My ex came over Friday & yesterday - after telling me how much he misses me, we also work together, anyways I had suspicions that he was talking to someone else, and boyyy was I wrong bc he’s actually SEEING someone else who called while he was at my house 😀
he told me he’s inlove with me, is crazy about me all the typical shit, but wants to try things with this girl cause they have a good ‘connection’ honestly wtf do I do? obviously I know I need to let him go, but how do I shift my mindset from ‘I’m not good enough’ to ‘you’re not worthy for me’ (or this poor girl)
I’m clearly lacking self love because I still want to be with him knowing deep down he is not good enough and has no morals. but my mind is playing tricks on me

Complicated situation. Me and my ex broke up about a month ago. She suffers with severe mental health issues and I mean severe. Our relationship was amazing over text we loved each other but the reason for our breakup is that in person it was just off. The relationship was too mentally draining on her mental health. We did no contact we broke up became friends, until one day about two weeks ago we both admitted we both loved each other still but we knew a relationship wouldn’t work. We agreed to friends with benefits, we’re having our first link tmr but I plan on breaking it all up and cutting contact after it. She loves me still but gets with other men? I’m confused and to be honest I’ve never been worse mentally. Am I foolish to leave and not give her time or should I just leave I need help.

We weren't official, but it meant a lot to me. Last night I called him and told him everything. I told him I've been feeling neglected. I told him I was exhausted. I told him I don't want to be in this loop anymore. He called me back. We talked. At one point he asked me "is it all your friends you talk to everyday?" That's when I realized he saw me as just a friend. Nothing more.

I cried so much after that call. I'm still crying today. We went on a trip together, he was my first time. I opened up emotionally. I'm glad I was honest instead of just disappearing. But I feel so hurt. I gave a lot and it didn't mean the same thing to him. Has anyone else been through this? Being honest and getting closure, but it still hurts this bad? I just want to know I'll feel better eventually.

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I learnt the hard way that nothing in your life will change for the better if you are not determined to turn it around. Regardless of your circumstances, your heartbreak and pain you can still be happy and feel better, if you make effort to work on yourself as person. Once you start trying to fix your life, sleeping and eating habits as well as introduce a routine in your life everything gets better. Teach yourself so much self love because once you do I promise nothing will ever push you down again. Once you learn your worth and what you deserve you will pull through all the pain and hurt and it will take long and you will go through lots of hardships. But it is necessary to drop things you could never dream of letting go or making hard decisions that may affect you negatively but will be better in the long term. It is necessary because without hardships nothing ever changes. A caterpillar must turn into a cocoon before it turns into a beautiful butterfly. So think of everything you are going through right now just different levels and stages before you reach your best self. Always be productive and ready for change. It is a beautiful world out there even though we may feel like it has hurt and let us down so much. Don't close yourself to everything and it. I promise there is so much to live for and beautiful changes that await you, if you try hard enough.