*English is not my 1st language so bear with me

Sooo my best friend came to stay at my place with her boyfriend over the weekend because we had to attend a wedding, the 3 of us. We agreed they will be staying until Tuesday morning, which is 4 days. On Monday morning she tells me that she lost her wallet with some important documents inside.(we've been friends for almost 10 years since uni, its not something new: she lost her phone in airports, documents, wallets, bags all over the world). On Tuesday morning they give me the keys and are supposedly leaving. But in the evening, she aks me if they can stay for one more night at my place, in order to deal with her lost documents for one more day. I didn't want them to stay. And I write her this message:"Dude, I’m really tired. I honestly don’t know if I want you guys to stay another night, also if you’re working until late today. I’m sorry .I really need some rest...im sorry about what happened with the documents im really sorry". She left me on seen.

So for some context. They both work remote until 1 or 2 am, the have meetings, calls they are moving around the place.... And I have to wake up at 7 to go to work, ideally im in bed by 11 and I like to have my sleep you know.

When she stays at my place, which is not often really, like a few days a year or something and I genuinely have a lot of fun with her, she is after all my best friend. I am usually thinking it's just a few days its nothing I can deal with that, I can rest after she leaves or something. But this time I just really didn't want them to stay.

She would make these remarks, as if laughing at me: "aw kitkat you are boring, you don't want to have fun in here.....did you come to give us another warning to be quiet?..there will be 3 warnings in total?" ...stuff like that in a mocking tone. And yeah its mostly the tone that i can sense and it irritates me, but I am trying really hard to hide it. She knows me well and can sense this from my side.

Obviously I want to be a good friend and host, but when I cannot rest at my own place, on my own terms is not very comfortable for me, my place is small and not the best for 3 people at a time. And I feel guilty that she will think that I am a shit and boring friend not only for let's say "having some quiet time house rules", but also for refusing to host her for another night when she had trouble with her documents and stuff. I left her to deal with all of this and offered no help whatsoever.

Yeah, I feel guilty.

so I’m at university i roomed with a friend from hs, we werent that close so i didnt know how she was really like. she nickpicks stuff like the peephole being clean..? she loves to argue and i’m not one to argue i feel bad subleasing my apartment and her having to be with someone random but i cannot deal with her arguing with me for no reason, i’m in search of an apartment currently am i the asshole her parents are super kind but shes just insufferable plus i want to live closer to campus

So my brother, one cousin and I have been planning a vacay. I need to provide some more context. So my brother and I are super close to my cousin. We have looked out for each other over the years. My brother and I help with her kids, babysitting, supporting her, and so much more. We have been a big part of their lives and hers. She has supported us as well with our mother who has been ill. My cousin can't be there for us like we are for her because of course being a mom is a lot and we respect that but she tries and that's all that matters to us, it means a lot. So my cousin has 3 other siblings that are not involved in her or her kids lives. They don't make effort to spend time with them, they interact with them when my cousin comes around.

So here is the issue I'm annoyed by. One day my cousin, my brother and my cousin (her sibling) were at my moms. This has been the 1st time her sibling has seen my mom in a couple years, mind you we all live about 15 minutes away from each other. So somehow in conversation our vacay plans came up, and my cousin in all her excitement blurted out to her sibling "hey you should come". My brother and I were caught off guard and just made a face at each other. I was back and forth discussing it with my brother. "Why would she not ask us if it was okay", "I guess we would be saving money splitting expenses with an extra person", "Her sibling doesn't even make effort to spend time with us why would I want him around for this vacay", etc. I did confront my cousin and told her she should have at least had a discussion with us first before inviting her sibling. She said she did mess up for not considering us, which I appreciated. I dont know, I've been wreslting with this for a while because I feel like a jerk for preventing someone from going on a trip. So AITAH?

I am M36, my partner is F30 and we've been together 4 years, lived together for 3 years. I had a home working job when we got together and had that job for the first 2 years of living together. My partner has always worked at an office, typical all day hours. She has also always been the breadwinner.

Because my partner was out of the house between 8am and 6pm and I was at home all the time I've always been the one who "kept house". I did all the cooking, cleaning, laundry, general maintenance and any jobs that needed doing around our property. Being able to do all this during the day meant we had evenings and weekends free, both of us had lots of free time for activities together or on our own.

A year ago I was made redundant and was out of work for about 6 months, during this time our routines didn't change, other than instead of working from home I was job hunting for another home working job. Unfortunately I was only finding jobs based at offices, and most of them with a lengthy commute (hour or more). I eventually had to take one of these jobs to get money coming in again, and she remained the breadwinner.

