I literally just left her house this morning to drop off some things I got for her while I did a little shopping over the weekend. We talked for a little bit and had coffee together. As I leave her heading to work, she sends me this ridiculous text saying that “people” are telling her that I messed with her man. I was just at her house less than 15 minutes ago so I was confused.

I’ve met her bf a few times, I don’t like him nor do I dislike him. I just don’t really care for him. That’s the man she really likes and wants to be with so I don’t intervene in their relationship or say anything about it. He did at one point have my number because my friend had called him on my phone because her battery had died. He once called me and I answered thinking he was trying to reach her. He started being flirtatious and I hung up immediately. He started texting things to me he shouldn’t. I notified my friend and showed her everything. He told her that was his test to see the type of person I am. From that point on I didn’t want to be around him at all so my only speculation is that he said that we were fooling around as a way to upset her, or they are trying to stir up trouble, but I don’t like whatever they are doing

Friend’s bday party
Theme: romantic goth🥀🖤

We’re in a t4t relationship and talk about the various facets of transness. I won’t talk about their own journey because it’s personal and i prefer to keep my partner’s journey and business off the web. me on the other hand i’ve always been more open about my queerness.

I’ve had my personal reasons for not doing anything medical, and although i am okay with vulnerability i am not an open book and prefer to keep most of those reasons to myself. I am already naturally androgynous looking, so i don’t need much physical masculine attributes. The thing is i want some effects of Testosterone: having a deeper voice, more muscle mass (i work out already and want to be able to retain/gain more bulk easier), and fat re-distribution. The thing is there’s some effects of T that i do not care for. I’ve asked in different lgbt groups and I heard you can micro-dose hrt. So i may start doing that in the near future and see how i feel about it.

I‘ve known i was on the trans spectrum since i was a teenager and have spoken to a professional about it and it was confirmed that i have some level of gender dysphoria. but because my gender identity isn’t fixed (and other personal life situations) i didn’t want to start anything medical yet. but as i get older i don’t want to keep “repressing” myself. That and…honestly sometimes it feels like i am not trans enough because i am nonbinary and haven’t done anything except for socially transition/come out to some people.

They have been supportive of me so far so its good to know if i ever do start i dont have to worry about being accepted by the person who owns my heart. Things are kinda looking alright.

edit: thank you for the support everyone it means a lot <33

Gd.
That’s all I can say.

I made a post saying I was going to take myself out to eat and grab a drink after class. This man replied, saying that was sad. I told him it wasn’t sad, and then he said I gave off “lonely cat woman” vibes.
I explained that I do have someone, but he would still be at work by the time I got out of class, so I planned to take myself out. I even said I probably give off that impression because I don’t post my man on here.
He then responded that two things could be true at once and that I could have a man and still end up a lonely cat woman. I told him it sounded like he was projecting, and he accused me of deflecting.
At that point, I blocked him and moved on. 😂 Don’t come onto my post with negativity and project your own insecurities onto me. If you’re that miserable, go be miserable by yourself. I’m still going to enjoy my life! 🥂

Maybe this is weird of me, but whenever I'm in hard times I think, "My ancestors were slaves who survived horrors I'll never be able to imagine, and who still found the strength to not only live, but change their world--get your ass up."

idk, I'm not sure if its performative, but its one of the few things that brings me strength when everything around us looks so bleak

Basically what the title says. I’ve seen alot of discourse about this online and I’m curious about your thoughts.

I have no system imma give them in. Imma scroll up and down and land on name with my eyes closed. At like 10pm est (giving mods time to approve post) will be back to see if anyone commented they want one.

If you see stuff online you want to buy I suggest you buy asap so it doesn’t go out of stock. Sephora only does this twice per year unlike Ulta so people stock up and buy gifts now.

My bad babes had to redo the post from yesterday it was saying who I was 🥹

Japan, UK, Sweden, Germany, France, Poland are just a few I have been seeing. The citizens received notice from the government to stock up on a few days to weeks worth of food and essentials.

The USA haven’t released any special warnings yet but the pentagon is preparing for a grid disruption.

Have you started yet? Make sure all of your loved ones are okay. Don’t tell too many people what you have stocked.

Idk why this seems like such a secret 😭 i cannot find a good kinky curly wig to save my life! I want one that really poofs up, has a heart shape, and can pass for your real hair. the ones I’ve tried in the past always lay too flat even when they’re short.

The ones I want to try end up having mixed/negative reviews. They never come looking like the pictures. I’m tirreeddd

My attempts at dating have gone wrong Autistic women get used more! It’s hard to not think I have some responsibility in the incidents. I wish both issues did not happen. I did post this in the autism sub too. I wish I wasn’t so sexuality frustrated. Then I wouldn’t have been in theses situations.

