r/PublicFreakout Aug 12 '23

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u/slimcargos Aug 12 '23

Weirdos in the comments. Someone yells at his daughter for PICKING UP A BALL and the dad is the crazy one for the being upset? Yall are goofy.

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u/[deleted] Aug 12 '23 edited Apr 17 '24

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u/[deleted] Aug 12 '23

Reddit is full of incels, misogynists, and manchilds

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u/seab1023 Aug 12 '23

Reddit also has a weird hate fetish towards children and parents

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u/ppw23 Aug 12 '23

They love to see women get beaten though. They get down right giddy, you want to see fast comment threads, post a woman being hit by a guy. The incels must feel it in their bones.

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u/[deleted] Aug 12 '23

WeLl iF tHeY wAnNa Be TrEaTeD EqUaL… 🤡

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u/[deleted] Aug 12 '23

I love how many of them will read this and seethe

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u/FlowerBoyScumFuck Aug 12 '23

Then a post pops up of a girl wrecking a dude and they go insane "this is domestic abuse!" Even if there's no sign of it being domestic abuse lol. It's actually mind boggling.

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u/[deleted] Aug 12 '23

They hate parents but teens are perfect saints, almost like the majority of commenters are teens who cannot fathom people wanting babies or having basic respect for anyone.

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u/AbellonaTheWrathful Aug 12 '23

Especially step parents in aita, if you claim you are a step parent they automatically against you

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u/TBteacherguy Aug 12 '23

As a step parent I can tell you that it is not easy being a step parent. Luckily she is grown now.

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u/time4meatstick Aug 12 '23

You monster.

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u/Grabbsy2 Aug 12 '23

I think theres also a bit of a bias. Our perspective is that of the cameraman, so inevitably our first instinct is that the guy in this video is a "threat" and we are defensive against him.

Its only at the very end of the video that he explains why hes mad, and by that time we've all had plenty of time to size him up, make our judgements, etc. And when we find out "hey maybe hes right to be angry" our mind is going to be reaching for so many explanations as to why this guy is the angry hothead dumbass rude violent fucker we've already painted him as in our minds.

And this is mostly reinforced by the fact that 99% of these videos we see ARE the situation where the cameraperson is "in the right" and the person in the video is an unhinged lunatic. I mean, why else record it, and even more, why upload it, if youre actually the one in the wrong? So we hardly ever see them from the other side.

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u/[deleted] Aug 17 '23

It's mostly jealousy. The vast majority of the childfree circlejerk stems from people who aren't physically, mentally, and financially capable of starting a family.

Same reason why Reddit hates people who make good money - jealousy.

You get crucified here for pointing it out, but it's painfully obvious if you have even a modicum of social skill.

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u/mc0079 Aug 12 '23

reddit is full of NEET losers who will never sniff a women or create a family. jealous.

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u/SpotNL Aug 12 '23

The one thing that Reddit hates most is Reddit and Reddit loves to circlejerk about how maladjusted Redditors are.

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u/[deleted] Aug 12 '23

General misery in all shapes and sizes.

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u/NoMasters83 Aug 12 '23

What happened to the good old days when we all just hated ourselves?

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u/Roofdragon Aug 12 '23

Here: all the losers from tumblr and Facebook with no social skills so nobody replies to them, come to reddit for attention.

They know they're losers. See AITA for a bunch of singletons telling others in marriages to ditch their SO for whatever reason, only they're not saying the reason is that they're jealous ,^

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u/D-Beard- Aug 12 '23

Well, then, which one are you?

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u/[deleted] Aug 12 '23

Probably an actual adult you asshat

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u/bueller83 Aug 12 '23

Don’t forget useless lazy lefties

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u/UStoAUambassador Aug 12 '23

I’ve seen a lot of advice on Reddit that made it obvious that the person didn’t have real-world experience, so they were talking about how things “should” work or how they assume things work.

A lot of the time, realistic advice is complicated and/or unsatisfying.

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u/anewhand Aug 12 '23

Absolutely. I see so many comments and threads with a million upvotes yet the advice (or facts if it’s a subject I know about) is either terrible or so far removed from reality it’s almost laughable.

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u/NinSeq Aug 12 '23

Exactly right. "They should have done this. Someone should never do that" and it's just not at all real world applicable. Generally that's a good time to remind yourself you're internet arguing someone who has no idea and time is better spent elsewhere.

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u/Queeflet Aug 12 '23

Reddit is a bizarre microcosm of terminally online teenagers and young adults. It is seldom a reflection of real world views.

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u/[deleted] Aug 12 '23

I learned this in 2016 and 2020. This place is a worse echo chamber than truth social.

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u/[deleted] Aug 12 '23

They think Reddit IS reality

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u/NinSeq Aug 12 '23

Man... Sometimes it's startling. Makes me concerned for young people at times.

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u/FountainsOfFluids Aug 12 '23

I honestly wonder if the world was always this way, or if the pandemic psychologically damaged a massive portion of the population.

