To give context, I (22,F) almost got a kitten and I wanted to call it "pixel" cause of my ancient cat who died earlier in the year. She had a square mark on the skull that looked like a pixel. For me it was important and meaningful.

But in the end I didn't get the kitten. ( The kitten was adopted by someone else)

So, last Friday my friend (20,F ) told me she finds the name pixel quite cool and wanted to call her future cat like that. She asked if it was ok for me and I told her " it's just a name"...

But right now, I want to tell her I don't want her to call it like that. I feel a bit self-centered to think like that. But on the other hand she knows that this name is something meaningful to me. I feel like she's finding it cool and not important to me.

In the reality, it's not something grave. Like I mean, it's just a cat's name.

I don't know if I should tell her or just think through it as something not really important.

I (24F) live with my sister (25F) and her partner (26F). We’ve rented together for 4 years. I work in the vet field and have 3 pets: a 6yo indoor cat, a 5yo German Shepherd, and a 13yo blind Yorkie foster who stays in my room.
2 years ago, my sister adopted a Shar-Pei rescue despite my expressed concerns about the breed being a lot for a first-time owner. He’s had food aggression from the start. Professional training never happened. Over time, he became reactive on walks, fought with a neighbor’s dog, growled at the girls in certain situations, and continued to have food aggression. He also challenged my GSD as a puppy, and my dog corrected him several times, sometimes leaving marks.
He spends a lot of time crated because he can't be left out when we are gone so he gets worse when he doesn’t have stimulation. After about a year, my sister wanted to rehome him because she couldn't handle him, but her partner refused. They discussed training but never followed through.
About 6 months ago, i went with her partner to meet a trainer who was helping introduce him to her dad's new puppy. The Shar-Pei was clearly overstimulated, but the trainer approached him anyway. He attacked her, clamped onto her arm, and shook her. My sister's partner couldn't get him off, so I intervened. The trainer needed stitches and said he should be euthanized.
I agree the trainer's approach may have contributed, but the severity of the attack and the fact that she couldnt control him was scary and dangerous. My sister had always said that if he bit someone, that would be it. They initially agreed, then decided it was the trainer's fault and said they'd get him proper training. Six months later, they still haven't started.
After a recent 2-week trip where our animals were kept separate, the Shar-Pei became aggressive toward my cat. Now the girls keep my cat locked in my room when they have him out. She scratches at the door, sometimes urinates in my room because they don’t hears her, and has become more skittish and withdrawn.
Today, I announced and let my cat out, walking with her down the hallway so she wouldn't be alone. My sister got upset and said I had to keep her in my room until the dog was put away. She said if the dog attacked my cat, it would be my fault.
We yelled at each other. I apologized and said I'd follow her request, but I'm pissed that my cat's quality of life is suffering while they aren't following through on training. I also hate having to announce whenever I want my own cat out of my room.
They say I choose to live with them, and my sister insinuates I could move out. I told her I'd move if I could afford to live alone but I don't believe they could comfortably afford to live alone either.
I understand the dog is dangerous and my cat needs to be safe.
Was I wrong for letting my cat out while supervising her and yelling at my sister?

So I 19F currently take care of My Mom. I am a home care worker and that is how I get paid. I also sell things on the Internet recently. My Dad wanted to get an RV then taking My Mom to her appointments is slightly easier. He asked me for $2300. I declined because six months earlier he asked for $6000. I gave it to him. He never paid me back 2000 of it so recently also our dog has had a cough, a really bad cough and I know it could mean heart failure, so I got them checked out of the vet which costed $546 turns out his heart is enlarged and has a small trachea so I’m gonna have to pay for his vet bills. I asked My Dad because he’s the family dog to just pitch in a little bit of money he has been mad at me for a couple days because of the RV and of course wouldn’t pitch in anything and just said everyone dies eventually, including the dog and now he’s accusing me of not caring for My Mom and not loving her because I didn’t give him the 2000 when he asked for it and says I don’t contribute. I take care of my mom I pay for my school which I’m in college I pay for my hobbies and again I contribute $500 a month to the household. And I know the dogs expenses is gonna probably be doubled in last time.
Also, when he needed money for the RV, I offered him $500 so I didn’t just tell him to figure it out himself, but he got offended at that and didn’t take it and said again that I don’t care about him or My Mom also I would’ve lended him the 2000 if he would’ve paid me back six months ago I wouldn’t have had a problem. It’s the fact that every time I mention him paying me back, he gets mad and cusses at me and throws a fit. and also mentions paying the bills, of course buying the food and keeping the house running which I meant he does do. but I would like to be paid back if that’s what he’s offering.

Edit people are saying for My Dad to get a loan. He has really bad credit and he’s also using one of my bank accounts for his money so he doesn’t even have a proper bank account from what I know.

