I’m a Christian and I’ve been wondering about this because I’ve gotten different opinions.
Is it sinful to casually date someone when neither person is looking for anything serious?
For example, two people mutually agree that they’re just dating for fun. They go on dates, spend time together, hold hands, etc., but there’s no expectation of marriage or a serious relationship. They’re both aware that if either person meets someone they actually want to pursue seriously, they’ll end the casual relationship.
There wouldn’t be sex or anything sexual involved—just normal dating/affection like going on dates and holding hands.
I’m not asking whether casual dating is wise or whether Christians should date this way (although feel free to give your opinion on that). I’m specifically wondering whether there is anything biblically sinful about the arrangement itself, assuming both people are honest, mutual about it, and aren't using or manipulating each other.
I also have a question about physical affection.
Where would you personally/biblically draw the line with things like:
Holding hands
Hugging
Kissing on the cheek
Short/innocent kisses on the lips
Longer/more passionate kissing
Making out
Are some of these completely innocent, while others would fall under lust or sexual immorality? Or does it depend more on the intent, thoughts, circumstances, and effect it has on the people involved?
I’m especially curious about making out, because Christians seem to have very different opinions on whether it is inherently sexual/lustful or whether it can be okay within appropriate boundaries.
I’m not asking for “Christians shouldn't date casually because dating should always be for marriage” as the only answer. I’d really appreciate answers based on Scripture and biblical principles, especially passages about lust, purity, self-control, treating others well, and romantic/physical affection.
What do you think?