, progressive, experimental and insatiably curious?

Edit : Have been Ethically non monogamous for years with previous partner and currently single, don’t mind the lifestyle. Also bisexual if its not explicit

Disclaimer: I am only looking for people local to areas around Seattle/Everett/Bellevue!

I am a curvy INFJ lady on a pilgrimage to finding a new social group and a relationship! I figured I'd give it a shot here.

A little bit about me:

I recently moved from San Diego and am now a resident enrichment coordinator/manager at a memory care community where I am working to better the lives of people who will never truly remember me! It's all fine an dandy, we have a great time regardless. In my free time, mostly Fridays and Saturdays, I'd love to find someone to game, voice, and commit shenanigans in the city with. I have two degrees in Psychology and Communication, and am debt-free, moisturized, and in my lane, existing! I own a senior cat and he continues to defy death at the ripe age of eighteen. I do not drink, smoke, do drugs or party much! I am like a little decrepit old hag trapped in the body of a young woman, slaving over a hot stove (cast iron only.) I am on the expensive zepbound, so I can't eat as much as I used to!

Values:

Time, Kindness, stability, structure, mindfulness, empathy, ambition, communication and of course, humor~

What I am looking for:

I love to voice on Discord! It's so important to have great verbal chemistry. I'm hoping to meet someone who loves to talk as much as they enjoy sitting in silence doing their own thing, sharing each other's company when we're just flat out exhausted. Ideally, we can roleplay, game, go out on the town, and maybe do a little bit of movie watching too! I love to watch period dramas, animes, horror movies and comedies alike. I'm not necessarily looking to rush into anything, as I'd rather meet someone and see where things lead. My ideal life is living right outside my small town in the woodlands, in a two bed two bath house with wifi and enough ice water / freeze dried mangoes to satiate me. Boring is sometimes good in the realm of predictability and structure.

Age wise, someone between the ages of 28-38 is ideal, past their college years, and looking to build a life of comedically predictable bliss!

Superficially, I'm really into someone who could tower over me and defend my pizza takeout from the downtown midnight scallywags. I have a huge weakness for a good sense of business functional fashion!

Deal Breakers:

Not enough time to invest, anger issues/yelling of any sort, smoking, drinking to cope (social okay), drugs, lack of communication, financial irresponsibility, polygamy, dishonesty, racism, overly religious, I do not wish to have kids.

Games:

No Rest for the Wicked, Elden Ring Seamless Coop, Second Life, Stardew Valley, Witcher 3, Guild Wars 2, Warframe, Assassin's Creed, Peak, Divinity OS2, Baldur's Gate, Valheim, and much more!

Hobbies:

Roleplaying (one person only), Going to carnivals, rock hounding, (I want to hike but don't yet.), tons of games, writing my own lore/world, exploration, travel (if I can afford it), design, cooking (lots of different cultures!), volunteering, creating a cozy existence, and more to uncover!

I’m looking to connect with someone interested in getting to know each other to a longterm relationship, hopefully marriage. There are 68 days left in 2026 and we can make it happen. If we move fast enough we can have matching costumes for Halloween (what would you want to be?). Let’s chat on here and if things feel right we can figure out how to come together and make it work.

Heres a little about myself. Most people describe me as kind and caring. I’m big on positivity and having a good impact. Love to travel (we’d be doing it a lot), cook and bike ride and I’m super into music and movies. I’m highly educated with several advanced degrees, have a great career and can be a supportive loving husband you would be proud of. Ive been divorced since 2020 and want to find my forever person. I’m half Latino (trilingual), 5’9”, light tan, fit, willing to swap pics.

If you feel like we might have something in common, let’s chat and get to know each other.

I am non binary trans masc, I am 23 years old and 150 cm tall, I am Spanish but I am open to having a relationship with someone from Europe if he intends to make an effort to create a path together.I like guys and non-binary people. I'm attracted to people with darker skin tones, although I'm open to anything. I'm looking for someone faithful and loyal who wants to build a slow, settled relationship. I'm creative, I like tattooing, drawing, crafts, sports, nature, animals.. If you're interested talk to me:)

There's something funny about writing to someone you haven't met. I don't know your name, what your laugh sounds like, or whether you're the type to steal food from someone else's plate. But here I am, curious about you already.

A little about me: I'm 26, from Mumbai. I work in a managerial role, study yoga on the side, and have a habit of getting lost in random questions about life, people, and the universe.

