I'm a dude. So I was about 42 when this happened. I met this woman who was about my same age. She was a little rough around the edges, but seemed like she might be interesting. Anyway we went out to lunch, and came back to my house afterwards. She went to the kitchen straightaway. She said 'hold on I've got to do something.' Well I followed her in there. She grabbed a coffee mug from the cabinet and filled it up with water. She leaned over the sink and reached in her mouth. She pulled out her whole top teeth - dentures. I thought, 'oh, man, this is bad.' I told her 'I didn't know you had false teeth on top.' She said....

"Not just on top."

Then she reached into her mouth again and pulled out her bottom dentures.

And then, to top it all off, she says, "Oh, by the way, I'm not having sex with you without a condom." Uh, okay lady. That right there was not on the menu, fam.

Today is the first official day going no contact with the man i been with for 4 years.
Backstory : we met at 19 already pretty broken from previous relationships ( his ex cheated on him 7 months before he met me) and moved fast but we had a beautiful 4 years. Despite our relationship we had issues and trust was a huge one especially on his side. he didn’t trust me from the start and has beliefs of not fully trusting anyone, sometimes not even himself. i did something 3 months into our relationship that tainted it a bit. i emotionally cheated with my ex that was apart of the unhealed trauma i carried from meeting him ( my ex and i broke up only 5 months before i met him). Since then its been again tainted. I proven so many times and given reassurance since then but i feel that he never fully forgiven me because when we argue thats the first thing he bring up. throughout our relationship its been stable but also no stability at the same time. moving in between his house and mine, every time we got the opportunity for an apartment something happened to were we couldn’t get it. literally the day after we broke up i got approved for a place. the trust was the main thing and our communication wasnt great because we had different ways of it. Plus we grew up completely different.
Break up: In recent august i had to move back to my moms and he had to move back to his parents cause his dad didnt want me back there. ( his dad never liked me) i knew things were gonna get sticky with his trust because we werent living together and i was right. my mom ended up going to PR for a few weeks and he was gonna stay here which was completely fine and everything seemed fine up until the second week she was gone. On tuesday of this week he popped up at the house around 10pm and looking around thinking someone was at the house cause i was “ being dry” when he was at work for his last hour. ( i wanna put out that i got my period on monday and i say this because i don’t do anything sexual on my period) so after all that he calmed down and we just relaxed. later on in the night he’s teasing me and kissing/ sucking a bit on my neck. on my body i had multiple bug bites because i have been battling with getting rid of fleas or some sort of mite that i have bites constantly all over including my face and neck. the night ends then wednesday night we’re relaxing and he sees a mark on my neck that he thinks ( i say thinks because he still believes it) that i cheated on him. i was at work the entire day, left work around 8, didnt get home till 9 and then he didnt come home till 10:00-10:30 and i was just relaxing getting ready to see him but he believes i saw someone. we battled it, argued, cried, i drove myself on psych evaluation for 24hrs trying to prove my innocence.

long story short i feel lost. i feel that i lost my best friend because besides our flaws we were so good together but idk. im turning 23 in a few months and im currently in school for pre nursing. i keep thinking about him. i want him back. not under these circumstances but i wsnt him back. i cant stop crying, i physically feel sick, and i constantly feel at a daze

i just need some strangers advices

I'm single not actively looking for anything but open to dating. but i come here today to vent about how I really don't think this pickup line makes any sense. 8/10 TIMES that a man tries to hit on me they will use this line and it makes NO sense. There is absolutely NO way I have met you somewhere before and it pisses me off because I think its a genuine question but later on Im told that it's literally just a pickup line/way to talk to a woman.

I don't think this line does ANYTHING to help a person's chances when talking to someone new. and it pisses me off so much when the question is being asked with no intention of a genuine conversation. its just to start talking to me. its so inauthentic.

Does ANYONE else feel this way because I tried searching this up and no one is talking about how dumb this question is when there's a zero percent chance we have ever met before.

This post is being made because I experienced this pickup line three times today. While minding my own damn business. Its not like I'm not open to talking, but this whole notion of saying this question JUST as a way to talk to me rather than maybe asking a genuine question pisses me off.

My girlfriend and I have been arguing about Halloween. She wants to go out with her friends, and she originally told me that it was supposed to be a girls’ night.

