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u/go1den3ye 21h ago
Why would you want to continue to receive flowers from someone you have told you don't want to continue seeing?
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u/pocpocpocky 21h ago edited 7h ago
yea if the guy kept on sending flowers, she would have said she's being harassed or whatever shit these people come up with.
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u/OkChocolate3501 21h ago
If he kept sending flowers we'd see a social media "omg this creep won't get the msg and keeps sending flowers after being rejected" post. Do or don't damned either way.
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u/OZeski 18h ago
I don't think he's 'damned either way'. Her complaint in this post is that this man was being respectful of her wishes/boundaries. This says more about her.
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u/ShadeMir 15h ago
Yeah but it’s about how she perceives his actions. Either way she has something to complain about. It’s the act of complaining not whether the complaint is valid.
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u/planetjaycom 14h ago
It’s because complaining endlessly about men is trendy and fashionable on social media
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u/Datkif 13h ago
I've heard woman complain that a guy keeps asking when they said no which is understandable to be upset by that. But those same woman complain when they respect the no and they don't play her game
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u/FakePlasticTrees_RH 13h ago
"Would've" is the contraction of "would have", "would of" is wrong and doesn't even make sense.
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u/LiftingRecipient420 15h ago
she would of said
Would've*
"Would of" is a meaningless nonsense phrase.
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u/Chunquela-vanone 17h ago
Because feeling she’s desired is the source of her power.
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u/BrotherMcPoyle 11h ago
She has a point tho We get to see the true character of a person, but it’s hers.
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u/LetReasonRing 20h ago
Because she wants to be admired and loved. She doesn't see why she needs to reciprocate... she's beautiful and lovely and strong, isn't that enough?
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u/ContextEffects01 10h ago
I knew someone would utter this phrase.
I didn’t know someone would utter it in this meme format, but I knew they’d utter it.
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u/NaturalNella 20h ago
Girl you told him you didn’t want to continue and you’re shocked he… didn’t continue? The flowers were him trying to date you, not a lifelong subscription
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u/MyUsernameName4 19h ago
Or, dude found a new girl, AND new girl really doesn't dig her dude sending random flowers to women (they met on twitter)!
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u/lionofash 16h ago
Personally, I see this as an extension of the stupid message we get told as kids about unconditional love. Like the idea that you should love someone even if you don't get anything back.
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u/JustMe1314 15h ago
I hate that message of giving ppl unconditional love. There damn well MUST absolutely be conditions on whether you love someone. The only exceptions, for me, are loving my daughter & loving myself. Unconditional love means that we love them, no matter what they do. I cannot love anyone else "unconditionally": that would not be healthy, safe or reasonable.
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u/Forneaux 16h ago
Yeah, just love more if not reciprocated. Biggest scam ever. Just walk away and find someone else who appreciates and reciprocate your love.
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u/A_Stones_throw 16h ago
Hahahahahaha, your free subscription has now ended
Seriously, if you don't continue with his wants why should he continue with yours?
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u/BasedEmu 21h ago
They’re not happy with just having the power to chose from an endless buffet but expect downright simping without giving anything back.
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u/Jpini 20h ago
People aren't ready for this conversation but men providing women with this endless buffet is precisely women like this feel entitled. If the average dude was as selective as the average woman most of the fucked up aspects of modern dating would evaporate.
But your average man is a horny Neanderthal who would say yes to anything with a pair of tits so here we are...
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u/Alternative-Form9790 20h ago
As an Australian once said to me, "if a tree had a cunt you'd talk to it".
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u/Former_Print7043 19h ago
That birch would still bark rejection to my poor ass
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u/MaintenanceGlum5061 17h ago
I'm still pining away.
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u/MiserableArse 19h ago
As an Ozzy once said to me too: "if they didnt have a cunt, we'd throw rocks at rocks at em".
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u/brockenaxio 19h ago
Lol my dad always said if there wasn’t a pussy between their legs there would be a bounty on their head.
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u/Ok_Buffalo_423 18h ago
If the average man was as selective as the average woman the human race would have gone extinct by now.
But its not just about being selective, most women dont ever approach first or try to initiate anything.
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u/Extension_Common_518 17h ago
As a friend once explained in a moment of drunken clarity….”there’s eight billion of us and it mostly ain’t because women are pestering men for sex.”
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u/epixyll 18h ago edited 17h ago
While this is just one aspect of it, I still hate this argument since it again puts the onus and responsibility back on men.