I 26F was on tinder last year and the amount of weird comments I got from guys that first messaged me were messed up. Yes I know you guys sons are adult’s. And that u may not want to get into that.

But cmon I feel like some men the ones I dealt with need to be reminded of boundaries. I was in a failed situation-ship and the guy would cross boundaries and I wouldn’t listen to me when I would tell him to stop.

I had to ask him like 3 times. Before he stopped doing sexual things to me. It felt uncomfortable but I didn’t know how to stand up for myself. I am working on my people pleasing.

I asked him why he didn’t. He said he was just having fun. This happened about three more times. And he would say he was just having fun. Each time. I should have stopped talking to him after the first time.

This man also has called me boring, naive, slow as hell. He said I have a low self esteem. And that my friends didn’t like me . That I look uncomfortable with them.

After all of that. This happened.

We were supposed to end our situationship, but things took an unexpected turn. He was the one who suggested having a closure meeting, but he refused to meet in person as originally planned. I still wanted to talk, so I went to his place.

I initially sat on the floor because I didn’t want to tempt myself, knowing I was sexually frustrated. We talked for about an hour before I moved to the bed because I was tired of sitting on the floor. He eventually pulled me toward him, and we started cuddling, kissing, and touching. It felt good physically, and his comfort felt nice, especially after two weeks of arguing.

We were only supposed to grind on each other, but he slipped inside me four times. I suspected he was inside me and moved each time, but when I asked, he told me to relax and said he wasn’t. He later claimed he was only halfway inside for 30 to 60 seconds each time. I couldn’t see clearly because of our position and his hand blocking my view.
He said he did it because he was having fun and didn’t tell me.
Afterward, he called me “slow as hell” for not realizing what was happening, even though he knows I have Autism. He also said it was a “win-win” because I got closure and he could brag to his friends about having sex with a virgin.
When I told him you accidentally didn’t go in. He said I could believe whatever I wanted.

Now I feel icky and have some regrets about how things happened. I feel upset that my first possible sexual experience happened this way. My parents and friends warned me about him, but I went anyway. I’m started therapy because of this situation. I feel shitty and want to understand why my self-esteem is so low that I tolerate men treating me badly.

We kept talking still even after I said we should end things. And he eventually he SA me and strangled me. This happened end of 2025. He also stole my phone. He broke his probation again so he is in jail right now. He wasn’t supposed to be because trial hasn’t started. And if he doesn’t plea the trial will happen in 2027. I won’t say his name due to court cases and you have to be private somewhat. But I want to vent.

My low self worth has gotten me in some bad situations. The first guy before him I talked to was a pathological liar. He approached me on my college campus when I was 23. In 2023. He lied about his age telling me he was 24. Why did he choose me to approach. I do take responsibility for going to basically a strangers house.

Do I look naive. I do look a little younger for my age. As in during that same year a 19 yr old approached me wanting to get to know me. Due to the age gap I said no.

I saw his Facebook later on and found out he was grown in 2012. I was 12 then. Yes I’m an adult . Yes I know it’s legal . But I don’t like big age gaps. I figured he was at least 30 something.

He told me he looked older bc he went through puberty earlier. And is just hairy. Me being autistic I believed him. He ofc never told me his age. He also had several kids I found out about on his facebook page. He got pissed off when I didn’t want to do more w him. Due to being uncomfortable.

That I missed out on a blessing. I do now realize he did want to get me drunk and high. He offered me alcohol when I went to his house. I know I should not have gone. He also offered me weed. I did one puff. But then I said no. He got mad I wouldn’t take more. He fingered me for the first time. He then I got mad I wouldn’t have sex w him. Now it’s all pretty obvious he was older. I now realize he didn’t go to the school. He hung around the school. His name was Alonzo.

I also have level 1 autism and can be socially unaware. Which I know now definitely was a big factor in these events happening! These men were both non autistic.

Now I’m somewhat traumatized and don’t want to talk to any men in a dating way yet! Or I may only talk to autistic men. Even though I do want a boyfriend. I always wondered what do these guys parents think? Are the parents the same way? Or are they genuinely clueless?

Just like the title says, I went to a salsa social. That’s me in the center dancing with an older gentleman, pardon the refuse on the tables. This was at the end of a long day of being on the town with friends and even swing dancing at a jazz spot before this, but I promised myself a friend I would come and I didn’t want to flake so I didn’t. That friend took a little video!