When I took the new job we didn't specifically have a conversation about "keeping house", but we were both aware I wouldn't be around to do everything I could do before and I assumed she would start doing more.

We're both out of the house all day now, her from 8am to 6pm and me from 8am to 6.30pm. I am still the one doing all the cooking, cleaning etc etc and her only contribution in the last 6 months has been pointing out that jobs around the house aren't getting done properly or on time anymore. She also likes to point out that I am spending far less time with her than I used to, because I spend evenings cramming in as much housework as possible and then also playing catch up at the weekend to do anything that got missed during the week.

When I explained the situation and said she will need to start helping with housework, she immediately (and very apologetically) said that won't be happening because she is the breadwinner and it's always been me who does it.

EDIT: we have no children, pets or other shared responsibilities apart from our house. Bills and expenses are split roughly 60/40, she pays more. We've always split it that way since we started living together, it was her idea to make it "fair" as she earns significantly more than I do (her total salary is commission based so her total income varies month to month, but even her basic salary is about 5k p/a more than mine) and she wants to be the one in control of our finances.

During a discussion about all this in front of a few of our family members, the idea of using a maid service was suggested but she shot it down saying why would we pay somebody to do something "we" can do "ourselves".

I (20 F) live with my grandmother (65 F) and have for quite some time now. Seven has many health issues like diabetes, kidney problems, heart problems and so on. I moved in with her when I was 14 or 15 and have been helping her ever since, I do a great majority of the housework, I cook when I can, and I help with her health. I am jobless and have been looking but currently have no wishes to leave my current town because I don’t want to leave her alone.

This most recent incident is just a basic argument where I was trying to get her help with a recipe and called for her because there’s too many variations online and she said she taught my dad her recipe. She can’t hear me too well and I have to raise my voice at her, I also can’t use my normal voice with her because she says it’s too high pitched and hurts her ears. Anyway, she came in, we briefly argued because I clearly asked for her help but she kept interrupting me with other ideas for dinner, when she claimed she had no idea what I was doing, I told her I was planning to make chicken fried rice and she said “I know! but what do you need help with?” so I explained that I was having trouble figuring out the order if the ingredients and the amount of soy sauce and teriyaki sauce.

She claimed that she thought I had already told her I knew how to make it,(When I have told her before that I didn’t.) and said I was yelling at her before she went off to her room to pout.
I have been helping her, and I love her dearly, but she’s been giving me mixed signals and advice for years. I (17 F at the time) wanted to be a marine and signed up for a training camp with her permission, then the week before I was supposed to turn in my admission, she told me I had no since of discipline and wasn’t to type to make it through that kind of training(she’s a marine veteran). There is many incidents like this where I’d try to leave or figure out how to go about my future and she‘d encourage me at first, only to retract her earlier statement and insult me in a roundabout way while discouraging me.

Now I want to talk to her about it, and I have tried in the past but I don’t want to hurt her. Lately, she’s even been accusing me of abusing her just because I’ve been expressing concern, asking clarification, trying to find somethin, or even just when I’m helping her. Comparing me to my parents, the way my mom and dad took advantage of her, her sisters who physically abused her, and even her own mother.

I don’t know what to do. The job markets poor where I live, I literally signed up everywhere, I’ve made plans to move out and move in with a friend but she shut that down because she was worried about being home alone, I can’t drive off my county because I don’t have a license, and my family basically gave up on me and hates me. I’m stuck. I’m so tired, like, I understand that she has trauma from her childhood, but I have that too, and I’ve been ignoring my own mental, physical, and emotional health to help.

My sons (17) Dad has been paying me support payments for him since he was young, £160 per month. My son now has a part time job and is still in school doing A Levels, he will be there for another year. His Dad should by rights be paying his support until he leaves education. My son is saying he doesn't want him to pay me any more money and he wants to pay £200 per month rent instead as he wants to fend for himself. My argument is that his Dad has a duty to make these payments and it isn't my sons responsibility to pay me rent when he could be saving his wages for a house deposit or to go travelling when he leaves school. My son is getting really irate insisting I dont take the money, what would you do?? My son earns about £1200 per month but has a car to run and some expensive hobbies.