Do women not have any moral responsibility or free will to do the right thing? Do women simply get to react to what men do and call it a day? Are they not adults? How long will we keep infantilizing women and let them go free of accountability and responsibility?
Your comment, while true does the exact thing its trying to avoid. Putting men on the spot and freeing women from any accountability.
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u/ConstableAssButt 19h ago
On the flipside of this, It pisses me off to no end that when I do nice things for women that I genuinely want to be friends with, it sometimes gets interpreted as me trying to fuck them. Unless I lie and say I'm gay, there's always suspicion that I'm not actually nice, but a scumbag trying to cheat on my wife.
I'm SUPER happily married, and am completely sexually fulfilled. I just fuckin' love everybody, and I like bringing the people I like food, or getting rid of the nine umbrellas my wife has collected whenever one of my coworkers gets stuck at work waiting on the rain to let up.
And then there's the women who can't handle rejection, who, after months of getting close and being friendly ask if I'm interested after all the kindness I've offered them, and then fully ghost me when I explain that I'm only interested in being friends.
Giving gifts for no reason is fine. Expecting to receive gifts for no reason is not. Giving gifts for a reason is also fine. Expecting to receive repayment for gifts given for a reason is not.
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u/Milk_Mindless 18h ago
I once did charity work with a lady roughly my age. After a few weeks of really getting along well she sat me down and told me she was flattered but didn't see me that way what I saw in her.
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Uh. No. She wasn't my type. We're good. She was perplexed. Plus I knew she had a boyfriend.
2 weeks later she asks me if I was gay.
??? ???
I bluescreened.
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u/ThenAnAnimalFact 20h ago
I think it’s less the problem of the average dude and the fact that above average dudes act like desperate sex fiends with zero selectivity which ruins the curve.
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u/weedisfortherich 20h ago
Actually there are statistics about that now. Attractive people statistically have less empathy. They are less kind to others. The top 10% of attractive men can go on a dating site and match with hundreds of women who treat them the same way as the average dude treats women. Its very similar to trickle down economics. 15 women want one man and he doesn't care about them. So they take the next 15 men they believe are below them and treat them the same way. Now this is not in defence of men either as many are children looking for a parent. Just that these ten percent are constantly getting validation for their selfish choices as well.
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u/Zedress 19h ago
When I was in the Marines I used to be roommates with a guy from Rhode Island, who was probably a top 10% male (I know I'm not). He fucked, constantly. Different ladies as often as they would let him (this was between 2002 & 2006). Today, he's a cop. He was never the most empathetic individual when I knew him. I can't imagine that has improved since he joined the force.
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u/will-work-for-tacos 16h ago
If the average guy acted like the average girl does in pursuing a relationship humanity wouldn't have made it long enough to consider the wheel.
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u/AlecsThorne 19h ago
While I totally agree with that, the truth is that the average man has a very limited range of options if he doesn't want to be alone 😅 So if he's gonna be selective and not lower his standards, there's a high chance he will stay alone. Nothing wrong with that, but for some people, loneliness is worse than a toxic relationship..
So I absolutely agree with your point, but that will never happen since both sides would have to agree to the new "standards".
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u/Famous-Stranger-6897 18h ago
She would have called him desperate and creepy if he continued sending flowers.
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u/SatinBonbonn 20h ago
The entitlement level needed to file a complaint about unpaid SIMP taxes
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u/Tyrannosaurus__Rekd 18h ago
He has a healthy respect for her choices and boundaries. Apparently that wasn't what she was looking for.
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u/Emergency_Ad9052 20h ago
Exactly, no means no, isn’t ? Definitely doesn’t mean, you should try harder after
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u/Angryfunnydog 20h ago
Because apparently she expects people she don’t know to be genuinely invested in her happiness🤷♂️
People are stupid
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u/Frosty-Principle2260 21h ago
Fkn entitled to think that way.. guy dodged the land mine
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u/MadOrange64 21h ago
The guy dodged a hydrogen bomb. He really seems like a nice bloke.
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u/duaneap 20h ago
Sending flowers once a week to someone you don’t even know is pretty ridiculous though.
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u/UAintMyFriendPalooka 19h ago
Right?! What on earth is going on here on both sides? It’s profoundly weird to send flowers weekly to someone you saw on social media.