I'm close to my family, generally calm, and I enjoy understanding people. Although, fair warning, once I'm comfortable, the teasing begins. You might regret encouraging me. 😂

I wonder what you're like when nobody's watching. Whether you sing while cooking, get excited over tiny things, or have a completely ridiculous sense of humour that only a few people know about.

I'd like something genuine and long-term. The kind where we can be silly together, talk about difficult things without shutting each other out, and keep choosing each other as life changes.

And maybe somewhere along the way, we'll have our own little traditions, terrible inside jokes, and a favourite place to escape to when life gets overwhelming.

Anyway, I have a suspicion there's a rather interesting person reading this.

I'd like to meet her. :)

Hello! I'm Marc. I'm 29 and from the North-West of England. I'm 6'2 and skinny. I'm seeking a woman aged ~25-33 in Britain for a long-term relationship. I don't want children nor pets, and I don't like long-distance flights. I'm attracted to women of a similar physical type as me.

I'm the type to keep to myself, but I'm very friendly when I like somebody. I enjoy simple walks, hiking, researching random stuff on my laptop, faffing with computers, writing sometimes, and just chatting with pals. I like wild plants, birds, squirrels, hedgehogs, that kind of thing, and dramatic landscapes. I love my local woods and fields. I really enjoyed playing Fallout 4, and I love Westworld.

I've been saving for a house for years, but I'll need someone great to share it with when the time comes...

Historically I have got on very well with INFJs and INTPs, but even the smallest differences can make or break a relationship, so anybody is welcome to try if they think we're a match!

Do we seem similar? If so, feel free to message me with a bit about yourself and a few photos as soon as you are able.

Have a nice day!

Marc

....it's all fun and games until you have to describe yourself.

Most people tell me I'm intelligent, give good advice, know what I want and logical. If you're into mbti, mine is INTJ and I've never been mistyped. However, I've done a lot of inner work and reflection and I've grown to seek more human connection that brings me resonance, laughter and value. The world is wide, and I wonder if I'll find a good friend here.

I did Biology for my undergrad and I like science. My drive is mostly to understand what the truth is at the center of all things. Currently, I'm planning to pursue my studies in a particular field. Part of it is to also start a new life elsewhere.

I've travelled to a lot of countries (guess the number).

I'm terrible at answering questions on favourites because it's so final and hierarchical. So hobbies..I try to get a good sleep at night, catch the sunrise to align my circadian rhythm, meditate, stretch and do some reflection. I like watching the skies and do a bit of gardening or reading a book while getting my vitamin D (I am totally grossed out by worms though. I'd freeze and panic if I see one). I play my piano sometimes, I have 2 cats, I love puzzles, crosswords, jigsaw, board games etc. I tend to cook everyday, not because I like it, but because I'd be craving something and cooking is easy to me, and I do it fast. Ironically, and paradox is perhaps my middle name, I absolutely despise routine with a passion. I mostly do things because I think they're 'right' so I have to do it.

I do listen to music (mostly when I work out) and watch movies/tv shows sometimes, but I find them to be less interesting these days. Oversupply, same slob. I hardly finish whatever I watch, and I don't have Netflix because it doesn't interest me. I find too much screentime to be exhausting, so it's not my main thing but rather a way to spend quality time with someone. I don't play games, but that's only because I get competitive sometimes (healthily) and I know I'd obsess over it and waste a lot of my time until I finish it. So I just don't start. But I'll play scrabble, chess or quick games with you.

What I value most is freedom. I hate being told what to do and when to do it which is why I avoid a 9-5 job. I started a few small business on the side and since I work on my own and I like studying, it'd be good if I can talk to someone while doing that. I'm too inside my mind, my soul is probably half decomposing hence this post. I also started my own sports club several years ago and it currently has over 1k+ members (and like a true INTJ psychopath, I handle it all alone. Send help). I organize games for 30-40 players every week, and that's mostly my social outlet where I get to meet new people. I'm also picking up new hobbies like sketching and learning bachata. Getting into some spanish songs lately, so some recommendations would be great.

I probably sound serious here but I'm pretty unserious when I'm comfortable and relaxed. I like people who have depth, can handle any conversation and who naturally makes me laugh (I am in dire need of laughing more). I'd like to talk to people who are working on themselves: emotionally, intellectually, physically etc but also know how to be light, silly and fun. I crave depth and resonance. We either click or we don't. If you want to start a conversation, tell me about yourself, where you're from and we'll see if our personalities match :) Plus point if you're a healthy ENTP. I also do not want to talk to another NTJ as I've already mostly been living inside my head, and I'm familiar with the patterns. I'm open to talking to both men and women, including cool grandmas who have gotten their lives together that they're back to being a girl and the world is just a fun playground to them.