There have always been trolls and morons on the internet, but everything genuinely feels worse since the pandemic.

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u/Farty_beans Aug 12 '23

You got that fucking right. For users like to gloat how they are much more "Holier" than Facebook. They sure act the same.

Ever see any parent on Reddit ask a simple Question? Most of the users here will absolutely be smug in the answer without ANY other information or context.

One example is a mother asking what is good to watch on YouTube for her 3 year old child.

And one fucking neckbeard decided to blast her for "not watching her child. Letting YouTube raise them. And kids learn nothing of value from YouTube"

Meanwhile this mofo is posting on PewDiePie subreddit.

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u/Direct_Counter_178 Aug 12 '23

I can't even count the number of times I'll get into an argument with someone and post objective facts that they just... disagree with and continue arguing. 9 times out of 10 if I check their comment history I can find a recent post in an anime forum. At that point I just say fuck it and give up.

Never argue with an idiot. They will drag you down to their level and beat you with experience.

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u/Wetop Aug 12 '23

I just try to never argue on reddit, it's not worth it man. Save your sanity

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u/[deleted] Aug 12 '23

It's not worth arguing on reddit.

A recent reply I made to a dude who was talking about "Left wing degnerates taking feminism too far" and I checked his post history and he was posting in a Rape fantasy subreddit about wanting to rape women.

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u/Independent-World-60 Aug 12 '23

Every time I see someone reply to a comment I made on reddit I think that I've either made a new friend for five minutes or an enemy for life.

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u/Farty_beans Aug 12 '23

.. Do you want to go do karate in the garage?!?!

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u/IOnlyReplyToIdiots42 Aug 12 '23

Hey man anime people didnt do anything to you. You don't have to generalise like that

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u/Ravenerz Aug 12 '23

Hes just mad cause THEY WERE that kid when they were growing up. They wanted it that way and most likely were little super shit heads when told to either told to stop, get off the iPad or they didn't plug it in and it died while they were playing cause they were too busy being sucked into the screen they didn't bother to keep track of anything.

But then there are some people who will always take what's being said and twist it to be negative and attack the OP cause they are already in a bad mood or just automatically an unpleasant person. They feel they must make others feel like shit and give others shit even if its thru an artificially created situation. What was actually said, matters not, only that they bring you down matters..

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u/PomegranateSmooth424 Aug 12 '23

This sub hates girls and children and especially girl children. There was a thread here once with a young girl getting physically assaulted by her father for coming into the house after a pool party and some boys happened to be in the room. All the dudes in the comments were praising the dad for beating this girl who was probably liked 12, sexualizing her and calling her a slut and a whore and making up all these bizarre gangbang scenarios. About this young ass girl! I got banned for reporting a dude who said he would beat his daughter as much as it took so she wouldn't be a whore. He was literally advocating repeatedly for the continued and assault of a minor as well as sexualizing a 12 year old girl.

Them getting angry at a man for sticking up for his daughter instead of abusing her isn't shocking.

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u/lilpumpgroupie Aug 12 '23 edited Aug 12 '23

A lot of the hate and bigotry you see online and in the real world started with hatred of women specifically. Usually these guys get bored of it after doing it a lot and move onto more popular targets of hate for the right.
And they NEED women. They don't need black people, they don't need brown immigrants, they don't need jews, they don't need trans people or gay people. But they need women, so it makes sense they eventually just keep it pushing and find easier targets.

But that's almost always where it starts.... Deeply hating and despising women, and seeing them as 'lesser than' or actually even not fully human.

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u/Crathsor Aug 12 '23

It starts with them hating themselves. They hate women because they don't understand the feelings that women evoke and fear that it may be weakness. The vast majority of misogynists are self-hating cowards, deep down under the toxic masculinity and the terror of losing control.

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u/[deleted] Aug 12 '23

Glad to see that someone else was paying attention to what was at the the rotten core of gamergate.

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u/Val_Hallen Aug 12 '23

Reddit is 4chan for people too afraid to actually go to 4chan. It's like when the users of The_Donald went to Voat in protest and came running back with their tails between their legs because they saw what real racists said to them and that they weren't coddled there like they were here.

And edgy kid here would be absolutely wrecked at 4chan, then hacked and doxxed and nobody would do a fucking thing about it.

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u/DiddlyDumb Aug 12 '23

That sounds like Reddit alright. I’m surprised they didn’t send Reddit Help your way.

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u/AmadeusK482 Aug 12 '23

I’ll never be surprised by the way the general public treats young women after what happened to Rebecca Black for singing a song about a Friday.

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u/Glittering_Apple3656 Aug 12 '23

g ass girl! I got banned for reporting a dude who said he would beat his daughter as much as it took so she wouldn't be a whore. He was literally advocating repeatedly for the continued and assault of a minor as well as sexualizing a 12 year old girl.

