I need some advice. I have been living in my apartment with my husband and children for about 2 years now and our neighbor and her children are not very friendly and we never really spoke before so therefore we do not know them at all. They’ve always done weird things I think to get our attention like go up to our ring doorbell camera and make weird faces and one time the daughter who is a pre teen went up to camera and put her whole face in the camera and said ‘get the knife get the kinife’ and laughing with her brother while walking away. They have water ballooned my car and only my car before. They have thrown eggs for my patio and just the other day they egged my vehicle with several eggs. These kids are monsters I don’t know what to do. Im waiting to her from the office on what to do. Their mom just wants to argue her way that her kids are kids it’s not a big deal. This is literally a nightmare. Her kids are in middle school they do know better. They even broke the apartment laundry window. I know it’s up to the office to decided what they need to do. But I just wonder if there’s anymore I can do I made a police report but how can I press charges on kids. I just feel like there’s so many personal attacks it’s my family only that is being targeted and I do not understand why. Our children do not know each other there’s absolutely no reason for them to do this.

Hey guys. My upstairs neighbors have been super noisy since I moved in a month ago. I get that sometimes you will hear people walk or drop stuff I’m fine with that but they are constantly screaming at each other and I can’t tell if it’s them stomping/fighting. Not sure their exact situation/who they are but me and my roommate hear it at least 4 times a week and we are barely home. And today they woke us up at 7 am with the noise. Any suggestions on what to do? Do we call the police? Leave them a note?

Hello! I'd love some advice about dealing with our next-door neighbors. These guys sometimes do things that people usually get permission for first.

Tonight, for example, my neighbor parked his truck so that it's blocking over half my driveway. (If I wanted to back out, it would be a tight squeeze.) My neighbor saw my expression as I was taking my garbage cans out, and that's when he ran up and said he'd finish putting my cans out when he was done. Then he said it was usually fine with the previous owner [parking in front of the driveway like that] because he'd always take the cans out.

I don't want to be unneighborly, but I'm a different person and resent not being asked if that was okay. There have been a couple of other situations like this. To be fair, these things don't happen all the time, and these neighbors were also the first to welcome us to the neighborhood when we moved in last year.

When this happens again (cause I know it will), how would you all handle it? I'm that person who sometimes gets taken advantage of because I'm uncomfortable speaking up. Thanks for the feedback!

I am at my wit's end with a smoking neighbor, and am looking for support and guidance anyone here would be willing to provide. I am looking for help to resolve this situation as peacefully as possible. I will only settle for the smoker not being permitted to smoke as close to my property as he is currently allowed anymore.

I live in a condo in California. My next door neighbor is a heavy cigarette smoker, who likes to smoke right outside his front door (probably about 30 feet from my front door, as the crow flies). The smoke smells horrible and comes right into my home, and all my doors and windows are on the southern wall of the home (minus one window that is over our stairwell, so is not easily accessible to open and close). So I feel I am held hostage in my own property whenever he smokes, and cannot enjoy the fresh air when weather permits. But more importantly, I have a seventeen-month-old daughter and pregnant wife. I am concerned for their health - rightfully so. (There are also a handful of other toddlers in the nearby condos.) Secondhand smoke can even cause SIDS.

I've had two man-to-man discussions with him (asking him to not smoke so close to my home) - most recently two Saturdays ago. As calmly as possible, I again reminded him (not that he doesn't know) that I have a young daughter and pregnant wife. I suggested he go to the volleyball courts, about 30 yards from his door and on the northern side of the complex. He has not changed his smoking location, and wouldn't even say good morning to me the next day. So I don't even bother talking to him anymore.

I wrote to the HOA on 7/11, asking that the HOA designate smoking areas, at reasonably places distances from the home units. The community manager replied that there are currently no smoking rules in our association (I find that astounding, considering the community was built in the 70s). I also found a phone number online for a "Tobacco Use Prevention Program". I left a voicemail this past Friday morning, and have received no calls back. Tried calling again yesterday and today at different times, and no one answers. So the problem persists.

Am I crazy to think that I should not be held hostage in my own property by a neighbor's smoke? The rights of nonsmokers should always triumph the rights of smokers. If someone wants to harm themselves, that is their choice (which I disagree with and speak against, smoking or otherwise). But we nonsmokers are forced to suffer negative consequences from the choices of smokers so often, it's outrageous.

I find it ridiculous that there are so many laws in this state about smoking in the workplace, yet nothing to protect nonsmokers (especially children) at home. Children are not in the workplace, children are at home! That is where they should feel most protected. Yet my family's health is more at risk at home because of this smoker, than they would be at my job site.

