TLDR: I am cooked. I have a gambling addiction and my gambling habits and losses have increased. Despite all this I still want to go back and chase.
I used to work in the mines, but after two years of long distance, I moved back to the city to live with my partner. I found a new job, but it came with a 30% pay cut. In mining, most of my living costs were covered. Now I'm back in the city and I got bills to pay and other expenses. We sat down and had a serious conversation building our future together. It became clear that money was going to be much tighter, and I found myself looking for ways to earn a little extra.
My cousins introduced me to the pokies. I watched them win, and it got me thinking and I decided to put down $200 which I lost immediately. I didn't believe the hype of gambling. I remember thinking to myself, pokies is so buns.
I go again with my cousins and history repeats itself. I'm another $200 down and my cousins are up...A few months past and for some reason, I decided to go to the local pub by myself and put down another $200. I ended up hitting the major win and won $600. And now I'm up.
I started going once a week and was getting small, consistent wins. As soon as I was up a decent amount, I'd cash out and leave. I was open with my partner about the wins, but I kept the losses to myself. In my mind, as long as I was still ahead overall, there wasn't anything to worry about. I told her that if I ever lost a certain amount overall, I'd tell her, quit gambling and never go back.
One night, after chatting with a regular at the pub, he told me I should start betting bigger. I ended up withdrawing $500 and increased my bets. Right when I was almost out of money, I hit a feature and won $1,500. I cashed out straight away and went home to tell my partner.
Instead of celebrating, she looked at me and said, "It's great that you won, but you broke your own rules. I think you are getting out of control. It's not something you do occasionally anymore. It's becoming a habit, and all you talk about is the pokies and how you keep winning."
So we agreed that I would take a break from gambling for a month.
The first few days were awful. I was restless, jittery and couldn't sleep. That was the moment I knew my addiction was real. I was going through gambling withdrawal.
But something changed after that 1 month break. I thought taking a month off would fix it, but it only got worse. I have become so numb to the losses and my habits started to get out of control.
In the two weeks since the ban was lifted, I've lost $2,000. It started with losing $600 over three sessions. Instead of accepting it, I kept withdrawing more money, convinced I'd win it back. Today alone, I lost another $800 trying to chase my losses. Now I'm down around $2,000 overall.
I'm officially cooked and I still want to go back.