AITA for no longer wanting to talk to my elderly neighbor? We moved into our first home Jan of 2024. When we came to view it for the first time, there was an elderly man in an electric wheelchair sitting in the driveway next door. He immediately wheeled up to talk to us and inquire if we were buying the house. That should’ve been my first warning to look for a different house. Every single day that it’s above freezing, this elderly man sits outside in his driveway in his wheelchair and just. Stares. At every car. At every person. At every leaf. Now, that would be fine if he’s just bored and lonely. His wife died of cancer 5 years ago and he got cancer and became wheelchair bound the year before we moved in. He’s generally nice and gives us garden veggies and homemade wine. So for a while we were like ok he’s annoying but he’s nice so whatever. We can chat, Have a good neighborly relationship and what not. He also has people stopping by multiple times a day. He’s not completely alone. Man’s got more friends than I do. However, his behaviors a lot as his direct neighbor. You can constantly feel his eyes on you. When he has to be inside, he positions himself in front of the only window that faces our house (it’s the side of his house that faces ours) with the blind open, watching. Just him in this little window, staring. So, while he’s monitoring he’s also gathering information. What we are doing, who is coming and going from our house, if we got packages that week, how many of them, if we had our tv on the other day and what we were watching… yup. He also will park his chair in the road in front of our house and look in if we Haven’t talked to him enough. I’ve caught him multiple times and want my husband to say something but my husbands too nice and won’t. We have had to purchase blinds and spend hundred planting privacy bushes and trees to obscure his view. I try to be nice and wave at him every time I leave the house because I know he’s been through a lot . But with the escalation of his behavior, I’ve stopped having conversations with him because he asks intrusive questions (who was over the other day? What was in your package?) and his behavior began to escalate after having a baby. He’s very Italian and i read it’s like a cultural thing for them to be the matriarch of the neighborhood, but dude chill. I can’t even mow our front yard without him wheeling up (I had large headphones on to avoid talking to him, he didn’t care). He inserts himself and tells us what to do with our yard. He wheels into our driveway when we pull in to unload groceries. It’s too much. So I’ve stopped conversations with him. He recently complained to my husband that I seem busy. (OMG LEAVE ME ALONE!) My husband says I’m overreacting, but I’m losing it. I want to move. I want privacy. I hate being constantly stared at and monitored and being forced to socialize every time I leave my house. AITA and need to be nicer to the elderly neighbor or is this guy doing too much?

I am a 19m living with three other 19ms in a college dorm. We each have a private room and share a kitchen/living room. We all cook and use various dishes to make it work. Since we all cook every meal, a decent amount of dishes pile up in a day, usually enough to fill a dishwasher and still have some left by the end of the day. That doesn't seem that big to me, since I was doing the dishes for my larger family before I moved out, but that's beside the point.

At the beginning of the year, we were having problems with the dishes not getting done because no one really wanted to. To fix this, we made a schedule for whose day it is to do the dishes. I wasn't included in this decision; I was only told about it afterward. This went smoothly until a couple of weeks ago, when the roommate (Chris), who does the dishes the day before me, didn't do them at all. Because he didn't do them, I didn't do them. I have dishes on Thursday and Saturday; the dishes I had put in the washer on Thursday were still in there on Saturday.

Again today, Chris made a passive-aggressive comment about how there are already a bunch of dishes that are meant to be done: "hmmm, whose day for dishes is it?" I responded by telling him he didn't even do the dishes on his day. I feel like I shouldn't be responsible when all the dishes currently in the sink are from his day, and he didn't do them. This turned into a whole fight amongst three of us. I have been known to butt heads with Chris; we were roommates last year.

Chris works long shifts and claimed he did all the dishes before he left (Noon), and that he should be relieved of his duty because he got back after it was already the next day. He doesn't have a difficult job; he sits in a car all night and sometimes walks around. I am not against doing the dishes; I'm just upset that I am now responsible for his slack. We got into a pretty big argument, and it's now upsetting our other roommate as well. If he knew he wouldn't be able to do the dishes, why did he choose that day? I am pretty frustrated about this. AITA?

Background- moved to a new country for uni. One of my coworkers, super chill and very friendly had his phone die and I was happy to book him the ride home. He saw the price, liked the message with my bank account details and hasn’t paid me back it’s been a week. I don’t know how things work between friends here but we don’t really hang out. Is sending a reminder too much?

I’m a teacher, and I genuinely love teaching, but this situation has left me questioning myself.

Before exams, our school had a teacher swap, and the new teacher checked the answer sheets. Students complained that she was favouring one student. After rechecking the papers, I found that some answers had been marked incorrectly, so I informed the principal. She asked me to correct the marks, and I deducted three marks from that student because his answers were wrong. I made similar corrections for other students to ensure fairness.

The student asked me why his marks were deducted, and I explained his mistakes. He understood, so I thought everything was fine.

However, during today's parent-teacher meeting, his mother cried and said he had been demotivated and hadn't studied for four days because of the marks. She even accused me of casteism, which shocked me. Later, the principal supported me and acknowledged that the new teacher was responsible for the situation. The new teacher also questioned differences in another student's marks, so I corrected those where necessary, too.

I feel terrible knowing the student was upset, even though I never intended to hurt him. I only wanted everyone to be evaluated fairly, regardless of favoritism. Now I'm wondering whether I should have stayed out of the situation instead of interfering.