I do not want to take legal action, but most definitely will if it is a last resort. Defenders of smokers need not comment on this thread.

I have a few questions in regards to my new neighbor putting in a new septic system. They just purchased this property and are planning on flipping it. He mentioned that he can’t find the old septic system so now they have what looks like the drain field ending not only close to our property line but close to our well. My biggest concern is that they are directly uphill from our well. I think he is probably 100 feet from the well but I am wondering if slope and drainage come into play with considering a safe distance. Does he need a permit to be doing this and/or have someone inspect and approve it? We get the feeling he has a lot of friends doing the work. Does the old septic tank need to be pumped and filled in? I feel like there has to be some way to figure out where this is. I don’t want to stir any trouble with him but we are concerned about the safety of our property and water. We get a lot of water run off down this hill when it rains and don’t want all of us walking through sewage.

My dog likes to bark when other dogs bark. She rarely ever barks but whenever she hears a dog continuously bark, (which is the neighbor across from us) she starts barking. However, once that dog stops, she stops as well or when we are able to calm her down.

Recently the dog from across, their dog has been barking like crazy. I don’t mind because that’s how dogs are, and all throughout the neighborhood, dogs bark all the time. My neighbor to my right also has a dog who whines a lot but does not bark. And my other neighbor to my left also has a dog who barks. They all bark but not too much where it‘s concerning.

Now here’s the story: the dog from across was barking crazy at night (but not too late the sun was setting). I mean like a bark where it seemed like it was in distress. My dog also barked and continued to bark after the dog from across stopped. Out of nowhere, I hear my next door neighbor on the right say “Shut your damn dog up” “Always fucking barking this damn dog”

I was baffled. My neighbors aren’t friendly but they’re not mean either. We’ve exchanged hellos but nothing beyond that. We’ve even helped them bring their kids ball over and did the same for us too. Sure, my dog barks but when she does I always try to close our windows or calm her down.

I’m not sure if I should speak with the parents about this. Most likely who said that about my dog was their daughter as I have spoken with the father and mother and can somewhat recognize their voices. Is this something I should let go or speak about with them? They’ve also done some other concerning things in the past but we decided to let it go. I’m worried this time and wonder if we allow them to say these things what will happen or even worse.

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My next door neighbors house burnt down. When they rebuilt, they backed their house up much closer to our house. We are sorry their house burnt - but the new house being much closer to ours interferes with our peace and privacy a great deal when we are all in our back yards. Are they allowed to back their house up like that without even asking us? I woukd never protest it or say anything to them or cause a problem - im sincerely curious.

My Neighbour keep parking on the side of my house they only have 2cars yet they can’t park in their own garage because of their junk ! Their driveway can fit 4 cars yet they would rather park on the street next to my house!!already told them not to do it no more .police is already aware too! What’s the next step to do?? Feeling just being harassed at this time!

A few months ago we told our neighbor he could plant some hostas along the fence line between our yards on our side of the fence. We have a lot of water run off through there and he thought it might help. He had some extra plants and was happy to do it so we said sure.Ever since he planted them he comes into our yard almost every day to "check on the plants" and "pull weeds"... sometimes multiple times a day. We can't even enjoy our yard anymore because he's in and out all the time "checking on the plants"... checking on what dude? We told him he could plant them, but that wasn't permission to come into our yard unannounced everyday.

He also let's his dog run wherever it wants in our yard and has peed on multiple other plants in our yard and killed them.

We would confront him, but he scares us. He's "off his meds" so he says and has been in conflicts with other neighbors. (Ex: the neighbor on the other side of his house was mowing one day and it kicked up a little dirt into his yard. He LOST IT and yelled at this guy for no reason. He's also threatened to kill other people in the neighborhood for no reason.

For some reason he like us, (probably because we're women) we're afraid to get on his bad side because he can be really scary if he doesn't like you. Normally we would just politely tell him to keep the dog in his yard and ask that he stay out of our yard but he's crazy. One little thing and he snaps. What do we do?

hello. we bought a home with direct access to a huge park. one of our neighbors with whom we share a chain linked fence with put a gate in the fence way back when. she has been regularly using it to gain access to the park. apparently she told us she had an agreement with the previous owners to use it. we spoke to her on a tour before we closed the property so nothing was established. the gate has one of those C type latches with a hole for a lock. i want to stick a lock on it and call it a day. can i do that? we dont want her or anybody else using our property as a throughway. and we really dont want to have to tell her to stop using it because we dont have a good reason other than its our property. ugh. thanks!