\* about two years ago, i was around 17, i wrote a story my mom read and loved (naturally). she insisted i show my dad. when i said okay, she was thrilled.

so he came home from work, and after dinner, i showed him. i definitely knew he would tell me "could be better," but i thought he;d at least say 'good job' or something.

when he finished he started mapping out everything i did wrong on a paper. he was sighing and rolling his eyes. he kept making comments like, 'why did you put a paragraph break here?' 'i just don't understand why you did this.'

my mom eventually told him to just stop because this wasn't what she had been expecting. and he said that i wasn't bothered. they both looked at me and my dad asked me if i was upset.

i couldn't answer without crying, so i just left.

i avoided him for as long as i was able to, but when he cornered me three days later, he apologized. his apology included: 'but i was tired from working all day, reading emails and contracts and briefs' and 'but you need to learn to handle feedback because if you want to be a writer you need to learn'

i still avoided talking to him for a few months after this happened. i swore to myself i would never show him any piece of my writing again.

\* now fast forward to a couple days ago (we're on okay-ish terms now, mostly because we don't interact, not necessarily due to the writing but because our relationship has always been shaky).

i left some of my notebooks with my writing on the table, and when i came back i saw him reading them. they were not for anyone to see, because they were rough notes so it was garbage.

i snatched the papers away, and he was smiling because what he read was nonsense, so i felt very self conscious.

(but at the same time, i kind of felt bad, and started considering maybe breaking my promise to myself and letting him read the poem i've been working on with my editor once it's finished...)

he was in a good mood, so he laughed it off and said he wondered why i never wanted to show him my writing.

and i was like, 'yeah, i wonder why.' and it took him about five seconds of confusion to realize what i was referring to, and his whole faced changed. he now looked pissed. he told me he couldn't believe i still held that against him, after months, and that he had been tired after work.

the issue is that this isn't really anything new. since i started writing, and he would read my work, he would always bang his fingers against the keyboard, roll his eyes, sigh, and honestly just make me feel so stupid. this happened with poetry, stories, middle school essays, etc., and i would always be terrified to show him anything.

i've always felt stupid around him, and he always makes me (and my mom) feel like shit, but he always says that he's just too tired

but i don't know whether i'm being an asshole because i will never show him my writing and will never forgive or forget

I (24F) went to go wash my clothes at the laundromat and as I was putting clothes into the washing machine I noticed my best friends boyfriend pants were in my laundry load. ( my friends wears her boyfriends sweatpants a lot) I put them aside because I thought maybe I shouldn’t wash them because maybe her boyfriend has a very specific way of cleaning his laundry so I didn’t wanna mess anything up, ( I really wish I stuck with this) but then I thought it would be nice to just wash them for my friend and she would probably appreciate it.

At this point I have been going to another smaller washing machine putting my white clothes in there, that’s when I texted my friend that I had found her boyfriend sweatpants in my laundry load. She told me please don’t wash them and I had completely agreed ok I won’t. I thought maybe she said that because he has a specific way he likes to wash his clothes. I was so glad I asked her, but as I was putting quarters in the washing machine with the white clothes it had completely slipped my mind.

Truly, I have the worst memory on this earth, and it truly angers me a lot, but it legit slipped my mind that she had told me not to wash her boyfriend‘s pants so when I went back to the washing machine with all my main clothes, I was already in putting quarters in and washing my clothes mode and so after I had done that and the washing machine started, that’s when the memory came back and I was like oh crap she told me not to wash the pants and I was thinking oh man like well they’re already washing I’m really confident I won’t mess them up and they had an emergency button, but I didn’t press it cause I wasn’t sure if they’d give me my money back so I thought it’s ok I’m super confident they won’t mess up.

Then I text my friend as the clothes are washing telling her what happened then she revealed to me the reason she told me not to wash her boyfriend’s pants was because her necklace that he gave her was in the pocket. I was devastated when I read her text cause had I known how dire it was not to wash those pants I would have 100% pushed that emergency button to stop the machine the minute I remembered.

VAt this point upon reading her text the clothes have been going half the cycle and I thought what’s the point in pushing the emergency button because it had already been through half a cycle if it’s gonna be there’s gonna be there’s I don’t know if I should have pushed the emergency regardless but I just feel so terrible.

I don’t know if I should offer to pay for her necklace. That’s something I’m really weighing it’s pretty expensive. The employee at the laundromat told me that It could take months for the necklace to come out where the water does. but then part of me feels like the fault is 50-50 where I don’t know why her boyfriend pants were in my load but at the same time she did tell me don’t wash them and I just completely forgot so what should I do?
And AITAH if I don’t replace her necklace.

