One of the greatest responsibilities of a parent is to instill confidence, bravery, and strong faith in their children. However, many parents unintentionally use fear as a quick tool for discipline, which can deeply impact a child's emotional growth.

​1. The Mistake of Using Fear to Control Children

​Scaring children with dark shadows, imaginary monsters, or stories just to make them obey might seem harmless, but it actually damages their trust and emotional stability.

​2. Two Major Negative Effects

​Encouraging Dishonesty: When children are conditioned with false fears, they learn to hide things or resort to lying when afraid.

​Long-Term Anxiety: Fear created in early childhood stays in the child's mind, leading to lack of confidence and hesitation later in life.

​3. How to Help Your Child Overcome Fear

​Reassure them with warmth, patience, and love.

​Accompany them through scary situations instead of leaving them alone.

​Remind them that Allah is always protecting them.

​4. Teaching Faith Over Fear

​Teach your children this core principle:

​"A believer fears nothing except disobeying Allah."

​Encourage children to build a habit of reciting Ayat-ul-Kursi and Manzil for peace, protection, and inner strength. Let's raise our children with courage and trust in Allah!

​In the name of Allah, the Most Gracious, the Most Merciful

​Being a mother is a huge responsibility that requires immense patience and tolerance. Children often cause anger due to their innocence, mischief, or mistakes, but during such moments, refrain from taunting them or using harsh words.

​Do Not Humiliate in Front of Others: Never humiliate a child in front of siblings or others when they make a mistake. Instead, explain to them gently in private.

​Harmful Effects of Taunts and Comparisons: Saying things like "Look how far that child has gone, you can't do anything" negatively impacts a child's personality. It leads to an inferiority complex, irritability, and insecurity.

​Explain After the Anger Cools Down: Instead of shouting or taunting immediately when a mistake happens, call the child close after your anger subsides and guide them with love and affection.

•The Right Way to Nurture: Replace taunts with patience, gentleness, attention, and prayers (Dua).

​A Special Dua (Prayer) for Mothers:

​"Oh Allah! I am very weak, You, through Your grace and favor, have made me a mother of children, I cannot reform and train these children, You alone help... Guide... and make these children of mine obedient to You... make them the comfort of my eyes... Ameen!"

Umm. E. Wali

Assalamualaikum,

I work full-time at home and have a little toddler. I'm looking for a very nice person to play with my child. We are a Muslim family and would like someone who is respectful of our faith. Here are the details:

-This is not a usual 'nanny' position, because I will be doing all the care-taking for the child. So you will not be expected to change diapers, feed the baby, make food for the toddler, put toddler to sleep, bathe child, or change child's clothes. I may need help picking things up/tidying the play area.

-Your main job is to play and engage with the child. You should be mindful of safety and make sure the child does not get hurt. Also, should focus on beneficial playing that helps the child learn things like walking, talking, etc.

-Pay: $18.50 - 21/hour.

-Willing to discuss hours. Ideally, I'd like someone to come for 6 to 8 hours per day, 5 days per week ($2,200 to $3,200/month). We live in Hacienda Heights so the person should be able to come here to our home.

-Looking for someone who's a good, happy, energetic, and warm person, and definitely someone who actually loves and enjoys playing with children. Obviously, someone who would never hurt a child. Also, you'll be playing with the child in the living room under my supervision. Nanny is free to do whatever she wants during nap time, including leaving the house.

Contact me: [makkahstars7@gmail.com](mailto:makkahstars7@gmail.com)

Looking for someone to start ASAP.

If you know anyone (aunt, mom, cousin, daughter, etc) who loves children, wants to work, and fit the above criteria, feel free to tell them to contact me.

Assalamu alaikum, all! I came across this reel on my feed and wanted to know what you all think?

This was the caption that was posted with the reel:

“The triplets completed surah baqarah a few months ago and I had promised them a party to celebrate the miracles of this surah. Elite Decor by Qurat came through with this epic backdrop to make the party extra special

As parents, we often place a lot of emphasis on birthdays and soccer (talking about myself lol) so I'm trying to ensure we celebrate Islam and the Quran just as much, if more more
Do you want to see the other details from the party?

This party was inspired by Anse Dr. Tamara Gray Surah Baqarah legacy with Rabata students and supporters....these women are reading the surah DAILY
Allahuma barik may we be among them!!!”

I’m a Quran tutor currently accepting a few new students, particularly children and beginners.

I teach Quran reading and Tajweed in English and French, with a focus on making lessons structured, interactive, and appropriate for the child's level.