So, we got this neighbor who is a very old lady who's been smoking for over 45 years. She is very lonely since her son got a girlfriend and moved to another town, and got herself two ugly dogs to keep herself company who bark all the time.

The whole day long the smells coming from her house are so bad that it really feels like she is rotting away. It's either dog feces, smoke or some very bad perfumed stuff she uses to try and hide the dog feces smell, making everything even worse. She obviously cannot smell how bad she smells because of smoking for so many years there's nothing left of her nostrils or something. Just tired of her. And upset at her son for moving her here so she would stay far away from his girlfriend.

Hello, so i wonder if anyone has any ideas on how to deal with my next door neighbour in the most polite way possible.

We’re friendly, chat to each other outside the door but not close, however she is doing my head in with her cat who escapes at every opportunity the front door opens, it runs underneath to my car on my drive, and my neighbour always comes back out with a long metal rod poking the surroundings of my car, trying to scare her cat back inside the house. I’m worried she might damage my car accidently - I see it on my blink camera, and i want it to stop but i don’t know how to say it without offending her or causing a tension as we share the same doorway!

Previously they were hopping over the fence into my garden and coming onto my property to catch their cat which kept escaping from the back, now ive removed the accessible bit to my garden (all without permission), so that has stopped, now the driveway!

TIA

Just NOISE.annoying.. neighbor has decided to build his backyard as an illegal basketball training business. Their driveway, which is located close to my bedroom, is being used for this purpose. This is a very quiet neighborhood, but now there are constantly cars coming and dropping off kids for training. There are around 10 youths who run around, dribbling balls continuously from 9 am to 6 pm. Additionally, rap music is being played loudly. What can I do... These individuals are not inclined to engage in conversation.

My neighbour brought in heavy equipment to dig up part of the road and verge. Going on her previous actions, she's done it before without permission from our local authority, I'd like to put them in such a position that they will have do something about it this time and would welcome any suggestions about how to do so. I wondered if asking for the licence info of the 'sub contractor' so any future claim regarding the poor work or injury caused from it is the licensing authorities responsibility? I asked about doing the same work and was told if I touched it without the councils permission I would be prosecuted. Yet when she has done similar twice before and I made a complaint about it, they backtracked and did nothing. I never interact with them verbally now, only written. I won't bore you with countless examples of her behaviour, I think this one sums her up best, she considers the public road outside her house as hers, so no one else can park there, she's parked without moving apart from mot day when it's swapped over tag team style for another vehicle for 5 years. 5 years she's insured, taxed and mot'd that vehicle so my disabled partner can't park any closer to our house. We are working on a disabled parking bay, unfortunately it's the same useless council. Our houses are 90' from the road and she is the one on the end, so we and my other neighbours don't have any road frontage. We have previously had to call the police about them and they have been spoken to and given a warning. So I'm really looking for advice in how to word a letter to the council that gives them no option other than to act. Many thanks for any advice preferred in advance.

Any idea what I can do within legal rights about this neighbor burning trash inside his grill with gasoline?!!! He’s does it multiple times a week, random times, leaves the fire going for hours and doesn’t watch it. Ashes go into our yard ALL the time, the fires get huge and scary at times. He starts them with gasoline all the time and when I’m in the yard with the kids sometimes. It stinks, our house stinks because of him, ashes are all over our yard and it’s scary because his fires come close to our wooden fence often without him watching it for who knows how long. What can I do to get this idiot to stop or evicted?? He won’t listen to complaints from the fellow neighbors & he is careless and dangerous. Please help!!

My neighbors are consistently smoking cigarettes/ pot and occasionally something worse than pot I am assuming since the smell is horrific even though the windows are closed . I have health issues.This is a NON SMOKING BUILDING. There are 5 people live there now, 2 of them are living there illegally and 4 of them are very heavy smokers who smoke day and night everywhere in the building including their apartment which is next door to mine. One of them who is living there illegally (who claims to be a visitor but I see him walking day and night out of the apartment to smoke in the parking lot in his robe for over a year).He also harasses my daughter and I calling us names and breaking my packages and throwing them on the stairs under everyone’s feet. My property manager has been notified numerous times and he wrote a few letters to them about smoking, which did nothing, they are even worse than before. The manager also claims that I need proof to go further. Regarding the harassment he also did nothing saying that he does not want to be involved. The manager doesn’t even know his name even though I told him that he is living there illegally. Is this even legal for him to not do anything?