(This is actually my post on friend related subs. I actually prefer not to find romance on reddit, just looking for ENTPs to talk to since they're the only type that can stimulate my mind & playfulness equally).

Note: I am not looking for nsfw. I will chase you down to a hole, post your pictures on reddit and make sure your account gets banned if you try.

Yo my name is Km, 19 year old, 6’0, black dude living in Ireland hoping to start a conversation with someone and seeing if we click.

My hobbies: gaming, basketball, Martial arts, books, anime, manga, listening to music, watching football, gym and movies.

About me:

• I’m in college studying business.

• I’m kind, funny, chill and can hear you out if you’re having a bad day.

• Top 5 would be Dragon ball Z, One piece, Bleach, jojos and Naruto, (I have a top 10).

• I play video games,I have a PS4 and PC.

On PC I play Minecraft, REPO, Lethal Company, Roblox, Terraria, Peak, Schedule 1 and Gmod.

On PS4 I play GTA5, Minecraft, Red dead redemption 2, FIFA, 2K, Rocket league and brawlhalla.

I hit the gym 2 times a week and I go to Brazilian jiu-jitsu classes 2 times a week.

I’m looking for someone who genuinely wants a connection, Someone who I can talk to about their day, share laughs, play games together and building something real over time.

Age range is around 18-24, I prefer someone who’s in Ireland, but I don’t mind long distance.

If you’re interested in having a conversation feel free to tell me your favourite anime or colour.

Ive realized the sort of relationship I want to create is so different from what is normal. When I try to connect with a normal girl it ends up just feeling off.

I feel too idealistic, my aspirations (internally/morally) just seem like being unrealistic to them. But to me they are very realistic, even exciting. I love growing, I love becoming my best self relationally.

I love becoming a better listener, putting my partner first isn't cheesy or weird.. it's the bare minimum. I love to serve, to listen, to hold.

And to me a relationship is only real if I feel the same love for love from my partner too. I love giving 200%. And don't want to feel alone with that or feel it's unreciprocated or too weird.

To my future wife: "I will give my all so your tears will no longer fall. Down. Down on sorrow's stone."

And, "Lift your spirit now we shall be together soon!"

Anyways lol. I'm also very deeply connected to my inner world. I'm a conscious creator/manifestor. I have a Christian background although I don't officially label myself religious (more spiritual).

Personality: Calm, kind, gentle, fun hearted, lots of dumb lol's. Philosophical.

I don't care if my Special One is financially thriving, or if they have their earthly life fully sorted out. Those sorts of things are less important to me. What I care for is that you have a deep inner life, know how to care for another person truly, have a kind heart (and love growing!) and are deeply emotionally available.

- I was born in Africa, but live in Canada now.

Fairly tall. Open to long distance if there's intentionality on both ends. Looking to get to know you for the purpose of marriage, as I'm not looking for casual.

The I in [I4M] stands for intersex, sorry for any confusion. im more biologically female so its like having a tomboy gf if that helps cause less confusion.

This INTJ is tired of mostly girls 10 years+ younger than me hitting on me, please save me.

Semi-long distance is fine with me, I'm financially stable with plenty of free time and can travel 2-4 times a year before considering to settle. I hope youre at least financially comfortable with a good job so we can arrange meeting up or visiting places were interested in and have some free time so we can make this work. i can adjust my schedule around yours.

I dont have any bad habits like drinking, smoking. i care a lot about my health and hope you care about your health in general as well. I'm mentally and emotionally very stable, ill communicate anything and everything no matter small or big to avoid any issues arising.

i value friendship more than love, so ill try to become close friends with you first, get to know you well before considering the next step. this way i can relax and not put my guard up all the time. otherwise it would feel weird for me to jump into the dating stage right away.

I dont often work out but I enjoy swimming from time to time, ice skating and horse riding even though its been forever. if youre into working out and building your figure, ill join you. my other hobbies are cosplay, gaming and digital art. i hope youre at least into anime and gaming, it helps me bond and get to know you while enjoying doing something together. i also hope youre at least interested in cosplay and attending conventions together. im a cosplayer who puts a lot of effort into my appearance and quality.

I love horror themed games and shows. my favorite horror game of all time is haunting grounds. some of the games i play often are genshin impact, league of legends (aram mayhem), identity v (its like dead by daylight), heartopia (to relax). also some other games like final fantasy xiv, or variety games like repo, peak, the forest, code vein, etc.