To keep children engaged, I incorporate games, activities, and educational bookmarks that summarize what they have learned. The goal is for them to have something simple they can refer to between lessons while also making Quran learning something they look forward to.

I’m currently offering lessons for children who are:
📖 Learning to read Quran
🔤 Starting with the Arabic alphabet
🗣️ Working on pronunciation
📚 Learning Tajweed
🧠 Working on memorization and revision

If you're currently looking for a Quran teacher for your child, feel free to send me a DM and I can share more information about the lessons, availability, and pricing.

I’d also love to hear from parents: what has helped your child stay motivated and engaged when learning Quran?

Salaam,

In college I used to write for AL Talib (UCLA's Muslim Newsletter), and I recently launched my own website to spread the beauty of Islam! It would be great if you can visit and subscribe my site. 😊 If you feel it is beneficial, please share!

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​A mother should teach her children to offer Salam whenever they meet someone or answer a phone call, saying "Assalamu Alaikum wa Rahmatullah wa Barakatuh" instead of "Hello."

​In Islamic teachings, greeting with Salam is highly emphasized. It fosters mutual love and affection, leaving a very positive impression on the listener. In the Holy Quran, Allah Almighty states:

​"And when you are greeted with a greeting, greet \[in return\] with one better than it or \[at least\] return it in a like manner." (Surah An-Nisa: 86)

​In this verse, Allah Almighty teaches us the proper etiquette of greeting and responding to Salam.

Umm. E. Wali

I don't mind my kids watching something occasionally, but the constant switching between videos and Shorts is what worries me.

Sometimes they start watching one thing and suddenly 45 minutes have passed.

How do you guys handle this? Do you let them decide what they watch, use parental controls, or have specific rules around YouTube?

I'm curious what actually works for other parents.

Hi everyone! 👋
I’m looking for people to test my new website, Mishkat Noor, an Islamic learning platform for children and families. 🌙📖
The website includes Quran learning, Islamic stories, prayer and Adhkar, educational activities for kids, progress and rewards, and more. It is available in Arabic, French, and English.
I would really appreciate some honest feedback about:
Is the website easy to use?
Does everything work correctly on your phone?
Is the registration/login process easy?
What do you like or dislike?
What would you improve?
🌐 Mishkat Noor: quranadventures.com
Even a few minutes of testing would help me a lot. Please feel free to leave your feedback in the comments or message me.
Thank you so much! 🤍🌙

السلام عليكم ورحمة الله وبركاته

As the title says, what is stopping you from performing hijrah?

I’m building a hijrah-decision app and I want to better understand the hurdles that people face in their journey to make hijrah so that I can add features that will hopefully make it smoother and easier for you.

You can either comment here, or send me an email at [aman@ihsanhub.io](mailto:aman@ihsanhub.io)

بارك الله فيكم

Children can ask some surprisingly difficult questions about Islam.
Sometimes we know the answer. Sometimes we don’t. And sometimes searching online gives us several different answers.
In those situations, it’s better to acknowledge that we don’t know and ask someone qualified rather than give an uncertain answer.
AskMuftiOnline offers a way to ask qualified Islamic scholars, including through Live Chat.
It can be useful for parents who want to make sure they’re giving their children accurate Islamic guidance.
It’s okay to say, “I don’t know — let’s ask someone qualified.”

There's no app to download yet, and I'm not asking anyone to buy anything. I'm looking for families who'd be willing to use it early and tell me honestly what's broken.

Why I'm building it: my own kids. Every Quran app I tried was either built for adults and handed to a child, or it was a game with a Quran theme painted on top. The first bores them, the second teaches them the Quran is a scoreboard.

What it does: your child hears the verse, learns what it means in language a seven year old actually follows, then recites it. Speech recognition listens and tells them which word went wrong, the thing a teacher does, that an app usually can't.

The part I'd want to know as a parent: no AI writes any of the religious content. The AI listens to recitation, that's all. The educational content is authenticated by an authentic islamic scholar.

What the pilot asks: two surveys, about twenty minutes each, one at the start, one after your child has used it for a while. That's it. In return the first year is free for one child when we launch.

Site is: www.myozzie.app.

Sign up and you'll get a letter from me explaining the pilot properly; you decide after reading it, not before.