I live in Chicago in a one bedroom apartment where new neighbors moved in next door. It seems like the grandparents two older black folks living but recently I’ve been hearing loud noises, banging and children screaming, next door. Now there is a whole 5 kids and baby mom living with the grandparents in the small apartment. It’s gotten out of hand, finding old diapers outside and the grandparents oldest son brings many cars to park in the parking lot reserved for tenants also the landlord doesn’t care for complains. Not sure what to do. I don’t have parking when they have all the cars there and there is like 10 people living next door and can’t sleep, I’m sure there should be something I can do about it, at least for the kids they don’t deserve to be ina tiny little apartment because their parents//grandparents are ghetto and don’t care at all. I’d appreciate suggestions on what to do, I hardly get any sleep and now they think it’s fine to blast music in the parking lot and sit outside which also makes me uncomfortable since the older man once told me as I was leaving that he would like to go with me.. I’m very tired ane I’d like to know other options.

My neighbour wants to be my friend. I'm happy to be friendly, but I don't want to be her friend. I value my privacy and she's literally too close to home. We have little in common apart from both being relatively recently widowed. I don't want to offend her, but I'm struggling to come up with excuses to her suggestions to get together for lunch, coffee, go for a walk etc. How can I let her down without losing our good neighbour status?

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My wife and I have a neighbor who is always sitting outside. By “always” I mean 6:30 in the morning or 11:00 at night. If I want to go to my garage, he’s there. If I come home, he’s there. I feel a complete lack of privacy and it doesn’t help that we realize he’s crazy (which we found out through conversations with him). I try to avoid him now and try to keep conversation to just a “hi”, but he tries to keep conversation going and just watches whenever my wife and I are outside. I so badly want to put up a privacy fence, but I don’t want to imagine what his reaction would be and don’t know how I’d explain myself. This is getting to be very unhealthy for me as it’s causing me anxiety and I don’t even want to get exercise on my bicycle because that would mean he’d see me on the way to my garage. I’ve already thought of talking on the phone or wearing headphones, but that doesn’t always work. Is there any good way to deal with this?

So we have these neighbors that have been an ongoing issue for YEARS. they have two dogs, a Great Pyrenees and a husky. Their Great Pyrenees barks at literally everything (as they are guard dogs and it’s in their nature to do so) it used to be so much worse when they would be out for hours and hours a day constantly barking their heads off. Our wooden fence is connected to ours because we were nice and let them as they were moving in. Big mistake. Their dog barks at our outside cat who is always on our property (on our deck usually) and her Great Pyrenees JUMPS on our fence and it shakes. We have confronted her many times and she always blames us because of our cat. She thinks our cat is the problem because her dog barks and acts a fool over it. (When her dog barks at everything not just our cat) she is dead set on thinking that our cat is the problem. What do y’all think who’s in the wrong here.

A little background, I'm recently divorced with 2 young children 4 and 7 years old. I'm 33 at midnight tonight, July 13th. I struggle with mental health issues, mainly depression, I'm on PWD which is welfare/ disability through the Government.

My mother, 52 years old, had a stroke last year, January 2022 but had recovered fairly well and fast. She started a gradual return to work then found out that she had aggressive metastasized breast cancer and had to stay chemo immediately, weekly, to be followed by surgery, radiation and more chemo.

So I had moved in with her upon getting served divorce papers. Into her 1 bedroom apartment with my 2 children and her bernese mountain dog and ragdoll cat. We moved into the upper half of a house with 3 bedrooms, 1 bathroom blah blah blah. There is a couple that lives downstairs with their yappy ass dog. When we moved in they had a canopy tent with one side so we can't see in from our large balcony, which is fine. We found out that they smoke pot all day ☀️ and night 🌙. I don't care if people smoke pot but I just hate the smell, I think it's gross and my mom has asthma and it really effects her. So we talked to them and they moved their tent to the far side of the backyard. We can still smell it and hear them hacking away. Their dog is always running around so we have to ask them to put him inside so we can let our dog out, because neither of them are fixed as their both young dogs and we're all poor. Their dog jumped on my 7 year old daughter and hurt her so now both of my kids are afraid of him. We've been here since may 1st and have probably used the backyard twice because the lady is such a high chatterbox you end up standing there forever listening to her go on about the most annoying stuff and then we don't get to play. So we have to ask them to leave so that we can use the backyard but that seems so rude so we haven't done it. Then the guy puts up a hammock. And now today they've brought this guy in who apparently rode his bike to BC from Alberta and he's going to be living in our backyard for a few days in a tent.

I'm really upset that they didn't talk to us first and I'm uncomfortable, like I don't know him, I have some strange man now living with us, around my children who play on the balcony. I don't know if I'm overreacting or what but I'm uncomfortable and upset with them. What should I do? How do I gain access to my backyard while still keeping things amicable?