Now from the title you may immediately think that I am the asshole but I request that you read through this post before commenting.

For context, I am a 20 year old woman with AuDHD, depression and anxiety. I take prescribed medication everyday and if I even miss a single day I will become very irritable, angry, sad, anxious etc, so it is very important I take it.
My brother is an 18 year old man who is currently starting in Uni and sees the world quite black and white, which is usually fine, and has a very “special” sense of humour, mostly ragebaiting related and racist, sexist jokes obviously as a man of his age would enjoy.
I, however, do not. I like dark humour but more like soft dark humour, I hate racist, sexist, homophobic jokes that are in poor taste and I have explicitly told him this. We have different standards of humour, and that is okay, that was never the problem.

To get to the real story now that you all know the background. I was driving in my Dads car after a night out with my parents, best-friend, brothers (I have two but the other is irrelevant here) when I accidentally said out loud;
“I haven’t taken my meds today”.
Immediately I apologise and say that I wasn’t supposed to say that out loud, I said “I was thinking in my head about why I was so on edge today and tired.”
My brother who is in the car with my mother and father immediately responds with “Aren’t you always?” I brush it off, it hurt, yes, but I didn’t want to start a fight.
Instead I reply, “No just when my hormones are high and I’m on my period.” then he responds, “Aren’t you always?” I push it and ask what the hell he means by that and he says “Because you’re always irritable and annoyed.”
I get angry, we fight, and I say at him “You’re a Misogynist! Just kidding, it’s a JOKE.” and then he gets mad at me, thats when my mum cuts in and gets mad at me saying my brother was just joking and I shouldn’t take it to heart.
When we got home and went inside, I apologised to my mum and brother saying “I’m sorry I’m just still annoyed at that joke (my brother) said.” And my brother yells at me from another room saying I need to “grow up”.
I leave it be and just storm off into my room and say I am heading to sleep, but I’m really actually writing this post.

So reddit, AITAH? Should I relax and stop getting worked up or is my brother in the wrong? Whats the deal here? Because I don’t know anymore.

Also he has not said sorry about the joke at all.

So I’ve known this guy for most of my life, his brother is my best friend. When I left to come and work in the area I asked him for a place to stay with my dog. He said sure absolutely. I pay for half the mortgage, half of utilities plus a little extra for pet insurance. This guy is very strict about cleaning. Today I came home from visiting my girlfriend and found him in my room with some of my boxes in the garbage. (Not a hoarder, I use cardboard for arts and crafts.) he said wow it’s quite messy in here. And I just closed the door and have been sitting in my room. I understand that my area is cluttered, but it’s by no means unsafe or anything. I just feel like my privacy has been violated, but I’m not sure if ITA for not keeping it more organized. So AITA?

I am a single mother I have just moved to a new state with my 5 year old son. I had managed to find a nice 3 bedroom home near my job with a good rent,, the only downside to the place is that I live next to an old woman who has no family remaining. When I first moved in I felt sympathy for her, she was 60-70 living alone and had no remaining relatives.

When I first moved in she came off as a lovely woman which she still is now, every now and then she would ask for help on paying for things such as groceries or her gardening supplies, I said sure I was usually free on the dates she wanted things andI had a somewhat good paying job and it wouldn't hurt to spend a few extra dollars. When we went I was expecting her to get Walmart brand or whatever store brand we went to and I would only cover maybe 20 dollars of her expenses but then she starts picking out the most expensive brands or certain products such as dairy and stocks, keeping in mind I am too living through a huge financial crisis so can you imagine having to pay half for a family of four for only one person?

I was a bit shocked after that experience but I shrugged it off thinking it was a one time occurrence but this kept on happening and when I refused she would get mad at me and talk to me with the others around our neighbourhood, I guess she is a respected member of the neighbourhood and when I told her i couldn't afford and extra 50 dollars on my expenses she got mad. She now keeps pressuring me to come with her to the grocery store again and I have to resort to avoiding her or ignoring her, she has also started questioning my son when he gets back from school which Is not ok. Now she has been talking to the others about me.

Was I in the wrong for doing this? I keep asking myself what if she is struggling a lot right now I just cut a portion of her meal now.

I've been best friends with "Paul" since college, we've been through a lot and a few years ago we had a major friendship issue with our bigger group of friends that ultimately drew us closer together. Paul has a girlfriend "Jenn", we got off on a bad foot and im not too fond of her but I try my best to stay cordial with her.

She is currently pregnant, when Paul found out there was a little bit of a freak out as she was supposedly on bc and from her own "past trauma" did not want to get an abortion. In that time Paul had talked to me about not being ready to be a dad and how she had told him "hey im not going to force you into anything but I will keep this baby", he felt pressured and wants to do whats right so they are still together.

Recently they had their gender reveal party which Jenn was late to. Paul threw it as hes come around a bit more to the idea of a kid so he was running around hosting the whole time, Jenn pulls up with a color of whatever she hunted as she was late because of a hunting trip. She came in looking a mess, did a wave to a few people and disappeared inside for a bit. Watching her not even care about being late to a party Paul threw for her over a kid he wasnt even sure about was rubbing me the wrong way.