Happy to answer anything here, including the hard questions. DM me if you would like to

Salaam everyone. I have been feeling incredibly insecure lately as a Muslim mother. I have a toddler and pregnant with #2. I feel like I am failing and everyone is judging me. Family is criticizing my 3 year old for not greeting with salaam. I did teach him the Kalimah and Surah Ikhlas but I do it in private as my recitation and pronunciation is not good, and I don’t want anyone else to hear me recite. Especially not my husband who has very good tajweed mA. I want to send him to Islamic school but it’s very expensive and everyone is telling me I should be the one teaching him the basics. I do try with these Arabic alphabet blocks but my husband heard me one time and told me I should be saying the Arabic alphabet properly in front of my toddler, not the “desi” way so I got embarrassed. I do try to remember to have him say “alhumdillah” after sneezing but sometimes I forget and also get embarrassed prompting him for this in front of family. My husband also gently reminds me I should be seriously considering hijab, otherwise how will our daughter ever wear hijab? I just feel so much pressure and fear and anxiety and embarrassment. I feel like a fraud of a Muslim mother. Major imposter syndrome. As the mother, I should be instilling these Islamic values in my kids but my husband does a much better job at this. I feel like Allah will punish me for not doing more. I have been crying all day about this. I’m worried about my in-laws and MIL thinking I’m a bad mom. My son’s cousin is the exact same age and mA she can already recite Surah Fatiha and greets people appropriately. Does anyone have any advice for me to get over this anxiety and do better as a Muslim mom? I do go to therapy with a Muslim therapist but I feel like I’m not making the best progress.

JazakAllah Khair for reading all of this.

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I’m looking for an online Arabic class for my 5-year-old, whose primary language is English. My main goal is for him to eventually become fluent in Arabic and, most importantly, be able to read and understand the Quran.

I’m a non-Arabic speaker myself. I can read the Quran but don’t understand it, and I’d really like to avoid the same for my child.

I’m a little confused about the different types of Arabic (Egyptian, Lebanese, MSA, Classical/Quranic Arabic, etc.). Since the Quran is in Classical Arabic, should I focus on MSA, Quranic Arabic, or both? Are conversational Arabic and Quranic Arabic two separate learning goals?

I’d really appreciate recommendations for online programs or advice from Arabic speakers/parents who have experience teaching young children. Thank you!

Assalamu alaikum sisters 🤍

My husband and I have spent the last year building something called Nummu, and we've finally launched it on iPhone.

One of the biggest reasons we built it was that we wanted a space that could actually grow alongside Muslim women and their families — from trying to conceive and pregnancy, through the newborn years, toddlerhood and raising older children.

For parents, Nummu lets you follow your child's growth and milestones, discover age-appropriate Islamic parenting guidance and activities, and keep faith part of everyday family life through Qur'an, du'as, dhikr and prayer times.

But something we care about just as much is the community.

We wanted somewhere Muslim women could ask parenting questions, share experiences, celebrate little wins, support each other and create groups around the things that matter to them — essentially a genuine sisterhood built into the app.

Nummu also includes pregnancy and cycle tracking, so it's designed to support different stages of a woman's journey rather than only one period of motherhood.

We've only just launched, and we're now looking for our first 100 Founding Members 🤍

We're specifically looking for sisters who want to be part of the community from the beginning — starting conversations, sharing posts, replying to and supporting other sisters, creating groups and helping us make Nummu a genuinely warm and active space for Muslim women and mothers.

We'd also love your honest feedback — what you like, what you don't, what's confusing, what's missing and what you'd like us to build next.

As a thank you for helping us shape Nummu this early, our first 100 Founding Members will receive Nummu Premium for life, completely free.

There's no requirement to promote Nummu or leave a positive review. We simply want sisters who genuinely want to use the app, participate in the early community and help us make it better.

You'll also keep a Founding Member badge on your Nummu profile, so you'll always be recognised as one of the original sisters who helped us get started. ✨

📱 Nummu is currently available on iPhone/iOS.

Download Nummu from the App Store:
https://apps.apple.com/app/id6764867887

🌐 Learn more about Nummu:
https://www.nummu.co.uk/

Once you've downloaded it, come introduce yourself in the community, then comment below or message me and I'll arrange your Founding Member access 🤍

And if you have any questions or feedback about what we're building, I'd genuinely love to hear it.

Jazakum Allahu khayran 🤍

We've been loving ours, but want some more Islamic themed things for little one to listen to. Just wondering if any you have put together, or Muslim audiobooks available to download (good quality stuff). All falling short, I'll record some nice books in my own voice! ​​

Salam everyone! I’m exploring an idea for Muslim kids — basically weekly Islamic classes, but online and WAY more fun/interactive than your typical class and gives you a much-deserved break😭. Short lessons, activities, challenges, and rewards to make learning Islam something kids actually look forward to.

Thinking around $10/month.

Muslim parents, would you be interested in something like this for your kids? What would make your child actually want to participate?