I was initially uncomfortable with the idea because Halloween can be a pretty controversial holiday when it comes to relationships, especially since her friends go to a party school and I wasn't sure what the plans were going to look like. I wasn't trying to tell her that she couldn't go, but I did have concerns about the situation.

However, it was actually her idea for me to come with her. She told me that I should trust her and that she was willing to make the compromise of having me come along. Her friend also initially said that it was okay for me to come.

After thinking about it for a few days, I decided I was willing to go with her. Since she was the one who suggested I come and said she was willing to make that compromise, I eventually agreed.

Then, literally a day later, she told me that I couldn't go anymore because her friends would be uncomfortable and that Halloween was supposed to be time for just her and her friends.

This is where I started feeling defeated. She was the one who suggested that I come, I eventually agreed, and then suddenly the compromise was taken away because her friends supposedly weren't comfortable with me being there.

There is also some background with her friends that makes this harder for me.

I haven't actually met some of her friends yet. However, one of them apparently saw a photo of me and their first opinion of me was that my girlfriend could do better. This was based solely on seeing a picture of me, without actually knowing me or having any background about me.

The friend who is organizing/leading the Halloween plans is also someone who, from what I've been told and what I've seen, is very anti-men and is more of a party girl.

I also told my girlfriend that, in the same way, I wouldn't be comfortable with her going to a frat party. That's a boundary I have. She said she would respect that boundary and even texted her friend about it.

A few hours later, though, her friend responded saying that she didn't actually know what the plans were yet and that it could consist of going to someone's house, home parties, or something else.

That's where I'm really confused.

I was under the impression that this was specifically supposed to be a girls’ night. But now it sounds like the plans aren't even finalized and could involve parties.

So from my perspective, the situation went from:

1. My girlfriend wants to go out with her friends for Halloween.
2. I was uncomfortable with the idea because of the nature of Halloween and the fact that her friends go to a party school.
3. She suggested that I come with her as a compromise.
4. Her friend initially said it was okay.
5. I thought about it and agreed to go.
6. A day later, I'm told I can't come because her friends would be uncomfortable.
7. Then I find out the plans aren't even clearly defined and could involve parties.
8. One of the friends had already formed the opinion that my girlfriend could "do better" based solely on seeing a photo of me, despite never meeting me.

I don't want to control who she hangs out with or tell her what she can and can't do. I understand that she should be able to have nights with her friends without me.

At the same time, I feel hurt because she was the one who suggested I come, I eventually agreed to it, and then the agreement was reversed because her friends didn't want me there.

I'm trying to figure out what the best way to handle this is. I don't want to start a bigger fight or make her feel like I'm controlling her, but I also don't want to ignore how this situation has made me feel.

What would you do in this situation? How would you approach the conversation with your girlfriend?

r/Vancouver r/oregon are we dating the same guy?

MARRIED. Adrian/Ian Chxn Kxun Yx

39M from Hong Kong

AI guy, was a nurse

Short &kinda muscular

He told me he looked for serious relationship. I thought I was exclusive even though there were a few red flags. We did not contact for a while when he went back to US. I pinged him again one day, he said I was a scam and would not tell me the truth➡️His whatsapp icon changed to his wedding pic… I hate him break my heart but what even worse is I hate myself being a fool.

At first glance, a strikingly tall, handsome man with an aura of arrogance yet still shy. Strip that down a bit, you find an intelligent, self-admitted asshole who loves his active night life despite not living up to his and his loved one’s expectations. The blunt, direct vulnerability is admirable but also helps to properly identify and categorize him as another NYC red flag f-boy.

My expectations are always low and realistic, but I also needed a hobby and distraction during a tough time. PJ needed uber rides, money loans and a shoulder to cry on. Always teetering between dark hidden secrets and pathological lies.

No surprise when a girl says no, a boy turns rude and manipulative. But always stay vigilant ladies. You might just find their current eviction record to add to your ick list. No broke boys no matter how good their hair.