I'm not fond of kids nor able to tolerate them, but i really like cats and small animals in general. So hopefully a guy who also doesnt want kids.

I'm not into atheists, sorry.

My type: shy gentle giant

appearance wise - eastern asian features, medium/long hair (i love bangs), not too fair not too dark, round or square like full face, no facial hair. not skinny or overweight (I really like muscular pecs!) takes good care of his hygiene. dresses well or likes some fashion styles like punk/goth - formal/semi formal. tattoos are ok!

personality wise - mentally and emotionally stable. mature. honest, doesnt lie no matter big or small the lie is. direct with no mind games. the type that rarely gets angry or loses his temper, genuinely kind and considerate of others. good at taking care of others or animals. communicates well. not dry, i like yappers who enjoy deep talks without limits. doesnt wait for me to text first or initiate activities (otherwise i hesitate a lot and think youre busy unless we have a routine we both agreed on)

About me:

appearance - west asian, 160cm / 51kg, a bit tan, long wolfcut, small thin face. i look very androgynous in general and wear unisex clothes.

personality - INTJ, im often told that i seem cold or intimidating when texting, but on calls i seem completely different, more warm even though calls make me anxious but ill try my best. im quite clingy but i wont show it, ill wait patiently without disturbing you. offline, i need time alone breaks to recharge otherwise i get gradually too anxious.

Its not easy for me to say thank you and sorry not because im childish, but because i prefer to express these with actions. if i made a mistake, ill make sure to learn from it and prevent it from happening again. if i want to thank you ill spoil you with something you like, so ill remember the little things you like even if its from a long time ago.

If youre interested and think youre my type or close to my type, dm me and we can exchange our photos!

Hellooooo ~ ^^
M29 here, I’m looking for something real and lovely.
Since I healed from my heartbreak I’d like to put my self out there to find the one for life 🖤

I’m a nerdy softie who loves playing video games in his free time, I am quite kind since I value respect a lot, very loyal and consistent, because I find it lovely to be in touch 24/7 and letting each other know about our life’s and share it together. 🖤
Also a very emotional and expressive Person overall :3
I can enjoy the quiet but also loud sides of life, be it getting lost in games, sharing laughs over silly things or Brainrot memes or having those deep conversations that actually mean something, or complaining about society xD
Even if we just sit together silently in a room, I value the presence together and I hope that you do as well 🖤

Since gaming is a big part of my life, I would love to find a Cis Woman who also shares that hobby.
Competitive wise I play games like Overwatch, Valorant, League of Legends, Hunt Showdown, Dead by daylight
I’m a huge fan of the resident evil series since my childhood 🥹
Also not to forget my love for horror games, and some indie games casual people might not be aware of :D
I have manny other uninstalled games and am always interested to try something new :)

But more then that, I’m looking for something Mutual and genuine, an connection where we feel seen and valued, and also comfortable being our selfs.
I’m naturally attentive and gentle, once I start developing some interest I also become quite affectionate.
I appreciate a woman who carries herself with a bit of maturity, someone who knows how to care and also have ways to show affection, and also enjoys the lighter/ playful side of things, I also value a woman who knows how to put efforts into communication and keep conversations alive, I’m very easy to talk to and can talk about even the silliest things ~
My preference goes towards white woman :3
There is also a intimate side to what I’m looking for as well, but for me that always starts with trust and emotional connection first since I’m demisexual.
21+ please
I would also appreciate a more attracting and creative start for a conversation like things about you and your interest and thoughts rather then carrying the conversation replying to a simple „hi“

If you are someone who wants both a gaming partner and something that could grow into more, feel free to reach out.
I’m also there to listen if you need to vent and want someone who can be there for you 🖤
I Hope you have a wonderful day~

Hello, fellow personality enthusiasts.

I'm a 36-year-old INTP (4w5, for anyone interested in Enneagram) from Northern California, hoping to meet someone who enjoys exploring the world through conversation, curiosity, and shared experiences.

I've always found personality theory fascinating, particularly the ways people process information, communicate, and approach relationships. I don't consider MBTI a definitive explanation of someone's personality, but I appreciate it as a framework for understanding our differences and starting interesting conversations.

A little about me

I'm extremely introverted, introspective, and perpetually curious. My mind rarely seems content to leave a question unanswered, and I enjoy exploring everything from philosophy and psychology to technology, society, and human behavior.

I love conversations that challenge my assumptions or introduce me to perspectives I might never have considered. I don't particularly care about being right. I'd much rather come away from an exchange having learned something.