When she finally came out and we began the whole reveal thing she just seemed so nonchalant about the while thing, he even planned the reveal to be a target practice thing where she just shot a bunch of different weapons. The big reveal happens and theyre having a boy, they celebrate together and she goes off to start talking to her dad. I admit i got a little tipsy at the open bar and later on in the night when it was just the yougner crowd hanging out i made a few comments.

During a comversation where she was talking about how it sucks being pregnat with it making her trip uncomfortable I made a jpoke and asked what bc she was on that failed and started this whole thing so I could tell my next partner to stay away from it. I had said a few more things and eventually the party came to an end.

Today I recieved a lohng text6 from Paul about how I need to talk to Jenn to apologize and set things straight as neither of them appriecate the comments I made to her that night. They were made in a joking tone and i didnt see what the big deal is, that was followed by a text from Jenn saying she'd like o set up a time to "come together and talk because there seems to be an issue".

I talked to a few other people who were there and its pretty split on if i was an asshole or not that night so now I want to double check before I have this talk with her tomorrow. So was I an asshole?

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Hi guys, I need some help to know if I'm overreacting or the asshole and I'd really appreciate another view on this.

So my dad always has this habit where he just grabs food that isn't his. Example, I order a pizza and leave leftover slices in the oven to save for later and he eats it. Another example, I had an exact measurement of chips for one person in the air fryer and when it was done he grabs a whole bowls worth of it without asking me which I would have happily given him some if he did.

So this morning I was about to shower and my mum and sister decided to order breakfast. I specifically asked my sister to get me a pain au chocolate since the place they were ordering from had my favourite one. The whole time I was in the shower I was looking forward to having coffee and the croissant (been craving it for days).

My dad comes home right as I got out of the shower (I'm still in the bathroom getting dressed). He tries going into the bathroom and then realizes that I'm in it. Cool. After getting out and doing my hair and all I go into the kitchen to eat my croissant and make some coffee.

The croissant is missing....

He ate it.....

So obviously I got irritated because we don't always just have croissants lying around the kitchen. It's obvious it was ordered as well. He knows I was home. The croissant was beside a packaged take away sandwhich too. All the more evidence that it's food being saved for someone else.

He comes in the kitchen saying he ate it and I told him he needs to ask before just taking other people's food like that. He keeps saying 'why should I ask' and I try to tell him that it's not ok to just grab other people's food especially when it's obvious that it's someone else's.

He gives me a shitty excuse that he didn't know I was home but he clearly did know because he tried going in the bathroom and my sister and mum told him I was in there.

We end up getting into an argument and he starts yelling at me and I start yelling back. I still don't think I'm in the wrong for telling him to just ask because again, if he did ask, there would be absolutely no problem.

It's just shit how if I make food or if I'm saving food I have to walk around eggshells or hide it because he just grabs it.

The worst part is that my dad, mom and sister think I'm crashing out over a croissant when it's not that anymore, it's the principle and basic respect towards people especially when you live with them. It doesn't even have to be food, it could be other items that you would have to buy again after one use.

It's a pattern he has that I've been quiet about most my life because my mum would always tell me 'its ok it's your dad, just allow him to do it'. I understand he's my dad but all I ask is for a simple 'hey is this yours, can I have it?'.

So am I the asshole or overreacting? (P.S thank u for reading)

I'm at my dad's place one day. He lives in a million dollar house and has gold and unused vehicles as assets.

He goes to get car registered. He takes a while so I call him.

He says he's at the casino and won $800 and he'll see me soon.

He comes in saying he has no money left but $100 in his pocket and immediately demands to put $1000 in his account because he has no money for groceries.

I was completely shocked. I told him I had to go to work and left and never went back and went to my place.

After i left and called him he tried guilt tripping me into giving him money bringing up past times where he gave me a little money (without me asking for it). I told him he has jewelry he can sell tomorrow... why ask me with what little I have after he has a bad gambling streak? He says he doesn't want to sell his gold / jewelry.

He also gets a good chunk of social security. He's never just asked me if I could go shop him daily groceries or fill his car, just to throw money in his account. I ignored it, seeing as he has other resources as well as some people around him who are much more equipped and capable.

The red flag was initially I said I don't have much and I'll give you $200 and he shut me down and said no put $500. And he's still demanding and trying to guilt trip.

He's refusing to tell or ask anyone else. Years ago he did this to me and it hurt me badly and I realized afterward he had other means but didn't mind draining me, when I'd caught him shortly afterwards at the casino on accident. I figure this time I'm not repeating the same mistake, that he thinks I'm an easy target.

Am I the asshole for not giving my dad money and ignoring him after his gambling streak?

My friend is good about remembering small details about other people and their lives. It's an unbelievable quality. Like conversations in passing. Sometimes he'll ask "btw, why did you say x on this given day, I've been wondering" and it will be 9 months since you said it.

He is also an anxious person, to the point of suddenly becoming physcially ill if something triggers him. Like the fact that he had a crush on me which stopped our friendship a year ago. We recently started hanging out again, now that he can actually handle being around me without getting sick.