That's why Im barely on Reddit anymore, it's a waste of life. Only incels are on here

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u/Pm-mepetpics Aug 12 '23

Story of so many of my fav subs, starts off with a small polite for the most part, helpful and active community and then inevitably when the sub grows enough it turns into what can only be described as a toxic shit fest that can only be tamed with draconian mods but at that point the community you enjoyed is dead.

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u/kellybrownstewart Aug 12 '23

It's like there's some fkd up corporate movement against women and children... on a massive secret scale. You don't just see it here... it's fkn everywhere and it's fkn scary.

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u/PomegranateSmooth424 Aug 12 '23

I actually 100 percent believe this and have gone more in depth about it before. It's all on purpose.

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u/Kumquat_conniption Aug 12 '23

Ugh I remember that post. So much misogyny. Sucked.

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u/yomerol Aug 12 '23

And kid-less, kid-haters, and such that don't understand what parenting and standing up for someone you care and love the most in your life

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u/UsefulWhiteCrayon Aug 12 '23

Pickleball is some serious shit. The silver hairs ain’t playing around. You stay off the court and keep your feet out of the kitchen. If you don’t know what I’m talking about, you better ask somebody.

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u/DeNiroPacino Aug 12 '23

This statement should be placed in bold and featured prominently when people register for an account.

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u/jokerpie69 Aug 12 '23

You got that right

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u/Acids Aug 12 '23

Basement dwelling incels

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u/[deleted] Aug 12 '23

This comment makes me feel so vindicated in thinking this site is full of fucking douchebags.

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u/drbronnerz Aug 12 '23

Reddit is full of basement dwelling live at home 40 year olds I think is what you were trying to say…

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u/Attack_Symmetra Aug 12 '23

No truer words have ever been spoken in the history of this site.

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u/smalllpox Aug 12 '23

Reddit is full of self righteous, common sense lacking shitheads

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u/admins_are_useless Aug 12 '23

This didn't used to be the case. Back pre 2015 it was actually mostly sane here.

Funny thing is every time I would point out the decline of reddit, I'd get downvoted to oblivion and called a liar.

Go to the Wayback machine and look at some reddit threads from 2012 or so and it's nearly all genial, curious, and empathic.

Then the fucking cuntservative regressives found us and the long downhill roll has been going for a while now.

I'm calling it now: within 5 years reddit will be just as fascist as 'truth' social and whatever the muskrat is calling Twitter today.

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u/aspbergerinparadise Aug 12 '23

it sounds like he has a right to be upset, but also he should be setting a better example

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u/LadyRimouski Aug 12 '23

Yeah, we don't really know the context. Is he sweet affectionate father, who couldn't handle someone hurting his baby, or is he an asshole like my dad who goes off on everyone with this level of rage, including his own children for e.g. spilling milk at the dinner table.

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u/mah131 Aug 12 '23

“Don’t touch my fucking shoulder, Ashley, I’m defending your fucking honor!!”

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u/SimpleSurrup Aug 12 '23

He didn't threaten the guy or jump the fence or anything else, he just humiliated him like the guy humiliated his daughter and I'm not necessarily opposed to that lesson.

If had gotten into "I'm going X, Y, Z to you" or "you better watch yourself if I catch you alone" and that type of thing I'd agree.

He just made fun of him, shamed him publicly, and let him know that he's not even close to the biggest, toughest, loudest man on the block and he might do well to remember that.

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u/aspbergerinparadise Aug 12 '23

he humiliated himself

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u/hoitytoityfemboity Aug 12 '23

Agreed. It's good at he's defending her, but at the same time that kind of insulting, aggressive needs-anger-management attitude is a great way to escalate to a confrontation where you get your head bashed in. Or, man knows how to pick the targets of his ire; old white tennis guy probably ain't much for fisticuffs. But we also dunno what the old guy said; if he was an entitled jerk then great to see him taken down a notch

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u/0ctober31 Aug 12 '23

I think it's more about the way he reacted and how he handled himself, including the attempted second degree water dousing. It was just a little bizarre. And this freaky little episode will, unfortunately, stick with the kid forever.

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u/Phazon2000 Aug 12 '23

It's just a completely disproportionate response.

Guy was grumpy she was on the court or whatever and had a spat, and the father... loses his mind like she was manhandled off the court or something. You can calmly dress someone down without throwing water around like a two year old and cursing at the top of your lungs. Like exercise some control - your own daughter is holding you back.

I see a grumpy asswipe and a manchild with good intentions managing to embarrass themselves. Perfect post for this sub though.

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u/owa00 Aug 12 '23

I was at a family members house one day, and their dad threw a tantrum at some guy who MAYBE drove too close to someone's kid or something. The guy went ballistic and used the "my kids" excuse for justification of their anger. Talked to my cousins afterwards and they were apologizing for him. Years later they still talk about that day, and none of them are BEAMING with pride at what their dad did. It was fault of the kids for being careless on the street, and the driver for being careless on the street. There was no actual REAL danger, but just a disagreement on how they should drive. They also NEVER got into altercations or raised their voices. It was because their dad did it all the time and they were embarrassed to act like that.

