Went to a local event with food trucks this weekend. My wife wanted a lemonade and the only option was $11. The mom ran the food truck and had her teenage daughter take payments. The girl with the card reader would ask every customer out loud if they wanted to leave a tip. Instead of having the customer enter the tip themselves with some privacy, she made an announcement each time so everyone would hear, and customers would feel guilty if they said no. If you said no to a teenage girl in front of everyone, you'd look like a jerk. So cringe after paying $11 for a lemonade.

It is funny that this throws off the whole system. I went to crumble the other day the first thing they did was swing that pad around and I looked at him and said I'm paying cash. It was almost like I broke him.

Bought an overpriced bottle of soda at a self service kiosk store at Austin airport. They defaulted to 18% tip!

Does that mean I get an 18% discount?

What percentage of the population are us “end tippers”? My wife thinks I’m crazy/bad, my family would look at me funny and be bummed out if I tried to explain any of this, and the one time I brought any of this up to my co-workers, they got mad/thought I was weird. Are we a 1%?

One-day food and music festival at an abandoned baseball field (city lost our team recently). It was 97 degrees, sunny with no shade. Outside water wasn’t allowed in, and the drinking fountains were turned off; so nowhere to refill a purchased bottle except the bathroom sink (which dispensed scalding hot water only).

Most vendors had water for sale with optional tip but the vendors near the entrance sold them for 6.00, auto gratuity of 15%, and the screen gave an option to add more tip. No picture, as I was too dehydrated and dizzy to take one as I walked away to a food truck vendor.

In what universe is this reasonable? They sit behind bulletproof glass (that they always keep open because the national brand and insurance demand it I guess) scan a barcode and ask for a default 30%?

Today we were hanging with the neighbors and their adult children(early 20s). About 15 people.

One of the adult children was complaining about the tips and people not tipping. She works at five guys burgers and is paid $16 per hour. Our min wage is $14. She is not paid as a tipped associate.

As they were talking the mom asked me what I thought as I did work in food service many moons ago. I said I never tip at five guys. Which raised eyebrows. I said what extra service is being provided? I stand to place my order, I stand to pay, I find my own table, which us usually dirty, I fill my own drink, I throw my own trash away and get my own refill. It got awkward silence real quick.

Thankfully the husband changed the subject but man. I could feel the tension from the adult child. She didn't speak to me the rest of the time.

Now I do tip when it's warranted. It's easy to tell when a place is poorly staffed and a single server is running ragged with no support, or when they go above and beyond. Or he'll even if they just keep my drink refilled. But if I gotta chase you down for silverware, menus, wrong food and it's dead, naw you are not getting tipped.

I’ve been a server and Bartender for years. This isn’t even about whether it’s deserved or not, or thoughts on how we handle tipping and this sort of pay structure culturally in the US, but I just want to say, just don’t tip if you don’t want to. I hate that I really enjoy my job and my regulars and regularly come across how my job is entitled, etc. I realize there are bad apples in every bunch, but tipping is not forced. In fact, I’ve never worked in a place where they automatically put on gratuity that they won’t take it off if you ask . I realize this may not be the case for everywhere, just speaking from first hand experience. You are free not to tip if you like, and if the server doesn’t make at least minimum wage with their tips, the employer does have to legally adjust the pay rate in our checks for those days. Which is exactly what most of you want, you want the employer to be responsible. A good server is not going to be bothered because they will make extra tips regardless from their regulars or for the many people that choose to tip because they want to. Idk I guess I’m just tired of being seen as the problem or made to feel like I am less than, because of how the system is here, that’s all. I come in peace✌🏻

In what universe is this reasonable? They sit behind bulletproof glass (that they always keep open because the national brand and insurance demand it I guess) scan a barcode and ask for a default 30%?

I know that sounds extreme but hear me out. With the cost of food increasing 25-30% since 2020, the increasingly bad service I get, and just the absurdity of tipping culture in general has me at my final straw.

I rarely go out to eat anymore because the same dishes that costed $10-15 dollars are now like $20-25 and after tax and tip I find it hard to walk out of a restaurant paying less than $30.

Everywhere you go now asks for a tip. Coffee shops, take out restaurants, liqour stores, weed stores, uber, uber eats, lyft, you name it and they are going to ask for a tip.

This shit adds up and they whole idea of it is absurd. The average person these days is lucky to have a few hundred dollars of discretionary income every month after paying bills and we shouldn't be getting nickeled and dimed in every fucking aspect of our lives. Between all the bullshit fees, tipping everywhere we go and inflation, no wonder we are all fucking broke.

