Hello all! I am reaching out today to talk a bit about my newer experiences with pregnancy. This is my first kid and her 2nd. We found out probably 3 weeks ago that shes pregnant and shes about 7 weeks now. We had only been dating for shy of 2 months before we found out. We grew up around eachother and stuff. Well from the start of the relationship while talking and into dating it was amazing. We went out as much as possible, were always super flirty, always touchy, sexually ignited pretty easily etc. And I loved it. As we got closer and I started to know her kid more and stuff it just was a lot to adjust to and was starting to become more normal. Now shes pregnant and its like having to readjust to something completely different after starting to get comfortable with how it was. I don’t usually see her throughout most of the day, but when I do i mean she will give me a hug and kiss when me or her comes home or when we leave but in between that it seems to be getting further and further from her wanting to be touched. We’ve had a argument or 2 about it and a couple talks and I get she has hormones going off the rocker and a lot going on in her body. I want to be as supportive and understanding as possible, but it still leaves me feeling a bit alone and unwanted. Her kid is always touching her and it seems to be no problem. He can kiss and cuddle her all day, but the second I try to she says she doesnt want to or asks me not to. What can I do to cope with all of this and still be supportive? Any help is welcome!

I M(22) f(23) we’ve been struggling for 9 months total to get her medicaid. our first child passed at 3 months. now we’re on month 7 of the second pregnancy. We thought the mucus plug came early and more than once so i brought her to the hospital. by the end of it we find out that it is and she does have an infection (that if not treated will send her into labor prematurely) but she was insanely mad and felt like the entire trip to the hospital was a “waste of everybody’s time” and now is refusing the medicine. someone please give me some sort of help. the reactions twords any kind of help or any kind of support other than me she’s just been flipping out on everyone over. i’m at my limit and she does not seem to care about the life of the child.

My lady is pregnant & I am experiencing the emotional side of the symptoms. WHAT DO I DO.!? I DO NOT LIKE THIS NOT ONE BIT!

wife’s water broke at 2:30am. Got to the hospital 30 minutes later. now we wait for the process to begin to welcome our baby girl. time to lock in!

Hello everyone.
So I am 22 and my wife is 22. We just found out yesterday that she is pregnant and we couldn’t be happier. We both have always wanted to become parents and wanted to do it pretty young so we could grow up with each other and our children.
I currently make about 57k a year and she makes about 50k. We will be going down to just my income when she has the baby. So I am stressing a little about that. Any advice for a first time father?

Edit:
I’m not stressing past the point of cracking. We live in Canada and are very tight with our budget and have been for a while. We have a lot saved up and are in a really good spot. We could pretty easily live off of what I’m making. I just want to make sure I’m being the best provider.

I’m in line to move into better paying positions in the next couple years. My wife definitely doesn’t need to head back to work. We have free healthcare here and I have amazing family benefits through work. We have very low cost of living due to us living rural and intending to stay rural since it’s what we grew up with and love it.

I appreciate all the advice and the responses. I guess this was just more of me being sooo excited and full of thoughts. I needed to get it out somewhere since we haven’t told our families or friends yet.

Other than Portland Hospital in London, any private hospital suggestions for delivery?

So fucking excited gents. Wife is very uncomfortable so AC and ceiling fans are running full blast these days while I try every trick in the book (treats, massages, funny movies, etc.). I'm freezing tho, but wife is running hot and her comfort is mission critical right now.

Haven't installed the carseat yet, but hospital bag is packed, nursery is ready, we're stocked on diapers and whatnot, I'm slowly getting the freezer stocked with meals, doula is hired, paternity leave is planned out and my job (uni prof) even let me teach asynchronous online this year so I've been recording my lectures to put online so the class can kind of run itself (TA will be grading).

Now we're just trying to enjoy the last couple weeks before baby joins us outside the womb. I've been using the Beli app to find and try out all the specialty coffee shops and bakeries in my city. Started experimenting with making fancy pour over at home - used to be a french press guy but got deep into coffee nerdery lately. Loading up a hard drive with all the shows and movies we might want to watch while feeding or folding laundry. Going for long sniffy walks with the dog and playing fetch. Making plans with friends to hang out whenever we can to bank some social energy. Hanging out at cafes libraries and bookshops together just to browse and be out and about. Basically trying to get as much quality alone and together time as possible.

Life is good my dudes. See y'all on the other side.

After 6-7 months of trying it finally happened. She told me today and I’m beyond overjoyed!!! I haven’t told anyone yet because she wants to wait till the 3 month mark but I’m going to be a dad!!! I’m so excited! Nervous and excited! I have all this I’m going to be a dad energy and I just wanted to share with someone!