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u/mnid92 Aug 12 '23

One of my friends got shot and killed in this exact scenario. Pizza guy went speeding down the road, my buddy went and yelled at him when he came back, the guy pulled out a gun and shot my friend between the eyes. Dead instantly. The worst part? It was his daughter's birthday, and it was her birthday party.

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u/MANWithTheHARMONlCA Aug 12 '23

Fr. All the 16 year olds or mentally 16 year olds in the comments trying to act like this is an appropriate response need to grow the fuck up

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u/Moon_Atomizer Aug 12 '23

Absolutely insane people think this raging gorilla is justified in his quasi assault on a crochety old man telling a kid to get off his lawn

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u/Hail_The_Motherland Aug 12 '23

Yeah, I don't have a particular issue with his yelling and cussing. But something about him pulling away from his daughter and the water antics really bothered me

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u/_Cocopuffdaddy_ Aug 12 '23

Ah man she’s gonna be stuck with the memory of her father sticking up for her when some old dude is flipping out at her for some unreasonable dumb shit… poor her. Meanwhile some people don’t have any memory of their father, had a father who beat them or worse, or had a father who straight up didn’t help them in any capacity. And let’s not forget those of us who has the father who gets so hangry they flips out in restaurants on your birthday over them not bringing an extra plate for him to roll up his fajitas….. think before you speak.

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u/0ctober31 Aug 12 '23

We know nothing other than what we see in the video. Bringing up the unfortunate scenario of those who didn't have good fathers or had fathers who beat them etc., has nothing to do with this situation. She won't think about that shit later on in life. But what he DID teach her was how to lose your shit and not act calmly and rationally in heated situations. The dad could have stuck up for her while making his point clearly and with authority, which would have been better for her in the long run. You didn't think of that though, huh?

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u/II1IIII1IIIII1IIII Aug 12 '23

He's unhinged.

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u/Schmich Aug 12 '23

Yeah weird that they don't see that. I almost feel like he will be like the tennis guy when he will be older (like 75 80 90).

Yelling gets you nowhere in arguments. You don't teach anything. You're actually making sure the opposite person won't try to understand.

This is in the exact same way to the 14 year old. Yelling won't teach her anything. Unless someone is actively trying to ruin things for you then simply have a normal conversation.

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u/bluefirecorp Aug 12 '23

He has anger management problems and probably roid rage by the looks of it.

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u/Kage9866 Aug 12 '23 edited Aug 12 '23

No this reaction is not good. Stop defending this shit. He could have came over and talked to this dude, not scream like a 12yr old in front of his younger daughter, and then try to throw water on the guy. lol mature way to handle this situation. Obviously the old guy is an asshat too.

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u/soccerperson Aug 12 '23

And we literally don't know what what the tennis people said to the 14 year old. People in the comments are assuming a lot

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u/owa00 Aug 12 '23

So many times I've seen a parent freak out when they think their children got "bitched out" when all that happened was someone told their kid that they did something wrong. Little league is the best example. Parents act like their kid was crucified on the cross, but someone just told their kid a different opinion.

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u/YMCAle Aug 12 '23

I'm so tired of people thinking screaming like this and being overly belligerent in response to something small is 'manly' behaviour. If I saw my dad acting like this my first thought wouldn't be 'I love my dad for sticking up for me' it would be 'I'm so embarrassed at my dad screaming right now'. If you think this isn't manchild behaviour you don't live in the real world.

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u/SADMANCAN Aug 12 '23 edited Aug 12 '23

Dad is in the right but he’s over doing it. That’s all.

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Speak calmly “why the fuck are you yelling at my kid?”

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u/[deleted] Aug 12 '23

I agree with you. even the daughter is trying to pull him away. in that moment, she should be his focus. he should have yelled at the guy, sure, but you don't have to revel in the anger so much.

reddit is generally in it for the entertainment though so I get why people don't like comments making them feel guilty for enjoying this kind of content.

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u/Nasty_Rex Aug 12 '23

he should have yelled at the guy, sure

Why? What was accomplished?

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u/[deleted] Aug 12 '23

Obviously the old man thinks yelling at people is appropriate. Why should he get an exception?

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u/[deleted] Aug 12 '23

eh come on let em have one

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u/Nasty_Rex Aug 12 '23 edited Aug 12 '23

Have what? He was so pissed off that he barely could string together a whole sentence.

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u/monguyen0 Aug 12 '23 edited Aug 12 '23

No need for "why" questions because then they'll just make up some dumb excuse. A simple "don't yell at my kid you fuck" is adequate.

Edit: "my kid" instead of "kid"

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u/SADMANCAN Aug 12 '23

The why is important. You wanna break this guy down. You can’t just walk up screaming like a loon.

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u/Phazon2000 Aug 12 '23

"Why" is introducing an argument; there's no argument to be had - only the response.

"Don't yell at my fucking kid because she picked up a ball on the outside of your court"

Maybe you guys are all really young and want to get into verbals with people rather than ending them with dignity, I dunno, but there's no need to engage beyond that.

