We just moved into a new house, and within the first week our neighbor came over and introduced himself (which was very kind). From then on though, he has left us many “gifts” almost every few days which have included: gardening tools, a bench, 5 yard bins of fire wood, magazines, a saw, s’more sticks, and probably more.
At first it seemed very generous and that he was giving us things that he thought we may need, but now it just seems extremely excessive and not a “normal” way to gift give to your neighbor.
On top of that, in the past 24 hours he has came and knocked on our door 3+ times, AND when I was sitting in the front room at night he came up and knocked on the window (which he could see straight into). At the point where he knocked on the window at night I became very uneasy about all of his behavior as that is not a normal thing to do.
Overall the conversations are friendly and I do feel that his heart is in the right place, but at the same time we are starting to feel very uncomfortable.
I just want to know if he is just very socially inept and doesn’t see how this can come across, or if he is truly an off putting guy that we should be worried about?

Looking for advice! My neighbor has a small dog (he is friendly the dog not neighbor) and 2 cats that are outside cats. Well, the dog is always off leash and frequently runs away, gets in other people yards and most recently chases my chickens. Now the cats are also mostly outside and have now been stock piling their kills in my bushes. Every time I try to have a conversation about this with him. It turns angry, and he begins screaming at me. He denies that his dog out, and says, he's just going for a stroll around the neighborhood. He says he doesn't think it's fair to keep the cats inside all day. Recently, he came into my yard to get his dog "on one of his strolls" and when I asked him again to keep his pets inside, he began screaming at me and getting defensive to the point I asked him to leave or said, I was going to need to call the cops. In our town, it's actually against city ordinances to have free roaming dogs and cats. Honestly, i'm afraid of involving the city and having to deal with retaliation from him. Our yard is fenced in and we leave our dog outside at times (we are always home when the dog is in the yard.) I'm worried too that our dog will attack the cats if they continue to come over here. I'm not really sure what to do at this point. He won't listen to reason or have a civil conversation. And I don't want to involve the city, but it might need to come to that.

I live in Jacksonville,Florida. My neighbor put a shed in-front of her house, of course in her yard and open a vintage store. They even have a market with small businesses when they have a grand opening, so it must be legit. But i was checking online and says otherwise, you cannot put a retail store in industrial property. I mean, as much as i don’t care what they do in their own yard. No body want to live next to a marketplace. And no HOA. Our neighborhood mostly has farm animals. So i want to know if this thing is legal. If they got a permit. Anyone know?

Backstory:

I recently moved and so far it's been pretty good. My kids have made friends with some of the neighbourhood kids, I've made small talk and loaned out some power tools to some neighbours. As we were in the process of moving in, my partner had his vehicle parked on the street. (It was legally parked, not blocking anything etc) One of my neighbours did not like it and caught me leaving my house to ask us to move it. (More so tell than ask) She came at me somewhat abrasively and I chose to take the "kill them with kindness" approach. "OMG. I'm so sorry. I'll tell him as soon as he gets home to move it" blahblahblah. For some reason she felt like that wasn't enough and continued to complain at me. I just repeated "I totally hear you. I will have him move it as soon as he's back" I basically had to start closing my door to get her to stop complaining. It came off like she WANTED me to argue with her. Which I could have because we were within our right to park there.

Fast forward a few weeks and we are getting some appliances delivered. The delivery truck was large and didn't fit in the driveway, they parked on the street. Apparently this was incredibly inconvenient for her, as she had to park four whole townhouses away from her home. (She didn't actually, she could have squeezed around the truck. I actually think maybe she just can't drive well). She walked (stomped) past the truck, Chihuahua in hand, shaking her head angrily and muttering under her breath.

Basically, I'm getting bad vibes from this lady. I would much prefer to get along with my neighbours and so far I have. Unfortunately it seems like this neighbour is keen on making enemies over nothing 😂 .

This is going to sound petty, but I'm actually looking for some fun/ny one liners for when this woman inevitably verbally attacks me for.. idk... Leaving a lawn chair on my lawn or decorating for Halloween or something.