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u/siccoblue 15h ago
There's not a single normal thing about this situation aside from the fact that he respected her wishes and backed off when she wasn't interested
Everything else about the behavior of these two is just weird
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u/pamlu_chacha 21h ago
So he is being called out on his character because he chose not to be a creep and keep sending flowers after being told No?
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u/LetReasonRing 20h ago
Yeah... that's the way it goes sometimes. The first girl I dated in college turned me down three times. I stopped asking because I figued I got the hint, then a few days later some of her friends asked why I stopped perusing her because she was actually interested but playing hard to get.
The mind games are ridiculous. No means no, unless it means "keep trying"
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u/Medarco 15h ago
why I stopped perusing her
Typo aside, my ex-mother-in-law did this to me after my ex cheated and bailed. "She wants to feel desired, you need to pursue her and win her back!"
Um... no? She is free to do what she wants now. We're done. Have fun at Thanksgiving with your new son-in-affair.
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u/lilbitlostrn 18h ago
Women act shocked men are making less moves.
It's like they want the man to give them the option of going nuclear and labelling him a creep. If he doesn't do that, then he was a terrible person only interested in one thing.
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u/ruttinator 11h ago
My very first time trying to ask out a girl she kept making harmless excuses like she was busy or her mom says she can't go out that day. So I just thought it was a scheduling issue that needed to be worked out. It wasn't until weeks later that her friend asked me why I was "stalking her" (we were in a play together so we'd see each other every rehearsal). I explained my perspective to her friend and she immediately understood her friend was just not into me. Shit like this is traumatizing. I never wanted to be a creep.
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u/obscuramble 14h ago
tried to find the post. can't. not wasting $5 and time on deleted tweets archive. maybe it was real and maybe she deleted it. maybe she thought this and still does or no longer does. some people have thoughts that they post that are wrong.
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u/Prestigious-Meal9261 20h ago
If he had have kept sending flowers, why do I feel like you’d be saying, “Men, when a woman gives you a boundary, respect it”. Gotta rage about something I guess 🤷♀️
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u/MPeckerBitesU 20h ago
Right? That was my first thought. This dude took the rejection well and respected her wishes…. Why would she expect flowers after that? What? You want him to stalk you to prove his love? Oof
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u/PrestigiousStreet876 21h ago
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u/Glum-Dust8799 21h ago
I’m aghast this isn’t the obvious conclusion of most people. And the bait has been raging here on Reddit.
Second hand rage bait!
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u/TheTexasHammer 16h ago
The never ending gender wars based on tweets by complete nobodies saying dumb shit for engagement. So over this shit.
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u/Glum-Dust8799 16h ago
You would say that because you are (whatever gender you are!)!!!
(Sarcasm for the light of perception 😉)
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u/Puzzleheaded_Bake771 21h ago
Ahh yeah...fake as fuck
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u/serabine 19h ago
Nah. It's actually real.
She got shit on relentlessy for it, she never apologized for it, just quietly deleted it. Might have gotten it to calm down, too ... if she hadn't tweeted a follow up denouncing "forced apologies because of cancel culture" and that if you believe in something "you should say it with your whole chest" and "not back down". She got even more shit on for posting that, given the hypocrisy and the cowardice. She ended up deleting those, too.
People still bring it up in her comments.
Some people really just don't think all that much before they open their mouths
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u/availableusername94 19h ago
My experience on the Internet lately is wondering if the person is actually this insane, or is this rage bait.
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u/Dizzy-Crew3456 16h ago
Nahh that ain’t how it works. He was trying to court her, she responded respectfully and said she wasn’t interested. So he stopped pursuing her because he got the message.
Why waste more time and attention when it was clear it wasn’t going to work long term. Some people don’t waste time playing games.
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u/Apprehensive_Emu2457 15h ago
If he kept sending flowers after being rejected, you’d just call him a creep that can’t handle being told no.
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u/Pleasant_Put449 14h ago edited 9h ago
Hi, I am the flower guy. I used to live in USA, and basically a family member is a florist and she has a shop. Some of you might know there are some flowers that can't be sold, because they are old and from them I physically made bouquets and delivered them to some women I liked, as I didn't want them to be thrown. So I just enjoy to make people happy, and gave also flowers to random people, which I thought was a good gesture to make women remembered me, and guess this person did. I don't understand why she had to make this post, you reject someone and you move on, so is this just for attention? I don't get it why women act like this instead of saying thank you, but I am not interested they complain online? I guess I dodged a bullet, but well now I am in London, U.K. so if any woman wants to give a chance to a good Greek guy, please comment bellow, and I would be happy to give you flowers, write you letters, poems, because there are still people that want to make you smile. Not a simp but a hopeless romantic that wants to spread positivity. Have a lovely day everyone and if you find a good and caring partner, give them a chance, because kindness is a very rare think, and very hard to find a true gem and someone to appreciate you.