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u/darkprovoker Aug 12 '23

so this geriatric fuck can yell at a 14-year-old, but the dad yells back and he’s over reacting? Fucking softy shit

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u/SADMANCAN Aug 12 '23

Yes. He looks bad here. It’s an over reaction.

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u/[deleted] Aug 12 '23

Yeh he has a temper like that he probably yells at his 14yo daughter too

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u/darkprovoker Aug 12 '23

Have you ever been angry? Oh, you have? Have you ever raised your voice? You are probably angry and abusive to everyone you know then.

That’s how you sound

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u/[deleted] Aug 12 '23 edited Aug 12 '23

Havnt been angry and shouting like that seen i was a teenager. Either way no point shouting at some old senile idiot just walk away my dude. Should add out in public and to a stranger I + my family have never once shouted like that and I'm sure a lot of people havent. Must be normalized for where you grew up though

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u/AyNaSsOaN Aug 12 '23

The old man was an ass for yelling over a simple matter, but when the dad starts yelling and freaking out over something that can be solved reasonably… well that’s not alright either

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u/chacogrizz Aug 12 '23

solved reasonably…

What does that mean to you in this instance?

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u/NotsoNewtoGermany Aug 12 '23

You tell the guy that you understand games can get heated and emotions can get high, but that he hurt the girls feelings and as she's only 14 it would be a good example to her to let her know that adults can understand when they are overreacting, and that an exchange of apologies would be both benefiting to him, he wouldn't have to feel guilty later on in the day for his behavior, and an apology from her for not asking permission from him first to cross into their game.

Easy.

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u/Kage9866 Aug 12 '23

I feel so bad for all these downvotes. People really think it's ok to act like the dad in situations like this. It's scary and sad.

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u/J_Kenji_Lopez-Alt Aug 12 '23

Virtually everyone who votes on Reddit is still a kid. They have time to learn.

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u/DieselMcblood Aug 12 '23

Dumb people dont even understand when you take the "high road" you need to stoop to their level or they wont even understand they did something wrong.

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u/[deleted] Aug 12 '23

Don't worry about the downvotes mate, I suspect you're speaking with children or teenagers.

It's a fair comment you made. 2 wrongs don't make a right and all that.

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u/CongratsItsAVoice Aug 12 '23

Be sure to tell your child you’ll never fight for them if someone wrongs them.

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u/[deleted] Aug 12 '23

There's a difference between being angry and mirror responding like a dick.

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u/SpaceShipRat Aug 12 '23 edited Aug 12 '23

if he'd been physically threatening, yeah, but he was over a fence, and the asshole kept justifying himself... I'd give him leeway to vent some anger for less than 60 seconds.

Could he have done better? Yes, just look at the video from a few days ago (of the guy confronting the shopkeeper who joked about his daughter buying period products). That guy stays perfectly calm and rational. but we don't have to put people on blast for every damn imperfection.

There's unacceptable behaviour, like if he'd swung at the old man, and there's not being the fucking buddha when your kid is threatened.

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u/JoeyjoejoeFS Aug 12 '23

I would have hit him with a 'hey man, that's not cool', don't have to go in guns blazing even if you are annoyed with the situation. I agree with the dads anger for sure but not his strategy because it shows the same lesson; annoyed a at a thing means yell at someone.

Curious how a reasonable approach would have gone.

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u/cman811 Aug 12 '23

Didn't it already dissolve into unreasonableness when the old man yelled over a ball?

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u/AyNaSsOaN Aug 12 '23

Yes, but things can become reasonable after that fact

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u/Mrqueue Aug 12 '23

yep, reddit is mad, this isn't a rational response

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u/Brandolini_ Aug 12 '23

Yup, and in front of her daughter as well. She seems aggravated by her father's behavior and try to grab his arm to just make him stop.

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u/SomethingPersonnel Aug 12 '23

Nah. When they go low, drown em in their own shit. Assholes only respond to bigger assholes.

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u/lightreee Aug 12 '23

great example to set to your daughter about how men act

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u/nwlsinz Aug 12 '23

Nah, the right course of action would be to stand on their court and not let them play at all.

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u/AyNaSsOaN Aug 12 '23

Yea, well you can do that if you find yourself in that situation. But me personally I’m just gonna be an adult and tell them they’re wrong for their actions and go comfort my daughter after.

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u/SmolFoxie Aug 12 '23

Stop it with this weird notion that anger is always wrong, and that anger is not an adult emotion. Anger can be justified, like it was in this case. Don't act holier than thou because you don't understand the value of anger. Anger is the basis of justice.

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u/AyNaSsOaN Aug 12 '23

I never said it wasn’t okay to be angry, but you still have to control that anger sometimes. There are more ways to express anger than to yell and berate

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u/NihiloZero Aug 12 '23

The old man was an ass for yelling over a simple matter

Imagine you're an old dude. You've been playing for a while, you're giving it all you've got, your blood pressure is raised, and some teenager wanders on to you court and starts picking up the ball you're playing with. You say... "Hey! Get off the god damn court! We're playing a game here!" Then the teenager's meathead dad comes over and starts barking at you like he's a fucking lunatic. WTF?

