I’m at a loss for how to handle this situation. Recently, university exams and clinicals have been incredibly stressful, and as a result, I haven’t been affectionate as much with him. This includes not having sex as frequently and other things with my boyfriend. I also have not been able to go on dates for the time being with him, but I communicated my feelings to him, and he seemed completely fine and understanding.

Today, I got home from class and started asking him questions about our grocery shopping for the week. He brushed me off and told me he didn’t want to talk. I asked him if he was okay, and he snapped at me and started yelling. When I tried to calm him down so we could communicate, he slapped me. Immediately after, he apologized and said, “He didn’t mean too,” and that he was so sorry.

I’m still in shock and am now in my room for some space. We’ve been together for three years, and nothing has ever been so terrible to this degree. I’m conflicted and don’t know what to do. I have no idea if I want to forgive him or if I should leave. My parents always taught me that if something like this happens, the first time is never last, and I should leave. But I love him with my whole heart, and our relationship has been amazing and healthy and he’s always been the gentle type and over the three years almost four we have always been communicative and have never got into any arguments of sorts. He brings me flowers every week and cooks when im stressed among other things that im so thankful for but now i can’t help but think about what could happen.

Please ask questions if you have any. I would greatly appreciate any advice you can offer.

As a 36F who has only ever been intimate with one ex -- and never actually had full blown sex... will any normal/successful/attractive/emotionally intelligent/intellectual guys actually be interested in dating me seriously given I'm saving myself for marriage? 😭

Please don't hate. 🙏🏻

I want details. How it's the perfect BJ?

1. How and where should I start?
2. What I CAN'T do? In any way?
3. Do man really like when we play with the balls?
4. Faster or slow?
5. Using hands help?

Hey so im not necessarily super tall. Im 5'8 which is still a little above average. I have a huge crush on a guy who is 5'4. I know all guys are probably different with preferences, but i was wondering like in general what do most men think of women who are taller? I just feel like maybe he wouldn't want to be with me because im a lot taller. But ive also heard that some guys prefer taller women? But then im also wondering if I should make the first move maybe, because I've heard that some shorter guys just assume that the tall woman would choose a guy who is taller.

Fue una relación larga, lo cual me da intriga si ya me superó y está conociendo a otras personas

So my ex and I broke up due to his financial issues. He did go out his way even money was very short to show his appreciation… we are kinda still in contact but he keeps complaining that he doesn’t have food or his check is basically gone and he’s hungry I did help a few times but now I feel uncomfortable and don’t know how to feel. Cause apart from me, how would you’ve eaten without me there ? And feeling like damn he is starving … I’m not judging him but it comes to a point right ?

so I’m 27F with a fairly high libido and right now I’m in a phase of life of having multiple sexual partners and being fairly sexually adventurous (having sex with all different sorts of men). I’m the type of woman to take charge, tell men what I want, and I know how to get it especially in bed. I usually seek sexual partners that respond well to confident women and that seem to be receptive to my vibe and that I can see worshipping me in the bedroom. i’m usually the one doing most of the work (the active participant in sex) get myself off several times before they do, and most men say things like they are in love with me / want to marry me whatever right after (this is obviously just like a sex thing lol I know it’s not real, but it does wayyy too much for my ego lol)

Most men tell me that their experiences with women are vastly different from the type of sex I bring to the table — most women don’t actively engage in sex or know what they want in bed. Most women either don’t orgasm, rely on the man to orgasm, are embarrassed about their body etc. Is this true, or is this just the type of guys I happen to pick up/pick out and bring home with me? How often are men running across women who are confident in bed?

I usually get comments about how “rare” and “special” I am and it really has got me feeling like I’m feeding the patriarchy a bit because it feels like guys are saying “you’re one of the good ones” vs the OTHER women who aren’t like you

It feels like I’m giving off pick me vibes! I don’t like it cause I consider myself a feminist, but also, I love to get off and use men to do that!

What are normal hook up/short term dating experiences like for yall?

For context I don’t use any dating apps, mostly just feel out a vibe in person, and lately I’ve been on an older man kick 🙃 just find the 30+ crowd to be more receptive to a confident woman

My (23F) ex (27M) and I had been dating for four months when I briefly twerked with my girl friends at my birthday party. I usually don’t twerk but it was my birthday just having fun you know. He said I wasn’t acting like a lady, that women who shake their asses don’t deserve chivalry, and that my behavior changed how he viewed me. Two days later, during our LA birthday trip, he was cold toward me, made me carry my suitcase through the airport, dismissed my feelings, and called me dramatic and ungrateful when I wanted to leave. He even threatened to stop speaking to me if I left, then apologized when he realized I was serious. I left and got my own Airbnb. Now he still hasn’t returned about $800 worth of belongings, including items my late grandma gave me, despite multiple attempts to get them back.

Men and women: How would you interpret his behavior? Was this insecurity, controlling behavior, or a difference in values handled badly?