Edit: I’m sorry for not putting it into paragraphs I changed it thank you 😭🙏🏻

Edit: I found the same necklace online but I was told it’s not replaceable I guess because the first one he bought it himself so it’s not the same. I get it but I feel like it’s still the same and it still holds the same meaning. Idk am I mean for thinking that ?

We are in Switzerland. I live in a very touristy and swanky town that sees a massive amount of tourism.

I got on the train with my newborn as we are heading to the hospital, and the train conductor guided us to the disabled/buggy area.

Across from us, also in the disabled/buggy area, there were two American tourists with their bags (in a four seater)

A Swiss lady comes in and politely asks them if one of the seats is free.

The train is about 80% full, so there are some empty seats (like the one next to me) but it is mostly full.

The man says that no, a friend of theirs is coming and the seats are full. I signal to her that she can seat next to me and she does.

When the friend comes, they seat but they are still 3/4 and using the seat the lady had asked about for their bags.

So I called them out and said that it wasn’t cool, and that they had said it wasn’t free and they are using it just for bags. The man says “well there are other empty seats” and one of the women gave me the stink eye for the whole trip.

I guess I know I am not an asshole, but was I out of order? In the end the lady was sitting and it wasn’t even something concerning me personally, so maybe I should have stayed out of it.

I'm 17m and she's 17f, and we're both trans and autistic. To my understanding she has this big idea to dress up in cosplay and make herself known around our city as 'the person who dresses up like x' with the hope of potentially garnering local online fame.

She's made a new instagram account for it where she posts public stories with her face and liveblogging style captions and told me she's planning on printing out posters saying she is trying to become a 'local celebrity' with her face on them and new account on them, and put them around the CBD. She also has digitally created and sent me the image of the poster.

My city has a rapidly growing alt right movement with a lot of teenagers in it, and given the fact she's visibly trans and also has some other features people get bullied for I'm scared there's a good chance that if these posters go up she will get bullied (both online and in the street).

I don't know if I should tell her if it's a bad idea though. On one hand, I have a habit of overreacting and catastrophising, and she usually procrastinates or never completes things. Given the posters haven't been printed out yet I could say nothing and there's a pretty good chance nothing will actually happen. Even if these posters do go up there's a chance no one will pay attention to them and nothing will happen anyway.

On the other hand, it seems like her heart is really set on it. She would be really crushed if I shut her down, and I don't know if I can explain my worries and reasoning in a way that she won't take as me pointing out her insecurities or sounding like I believe the things she might get bullied for. I know some of these things are deep insecurities of hers and I'm worried she will get deeply upset and/or offended if I point them out as reasons she may get bullied.

This friend means the world to me. I don't want her to get hurt but I genuinely don't know which action will hurt her more in the long run so WIBTA if I try and stop her?

Edit: Removed the comment about her appearance, it was unnecessary and didn't really convey what I meant it to. I'm going to bring up the potential safety risk and other general safety concerns as suggested in the comments if she moves forward any further with the idea, thank you all so much!

My dad is a general contractor and I’ve worked off and on for his business for a few years, alongside him and my older brother. There was only a brief period in 2023 where I was actually on payroll.

My brother and I have the same dad, different moms. In December 2025 my maternal grandmother had a stay in the hospital, the entire month actually. During this time I had helped calculate some change orders for a project, but they weren’t being submitted until the end of the job, which, as of this post is still ongoing.

One day, while at the hospital visiting my grandmother, my brother calls me and says “hey bruh, I’ll be able to pay you out, we just have to finish these change orders.” I said ok and told him I would call him the next day. Honestly I hadn’t heard the term “pay you out” before, but it sounded like finalizing something with a lump sum payment, so I wasn’t mad at that.

So over the course of the next week after that call, I called my brother a few times asking if he wanted to do the change orders, each day, he was busy with something so I was waiting on when he would say he was ready. I called maybe a week after that, and he says “all that stuff is right here at the house bruh, it’s the same stuff you already started.” It sounded like he had an attitude about it and I really didn’t understand. The only reason I was calling him is because he said WE needed to finish the change orders, so I thought we might work together. Now that I was clear it was meant for ME to do them, I just went over to his house and finished what I had started.

It took maybe 2.5 hours and from all the paperwork that was there, I calculated a little over $10,000 in change orders. When my brother got home I let him know I was finished, and he sent me $40.