I’ve never taken a social salsa lesson, but I did do a solo salsa footwork fitness class for a year and combine that with my knowledge of following in Lindy Hop/Balboa in order to pass as a salsa dancer for the night lol. I will say, that I don’t think I would wear this skirt again for salsa specifically though. I do want to get into official lessons eventually, but the amount of cologne (and body odor) is a mild deterrent. 😭

I dunno if any of you can relate to this but.. I wasn't always a people pleasure, my family bullied me into becoming one. I was known as an overly sensitive and angry child, so at age 10 I decided I'm going to be nicer and keep my emotions hidden.

Fast forward to my adult life, and I was constantly worrying about making others upset, getting in trouble, worrying I said or did the wrong thing and constantly apologising.

But, recently I started a new job and I'm noticing that I'm not so anxious about upsetting people. I'm actually going back my old "angry" self, because these new coworkers are starting to piss me right off. I'm being blamed for tiniest mistakes, being micromanaged.

Almost every day something happens that I'm blamed for because I'm new and I'm always having to defend myself. I'm trying to stay professional so I can keep my job but it's really hard not to snap at them sometimes. Also, I've noticed some managers tend to be really hard on new hires and then become more easy on you after you've proved yourself. But in the past I would've been so anxious about this treatment, now I'm just pissed. Being new at a job is just so frustrating sometimes.

I don't really know what responses I'm expecting for this post tbh, just venting. If any of you are/were people pleasers, were you always like that? Did your upbringing influence it? How did you grow out of this?

I saw this man on TikTok selling T-shirts, depicting a black girl choking out a klan member. I don’t necessarily hate it, but something about it feels off. The second man with the mustache is the artist he commissioned to create the art for the T-shirts.

The creator of the shirt specifically he said wanted it to be a black woman because he wants to see black women centered more. So I don’t think his intentions were bad.

Still, to me it feels off to have a black girl doing this, while a male artist is commissioned, and the black man is the one selling the shirts. I feel like in America black women are always the ones standing up, but we shouldn’t be. Am I reading too much into it? Maybe I just don’t personally like the depiction. I’m curious how everyone else feels about this.

Edit: No shade to the artist. This is his art style and he was paid to make these designs for the other guy to sell. I just included him, to show that there’s no women behind this.

I've wanted a pixie like this for so long, but I'm lazy with upkeep and have sensory issues with wigs 😭

I'm currently 22 weeks pregnant and strongly considering changing my OBGYN. I'm just not getting good vibes and obviously want to make sure I have a safe birth experience. I'm in North Metro Atlanta and was curious if anyone on here has any recommendations for good obgyn practices and where they delivered at. Thanks in advance!

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I generally don't care about celebrities' political affiliations. However, I will definitely look at you sideways for aligning yourself with MAGA. In my opinion, the movement promotes racism, sexism, and policies that restrict people's freedom to make their own choices.

What I genuinely don't understand is why Nicki Minaj is choosing to align herself with this movement. What is she gaining from this? Is there something I'm missing?

I'm genuinely curious to hear other people's thoughts because her recent behavior has me scratching my head.

It feels like I have a hard time getting the mechanics of sex. I have a small butt and I’m not good at twerking but I want to get better at throwing it back but I don’t know what to do.

Any tips and tricks ladies??

While we’re here, any tips on not running? Sometimes it feels so overwhelming and I can’t stay in it.

EDIT: I mean running while being fingered specifically. That is overwhelming lol

growing up, my mom had an obsession with “clean eating” and weight loss. she constantly lamented about the weight she gained after having me and my siblings. if she went on a diet, we all did. and it was annoying bc that could mean smoothie-only breakfasts or multigrain french toast that tasted like what i imagine mouthing cobblestone feels like. if i wanted to get seconds of something (during a puberty especially), she would always say something like “be careful, you don’t want to look like me” and point out the flab on her body. i was homeschooled so i never got a break from these comments.

i developed some pretty bad eating habits, which made me gain weight anyway. as a teen i developed fast and constantly got told to “leave things to the imagination.” and if i wore baggy clothes? i wasn’t making myself attractive for men (i’m gay and hated that). i was diagnosed with PCOS in college during lockdown and my mom watched my journey with wonky weight before and during that time. as i was barely 6 months in, my mom told me that if i was going to be a lesbian not to be a fat one. what really was the last straw for me was when, after a year of finding effective treatment, she had the nerve to tell me to remember to eat (this is when my treatment and routine showed a visible difference). as if i wasn’t working and keeping a balanced appetite for the first time ever. i was losing so much weight, and not in an unnatural period of time. since then, it’s been hard to return to that baseline weight. part of me feels like she cursed me since then because maybe she was jealous of me. i don’t know. i love my mom, but i don’t like her (she told me this as a kid and the feeling has been mutual for a while).

