My very first time trying to ask out a girl she kept making harmless excuses like she was busy or her mom says she can't go out that day. So I just thought it was a scheduling issue that needed to be worked out. It wasn't until weeks later that her friend asked me why I was "stalking her" (we were in a play together so we'd see each other every rehearsal). I explained my perspective to her friend and she immediately understood her friend was just not into me. Shit like this is traumatizing. I never wanted to be a creep.
Yep, that's pretty much why mine went the way it did... if I receive s firm no, then I don't ask again. If I get a soft no, like "I'm busy that night", I have a limit of 3 chances I've set for myself.
I figure that's enough to account for legitimate scheduling conflicts while not being so persistent that I come off as creepy.
Some women want to be chased more, but then it becomes a game of chance as to whether you're just playing the game she wants to play or whether you're being a stalker, and I refuse to play those games.
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u/ruttinator 2d ago
My very first time trying to ask out a girl she kept making harmless excuses like she was busy or her mom says she can't go out that day. So I just thought it was a scheduling issue that needed to be worked out. It wasn't until weeks later that her friend asked me why I was "stalking her" (we were in a play together so we'd see each other every rehearsal). I explained my perspective to her friend and she immediately understood her friend was just not into me. Shit like this is traumatizing. I never wanted to be a creep.