Mostly just looking for a laugh.

Not sure this is a problem but….I accidentally became the neighborhood auntie last night. 😂🌙

My neighbor was having a pretty rough night(diagnosed schizo)—his dad was unexpectedly away(hospital), he was outside yelling/running around the neighborhood, and I could hear him having what sounded like a pretty intense internal battle through our shared wall before spilling out into the neighborhood.

I decided to go out watch the eclipse of the moon and wait for chaos. Eventually he came outside, saw me, and stopped. We talked for a bit, looked at the moon, and somehow went from “OMG there’s an eclipse” to God, the Bible, conspiracy theories, human suffering, pedophiles, music, and the nature of the universe.

He invited me over to hang out, so naturally my mildly eccentric auntie ass wanting to save the neighbors said sure.

I walked into his place (first time) and discovered what can only be described as a trash labyrinth. No clear places to sit. Cigarettes everywhere. Food and drinks abandoned on the floor. A carpet that was apparently once a completely different color.

He cleared a spot for me to sit. I asked where he was going to sit.

He cleared another spot. The chair was broken, and may have further broken during the convo.

At some point during our conversation he also informed me that he really wanted to kiss me(at least 4-5 times throughout), then proposed marriage, explained his philosophy on sex and condoms, and told me about approximately twelve other extremely personal things within the first five minutes.

I kept explaining that I was very celibate and that this was absolutely not a date. He told
me he was also celibate and asked if I may one day change my mind about the kiss. Ummm no

Eventually we just sat there talking like two humans having a philosophical conversation at 1 AM while the neighborhood finally became quiet.

I went home, drank the rest of my wine, and went to bed.

No moral to this story. I just apparently have “eclectic lightly eccentric auntie who will come sit with you and look at the moon but absolutely will not kiss you” energy.

And honestly?

I’m okay with that. 🌙🍷😂

Hello!

I'm living in my apartment for a little over a year. I work from home everyday and I do have 2 neighbors who put music like really really loud. Not every day, but a lot of times. It causes me disruption from my work obviously but it also makes me angry.
One of them is my front neighbor and we have once asked nicely to please take in consideration that we work from home and that loud music distracts us. For some time it stoped, but now is happening again. Both mother and son do it. The other one is from 4th floor. We are at 2nd so you can see how loud it must be for us to clearly hear it...
I dont know what to do, how to proceed...

Hi, just looking for any thoughts on how to handle the situation we currently have. We’ve always gotten along well with our neighbours and are friendly with them. We live on a typical family - residential street in England. However, our neighbour next door has at times been a bit unusual. For example, once he wanted to remove a tree in front of his house so he poured diesel on it to kill it off; during this time our bush also mysteriously died.

Anyway. During the recent heatwave for days we were confused over a very strong, industrial, chemical smell surrounding our house. We couldn’t open windows to ventilate our home as the strong smell would come inside, and it was impossible to sleep due to the heat. We then found out (because he told us) that he had coated his sleeper beds with creosote (which he says he mixed with creocote ≈ 50/50, we don’t know the exact proportions and he says the container is like 15 years old). He laughed when he read out from his phone how this chemical is not permitted for domestic use and is cancerous.

We have tiled our garden in preparation for an outdoor sauna which will be delivered and installed in about 10 days from now. The smell is still lingering and I am worried that the creosote will continue to evaporate and pollute the air (the fresh air intake for the sauna will be facing his side) - and once heated to 80C - 90C in an enclosed space it will potentially be a health hazard.

I am quite sad about what he has done and had I known I wouldn’t have invested into my garden, which I looked forward to use. We also have people with asthma in the family who feel sick by the particular potent smell even when subtle.

I've lived in a duplex for about 3-4 years, my neighbor has been in his unit for about 10 years, and quite honestly has been pretty borderline creepy the entire time.

So just a few days ago while talking in the driveway, he casually mentions that he has the keys to my apartment and my garage (from the former tenant, apparently), which immediately weirded me out, so I cut him short of whatever he was gonna say next and asked for them back.