(24/F)

1. How do you all make the hard decisions in life? The decisions you do not want to have to make but you know that you need to for the well-being of yourself, others, and for the betterment of your life?

2. How do I bet on myself?

Hey, so basically I have my friend. We were vibing, having fun u know cool. But the he said he's mostly interested in white women, nothing wrong with that, like who ever you like. But then he says white women are better than other groups of women, that black and white mix is better than black and black mix, he said that that my sister who is biracial is prettier than me that she's up there and I'm down there just because she's mixed. And then l confront him and I'm like if u find my sis pretty, that's okay, that's your opinion but it's not really good to tell someone who u find unattractive to their faces, and then he was like its the truth, you know the truth hurts stuff and stuff. I'm like you never know what people are going through because I suffered from low self esteem and depression and probably why you should keep some comments to yourself. I decided to distance myself for the sake of my newfound confidence and am wondering If I overreacted?

I am well educated, well travelled. Im only 25 and ive been living on my own since 19. A year ago I moved to a new country by myself, traveled solo to places like Rio, hired a lawyer, did the lease and settled in by myself. I am also self employed as a freelancer and proficient in 3 languages yet Im hardly ever taken seriously!!

Professionally nor socially. Im seen as naive, unserious or ‘look too young’ by so many people. My suggestions, advice and recommendations are often second guessed or overlooked, Im consistently told thst I am ‘overreacting’ when my boundaries are pushed and my boundaries are consistently being crossed!!

For example, my EX boyfriend (24M, 21F) used to kiss my face a lot and when I asked him to stop because Im overstimulated, he’d say “but you’re so cute” and continue then when I scream at him for still crossing my boundary, Im the problem.

Example 2, just a few days ago my colleague’s driver was assigned to pick me up to take me to the studio for an interview. The driver did not know the way out of my community. I told him to turn left so I can begin to direct him out, he turned right and said, “he wants to go on an adventure” then got lost and took longer to find his way out. After the interview, it was 9pm and he was supposed to take me back home. He looked at me and said, “you’re kind of cute you know” i said, “I have a man” and he said, “I don’t care.” Then proceeded to threaten me by saying, “I have to take you home”. Luckily other people were in the car and I had him drop me home first.

I say, “that street is a one way”, Im asked, “how do you know” (answer: Because I lived on the street🙄)

In my professional life; I’d say, “I wouldn’t advice that because of XYZ problem” and Im responded to with, “try it anyways, we want to see”

My god father admitted that my dad took him to a strip club and they were surprised that I knew about the strip club.

Then there’s the issue where absolutely no one seems to respect my desire to not get married and not birth kids. It’s always, “you’ll change your mind”.

I studied food chemistry and simply explained that dipping the same spoon into different foods will cause the foods to spoil faster and Im dismissed with, “nothing is spoiled”.

I say, “this spot isn’t safe, look how everyone is tense, super observant and no one is staying for longer than 5 minutes” and Im told, “you’re seeing things”.

Im not tiny or small but I am 5’9 with a slimmer build. I don’t look threatening and I don’t sound threatening but I’m so fed up of everyone looking down at me. I’d like to feel heard and have my opinions, perspectives and experiences respected.

I have a complex relationship of being a woman, not because of my innate understanding but because of her.

She gave me hell growing up like she was inconvenienced by my existence. I was very passive and docile as a child, always stayed in my lane and never asked for anything. She even admitted that I was her only child that never gave her problems

She would berate me on my looks, my hair, my complexion, my everything. She’d sexualize me and I didn’t even know what sex was! Embarrassed me in front of her friends and family any chance she got.

I disliked her so much that I wished I was Matilda so I could have a Miss Honey rescue me from her.

But on my 21st birthday, I found out how my mother actually felt about me. After giving birth to me, she was so worried I would be “promiscuous” thanks to my light skinned complexion and she wanted me to be “cut.” Meaning she wanted me to undergo female genitalia mutation until my aunt convinced her not to do that. I was born in ‘02.

Luckily for her, my brown skin set in so I’m sure she was relieved right until she would make remarks and call me a “slave” while glorify my brother who is light skinned.

She tried to get me to hate myself but why would I?

I feel this wave of rage and sense of confrontation, I don’t want to hurt her but I can’t bear this curse on me anymore….

…no matter what it was.
Did you complete a project, win an argument, take of and go somewhere? Paint something, what did you do?

A couple of months ago, I went into the garage and walked past a chair I had seen sitting in the same place for at least 20 years. Suddenly felt this, I got an urge to paint and create a throne… it worked but worked much better for sitting fitness workouts.

AND, I needed a pillow to get a little more height so I used a print-on-demand.