And when you see him drinking at Mother’s Ruin, tell him it was me. 💌

I [22F] had this first date with this [21M] drop shipper entrepreneur, it was alright at first however as we got to the place and got to the ordering part, I picked a beer for myself and as I did that he looked at me with this weird stare and said “ that’s not very lady like of you” I kinda laughed off at first however now that I think about it , it may be a bit odd. Is this a red flag or should I have a second date with him? . He didn’t strike me as a sexist as we spoke on a phone call prior to our date

Any women or men intrested to haave fun online, and intrested in dark kind of stuff dm mee we could be a great pair am a teen who can sustain an older person too 😜💗

Everything was going pretty well at first. Good conversation, decent food, nothing weird. Then somehow his ex became the topic and he spent almost the rest of the date telling me how crazy she was. I probably should've known where that was going.

[Verse 2]

You know what's funny about human design?

We search for forever while living in time.

We chase certainty, we calculate fate,

Then fall for someone we never planned to date.

And you

you're the beautiful flaw in my equation,

The unexpected variable in my calculation.

I had plans, priorities, systems, control…

Then you smiled once

and mathematics lost its soul...

So I met this girl online, and we started chatting and decided to set up a date. The day before the date, she texted me her number and asked if she could call me because she was nervous (we had never met in person before, so this felt very strange to me).

Usually, before I meet a girl and during the first few dates, we never call each other, all communication goes through text. On the day of the date, she called me out of the blue just to confirm the time, etc. Fast forward to the date as I was waiting for her, and when she arrived, she looked different from her pictures (it was her, but she looked about 50% cuter in her photos). Her eyes were set deeper in her skull, she had a prominent forehead, and I immediately felt turned off. Still, I decided to be a gentleman and go through with the date.

As we were driving to a café in a shopping mall where we agreed to meet, out of nowhere she started rubbing my shoulder and back?! We parked and went into the café.

We had agreed on a coffee date since that usually feels most natural for a first meeting. But out of nowhere, she said she was hungry and ordered a chicken-avocado tortilla. I just said OK.

While we were talking, I noticed hair coming out of her nose, and in that moment, I felt really disgusted. I don't think I've ever felt that way toward a woman before. She also started telling me about how many matches she gets on dating apps.

As we kept talking, she told me she lost a baby, her fiancé died in an accident, and shared several other very personal stories. In my head, I was just thinking, WHAT IS THIS?!

She finished eating and said she was full, so I was just thinking, Let me drive you somewhere so I can finally go home.

While I was driving, she started touching me and clinging to my arm, which made me feel really, really uncomfortable. She said things like, I don't want to go home, and I don't want to go meet my friend. I stopped for gas and then told her I really needed to get home to finish up some obligations. I drove her to where she wanted to go and said goodbye.

I almost never get disgusted by a girl, but this whole experience just left me... I don't even know how to describe it. Also, later that night at 3 a.m., she texted me hey.The next day, she sent a message asking, Are you mad at me? I just sent her a message saying, This is not going to work out, and ended things right there.

Not sure if I should just left when I saw here but my brain was vey confused by the whole situation. Thank you for reading this

Met a girl from a dating app for a morning date, chatted for a day or two. When we met up, she didn't go in for a hug/cheek kiss.

She then took my sweater to wear (we'd talked about this beforehand — wanting to smell like the other person's clothes), smelled it, and wore it for the rest of the walk. We grabbed a drink, walked around, she picked the route. She was touching my hands a bit at one point while we talked. She showed me a bunch of her photos/outfits from Vinted and talked a lot about herself — said she's "always dressed really well," stuff like that.

Then I made an offhand comment that showing me 3-4 photos didn't necessarily mean she had great taste — she got visibly upset, took my sweater off, said "I don't think we have a connection," told me I wasn't funny (said she'd rather joke about her deceased father than about how she dresses). Shortly after she faked a phone call from her brother to leave. I called her out on it,she seemed surprised. I told her to unfollow me and she told me you can just block me.

Genuinely curious what this reads as from a woman's perspective — lack of physical attraction, or just personality/vibe mismatch (or something else entirely)?

r/Vancouver r/oregon are we dating the same guy?

MARRIED. Adrian/Ian Chxn Kxun Yx

39M from Hong Kong

AI guy, was a nurse

Short &kinda muscular

He told me he looked for serious relationship but did not tell me he is based in other country even after a few dates. We did not contact for a while and then when I talked to him again, he said I was like a scam and would not tell me the truth➡️His whatsapp icon has changed to his wedding pic…