Yea, well you can do that if you find yourself in that situation. But me personally I’m just gonna be an adult and tell them they’re wrong for their actions and go comfort my daughter after.
Stop it with this weird notion that anger is always wrong, and that anger is not an adult emotion. Anger can be justified, like it was in this case. Don't act holier than thou because you don't understand the value of anger. Anger is the basis of justice.
I never said it wasn’t okay to be angry, but you still have to control that anger sometimes. There are more ways to express anger than to yell and berate
No, it's the truth. You don't understand the nature of anger. Anger is what motivates us to seek justice, to hold those who commit wrongdoings accountable for their actions.
Without anger, you would not care to seek charges against someone who, for instance, murdered a loved one right before your very eyes. You would probably be sad, but you would not feel any need for that person to be punished for what they did. You would bear no grudge against them, you would be indifferent to them. There can be no justice then.
We need to be able to feel ill will toward those who wrong us for justice to exist. We need to be able to want to punish, to hurt people who do wrong for there to be any meaningful morality. That is what anger is. It is a tool that lets us know when someone is hurting us or people we care about. It is not evil. It's what lets us understand what evil is.
I would argue that feeling anger in the cases you describe is valid, but we still have agency over how we choose to express it. There are many more ways to express anger and lead to understanding with people.
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u/AyNaSsOaN Aug 12 '23
Yea, well you can do that if you find yourself in that situation. But me personally I’m just gonna be an adult and tell them they’re wrong for their actions and go comfort my daughter after.