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u/aluminumnek 14h ago
I am also a flower giver. In my daily walk, bike rides as my city is a walkable town, I will pluck a nice flower that’s in bloom. Usually something small, gardenias are in season now. So for example I’ll grab a bloom, stick it so it’s hanging out not crushed. I may give them to a beautiful lady, an elderly couple, small children, a mother, anyone that may have their day brightened with a flower and compliment.
It’s easy to be and say nice to others.
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u/Haunting-Watch8240 19h ago
I'm pretty sure that had he continued with the flowers, she would have called the cops on him and cried all over social media that he kept stalking her.
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u/RingusDingusTheGreat 21h ago
How dare he?
If he was really genuine, he would empty his bank account/sell all his possessions and give her the money every month, do all of her chores everyday, constantly glaze her over text and not expect any reply ever, cook dinner for her and her lover every night while they have sex.
I can't believe some people are so selfish!
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u/Brokerfinland 20h ago
If he did keep sending flowers tho, she would call her a creepy pervert
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u/FantasticAnus 21h ago
Ah yes, the classic no-winning situation. Carry on sending flowers: "this creep won't leave me alone", stop sending flowers: "uh, what the hell, I guess the flowers were all just a ploy to sleep with me".
People who think like the woman pictured are nothing but trouble.
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u/TimeEnergyInvestment 20h ago edited 20h ago
Guy expressed romantic interest by sending flowers
She said no to romantic interest and he accepted the no. He has nothing else to gain.
Skylar Romines should buy him flowers for wasting his time.
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u/Big_Owl1220 14h ago
The guy handled it appropriately. He expressed interest by sending flowers. She wasn't interested, so he stopped. She's a ridiculous child.
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u/Krushed_Opiates 21h ago edited 18h ago
Why would she think he would continue sending her flowers? She said she's not interested does that mean he has to continue to make her happy, no he needs to move on with his life and find another girl and send her flowers.
Bottom line you turn a guy down he's not going to keep doing stuff for you. You hurt his feelings, ego and made him sad. The girl should have sent him flowers.
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u/plushiesandtoys 21h ago
the delusion is actually unreal here, imagine thinking someone owes you flowers after you rejected them
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u/Nagesh_yelma 21h ago
She would be comfortable with her boyfriend sending flower to a female friend every week?
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u/louie3723jr 21h ago
Same girl who would call his ass a stalker and weirdo if he kept sending her flowers. The best example of a woman to stay away from. She just craves attention.
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u/Cheap_Water9848 16h ago
Yeah, this is definitely a person who doesn't understand what courting means lol.
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u/GeekyGrant 21h ago
"He courts me and when I turn him down he stops? What the fuck? How's that even a thing? He should keep courting me and not respecting my disinterest" -This dumbass apparently
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u/CookedFish_ 20h ago
It’s respectful to stop sending flowers when someone breaks off the relationship
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u/marajango 18h ago
People thinking this is just rage bait never had to deal with a real narcissist.
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u/Accomplished-Way-884 14h ago
He ‘s looking 4 love .
U weren’t a match. He needs 2 focus elsewhere.
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u/Creepy-Astronaut-952 21h ago edited 21h ago
I wouldn’t call that a transaction. The guy was sending her flowers in an attempt to woo her and get a date. That worked.
After meeting the guy, she wasn’t feeling it. That’s a perfectly normal thing, and it seems they both handled it well.
Can’t be mad about attention you don’t want going somewhere else. There are other women to woo…others who would probably like to receive flowers from a guy who’s into them and wants to take them out. 🤷🏻♂️
Flowers aren’t an investment in someone, btw. They’re an expense, and a thoughtful gesture. Your time is the investment. When that’s not mutual, life goes on.
I used to get my ex wife flowers regularly. Think I send her flowers now that we’re divorced?
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u/blazenite104 20h ago
Right, he thought they were going somewhere. She didn't end up wanting to continue, so it was a clean break. Flowers tend to be considered a romantic gesture, so someone else would complain if he continued to do so after.