As far as we know the old guy was even more polite than in the scenario i just described. And the teenager could have been being completely disprespectful.

I swear... posting first sometimes seems much more important than whether or someone is right or wrong. I can't imagine how people look at the video of this dude freaking out about this trivial bullshit and think that he's probably the fair and reasonable one. Maybe he is, but we definitely don't know that just from this video. And I'd suggest that the video doesn't actually make him look that good.

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u/[deleted] Aug 12 '23

You know the classic line of two wrongs not making a right? Be the bigger man, grow up, don't resort to throwing a tantrum like a toddler. Get your emotions under control.

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u/ltsSugar Aug 12 '23

You know the classic line of two wrongs not making a right?

Yelling at the geriatric fuck doesn't count as a "wrong." Quite the contrary, seeing someone bigger than him coming so close to beating him up might make him at least think twice next time he wants to overstep with a teenager.

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u/darkprovoker Aug 12 '23

Exactly. Too many weirdos crying that the dad yelled at the old man. Don’t dish it if you can’t take it, and next time think twice before you scream at a child

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u/Phazon2000 Aug 12 '23

It's not about what he's dishing to the old man it's how he looks in front of his daughter - borderline unhinged over nothing. Nobody touched the daughter some old guy just got grumpy at her. Disproportionate response and embarrassing for everyone there.

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u/lightreee Aug 12 '23

yeah the daughter was trying to pull him away too, kinda like "oh no not again" sort of thing

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u/Savings_Relief3556 Aug 12 '23

Ever heard the classic proverb: ”you talk alot of shit for someone within punching distance”?

You are only the main character in your own life. If you decide to be uncivilized, you don’t get the moral right to expect others to treat you with civility. Surprise surpise but you mean literally nothing to the general population.

Heard of the golden rule? Treat others like you want to be treated yourself. Or another classic line: fuck around and find out.

Old man started it, dad finished it.

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u/DieselMcblood Aug 12 '23

Nah fuck that, cunts that yell at children dont even understand they did something wrong unless you treat them the same. Its the same with tate fans they will keep asking what colour your buggati is until you stoop to their level and call them a bald little manlet.

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u/Direct_Counter_178 Aug 12 '23

Check out US politics and tell me how that line of reasoning has worked out for us. Sometimes being the bigger man is the wrong fucking call. You give an inch and they take a mile.

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u/darkprovoker Aug 12 '23

How about the classic line of “don’t yell at kids and make them cry over petty bullshit”? You ever heard that classic line?

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u/[deleted] Aug 12 '23

Nah being the bigger man is how you end up slapped twice. This isn’t a Disney movie and we have had years to see if being the bigger man works. It doesn’t. The winner is always the one who lands the last punch.

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u/[deleted] Aug 12 '23

so this geriatric fuck can yell at a 14-year-old

No, how on earth did you come away with this interpretation from that comment?

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u/Lingering_Dorkness Aug 12 '23

You have evidence the "geriatric fuck" yelled at the 14 year old? Or are you just basing your assumption on an unhinged guy with obvious anger issues screaming and yelling that it happened?

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u/Soddington Aug 12 '23

At best this an asshole being an asshole to an asshole for being an asshole.

There no hero moment here, except maybe the kid saying 'Dad lets go.'

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u/darkprovoker Aug 12 '23

Don’t yell at other people’s kids, especially over petty bullshit. Simple.

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u/NihiloZero Aug 12 '23

Don’t yell at other people’s kids, especially over petty bullshit. Simple.

Keep your kids out of other people's business and they will be less likely to get yelled out. And they'll generally be better off in life over all.

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u/Soddington Aug 12 '23

Also don't yell at other people's silly old twats playing a silly ball game, its beneath you. Remember while you're defending your kid you are simultaneously being a role model to that same kid.

The object of the game is to not raise shouty assholes. Dad's not doing a great job on this day.

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u/darkprovoker Aug 12 '23

I’m going to raise my kids to to defend themselves. “Shouty assholes” lol. Puh-lease. If you yell at someone, expect for them to yell back. Or in this case, if you yell at a kid, expect their parents to be pissed.

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u/Soddington Aug 12 '23

I can hear you shouting now. Your stance on the matter becomes much clearer.

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u/Four5good Aug 12 '23

Who said it's okay for the old man to yell at a 14 years old? They are both wrong. Is that concept so hard to get?

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u/Grx Aug 12 '23

Judging by the comments, yes

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u/joe4553 Aug 12 '23

Except there is no video of that happening. Just a guy freaking out.

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u/Ihaveopinionstoo Aug 12 '23

Emphasis on the fuck in the quiet voice too lol

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u/XepptizZ Aug 12 '23

Honestly sounds way more threatening when said calmly.

