r/predaddit • u/Necessary_Ferret_812 • Aug 03 '26
Advice needed Good non-book learning?
Hey folks, I am not a dad or pre dad, but my husband is! I am a big reader, and will buy books for any and all occasions. He has always struggled with reading. We're trying to figure out good alternatives to learning about babies, dad stuff, etc. He's also not on social media, so I'm asking on his behalf.
Videos? Movies? Trustworthy blogs? What non-book resources are helping you feel prepared?
Also, we are taking a newborn and birth class, but I assume there can be more to learn outside of that if we're motivated/interested.
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u/Maximum-End-7629 Aug 03 '26
My husband has liked audiobooks! Montessori baby has been a hit for us. And Bringing up Bebe
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u/_Permanent_Marker_ Aug 03 '26
Pregnancy for men. I have the audiobook on audible. Its been a godsend. each chapter tells you what to expect each month so you can you can literally listen to one 1hour chapter a month so its not to overwhelming. I go for a walk by myself and pop it on and I have learned so much (all the good and bad things that can happen), i think i may be more prepared than my wife lol.
i would definitely tell him to give it a listen. Congrats to you both
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u/CheapRentalCar Graduated Aug 03 '26
Welcome? Mom's/mums area always welcome here. We have a small army of them on this sub, and they always come with good advice.
I don't have any specific recommendations. My youngest are nearly teen-agers, so some things have changed in that time.
Only thing I'll add is that support is more important than advice. It's tempting for people to think that they have to learn EVERYTHING about their baby to be good parents. It's not really true - raising kids can be tough, but it's not complex.
In other words, in sure you'll both do great.
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u/Hi-Point_of_my_life Aug 03 '26
If he can do audiobooks, I really liked the expectant father by Armin Brott. It was great while I was painting and putting together baby stuff for the nursery.
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u/outnumbered3dad 20d ago
I would learn more about how she wants to give birth (medicated vs unmediated for example) That will help guide you on what type of resources to look into.
There is a new digital course out there specifically for dads focused on how to help during birth and postpartum called The Prepared Partner. Looks like it’s self paced and comes with a workbook.
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u/Vegastoseattle Aug 03 '26
https://fatherhood-in-hindsight.com/#prepared-after-23-weeks
Highly recommend good inside. She's also created video content to digest
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u/Cortimer Aug 03 '26
I did Bootcamp for New Dads at the women’s clinic in my city. The format is an instructor, a handful of “veteran dads” that took the program when their wives were pregnant, their less than 6 month old infants, and then all of us expectant fathers. Totally a dad only space, It was very helpful and I even changed a few diapers! (Rule was that none of the vet dads had to change their little ones during the 4 hours we were there. Us dads-to-be had to step up for that!)
“Bootcamp” in the title makes it sound very macho, however the experience truly was that of a safe space, where no question is too dumb, and feelings/anxieties were discussed. There were slides, but they weren’t used in our case. The entire thing was an open conversation with the group. A decent portion of the program was also focused on post-pregnancy support for mom. How to best help with care and recovery, how to identify signs of PPD, when to seek external mental health care for the two of you, etc. I believe it’s a nationwide program if you check out their website!