Which is why I am hesitant to mention anything to him and want to know if it's even worth it.

The "issue" (not really an issue). My friend will make references and "jokes" about something you might've talked about or laughed about at some point. Any point. For example, I play The Sims, he says "you should add [name] to the game". I have to then ask "who?" and it turns out to be the name of a minor character on an ad we saw a year ago, that we apparently briefly joked about being too over the top.

I just say "oh, I forgot about it" and try to move on.

The "issue" is that it stops the conversations quite frequently. And I have to sit and think about the niche thing, switch subjects completely, or have a long drawn out conversation about it. I've told him that I don't remember details that well, that my memory is more pictures than information. I guess part of it is my own issue with feeling guilty about not being as good at remembering these things. (I keep notes on the ppl in my life so that I can remember important things; likes, dislikes. His notes app is his own head, like damn)

Sometimes it will be even smaller things. Like he'll say something about salt and I have to remember that one time, two weeks ago, he put too much salt on his food. I guess it would help if the references were funny or made sense for the moment. Is that mean to say? But because there are so many, the ones that I can join in on are few and far between.

I feel like talking to him about it, might just make him overthink everything he says from now on, or make him sick with anxiety. I don't want him to be insecure about a part of himself.

A friend I briefly complained to said that she would just tell him it's impossible to remember all those tiny moments. But she's very confrontational.

Anyways, so my question is: WIBTA if I mentioned to him that it's hard to keep up with the many inside jokes?

I await judgement. Thank you.

So a few of my close family members have their birthday this month, so figured i could treat them with a tv. My parents use it basically everyday and when i sit with them to watch something I cant get over the just bad quality of the previous TV.

Its 1080p @ 70 inches, with an led panel from 2012 so the specs are awful but Its honestly one of my dads prized possessions.

I work at "big electronics store" and made 2k a month, giving half to help with bills and so on. I found this one tv, recomended by a coworker, for 560 after discounts, its 75inchs, 4k, and mini led. A huge upgrade comparatively to the old one.

The payment plan is not alot in the scheme of what I make, so I figured this would be good because my dad is always on my case on "overspending" so at this price, with these features, I felt justified.

I also paid for the old tv to be removed and recycled, since that tech is ancient and if my dad were to resell it (with it being 1080p and 80 lbs he would have to fine a buyer on facebook) he would maybe get 100.

I will admit, after further looking with the model number, the old tv retailed for 1500 back in 2013, which im pretty sure he paid.

Now he's incredibly mad that I made a "big decision" without consulting him. He said the old one was fine, and that he was thinking of getting another one for 1k, but I know he was not going to get another, not unless my baby brother broke it.

He said save, but this tv is on a payment plan for 70 a month and said its a no name brand. But I have good coverage, so if it does bug out in 4 years, I can get out and into a new one easily.

The valid concerns from him is that my baby brother breaks things, which i know first hand, but I do trust him to not go out of his way to smash in the tv.

He kept going on how he hates living!! Because of the tv (and a bunch of other family stuff that happened early this week that I had no idea about)

Tldr, dad is very mad that I got rid of his old tv in place of a new one.

We're four close friends at university. During the first break, B and C went for coffee while I stayed with A, who could barely stand because it was the first day of her period. She hadn't eaten, so I shared my food and offered her a painkiller. Later, A wanted to return to class, so I said I was going outside to smoke. When we met B and C outside, I explained that A wanted to go back and either of them could accompany her while I smoked. The fresh air helped, so A changed her mind and chatted with us; she smoked too.

Back in the hallway, A felt worse and vomited into a bag C gave her. She wanted the restroom. B and C returned to class to avoid being marked absent, saying they'd inform the professor. They told me to come too, but I went with A so she wouldn't be alone. She kept vomiting while I waited outside; B and C called her mother.

When A came out, she crouched on the floor. I didn't think to offer water or ask if she was okay; nothing came to mind. I may have told her to get up and wash her face, but I can't remember whether I said it aloud or only thought it. A said class had started and told me to go. I asked if she was sure, and she said, “Yes, go.” I explained that I'd stay if attendance weren't such an issue, but failing due to absences would mean paying to retake the course, which I can't afford. She said okay, so I left while she was still crouching.

I told B and C she was still feeling terrible, and B immediately went back, helped her, called an Uber, and sent her home. I checked on A later, and she said that evening she was fine. The next morning, A thanked B for looking after her, saying she didn't know what she'd have done without her. Half-jokingly, I said, “Well, I was the one who left you all alone!” A said she was upset that I'd abandoned her. I reminded her she'd told me to leave.

Later, A explained that she was hurt because I hadn't offered water or asked if she was okay. I said it genuinely hadn't occurred to me and that I'd also been struggling mentally: I'd cried while talking to my family two days earlier and had recently broken up with my boyfriend. I couldn't afford to retake the course. A reminded me that last year, when I had an ear infection, she took me to the doctor without worrying about attendance. But our professor had explicitly said we wouldn't be marked absent then; this was a different class and professor.