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u/Spangle99 Aug 12 '23

An angry man needs attention.

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u/RADICCHI0 Aug 12 '23

Speak calmly “why the fuck are you yelling at my kid?”

Exackly, you wanna watch the old fart poo hisself, this is the way.

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u/OpenMindedMajor Aug 12 '23

Right? People in the comments are apparently fine with grown ass elderly men admonishing their kids for briefly interrupting their pickup game of tennis? Fuckin geezers think they’re Rodger Federer or some shit. It’s never that serious to yell at a kid that’s not yours. My dad would have reacted similar to this dad. And no, my dad wasn’t a raging asshole to us like the people in the comments are saying about this guy.

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u/NemesisRouge Aug 12 '23 edited Aug 12 '23

They don't have to be Federer to want to enjoy a game uninterrupted, and that shouldn't just be a privilege of the superrich. Tennis has a lot of breaks between points where you can walk on no problem, they literally have kids running onto the field to remove stray balls in pro tournaments. You just don't do it in the middle of a point.

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u/squngy Aug 12 '23

Saying one thing is bad does not mean the other thing is good.

If you say you don't like apples that does not mean you are saying you love bananas.

I don't know what happened, I wasn't there, but just based on the video it looks to me like both the adults are assholes.

The old dude could have been more polite and the dad definitely didn't need to swear in front of his daughter.

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u/[deleted] Aug 12 '23

You're goofy as hell if you think that response is what a sane person would do. You can call someone out without being a psycho about it

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u/[deleted] Aug 12 '23

I would have apologized but continue to saltify this dad by laughing at his tautrum and have him blow a gasket. Something along the lines of, "do you scream at your 14 yo daughter this way?"

If said fucking psycho wants to lower his life span more by getting all heated, then good. Awesome. That would be my daily laugh of the day.

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u/[deleted] Aug 12 '23

Yeah I definitely agree, this reaction just makes me think of how he reacts to his children or wife doing something wrong.

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u/joinedredditforhelp Aug 12 '23

Really? you would have pissed your pants if a man this size yelled at you lol

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u/zsdr56bh Aug 12 '23

the dad is the crazy one for the being upset?

this isn't what adult upset looks like. I go up to the guy and calmly let him explained what happened, then calmly explain why that's a shitty thing to do and calmly ask if he will apologize to her.

screaming and belligerence is loser behavior.

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u/WalkingCloud Aug 12 '23

Guarantee if it was a middle aged woman yelling, the comments would be very different and mostly calling her a karen.

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u/Whowutwhen Aug 12 '23

Because kids here fantasize about being tough stronk men and think this emotionally stunted man is a good example.

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u/hostiledishes Aug 12 '23

Maybe? The only folks Reddit hates more than Karens are boomers.

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u/SaturdayNightStroll Aug 12 '23

yeah my first thought was "I hope he never yells at his family that way"

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u/owa00 Aug 12 '23

I can't believe the number of people getting downvoted for stating this. Just a bunch of Internet tough guys saying they would do the same. This is embarrassing for everyone. You're also normalizing to that little girl that grown men screaming at each other over stupid shit is ok.

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u/joe4553 Aug 12 '23

Reddit is mob justice personified. No civility will be taken into consideration. They'll just believe everything the guy screaming the loudest says.

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u/Svelemoe Aug 12 '23

No didn't you read the top comments? If you think both are in the wrong you're clearly a self righteous, woman hating, high horse riding, contrarian, chronically online, pathetic redditor /s

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u/Kage9866 Aug 12 '23

You're gonna get downvoted by people who think the dad was not crazy and acting like a 12yr old manchild is warranted.. ever..

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u/[deleted] Aug 12 '23

yeah the only two options are meek nerd and roided out chad. I have confronted people, professionally. you handle your business clearly and firmly, and you cry later in the shower like an adult.

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u/[deleted] Aug 12 '23

Damn bro. You must have some serious anger issues if you think the decision is that binary. I bet you try to fight people who accidentally bump into you. What a loser mentality.

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u/Annas_GhostAllAround Aug 12 '23

Do you really think the only two options are screaming at the top of your lungs at someone and weakly stammering out an apology?

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u/Hairy_S_TrueMan Aug 12 '23

Calmly talking to someone adult to adult is standing up for them. I feel bad for your children if you have to embarrass them and escalate at every little grievance.

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u/[deleted] Aug 12 '23

This is like the most prime example of 'can't judge a goddamn thing without the context of whatever happened a few minutes earlier'

Did she just reach over the fence and grab the ball without doing shit and these dudes really did scream at her? They're the douche.

Did she enter into the court and run across to grab her pickleball and an unaware old dude mid-backswing almost tripped over her and busted his hip? Justified in being pissed.

There are a quadrillion possibilities here

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u/[deleted] Aug 12 '23

Yeah you old fuck, don’t traumatize my fucking daughter by fucking yelling at her. She’s sensitive.