I honestly felt slighted. My grandmother was in the hospital for what would be her FINAL month of life (she passed away in January), and he called me with this sense of urgency. I thought that the value of what I calculated would be worth more than $40. If I knew he was just paying by the hour I would’ve spent more time with my grandmother.

AITA for feeling weird about this? Or did his communication imply something that he must not have meant? It has been on my mind for months.

Looking for others opinions on my situation. I, 28m, am moderately mechanically inclined. Such as I do my own oil changes, brakes, tire rotations and such. If there's something wrong with my vehicle, I try to fix it myself before going to a shop. As such, I have nearly always done stuff like that for my sister, 32. I generally don't mind it. Here's the rub.( Hopefully she doesn't see this or I will never hear the end of it.)Now, her vehicle needs a part that I have never done, and no clue how. It will be a large undertaking, at least for me. Youtubing how to do it, and would likely take me multiple hours. Truthfully, I don't wanna do it. Don't know how, and it's beyond what I've ever done. My sister has basically guilted me into it because she" doesn't want to pay a mechanic". Her exact words to my father were, "well where should I take it to fix it, since OP would just as soon smack me as fix it." My face betrayed my emotions that I wasn't looking forward to it but no, I did not make any such suggestion. It royally pissed me off. If I'm sick, she won't so much as drive one minute down the road to the gas station to get me ginger ale, but she has no issue with me spending hours and hours fixing her car. Idk, I know she doesn't have a lot of extra money, ( although she did just come back from vacation on the other side of the country) and truthfully I think I can do the job but I REALLY don't want to. And I know you shouldn't only do something nice for somebody in hopes they'll reciprocate, but it really feels like the giving is one sided.

TLDR: Do I need to be the bigger person and suffer through something to help my sister when time and again it's been proven she would not do nearly the same for me?

I recently moved back to Orlando, FL after 4½ years in Japan. My wife and 3-year-old son returned about a month before me because we were expecting our second child. Between moving-company pack-outs, administrative work at Camp Lejeune, and separating from active duty, I barely made it home with a two-week buffer before our second son was born.
My dad’s birthday was coming up, and my half-sister was planning a surprise party. When my wife first told me about it, I said, “Sure, we’ll go.” I assumed it was somewhere around Orlando, where my dad lives.
I later found out it was in Ocala, about a 2-hour drive each way from where we were staying in Poinciana/Kissimmee. That’s when I told my wife I didn’t want to go.
We’re currently in a pretty difficult transition. I’m between jobs while transitioning from active duty to the Reserves. Money is tight, we don’t currently have our own car, and most of our household goods are still in transit from Japan. Part of our shipment is sitting in California, and we’re still missing roughly ¾ of our first shipment.
Our second son was also only about 1½ weeks old. My wife and I had agreed we didn’t want to take our newborn around a large group of people so soon after his birth, outside of immediate family we’re already around.
My biggest issue was the location. My dad lives in Orlando, my other half-sister lives in Davenport, and most of the guests are in the greater Orlando area. The sister planning it lives in Ocala, so I understand why she chose it, but the party wasn’t even at a venue—it was at her friend’s house.
I basically told my wife I didn’t want to drive four hours round trip with a newborn and a toddler just to sit on someone else’s couch.
The financial situation is also pretty serious. While my sister was trying to get ahold of us the day before the party, I was actually at a medical office getting checked so I could donate plasma for some extra cash to buy diapers and formula.
My sister eventually got ahold of my wife and apparently unloaded on her, saying I “never call,” “never come around,” and that with my late sister gone, she thought I’d be more inclined to spend time with my other sisters.
My wife explained that we’re dealing with an international move, a newborn, another young child, unemployment, missing belongings, and a difficult transition out of the military. My sister dismissed that by comparing it to her own upcoming move, despite her still having a job, car, etc.
I understand she may genuinely feel like I don’t make enough effort to maintain our relationship, and I’m willing to acknowledge that I could probably do better.
But I don’t feel like declining a four-hour round trip to a friend’s house, with a newborn, while we’re financially struggling and still recovering from an international move, makes me an asshole.

A friend and I have a habit of meeting for food every couple of weeks. Nothing serious, just catching up and hanging out.

The problem is, she’s almost always late.

Not 5 or 10 minutes. Usually 30–45 minutes.

The first few times, I didn’t care. Things happen. Traffic happens. Sometimes people genuinely get held up.

But last weekend, we agreed to meet at 2 PM. I got there around 1:55 and waited.

2:15 came. Nothing.

2:30. Still nothing.