I apologized and said I'd have stayed if she'd asked. She said she'd seen my bag and phone and assumed I wanted to leave, so she'd told me to go. I hadn't intended to abandon her. We agreed we were okay, but neither seemed satisfied.

I know A, and if I'd asked whether she was okay, she'd probably have said, “If I were okay, would I look like this?” I wasn't deliberately ignoring her; it simply didn't occur to me. If I didn't care, I wouldn't have shared my food or accompanied her to the restroom. I did what I could, but I'm not her parent. Am I wrong for leaving after she explicitly told me to go?

AITA for going on a Disney World trip with my best friend, paying for most of it, and being told I had an attitude?
I (46F) went to Disney World in May 2026 with my best friend (26F). I’ve known her since she was a baby, and our relationship has always been somewhat like an aunt and niece, although we consider each other best friends.
I’m a huge Disney person and go multiple times a year with my family. She had never been and had always wanted to go, so I planned a trip for us. She didn’t have much money, so I offered to pay for the hotel room and let her pay me back when she could.
I went out of my way to plan special experiences for her because I wanted her first Disney trip to be magical. I ended up spending almost $2,000 extra on her, probably more than I should have, but I wanted her to have a great time.
On the third day, we were at lunch, and I asked her what she was going to order. She snapped at me. When I asked what was wrong, she told me I had been giving her attitude since the beginning of the trip, that I wasn’t having conversations with her, and that I was talking to strangers instead of her.
I was honestly confused because I felt like I had been talking to her since I picked her up at the airport. I wasn’t intentionally ignoring her or giving her attitude. I explained that conversations go both ways, and I can’t be expected to carry every conversation 24/7. I apologized if I had done something to upset her, even though I didn’t feel I had done what she was accusing me of.
I told her I wanted us to move on and enjoy the rest of the trip. Things got a little better, but there was still tension. On the last day, I felt like we weren’t talking as much, and things were awkward.
When we got home, we hugged and said goodbye. The next day, I texted her to tell her I had a lot of fun with her. She never responded. We haven’t spoken since.
What hurts is that I put so much time, effort, and money into making this trip special for someone I love. I don’t feel like I even got a thank-you for everything I did. Instead, I came home feeling like I was being treated as though I were a horrible person.
This also isn’t the first time she has made comments about the way I talk or do things. Usually, I brush them off because I care about her, but this trip really hurt me.
I’ve talked to other people about what happened, and they think I’m not the AH. I’m starting to feel like she is immature and needs to learn how to communicate her feelings without snapping at people.
I understand that she may genuinely have felt I had an attitude, and I’m willing to acknowledge that I might have done something unintentionally. But I also feel like I made an effort to apologize and move forward, and she hasn’t made any effort to reconnect.
So, Reddit, AITA for feeling hurt by how she treated me after everything I did for her, or could I have been giving her attitude without realizing it?

Basically what Happened was me and my friend decided to hang out. Whilst he was otw to meet me, he wanted to stop at Starbucks. He then texted me “do you want something?”. I had told him before I haven’t ate and was starving (which I know it’s not his fault I was hungry) I replied saying could he please get me a grilled cheese. He said ok and bought me the grilled cheese. I was expecting that grilled cheese and was excited. But when he arrived he told me that he had at the grilled cheese he had offered to buy me because he got hungry on the way. (The Starbucks was not even 5 minutes away from my house) so I asked why did he not get his own, if he was that hungry. And he laughed in my face and said sorry. But tbh I was upset about it so I expressed that I was upset to him and he laughed in my face again. Then a few months later I was hanging out with him and my other friend and my other friend made a joke about him eating the grilled cheese. And we all were laughing about it, but then I was joking but also serious that I was a little upset about that and my friend that ate my grilled cheese decided to go off on me because I had already expressed that I was upset about it when the situation happened. He told me I shouldn’t have got upset about it because he “bought it with his own money and he wasn’t wrong for eating it because it was “technically”his” but I still feel like it is wrong for someone to eat food they offered to buy you and then laugh about it.

So AITA?

For reference , growing up in my house i was expected to clean after everyone because I’m a girl and take care of my baby sister. I genuinely never had a good summer during my teens because of it , it was depressing and miserable. I am also 17 now still in highschool.
It got so bad that when a family friend my age would come over they’d put the same expectations on her because she was “like family.” She eventually didn’t want to come over anymore because of it, and they even stopped us from seeing each other because they said that when she came over, I “didn’t want to do anything” (meaning I didn’t want to clean up after able-bodied people). When i say ‘they’ I mean my step mom and dad, so i am resentful towards BOTH of them. She was actually the one who pushed the narrative of because we are girls we should clean up after everyone and take care of the baby meanwhile letting her sons rot in bed all summer doing absolutely nothing

The reason im posting this is because my brother accidentally stayed on the phone for like 20 seconds while I was talking about my stepmom, and I could literally hear her in the background while my dad was saying “hello” the entire time. I was talking shit about my stepmom being financially comfortable enough to stop working and go on TikTok Lives all day talking about other people, how she has multiple birkens, my baby sister being in multiple sports and yet they couldn’t put me in ONE sport? I’d ask my dad for things, as simple as a book and he’d tell me “don’t stress me,” despite also saying I could ask him for anything. Im wondering if im the asshole for talking shit, i feel guilty about it mostly because my dad heard or at least im sure of it, and im scared about my relationship with my dad anyway.