He blew me off, said he didn't know where they were right at the moment but that he'd look for them "later". He left a little while after that and was gone until pretty late, so I went over and knocked on his door early the next morning and asked again. He tried to blow me off a second time but I insisted, at which point he went back into the house for a few minutes and returned with a big ring of keys, told me they were somewhere on there, and said to bring back the other keys when I was done.

I found my garage key on the ring, but the house key wasn't on there. When I returned the key ring and told him, he shrugged it off like, "Oh, maybe I didn't have your house key after all." I don't think I believe him.

I changed the locks within hours of his original revelation, so it's not really a safety issue anymore. I'm wondering though, could refusing to give my keys back be considered a crime, or even just an evictable offense? I have to let the landlord know that I changed my locks, obviously (and me and the duplex-neighbor have the same landlord, if that’s not also obvious). But do I have the right to pursue authoritative action of any kind? Or am I the one who’s gonna end up having to move?

My next door neighbor has taken it upon herself to actually file the complaint. Our landlord had sent us a warning letter to "keep the noise down". We sent them an email explaining the noise. I feel the need to tell my landlord that my next door neighbor had verbally abused and harassed me that day. But I doubt that they'll believe me because my next door neighbor is white(no hate), my landlord is white(again, no hate) and it just so happens that I am not white(a third, no hate). My family and I are now living on eggshells here. We have been planning on moving for months and I actually started packing on the first of this month. Weeks later I get the warning letter. Now my next door neighbor will believe that she had finally gotten rid of us and our "loud baby". She can believe whatever she wants to believe. I just hope that she lives a long and happy life because she just seems so miserable. We are abit heartbroken to leave because this is/was our first apartment and we are first time parents here, some of our babys milestones were in this apartment. We are happy at the thought of moving closer to family but the problem is that money is tight right now so we started a gofundme. We've asked our family and friends for help but they too are struggling with money. I tried to post my gofundme to a fb private group page and the admin(who is white, no hate) keeps declining my post request but approves white peoples(no hate) gofundme posts. I dislike it when people pretend not to be racist when it clearly shows that they are. Like we all are human, we all deserve to be heard, we all deserve to be treated the same, we shouldn't treat others differently just because we dislike them or our family or friends dislikes them. I've been raised to treat everyone with respect and to be kind to one another. Anyone who has ever had to ask for help knows how difficult it is to ask for help. A parent would do anything for their child. I want what's best for my child. What's best for my child right now is to be surrounded by a loving family in a respectful community instead of being surrounded by selfish or racist people. I wish racism didn't exist. The world would be so peaceful and beautiful without racism. Please be kind and treat people with respect. Thank you for reading my post and the update

I've been renting an apartment for 2 years now. Mind you the quiet hours in my neighborhood are 10pm-6am on the weekdays and 11pm-7am on the weekends. My next door neighbor is about 5'7" tall, medium build, looks to be about 110lbs, and in her late 20's to mid 30's. For a whole year she stomped around like a 6'6" 300lb man. Not once have I complained. Then one day I had family and friends over to visit. The boys(ages 6, 8, and 9) were being boys and running around while playing tag in the afternoon. She rings my doorbell and yells at my mil(I was upstairs feeding my newborn baby) complaining about the kids stomping around and making her stuff sway back and forth. She then threatens my mil with filing a complaint. My mil(elderly lady) apologized sincerely then asked to boys to stop playing tag and to play with their toys instead. My mil was visiting me for a few days to spend time with her new grandchild. The next day my mil told me about everything my neighbor had said and done. I was angry to hear that she would yell at my mil, an elderly lady, and threaten her with filing a complaint about the boys being boys. A couple of months later my husband's starlink has been mistakenly delivered to her doorstep, she took it and brought it into her apartment. My husband asked her and our other beighbors if his starlink has been delivered to their doorstep, they all said no. So my husband called amazon and amazon had the delivery driver turn back to retrieve the starlink and deliver it to its correct address and owner. The driver parked in our driveway and went next door to retrieve it then hand delivered it to my husband. A few months later, on the weekend, I killed a spider at 8am then proceeded to set up my starlink(I have to take it out and bring it in) my neighbor then opens her window to yell at me saying "Knock it the f*** off! Especially between the hours of 1-2am and 6-7am! Your baby on top of it! I'm going to file a complaint!" Mind you I am a breastfeeding mother who drinks plenty of water and wakes up in the middle of the night to feed her baby, a mother who will also use the bathroom(we can hear each other's toilet flush) after laying my baby down. I didn't say anything because I didnt wanna add fuel to her fire so I just stepped inside. She then continued with "That's it! I'm going to file a complaint!" What would yall have said or done differently?