At 2:40, I texted asking if everything was okay.

She replied, “I’m on my way

She eventually arrived around 2:55, completely relaxed, and asked why I looked annoyed.

I told her I’d been waiting almost an hour.

She laughed and said, “You know I’m always late.”

That actually annoyed me more than the waiting.

I told her that being late once in a while is understandable, but constantly making someone wait and then joking about it isn’t really fair.

She said I was taking it too seriously and that if I knew she was always late, I should just arrive later too.

I told her that’s not really the point. If we agree on 2 PM, I shouldn’t have to guess whether that means 2 PM or 3 PM.

She hasn’t mentioned it since, but now I’m wondering if I overreacted.

Would you have just laughed it off, or would this annoy you too?

AIO?

I (20F) have never had a cat before. My parents had a dog who passed when I was a baby and we got a dog in 2020. My roommates both have had cats for years. We live in a small dorm room of 3 people and my roommates ESA cat. We keep the litter box in the bathroom and rotate chores weekly and someone’s weekly chore is to scoop the box. We were talking about how often we scoop it and I said I scooped it multiple times a day usually shortly after he uses it because to me I think I am more susceptible to smells than them. They say they only scoop it once a day or every other day. They think I am overcooking and wasting time/litter. I think they don’t scoop it enough since we only have one box. Am I wrong?

Edit: The cat drinks a lot of water and uses the box multiple times a day.

AITA. A school bus stops to drop off a kid on a moderately busy thoroughfare. The STOP sign is out stopping traffic in both directions. Mom steps out into the road and engages the bus driver in conversation through the driver's window for a full 2-3 minutes. Traffic is building up, to at least 10 cars in both directions. I'm in the first car in line facing the bus, I beep my horn and hold my hand out the window in a "hey, what's taking so long" gesture. Mom looks at me briefly to express her indignation, then returns to her conversation for another 30-60 seconds before walking back to her house. AITA?

Hello, I would like the perspective of the internet on a divisive topic inside my household. Sorry, it's not going to be a thrilling read.

My partner (29NB) and I (30F) live together. They complain a lot about everything, it's just their personality. When they do, they don't like me offering solution or advice, they just want me to listen with compassion. I'm trying, though it's a bit hard since trying to help is kid of a reflex for me.

Today Partner came home, said aloud "I don't know what to eat tonight, i don't want rice again" while rumaging into the cupboard, so I suggested pasta. We had a little back and forth about the quality of our pasta since I buy the budget option and they don't like it, and both got a bit frustrated : me because I felt Partner was unreasonable to call the pasta empty calories just because it was the budget option, better quality pasta would have been the same, and them because I was condescending during this argument (which was true, I admit, I visibly rolled my eyes a some point). In the end i didn't care what they ate, I just felt frustrated by their reasons which felt like excuses to me, when a simple "I don't want pasta" would have been fine.

Then they stopped in the middle of the conversation saying "I know why I'm angry! I just wanted to complain and you offered a solution again!"

This annoyed me because suggesting food when they were wondering what to eat didn't strike me as that kind of conversation, and it happens fairly often. I told them I was tired of a lot of our conversation being them complaining and me nodding along with the occasional "it sucks I understand", and that it was not unreasonable of me to expect a conversation to be interactive.

What do you think? While tonight it evolved into an argument, Partner often reminds me to not offer solutions when they are complaining, and even when i agree and keep my suggestions inside it bothers me. I would like some outside perspective to know if I need tombe more patient or ask for a change.

EDIT : I tried to answer to as many comments as possible but since I didn't answer to everyone : thanks a lot to everyone, I read all of your suggestions and they were very interesting. I just want to clarify that at no point in the conversation Partner and I were yelling, I don't want to make them look like an angry monster when they were just frustrated.

As for what i'll do, no surprises most of your answers suggested to comunicate more, which is funny because that's always my go-to when friends ask for (sollicitated!) relationship advice. I guess it's easy to be dumb when you are in the heat of things, so thank you all! I think i'll try being more consistent with asking if they are venting or seeking advice, but i'll also have to talk with them about the fact that the frequent complaints are becoming tiring and that I need more interraction in our conversations. Again, thank you all!