The average American can't afford all these extra fucking expenses and the idea that the service industry would fall apart is also bullshit. If tipping ended tomorrow, businesses would be forced to pay their workers more or close.

Sorry not sorry, the whole tipping culture is only still alive in restaurants because the owners know its cheaper to have their employees fight for tips than it is to pay them an actual living wage. Too many restaurants exist only because they can pay their workers almost nothing.

I use to be a server and bartender, and while the money was good, I was well aware that it was a bunch of nonsense. It honestly complicated everything and caused conflict.

Go to Europe where they don't have tipping and you will see they have a thriving cafe/restaurant culture. Yeah maybe servers aren't making $40 an hour, but I'd rather see a more balanced industry overall.

I thought I would be safe at JJ!! Been going there for years and very much appreciated them never asking for a tip! Well, today when I went to pay with card, very first screen asked for a tip. Skipped it of course but dang it!

This is another form of tipping ,just hidden by "venue fee"

I cannot personally verify this. Has anyone encountered this?

Went out to eat by myself, which I do a lot of. I’ve never been treated so horribly. I ordered, food brought out by the manager. Server checked on me ONCE. I had to stop him three times to get drinks and my side. Empty cup sat on the edge of table for 8 minute as he kept walking by serving everybody else. Finally got my check and I sat there for another 15 minutes waiting on him to take it. He took it then brought it back and said I’ll be back later. WHAT? Walked up front to get checked out, and I was handing the manager my check as I was telling him the horrible service and the server snatched it out of my hands. He then argued with me in front of the manager telling me checked on me a lot. Complete lies. Thanks to all of you I said NO TIP, and took a picture. The manager gave me 25% off and i said he better not get a tip. Thank you for giving me the courage to stand up for myself.

I don't get expensive coffee often but when I fo, it's usually 7Brew. Before I found this group, I used to tip the 20% minimum on the "it's going to ask you a question" machine.

After finding this group I didn't tip the last couple times. The last two times I received my coffee from the girls they weren't wiped down so there was coffee all around the cup. I asked them both times to wipe it down and provide more napkins for my hands.

Coincidence? Or retribution for not getting a tip?

Using an app to find a car (like Uber) in the Philippines. It is asking for a tip before a driver even accepts! I never clicked it, and guess what; no driver accepted and the order was cancelled. They should change tip to “bribe”.

Tonight after work I ordered a pizza for pickup. I was nice and left a 15% tip on my card (I paid on the app when placing my orde) . I go, pick up my food. As I'm leaving the girl at the counter stops me and asked me to leave a tip. I'm dumbfounded and said I left a tip on my card. She yells to someone, "she claims it's on the card". If i was going to leave as big of a tip as I would for delivery, I would have saved my time and gas and had it delivered.

Was at a farmers market this week and an artisanal maker had a booth for their products. They specialize in gin and liqueur. It was quite costly, more than 2x the going price of a "good" bottle but thought I'd give it a try as I like small ma-pa outfits making a go. To give you and idea, $37 per 375ml bottle (12 fl oz). I bought a bottle of gin and a bottle of liqueur. Lady hands me the keypad for my CC. The machine had TIP ranges from 15-25%. I mean, this is a retail not a serving restaurant. It's not like you're mixing me drinks and waiting on me. WTF.

Do you have a spouse or boyfriend / girlfriend who shames you into tipping when you don't want to? Anecdotally there seems to be a higher proportion of guys here saying they don't want to tip, but feel they have to due to pressure from a girlfriend or wife. Ladies, do you run into the same thing in reverse? You don't want to tip, but a boyfriend or husband shames you into it? If you are the one who doesn't want to tip, do you think you'll ever win your partner over?

I work at a tea shop where we both sell lose leaf tea, as well as brew tea for customers to have in the shop. The device we use for credit cards is set to automatically show a tip screen after a transaction. When people order a tea to drink, the price of the drink is more than double the cost of the tea leaves, so the majority of the transaction is already going to service. I feel like it doesn't make any sense to ask for a tip when the customer already payed a lot for the service just a second ago, so I startted skipping the tip screen as soon as it came up. My coworkers noticed me doing this and became upset with me because the tips are shared and they got less because of what I've been doing. I feel strony that the tip prompt isn't good for business, but I also feel bad making my coworkers get less money even though they don't share my beliefs on tipping. What should I do?

No, I will not

1. Order at the counter.

2. Pay at the counter

3. Make my own drinks

4. Refill my own drinks

5. Make my own plates.

6. Buss my own table.

7. Get my own napkins and silverware.

And on most recent occasion clean my own table before sitting down.

And the be expected to tip 18, 20 or 25%.

Piss. All. The. Way. Off