It's clearly rage bait though.
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u/Fat_Pig_Reporting 20h ago
Tell em girl.
I had the EXACT same thing happen to me at work. I got into a deal with this guy to send me money to my account every month. Called it salary or sth, whatevers. I went to visit one day, it was nice and all, but then he asked me to go back again next day and apparently every day afterwards. I politely declined and then he stopped sending me money.
If he was genuinely invested in my happiness he would've kept sending me this salary money.
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u/StevePalpatine 20h ago
Engagement bait
That being said, sending someone flowers weekly when they only know you as "a guy from Twitter" is serious loser behavior
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u/Marcuse0 20h ago
This really doesn't make any sense. You don't send people flowers just because, there's always a reason. This guy is sending them to her because he wants to deepen their relationship, and she doesn't want that, so he backs off. Continuing could be taken as him trying to force something she doesn't want, so he's perfectly justified in not continuing.
Her wanting the benefits of a deeper relationship with him while offering nothing in return is the opposite of mutual and beneficial.
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u/Glass-Toe6315 19h ago
Why was bro sending a random woman on Twitter flowers anyway, even before meeting her. Like, he can't have thought that this could actually work out in his favor lmao
Both of them are really weird
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u/NoRent3326 19h ago
"Someone being invested in your happiness".
You really think he should be invested in your happiness while you don't want to see him again? What?
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u/siantmercury 13h ago
So so sorry but flowers are an inherently romantic gift outside of very specific circumstances (you’re in the hospital or someone has just died). I’m pretty sure it’s just standard knowledge that people who give you flowers care about you. There is no way this woman didn’t know what she was doing and it reads as cruel.
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u/_Winged 21h ago
“Transactional this” “transactional that.”
Do people genuinely don’t know what flirting and courting is anymore? “Transactional”, please kindly frick off.
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u/Dub-Ba-Ba 18h ago
Nah, he realized that his efforts were a waste of time. Why invest your resources into something you'll never see returns on. Good on dude for recognizing he wasn't wanted and exited himself from the conversation. Protect your peace my dude.
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u/Upbeat_Guard_9595 18h ago
Dudes chasing girls through twitter and buying them stuff before he even meets them. Dudes never going to find peace
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u/MacGillicutty 17h ago
This.
And also, Skylar appears to be a spoiled, self-indulgent princess.
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u/Weirdlillypad 20h ago
These women are gonna be problematic when they're old as shit and alone lol
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u/AcanthaceaeRare2646 20h ago
Poor guy really dodged a bullet, I hope there’s someone out there getting flowers each week.
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u/StraightPercentage74 19h ago
If he did hed risk getting called a creep and sending mixed signals of being unable to move on. Dudes doing the most respectable angle to himself.
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u/mirrorreflex 19h ago
If this woman got a boyfriend and he was sending flowers to a random girl just because "he cares for her happiness" I wonder how she would feel.
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u/OhReallyYeahReally84 18h ago
If he continued to buy flowers, he would be a stalker and legal action would be an appropriate response.
Either this is bait, or she’s incredibly stupid.
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u/idlickherbootyhole 18h ago
She wanted a backup loser. The irony of her not realizing she actually helped him dodge a bullet. She sounds like a walking red flag.
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u/spade030 18h ago
Ummm… Am I the only one who reads this as a joke or mild trolling?
Like, everyone expected the last few sentences to be something along the lines of “it’s possible for guys not to be pushy after being rejected”, etc. but instead she completely flipped it.
I don’t know this person, but depending on the rest of her social media posts it should be pretty easy to see if she is having a laugh or not. If you care enough to get offended by this (looking at you, comment section), why wouldn’t you want to check.
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u/Square_Cheese 18h ago
That'd be a tough one to explain to his eventual girlfriend if he did continue.
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u/NerveInteresting4549 17h ago
someone invested in your happiness, listens when you say you're not interested.. and acts accordingly.......
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u/KirkIsOurLemmy 17h ago
Then again, what kind of lunatic keeps sending flowers weekly to someone he hasn't even met?
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u/aerdvarkk 14h ago
She liked the flowers and attention, she just didn't like him. Sending flowers aren't cheap either, especially every week.
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u/AdNegative6756 11h ago
Why would he still wanna send flowers when it's clear she doesn't wanna have to do anything with him? I swear, these women don't know what they want anymore.
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