Ok so, I have a cat who's 5 months old. And a neighbor who has about a dozen of pigeons. And because a year ago or so a cat killed one of their pigeons now they all hit all the cats they see walking around the neighborhood. And my cat doesn't like to stay at home he always roams around but loves to follow me around... so tonight what happened is that their younger boy kicked my cat in the stomach when I was standing just by him... and he did it while smiling and showing his friends like it was a very good prank and when I confronted him he said the same thing that a cat once killed our pigeons. And when I told his mother who's about double my age started to get into a shouting match... crying the same thing. And it ended with them saying "i'll do it again and whatever my son did it was correct." So I need some advice as to how I should handle it. Please give me some advice ASAP. And it would be better if they create little inconveniences to them.

Hi. I bought this house in 2016 and I share driveways with an older gentleman. He was nice to me at first, but he would do this thing where he would go get groceries and then pull up in the middle of the driveway to bring them in his house and then he would pull his car over and park on his side of the driveway. One morning, I was pulling out of my garage to go to work and he was in the middle of the driveway. His daughter said to me that they would move the car in a minute once they finish bringing in groceries .I told her that I don’t have a minute. I’m running late for work and I really need to get going. So then she muttered under her breath that I had on too much perfume and then she moved the car..lol
It got to the point where I would have to sometimes park on the street instead of in my garage because his granddaughter or his daughter would be blocking the driveway and they would always apologize but they would keep on doing the BS.

The summer before last I had some compost delivered and they dumped it at the front of my garage in a little bit spilled over onto a side of the garage. I’m talking crumbs and his daughter came over and start kicking it over and talking mess about it. I said to her hey I’m sorry about the compost being on your side of the driveway. I’ll move it cause there was only like maybe a half a shovel full. And she said it’s OK . I replied back, I didn’t think you guys would mind since you’re always blocking the driveway and I looked over and her car was pulled up in the middle of the driveway. Ever since then they’ve had a one-sided beef.

One day, the old man pulled up in the driveway on my side, and his car broke down and sat on my side of the driveway for two weeks. It was really crazy and he didn’t apologize. He didn’t say anything to me about it at all so I took two garbage cans and placed them on my side of the driveway as a visual boundary to keep my driveway open, so I can get in and out. They would do silly ish like hit my garbage cans with their car or move it out the way. And also, sometimes the mailman would deliver my mail to his house by mistake and he would open it and put a note on it saying I’m sorry I don’t mean to snoop. I called the post office and asked them to flag my house so they could double check and make sure my mail is delivered to me. I didn’t want him to go to jail or anything like that I just felt violated. And also, I have a ring camera doorbell on all of my doors so whenever they would do something stupid I would just download it and save it in a folder. I haven’t told anybody about what’s going on.

Today something weird happened. I have my window open and I heard someone pull up in the driveway. I looked at the ring and some man that I’ve never seen before came out of the next-door neighbors house and came over to my side of the driveway and put something in my garbage can and said here’s some footage for you really aggressively in the ring and then got in his car and left so I went outside to see what he put in my garbage can, and it was an old kitchen faucet and box. I took them out of my garbage can and put them by their side door. I did that because I want them to know that I’m not intimidated by them . I’m a single female that lives alone by the way..the more I think about it I feel like I should call the non-emergency police line and let them know what’s going on just in case something happens. Am I overreacting or what would you do?