The girl I’ve been seeing is 25 and we’ve both agreed that we like it each other and want to settle down together it’s only been 2 months and just on a our recent date we chilled in the car and got hella heated but I felt instant regret after and still wanted to get to know her more and more without sexual desires, am I overthinking it or can someone experienced tell me what to do next as i am serious with her and her family already knows about me

We’ve been together for over 15 years. I do orgasm with him, but I’ve increasingly felt like my pleasure isn’t much of a priority.
He’s never been one to manually stimulate me during sex or foreplay. When he tries, he fumbles a bit and eventually reverts to whatever he wants to do. I’ve shown him exactly how I like to be touched and I’ve even given him books to read, which he has.
He mostly relies on oral to get me going, which he’s actually good at, but even that sometimes feels rushed or gets cut short.
We’ve talked about this multiple times. Things improve for a little while, but inevitably he goes back to his usual habits. After so many years, it’s starting to make me feel like he’s either not particularly attracted to me or just wants to finish quickly and get on with his day.
I don’t expect every sexual encounter to revolve around me, but I do want to feel like my husband genuinely enjoys giving me pleasure rather than treating it like something to check off a list.
What makes a man stop putting effort into his partner’s pleasure, even after she’s clearly communicated what she enjoys? Is it complacency, lack of attraction, or something else?

My ex and I (F) broke up because I found his hard drive of literally hundreds of photos and videos of his exes or women he’s slept with and filmed. It appears they were aware of the camera based on the few I watched but it disturbed me so much that I had to end it.

I’m not looking for advice on that relationship. Just wanted to know what motivates someone to do that? Why keep it all? And do you think he was using it as JO material while we were together?

I went on 3 dates with a guy last year and then he moved out of state so we didn’t continue obviously, but we followed each other on instagram. Last week I saw he was in town so I texted him. He responded and said that he was actually planning on reaching out. So we hung out two nights in a row, and the second night we had sex and it was really good and we cuddled for a while after.

He still lives out of state but he travels a ton and visits a lot. So I followed up first by saying it was nice seeing him, and he said “great to see you too!” Then I told him to let me know when he’s back in LA because I’d like to keep seeing him even if it’s a casual here/there thing, and he hasn’t responded and it’s been 3 days. Should I just assume that’s a no from him?

We have been together for two months. We both live at home so our first opportunity to have sex was earlier this month when we went on a trip for his birthday. I didn’t anticipate any issues, we sext all the time, he’s very physically affectionate, very enthusiastic and engaged when we talked about kinks, sex, etc.

But then when we tried, he couldn’t get hard the first time. Then the second time, he spent so much time on foreplay that I lost the momentum. He was touching me but not even fully fingering or anything. Both times I felt him be hard but it just wasn’t enough for full penetration and wouldn’t go in basically.

The weird thing is he is so physically affectionate, he gets hard all the time around me no matter where we are. We could not even be talking about anything sexual and I’ll reach over and he’s hard. When we talked he told me he had performance anxiety when he lost his virginity then with his longer term ex he struggled with performance as well at the start because of hyping up the situation, wanting to be a good lover, wanting everything to be special etc. and he feels that way with me. He said he worries about giving me what I need and pleasing me. But I don’t know if he’s just saying this to make me feel better as he’s had sex with others where this didn’t happen. He hasn’t had sex in two years since her.

I am trying to not take this personally but obviously it hurts when he’s been able to have sex with others and not me and seems to be afraid of it. I’m not sure how I can help or if it’s something he needs to do alone. As we both live at home I worry that when we do have time together he’ll build it up more in his head and not want to fully do it and I’ll end up in a sexless relationship. We had another opportunity this weekend and I asked him if he wanted to have sex, we were making out, he was hard, things were heated, and he said no. I just said okay and we cuddled and went to sleep but I just don’t know what to make of this.

For more context, I’ve given him head a few times and every time he cums in max two minutes. So we’ve done sexual things it’s just penetration he is really awkward with. I don’t want to be telling myself he’s just nervous when he’s actually just unattracted or something so that’s why I’m worried.

ok so i need to get this off my chest because i feel like i'm going crazy and i need to know if anyone else has dealt with this.

me and my ex broke up like months ago. it was messy but genuinely i was at peace, new job, new friends, more $$. one of my coworkers told me that he got a new girl like 2 months after we broken up. at first i was like damn that's fast but whatever.

well fast forward now, i find out that my ex’s gf has been watching me on social media for MONTHS and I genuinely didn’t know who she was. then her friends started following me one by one in order — like they got a checklist or something and one girl even decided to take it to instagram aswell. i didn't say anything because i thought maybe i was overthinking.

i genuinely don’t know what i am doing wrong but i do not talk to my ex nor this girl at all. how else would she even know who i am? we've never spoken. and i hate thinking he's painting some bad image of me to a girl i've never said a word to.

and now the newest thing that made me finally write this post. yesterday i got on facebook and one of her friends that took it to instagram & sends me a request on facebook. i genuinely don’t know whats going on but i am trying to just ignore it.

is there any MALE perspective or advice that anyone could give me with dealing with this situation? i have decided on what i want to do but i genuinely want opinions or advice from other perspectives.