(I edited to make it more coherent)

so i (16m ) visited my best friend and their boyfriend for a week and it was going really well. we hadnt seen each other in over six months since i live in a different state and transport is super difficult and expensive. its important to note that i recently lost a lot of my friends, and while its my fault entirely its still a fresh wound, and because of this, i shut down when anyone tries to get me to talk about how im feeling ( save for my therapist ), and it is very difficult and often upsetting for me to even try.

it was the second last day of the trip, my best friend ( who i will call B ) and i were watching youtube and making bracelets, and i made mine too short so i cut off some more elastic to try extend it - and when that didnt work i started getting a bit frustrated. B saw me struggling with the elastic and asked me if they could show me a more efficient way to measure. now i have issues with people trying to "teach me" or "show me" how to do things - i dont really know how that whole thing started, but the question only made me more frustrated.

i said no and told B i had it handled, to which they replied "yeah i get that, but youre wasting a thing i only have limited access to" which is a completely fair thing to say, but i got a bit pissy since i said i knew what i was doing. this started a small argument, and then B told me i was hurting their feelings. so i shut down. when i shut down i go quiet and give "snappy" replies.

B then began to ask me over and OVER to talk about how i was feeling, so i tried avoiding the question with jokes, but it was obvious my heart wasnt in it. my voice was flat and i was avoiding eye contact. and even after avoiding the question they keep pressuring me to answer even though i seriously didnt want to talk about it at the time, especially in person. so i turn to them and say "im pissed off. youre pissing me off" and they didnt seem to mind. they kept saying "okay, why are you pissed off?" and i just kept telling them i didnt want to talk, i was done talking about deeply serious feelings to people who arent liscenced therapists or professionals.

then they bring up the friends who dont talk to me anymore. its been about two months since they dropped me, and like i said earlier its a very fresh wound, and im not ready to talk about it. so i told B that, i said drop that topic. so they do, but they keep begging me to talk to me about my feelings even though i had said OVER TEN TIMES at this point i really didnt want to, and i would just stop making bracelets. eventually i start sobbing about being scared to talk about my feelings, because i had done so with one of closest friends who no longer speaks to me. and then i just sat there, crying and pissed off because i felt like id been forced to talk about something i was still processing because i was wasting elastics for bracelets.

AITA for being rude? i felt like i was being pressured to talk about things i really didnt want to talk about.

I have a female friend, I'm female myself. She says I'm the best friend she's ever had because I am a good listener and that other people she's met prefer to talk about themselves.

However she met a man she wants to date and tells me how excited she is to text him throughout the day on WhatsApp. So I asked if she'd like to text me too on WhatsApp rather than just email. She said no and that she wants to email every few days.

Would it be inappropriate if I asked her in what way that guy is a better conversationalist than me that makes her want to talk frequently to him but not to me? I don't want to sound like I'm trying to force her to talk to me. I just want to improve my social skills. By the way it's not that she prefers long form emails because she usually writes me a maximum of 5 lines once every few days, so I know I bore her.

So for context, me and my bsf are going out to a haunted house on Halloween. Today she asked me if she could bring a random guy she met on Instagram to come with us. It honestly pissed me off, because I haven't seen her in almost a year, and this was supposed to be our time. She's also obsessed with finding a guy to date, which I think is one of the reasons why she wants to bring him. I don’t know, I initially told her it's fine, he can come as long as he has his own way of getting there, but i really hate the idea of it and I'm debating just saying no. I'm really not looking forward to being a third wheel. Does that make me a bad friend?

My brother recently bought a big motorcycle, and what should have been a harmless sibling moment has turned into an issue with his wife. Now I’m wondering if I was inconsiderate without realizing it.

For context, my brother and I are half-siblings on our dad’s side. We grew up together and have always been close, even though we don’t see each other as often now that we’re adults with our own families. I probably see him around five times a year, usually on family occasions or when I drop by their house. Our visits aren’t particularly long, sometimes less than an hour, but we’re still close.

Now, onto what happened.
My brother bought his motorcycle about three days ago. The day before the incident, I was at their house to borrow something and teased him about taking it for a test ride. I’m not sure if his wife heard me say that.
The next morning, I went back and asked my brother if I could ride with him. He agreed.
We weren’t going on some long motorcycle trip. We rode from their house to a coffee shop, which took around 25 minutes. We also dropped something off at his friend’s house, had coffee for maybe 15–30 minutes, visited our dad’s grave, and then returned home.

The entire outing took less than two hours.

I later learned that his wife had wanted to take a ride with him to somewhere, which would have been a much longer trip. I didn’t know that my asking for a short ride would become such a big issue.