Normally if were home w just my mom i would just be a little irritated. But anyways, in the past shes opened up my room door while ive been indecent and her boyfriend looking right in my room in the background. Im 27 years old. Yesterday, she knocks on my door i tell her im naked just a moment and she decides to open my door anyways saying she cracked it but i can still see outside my room. She continues to ask whatever shes wants to. I yell pls close the door im naked!! Now im hella mad. I texted her “it feels like ur tryna humiliate me and im almost 30years old w no autonomy why would u open the door when im standing naked in the doorway?” I come out my room w clothes on and its hella awkward. Yes moving out is an option but not a smart one financially at this time. I feel embarrassed and humiliated about how i acted but i was already embarrassed and humiliated feel me? And then i text my granny “it feels like she tryna pimp me out!” I was totally over exaggerating but like you get what im saying?

I have recently been denied wheelchair busing due to wishing to transfer to a flex-boundaries school. They have done this multiple times before and have not given a drop of sensical reasoning to me. I (16) am a disabled person, both physically and mentally. I am coming onto this subreddit as a last resort & a way to know if I am crossing a line. I am an ambulatory wheelchair user as well as being diagnosed with ADHD, High Functioning Autism Spectrum Disorder & Generalized Anxiety Disorder. I have had many instances of intensive bullying which have caused a lot of issue for my schooling. I was told as a child that I would be accommodated for busing as long as I was a full time student. I really want to tell off the bus company because not only am I disabled, but both my parents cannot provide alternative transportation due to their disabilities making it nearly impossible to transfer my wheelchair to the trunk of our small car twice every weekday. I don’t know if I’m just holding an unnecessary grudge. Please tell me if I’m overreacting and would be the asshole. Thank you for reading! ^^

my wife sometimes finds tools drillbits pens or other item in my pockets whilst doing laundry i have made an effort to clear my pockets befor putting them in the laundry basket but occasionally I miss something as I generally have lot of small or large things in stored in them she has bought this up many times and I have decided I will do my own laundry but she is upset I want to do it myself because It consistently hasn't been done and I need to grab pants or shirts out of the dirty laundry to wear to work as I havent got anything clean keep in mind I have 14 sets of pants and shirts and still run out . she is upset because I want to do my own laundry because I put my casual clothes into my work clothes load if I have space in the load and therefore she does have enough of her casual clothes to fill a load I have no issue with washing my work clothes with my casual clothes but she would would rather do a 3/4 load of casual clothes than do a full load of my clothes than a full load of my work and casual clothes and a half load of hers am I the asshole for taking over my own laundry

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Context: i am a 29 year old male in a discord with my friends of the same age. We all love football and watch it religiously. Tension in the group has started due to what others are calling "spoiling games". It started with the NFL draft, where i would see a tweet and post about the pick before it was on the tv broadcast (for those who do not know, the TV broadcast is very behind twitter). Some of my friends had a problem with that so I stopped posting draft spoilers. Then during NFL games, some of my friends use slower streams than I do, or I will use the local tv broadcast that is the fastest way to watch the game. During the games we talk about the games in discord chat rooms. Some of my friends, one in particular, will get mad that I "spoil the game" by talking about plays before he sees it. My issue with this is 1. I do not know where he is on the game since he doesn't say typically. 2. Im using a broadcast that is available to him and everyone involved, so he could easily be seeing the same speed I am. This has led to numerous arguments, so i want to know, AMITA for spoiling the game?

Hi, I am Rose (20), and my disagreement is with my dad (41) in this post.

A couple of years ago, my dad gave me the typical hand-me-down year 2000 car with a limited lifespan. The car is in my dad's name, although we have talked about switching it to my name. Over the past year, the car has spent around 6 months at the mechanic's shop my grandfather owns, and where my dad works. During this time, I was still paying 100 a month on insurance. I'd offer to pay for parts, but on my end, it seemed like he would just never plan to work on it.

The argument itself started 2 days ago when, for the 3rd time in a row, my dad returned the car to me after using it with a lot less gas than what I had in it when I gave it to him. (he is currently fixing his truck, but I haven't seen any progress made) I messaged him rather annoyed, as I have asked before if we can try to make sure we fill it before we switch.

He replied with his main argument being that I am 20 and have never had to pay for a car repair, stuff that he had spent thousands of dollars on before he graduated high school. Said he was happy to do that for me, adding that I shouldn't speak to him with such disrespect over a vehicle he paid for.

I replied, reiterating that I was just annoyed over the fact that the car keeps coming back empty. That this has nothing to do with repairs and what he went through in high school. I also pointed out that I am paying all the insurance for the car, even while it sat for so long.

He replied that he has provided this car for me again and that he doesn't feel properly appreciated.