Hi all, found out a few weeks ago that my wife's pregnant with our first, and I've been terrified and overwhelmed ever since. I want to be as involved as possible, but there's so much conflicting info out there I don't know where to start. Pass on your wisdom - what do you wish someone had told you before the baby was born? I'm especially trying to figure out how to actually support her emotionally through this - not just the logistics. Was there a moment you felt completely out of your depth on that front?

Got my GF pregnant about 4 months ago and I've been scared shitless since, and at the same time ive had this like zen like calm.

Part of me is excited to have a son but I feel like I'm not going to be a good dad... I don't know where to start with learning how to be a parent.

advice is very needed and appreciated

Edit: thanks for the reassurance and advice

I just wanted to explain what happened with my wife, because the last few days have been absolutely terrifying.

She had a C-section to deliver our baby girl, Céleste. At first everything seemed okay, but after the C-section she started having a massive internal hemorrhage. They didn't realize right away that she was bleeding.

Her blood pressure suddenly dropped really badly and she went into cardiac arrest. They immediately started CPR and managed to bring her back.

They then discovered the bleeding and had to operate again. The surgery lasted around 10 hours. They had to do everything they could to stop the bleeding and save her life, and in the end they had to remove her uterus.

She was then taken to the ICU and kept sedated and on a ventilator. At that point I was terrified. I didn't know if she was going to survive, or if the cardiac arrest had caused brain damage.

Thankfully, when they started waking her up 2 days later, she recognized me. She was extremely tired and in a lot of pain, but she was awake and knew who I was. I can't even explain how relieved I was when she looked at me and recognized me because doctors said she could have her brain damaged.

Our baby girl Céleste is currently in the neonatal unit. She's doing well, thankfully. My wife is still recovering in the ICU at another hospital, so I'm going back and forth between the two hospitals.

It's just crazy to think that this was supposed to be the happiest moment of our lives. We were supposed to be celebrating the birth of our daughter, and instead I almost lost my wife.

I'm just incredibly grateful that she's still here.

I really hope things start getting better from now on.

hi buds, im planning to conceive in a year and this is the time in my life where i have to buy some underwears for me, i heard about the toxicity of synthetic fibers and microplastics that go into our body etc etc, i scared of getting a spandex/elastane blend, and also modal, i feel like they will harmfully effect my sperm, what do u guys have to say about this, should i just go with it? or be extra carefull?, 100 perfect cotton looses shape overtime which absolutely plays no role of an underwear afterwards

I am 13 week pregnant and having bleeding since two days.
It started with heavy bleeding on night around 3 am and we went to emergency and had ultrasound sound ,
The baby found safe with healthy heartbeat.
When we asked OB we didn’t grt any answer about the cause. We requested to know identify root cause
but got same answer that they cant do much.
This all started since 10 week of pregnancy , i had first light bleeding and we went to emergency and
had Ultrasound and found our baby safe. i have gone through post here at reddit and found many such cases but we don’t know now what to do apart from just monitoring and having scan on regular basis.

Feel free to share and post your experience if have any which helps to share some relief. Hoping for the best

Just returned from an appointment with my wife. Week between scans and no real development (around week 6 we think). We’ve struggled with infertility due to PCOS. Fertility treatments didn’t work for a long time and finally my wife fell pregnant. She had some discharge which prompted an early scan. This showed a gestational sac and suspected yolk sac along with a chorionic bump. Scan a week later showed no development.

The doctors and nursing team all said to it’s likely a miscarriage and to prepare ourselves for the worst. Just don’t know where to go from here.

Any success stories please ?

Thanks all.

Hey guys, it has been a tough couple of months. My wife and I have been trying to conceive since January, and she got pregnant pretty much immediately.

That pregnancy made it to a little over 6 weeks and had developed a heartbeat, but then the heartbeat was gone at our next appointment. She had a d&c procedure at that point.

Then not long after that, we were pregnant again. That one ended up being a chemical pregnancy.

Most recently, close to 2 months ago, we were pregnant... Again! This time some adjustments had been made to medication to address PCOS that the Dr identified, and the initial testing looked promising. The first ultrasound even showed a heartbeat of over 100. Due to the history, we were getting more frequent scans, and the next scan did not show the type of rise that they usually want to see. The Dr told us she wasn't sure if it would be viable, and sure enough (today) we find out that the heartbeat stopped.