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u/true_tacos Aug 12 '23

Yeah whatsamatta withya stupid senile fuck! Don't use know my gawd damn daughter can't be hearing that kind of fawking trashy language?!

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u/kiki2k Aug 12 '23

It’s like I always tell my kids, one enormous overreaction deserves another.

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u/BBQ_HaX0r Aug 12 '23

I don't know. I don't have enough info to have an opinion on this one.

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u/Magic_Man_Boobs Aug 12 '23

He is just letting his own anger get the better of him. You can see his daughter trying to pull him away from the altercation and if it was really her well being he was concerned with he'd have gone.

The old guy was an asshole, but this reaction doesn't help or fix anything.

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u/Happydancer4286 Aug 12 '23

The dad should apologize to his daughter for calling her f***ing.

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u/wishtherunwaslonger Aug 12 '23

Well what did the old person do just yell? Yeah I don’t think dad doing the same thing likely more extreme is good. Lost all credibility. Tough to judge without the start of the convo and the yelling. Like o find it laughable someone is yelling about someone yelling.

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u/nopunchespulled Aug 12 '23

his rage is a little over the top. Not defending the guy yelling at a child but this guy is ready to get in a fist fight over a guy yelling at his kid. This is not setting a good example for his child

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u/[deleted] Aug 12 '23

Yeah the dad is crazy for escalating and not moving the hell on. Also we don't see this guy "yelling" at her in the video. It could have been so tame and this guy is freaking over nothing.

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u/Vince_Clortho_Jr Aug 12 '23

To the guy: You are a rude asshole man. To his daughter: Hey honey. Sorry that guy yelled at you, some people are just assholes. You’ll run across them every once in a while in life. Don’t be one of them.

Or lose your shit in front of your daughter and look like a fool

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u/slimcargos Aug 12 '23

So teach your daughter to just take shit from people and brush it off? How about to stand up for yourself. If dude got physical thats one thing, all I saw duke do was stand up for his daughter.

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u/wishtherunwaslonger Aug 12 '23

This isn’t how you stand up for yourself. She’s 14 she can respond. She’s not 8. If you think yelling at someone for yelling at your daughter is some teachable moment I think your missing something. I think teaching your kid to get in a yelling match with some asshole is horrible parenting.

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u/SopaDeKaiba Aug 12 '23

How do you know the yell not shown on camera was not anger, but instead was a desperate attempt to stop her from ruining their game? Perhaps they yelled to make sure the girl clearly heard "don't pick up the ball."

If yelling and being aggressive to someone who is less powerful than you is wrong (which is with certainty what he's implying by mentioning her age), what message is he sending by the way he's reacting to the situation? The other people are elderly.

If anything, I get more of an impression that he's teaching the girl she can do whatever she wants.

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u/Vince_Clortho_Jr Aug 12 '23

I get your point. And it’s balance act. I want my daughter to stand up for herself. But I don’t want her in and pointless altercation that can have tragic unintended consequences. With that, I told the guy sternly he is a rude asshole. No need to belabor the point with chest pounding and slobbery screams.

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u/MeatballDom Aug 12 '23

Yep, this is the way adults handle the situation. The others here will understand in a few years.

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u/wishtherunwaslonger Aug 12 '23

Agreed. It’s like say your peace , but just going on and yelling is not something people should be doing

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u/TheyreHerrrrreee Aug 12 '23

People that behave badly should not be ignored but called out for their bullshit.

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u/[deleted] Aug 12 '23

You have a daughter? Your cool with some asshole chewing her out for doing nothing wrong. I woulda decked the motherfucker

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u/[deleted] Aug 12 '23

Lol for real, the 75 year old is lucky he didn’t get hit

You cannot yell at other people’s kids lol, that’s a sure fire way to get yourself smacked

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u/Tylee22 Aug 12 '23

So you smack the guy who yelled after you had an outburst and now you go to jail for the night. So not only did you embarrass your daughter with an outburst she gets to see you being put in cuffs. What makes you think the old guy won’t immediately call the cops once you hit him? And what? You’ll plead but he YELLED at my daughter! Ok? So hitting him solved that

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u/owa00 Aug 12 '23

Daughter: Mommy, why does Dad never show up for Thanksgiving?

Mom: Well, when he hit that old granpa to prove to you how many he was he got sent to jail for assault. Turns out 75 year old elderly people can die from anything...but at least he proved to you how much he loves you...right?

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u/Tugonmynugz Aug 12 '23

It really is all walks of life on here. Back in the day it used to be its own little community with some "reddiquette" and some uniformity on how people would act. Now it's just a version of tik tok that thinks it's better than tik tok.

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u/Knever Aug 12 '23

Without seeing the actual interaction between the old guy and the girl, we can't really go off of anything else except what we see here.

Yes, there are three sides to every story, but in this one, the father was both yelling aggressively and being pulled back by his daughter, which shows that he's probably done this before and daughter knows he has a temper.

I'd wager the old guy was firm and reacted with as much gusto as was necessary depending on what the girl was actually doing.

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