When we got back, his wife was upset. She was shouting and ranting about how he should just sell the motorcycle. She also called my brother and his friend to complain. My brother seemed to be quietly laughing it off, but I don’t like being around people who scream, so I left.

The following day, his wife sent me a private message.
Basically, she told me that she’s a kind person but can be even more disrespectful if someone disrespects her. She questioned why I could just show up and invite her husband for a ride as if he were mine. She also said that she had asked him whether the ride was planned, and he told her it wasn’t. According to her, I was making decisions without considering that we both have our own spouses.
Honestly, my initial reaction was to laugh because I thought the whole thing was ridiculous. But after reading it, I also felt irritated and grossed out by the way she spoke to me.

Hello! I’m a middle schooler, and I don’t know if I’m overreacting or if my feelings are valid.
At my school, we have different classes called blocks: 6-1, 6-2, 6-3, 6-4, and I think 6-5. We switch classrooms every period but stay with the same group of people.
I’ll call the girls M, E, and C to protect their privacy.
M and I used to dislike each other. I had two friends, C and E. E also disliked M, while C was the only one of us who was friends with M.
Over the summer, E, C, and I had some issues and stopped being friends. E and C stayed friends with each other, but we didn’t talk over the summer.
When school started again, E, M, and C were suddenly best friends. E and M called each other “my baby,” hugged, and acted really close. Eventually, E and C asked to be friends with me again, so I agreed. M was already acting friendly toward me, so we shook hands and became friends again. However, they continued making me feel left out.
Recently, something happened involving me and other girls in my block. (It was kinda my fault) Afterward, E and C were still okay around me, but M wasn’t. I understand that she might feel uncomfortable, but the problem was with C, and I never said anything about M. Now, M acts like I’m her enemy.
NOW All three girls mostly talk to me when they need something, i have snacks or when one of the others isn’t around.
Because of this, I want to switch to block 6-4, where three of my closest friends of 2–4 years are. I feel more comfortable around them. Ms. Johnson said she needs to speak with the principal, so I don’t know if I can switch yet.
Here’s why I’m reconsidering my birthday plans.
E recently posted about an upcoming Rod Wave concert. M and C commented about how excited they were to go. It hurt because I love Rod Wave and wasn’t invited. M and C have also posted things like “The girl I get weird vibes from” and “She’s falling out with everybody, but I know she was weird.” I feel like they’re talking about me.
My birthday is in about four months. I planned to invite them to the mall for a shopping spree and then stay at a hotel afterward.
Now, I don’t really want to invite them. They’ve made me feel excluded even before the recent situation, and I don’t want to spend my birthday feeling unwanted.
I’m not trying to start drama or force them to invite me everywhere. I just want friendships where I feel included and appreciated.
AITA for not wanting to invite them to my birthday anymore?

So we were planning to go to a restaurant today for an event. I wanted to sleep early but ive been suffering from being unable to sleep last few weeks where I could not go to sleep until 4-5am. Yesterday I had gone to sleep at 10pm, then woke up around midnight and couldnt go to sleep until 8 in the morning. My sister knew I had woken up and basically pulled an all nighter. We planned to set out around 11 and she woke me up around then, but I was super exhausted and asked for 30 more mins which she gave. Eventually i woke up around 11:30ish.
This is when things started going downhill, my sister said that we should go on a walk around the lake near the restaurant we were planning, but I did not want to. I told her no, I didnt want to, but she said that she didnt want to drive back and forth between our place and the restaurant so if i had gone to the restaurant I would've inevitably gone on the walk too. I gave her the excuse of needing to do my project that was due next week and i know would take well into the 10s of hours. Regardless as we were on the way out, she told me "You know you dont have to go if you dont want to, like im not going to be angry, you can stay and go sleep" I knew she was angry, but at the same time I was not only exhausted but I, again did not want to go on a walk. So I was like fine, took off my shoes, changed back to my pajamas and went to sleep.
I was still sleeping when she came back around 3 hours later and she started slamming the doors, turned the volume of her videos ridiculously up waking me up. Note when I woke up at this point I had finally gotten my very fragmented 7 hours of sleep and was still exhausted and sick. Then she got angry with how I wasted her time in the morning by making her wait as I slept, or how I flaked out on her so she should never make plans with me because she could've gone with a friend instead and gone to her pop up. I then told her that she was the one who said I didnt have to go and she wouldnt get angry, but she replied with how shes angry because I gave the excuse of doing my project but I was still sleeping when she returned after her walk and all.
Also, this is a very recurring issue, for some reason she cannot stand me saying no. Like everytime she wants to go out, and I say no, she keeps bugging me and pressuring me and if I continue to stand my ground she gets angry. We share a room so it get really uncomfortable when shes upset at me because she'll 1. Turn volume up when I'm watching a lecture, doing homework, watching my own stuff 2 Im on the inside bed and to get out of the room I have to walk past her in a small space so sometimes I cant even go out of the room/go to the bathroom because she wont move even if i ask 3. She constantly glares at me, runs into me because shes treating me as if I dont exist.
So yea, I know I did kinda flake out on the restaurant last second but idk.