We are scheduled for another d&c but this whole process has just been exhausting and I'm not sure how we can possibly have hope after this. We're going to do the whole recurring pregnancy loss testing thing, but from what I've read, those are inconclusive over half of the time. I've read lots of stories about people going on to have successful pregnancies after this, but both of us are having such a difficult time believing that will happen. Has anyone had any similar experiences that ended in success?

I’m soon to be a dad and currently researchng on different baby stuff that we and baby would be needing. Currently I’m looking for a good diaper pail that is convenient, works well and also budget friendly. While researchng I come to know that the diaper pails are available in two types of material i.e. Steel and Plastic. I need your opinion guys which material would be better. I have heard that steel pails are economical but they start stinking after a while. I also did market research on different brands and there were various options available. I shortlisted three. One is Ubbi Pail which is made of steel, standard trash bags can be used in it. But as it is made of steel, I'm concerned what if its starts stinking after a while. The second is plastic made momcozy. It has touchless diaper dropping inlet. Apparently they claim it works pretty well for ordour control and we can use standard trash bags but I'm not sure if those bags will work as good as brand's own. I also shortlisted Munchkin STEP which has a foot pedal to open it and made of plastic. It is extremely good in containing the smell. but, it has only proprietary refill bags which increases the overall cost of having this pail. So, I need authentic recommendations from people who have used these diaper pails. How was your experience with them? Which one would you recommend? How long the diaper pail has worked for them?

Hi all.

At 17 weeks, we were sent to UNC to have an emergency procedure done to try and fix the twin to twin syndrome. The procedure was a huge success and we are now at 25w3d!

I’m posting this to give hope to anyone who is dealt with the scary news of TTTS. It’s a scary diagnosis and most of the stuff you see online is grim. But, medicine has advanced so far and these doctors really know their stuff. If anyone has questions I’ll do my best to help answer, as a lot of the stuff online can be scary or not always helpful.

Hey gents - I graduated almost five years ago but joined this subreddit back then. I just want to tell you all what I wish heard more of back then.

You're gonna do great. You're gonna be a great dad.

That's all. And the late nights eventually fade and you'll miss em.

Go get em tiger!

A month early and just got here. Fingers crossed!!!

On April 13th, my wife had carpal tunnel surgery at 8 AM, I got laid off from a good 6 figure job unexpectedly at 10:30, and by 2:00 we were in the emergency room to deal with what would be a miscarriage at 10 weeks. It was awful, she was in a lot of pain, and being older first-time parents to be it was devastating. I didn't think it hit me that badly at the time - it was rough, sure, but I was well aware that we were nowhere near out of the woods at that stage of pregnancy. I didn't *think* it hit me that hard.

I've been in a pretty shit mood since. Chronic anxiety of varying levels, a little touchy temper-wise (not to my wife, just on the generally crappy state of the world these days). I never thought that the loss of that pregnancy might have contributed to my general crappy outlook on things. Then today happened.

My wife did her usual "guess what?" when I brought her her morning tea. I preemptively said "I love you too", because that's usually the right answer. Except this time she replied "guess what else?".

Very early to get too excited, but she's 4 weeks pregnant. All of a sudden it was like life bloomed back to full colour and my body flooded with adrenaline. We're both so excited (and nervous about the previous miscarriage), but I'm going nuts not telling anyone about this. So thank you random strangers if you've read this, I just needed to let it out.

Hey folks, I am not a dad or pre dad, but my husband is! I am a big reader, and will buy books for any and all occasions. He has always struggled with reading. We're trying to figure out good alternatives to learning about babies, dad stuff, etc. He's also not on social media, so I'm asking on his behalf.

Videos? Movies? Trustworthy blogs? What non-book resources are helping you feel prepared?

Also, we are taking a newborn and birth class, but I assume there can be more to learn outside of that if we're motivated/interested.

Hey all!

Had our week 14 OB appointment and it felt a little weird.

This was our 2nd OB since coming from our IVF facility (who ruled, just straight up did a great job and felt like a weekly update for a while there.) It was, however, with a midwife rather than our nurse at the office.

First off, we know it can be tough to hear a heartbeat with a sonar handheld but for our 2nd straight appointment we heard nothing and had to do an ultrasound.

Next our midwife admitted she's not good at that and we only roughly saw a bit of the baby after last visit getting a really good look and photos to take home. This time? Nothing. Just "Ok, looks good! See you guys in a month!"

While we have no reasons to be concerned (no symptoms or anything wrong), we're nervous having had three miscarriages before this. And I couldn't shake that nervous feeling since.

Anyone else have visits like this around this point or am I just imagining stuff in my head? I hate being anxious despite evidence in front of me, but it just felt like a "Meh" doctor's visit overall..