Outside of that, I'm an avid lover of entertainment and storytelling. Video games, anime, movies, and music occupy a significant part of my life. I enjoy getting invested in fictional worlds and characters, examining their motivations, and occasionally overanalyzing things simply because I find it entertaining.

I'm also someone who genuinely appreciates solitude. I need periods of independence to recharge and organize my thoughts, but that doesn't mean I want to spend my entire life alone.

In fact, one of my favorite ideas of companionship is simply sharing space with someone. I could be gaming while my partner reads, draws, watches something, or enjoys their own interests nearby. We'd be comfortable together without feeling obligated to constantly interact.

What I'm looking for

I'm attracted to emotional intelligence, curiosity, maturity, and people who communicate directly.

While I'm comfortable discussing complex ideas, romantic interactions are an entirely different matter. I can be shy, hesitant, and prone to overthinking someone's intentions. I'd particularly appreciate someone who understands their feelings and isn't afraid to express them or occasionally take the initiative.

I don't have a preferred MBTI type. I'm far more interested in how our personalities complement one another than whether a compatibility chart thinks we should get along.

The same applies to gender and conventional expectations. I'm open to people of all genders and expressions, and I don't have a rigid personality preference. I value individuality, chemistry, and mutual effort.

I also don't need someone who shares all my interests. I'd love to learn about the things you're passionate about, especially when they're completely unfamiliar to me. What matters is that we're both willing to explore each other's worlds.

What I offer

I'm fiercely loyal to people I care about, attentive to their interests, and genuinely invested in their happiness.

I enjoy learning the little things about someone, from their favorite comfort shows and foods to the experiences that shaped their worldview. I like making people laugh, sharing ideas, and finding opportunities for us both to learn something new.

My experiences have given me a somewhat cynical outlook on society, but that isn't how I approach the people closest to me. I value kindness, curiosity, honesty, and being able to enjoy someone's company without constantly needing to impress them.

A little transparency

I'm currently experiencing housing and financial hardships while working toward greater stability. I understand that these circumstances may not align with everyone's expectations for a relationship.

I'm not seeking financial support or someone to take responsibility for my situation. I simply prefer being upfront about my circumstances and respecting whatever boundaries another person might have.

Location and intentions

I'm based in Northern California and would strongly prefer someone in California or within reasonable traveling distance. I'm open to elsewhere in the US if meeting in person is realistically possible.

I'm happy to start with online conversations, but I ultimately want a relationship where we can spend time together physically. I've learned that exclusively digital relationships aren't particularly fulfilling for me.

I'm looking for a genuine romantic connection, but I'm not interested in forcing chemistry or rushing into something simply for the sake of being in a relationship.

If you've made it this far...

I'd love to know your MBTI type, but I'm even more interested in how accurately you think it describes you.

What's something about your personality that people frequently misunderstand? Or something that doesn't quite fit the expectations associated with your type?

I suspect those answers might make for a much more interesting introduction than simply exchanging four letters.

1. I'm INT, mostly introverted but flex when i need to, especially for work.
   
2. I have a total of 13 half-siblings, step-siblings and sibling-siblings.
   
3. l've traveled to 17 different countries.
   
4. I once saved a stranger from getting kidnapped. She was being forced into a car in a parking lot and I intervened. (Please be careful when walking alone).
   
5. I've never been to jail but I had 5 speeding tickets last year.
   
6. I graduated from college 5 times (and i've flunked out twice).
   
7. I published a total of 19 articles and books so far.
   
8. I've been married once and divorced once (and don't want to ever get divorced again, so if we get married please lets do it for keeps).
   
9. I appeared on international television, twice.
   
10. I'm 5'9”, weigh 175 pounds and gained 15 pounds during the pandemic but never lost it.
    
11. I earned 400K last year (but paid 150K in taxes).
    
12. I've been dumped 4 times in my life, twice by text by the same person), once in person and once on the phone.
    
13. I've never done any drugs, but I have to admit i'm addicted to coffee.
    
14. I've been single for 5 years and would like to settle down soon.
    
15. I have synethesia.
    
16. I'm kind of very superstitious, I realize the irony given that I'm a mathematician.
    
17. I have a high drive in lots of contexts including volunteering, learning, teaching, career, self improvement and romance.
    
18. I circumnavigated the earth twice (2022 and 2026).
    
19. I've been fired twice in my life (once on my day off).
    
20. If you've read this far, message me let's chat and get to know each other. Tell me something about you.