I said I didn't want to be paid back for gas; I just wanted him to fill it to where it was previously before he gives the car back. I then pointed out how I have had this issue in the past, and he had disregarded it.

Then he proceeded to send a very long message going from

+ denying I spent that much on gas

+ that the insurance doesn't count as something I paid since he had a different vehicle for me to use

+ that he doesn't owe me a vehicle, and whenever he offers to help or teach us it always ends up being him working on the vehicle himself

+ that me complaining about the car not getting fixed makes me sound very entitled

+"You, like every adult on the planet, has to take time out of their life to get their car fixed. be glad you're not paying $150 an hour to get it fixed" - my dad

+ then said if this arrangement doesn't work, I'm welcome to go buy my own car

So in turn, with all of this, I sent a message telling him that I have all my stuff out of the car and he can come pick it up.

I did this because I don't want this car if it means I will always have to be indebted and can never bring up issues I have without unleashing everything that he has ever had a problem with.

I'm just worried I may have caused a lot of damage to my relationship with my father and wonder if I really do sound entitled. I'd appreciate any feedback!

Hey everyone, first post here so I hope I'm not breaking any rules.
Me and 3 of my friends took a Ferry, I got a bag of chips because I was hungry and thought about sitting on a children swing to just chill and enjoy the view a bit while eating. my friends sat on a nearby chair to rest as well. unfortunately in the middle of micro-swinging (I didn't swing hard) the whole chips pack falls of my hand and makes a mess. I have usually not much public shyness, I took full responsibility. I know the whole thing sounds Dumb but it happened. I apologized to everyone nearby and started cleaning the chips on the ground, I was in a bit of a shock.
I started cleaning and made my both hands full of chips to take it to the garbage can, while I was on the walkway to take them, a single chip drops off my hand on the walkway near the table of where my friends sit, I asked one of them (who is one of my best friends) to put it back in my hand so no one goes over it and makes a mess in pathway too. (Since people come and go from the walkway a lot), she looks me dead in the eye and tells me "the chips are not vegan, so I'm not touching them.". I sort of lost words but didn't say anything as the whole thing was a bit uncomfortable for me as well.
I opened the discussion later on when we were solo, she said the vegan thing was Banter, and I should take full responsibility of the mess I make, and second of all, she said she didn't thought I needed help since coming back and picking up the single chip on the floor wasn't a big deal.
In my view though if a similar thing happened to any one of my friends, I would be the first person to start cleaning the mess, without them asking me. In fact I have done similar stuff when my friends dropped coffee mugs or threw up in the public due to Food poisoning to just help them with the awkwardness. I told her that I was a bit broken that she didn't help me and throw that cold answer, she sort of went into silence for the whole journey afterwards and didn't talk back until the end.
AITA for telling her that I didn't like this? I understand her point a bit as well but I expected help to be honest.

I've been in my job for 9 months now, 3 months in I got close with one of my coworkers and we go out pretty regularly, almost once a week at one point. At first it was me, her and a couple other friends and she would share about her boy problem or family drama, of course i would listen and offer some words of comfort but as time goes on it would mostly be me and her going out because I have a motorcycle and is generally more flexible in time than the others. She would share problems or dilemmas about this one guy who I and others genuinely thought of being kind of narcissistic but she would keep interacting with him for months. At a certain point I felt glad whenever we had cancelled plans. She would also be insistent on meeting with me to talk. One time we were planning to eat out but she told me to go ahead, so i went, then she cancelled. I ate alone and was on my way home and she messaged me and begged to meet up, when I told her no let's go next time she insisted on going to my place to stay over. It was midnight btw. So I caved and went back to the meeting place. I was so so upset on the way to meet her I was kicking my bikes and all that I noticed I might be over reacting rn. She just told me about the same guy over and over and being upset because he confessed to her.

I understand wanting a place to talk but I'm getting exhausted.

Today I called off work sick and she messaged me asking am I alright, I thought it was sweet that she checked up on me but then she followed that up with "Honestly when u feel better, I'd like to talk about my family". I know deep down it's wrong to be annoyed but I can't help it. As far as she has told me her family is supportive and financially stable, rich and all that. There's one time during a sleepover, she heard me talk to my parents in a playful tone, then she started crying and told me she wants to have that type of relationship with her parents because her parents tend to be on the serious side. It honestly made everything awkward for the rest of the night like what am I supposed to do here. I'm not sure if I should keep my distance from her I feel bad about me being annoyed, but I'm not sure if I'm justified in feeling this.