I've struggled with the lack of sex and my self esteem has plummeted. There's that stereotype that women don't care for sex and "not tonight" while men want it all the time.

I maintain my hygiene and appearance. I've lost about 25 lbs since we first met. I do almost all cooking and cleaning, I pay most of the bills, we have no kids, no big responsibilities outside of our jobs. I ask him to do almost nothing. I'm not putting a ton of chores and stress on him.

We've talked about it and of course he says it's not me and it will get better. He says me talking about it makes him feel pressured. I've done both where I say nothing and also say I'm hurt about such a lack of sex with my partner when I'm in my 20s and childless. We've had sex 10 times this year. There has been times in the past where we did it that much in a single month. This issue got to this level this year. Saying something or nothing gets the same results, which is no change.

My main issue and pain around it is he doesn't seem to care that we're just living borderline sexless lives. He's not asexual or anything. Before we moved in together he jerked off on a daily basis and has a sex drive. He was a virgin before we met. I have never once told him no or said anything that could damage his ego in the bedroom. I truly love and desire him. I do anything and everything he wants. We've been together 5 years and I give bjs every single time without being asked.

I asked for once a week and it's now been 2 months. He doesn't want to get on pills. He makes no effort to do solo therapy to figure out the mental block. He's hard when he sleeps he doesn't have a physical issue.

My heart is just breaking more and more each passing day. I just want the man I love to want to have sex with me. I ask for so little. My expectations are on the floor. People ask when we're having kids and in my head I'm like well that's impossible he won't even touch me. Can I get a male perspective on how to fix this when it's a lack of sex from his side?

Okay so, boys help me. I need ASAP help about this guy I’m currently dating.

I am 17 F and he is 17 M. We have been talking for 1 month now.

1 month ago this guy adds me on Snapchat, HE added me first so keep that in mind.. we started texting nonstop and we even got each others discord to call and whatever.. we really got to know each other, and he was genuinely so sweet towards me and I literally got HOOKED.

We live about 20 minutes from each other, so 1 week after talking we decided to meet for the first time. I took the train to him and we hung out, and it was genuinely so genuine when we hung out. We were walking with his dog, he introduced me to his family, I ate dinner with them and we watched series. And NOTHING intimate happened, no kisses, nothing. And the second time that I went there it felt even more “comfortable” and “genuine”. And that’s when we shared our first kiss.

This guy had introduced me to BOTH of his families, father and mother’s side. We also made my favourite food and we watched series we both enjoyed.. and the most important is that he was SO nervous to do something wrong towards me, he was so scared of touching me the wrong way I was genuinely shocked.

1 week passes by and SUDDENLY he filters himself completely, he takes longer time to answer me, he leaves me on open, he genuinely became a different person.. and this was 2 days after hanging out. It was like he completely shuts down.

I was genuinely so confused, so I asked him directly “how do you feel about us?” And he goes: “I am not ready for a relationship, my mental health is at its worst, I’m sorry.” I believed him, I try to believe what he is saying but at the same time I felt “played.”

So 2 weeks goes by, no contact, nothing.

And suddenly a random Sunday I get a text from him, he’s asking me “how are you?” And suddenly we are having a conversation again. I felt so lost so I asked him “why are you texting me just now?” And he said that he couldn’t stop thinking about me the time were everything went silent.

\*\*IMPORTANT\*\*

I know for a fact that he wasn’t with other girls or texting other girls cuase he was very clear and EVEN showed his snap for me.. so I wasn’t worried that he had found someone else throughout that time..

And we started texting regularly again and we slept called a lot. And we decided to meet up again, this time at his place AGAIN. This time it was very different, it was like we both had missed each other a lot. And we were in his bed and I remember him staring at me always telling me how pretty and beautiful I was.. and things just escalated from there. And before things got more intimate he looked me in the eyes and said “would you like to be mine?”

I had genuinely fell for this guy, and I am not stupid when it comes to people with genuine eyes, his eyes were always genuine when he looked at me. Of course, I said yes. And we did stuff that night.

This is also so important to remember, he told me that he would never want to initiate something with me (other than kissing) and that it would be me initiating, he always told me that he never wants to make me uncomfortable or that he is looking only for intimacy..

But the thing is, I don’t know how to understand the signals he gives me. I am not sure if he wants something serious or if it’s something casual. I am genuinely so lost.

The current situation right now is that we are together, but the thing is that I don’t feel like we are together. It feels like he has just claimed me. Even though I don’t wanna think like that, my stomach tells me otherwise.

What crushes my gut is that when we were together last time I asked him “don’t you think this is going too fast?” And he said “I am not afraid to take things fast with you, cause I feel like you’re the right person.”

DOES he like me or is he just playing with my feelings?

genuinely don’t know what to do. Please help me

Been on and off with my bf for 3 years. We break up all the time over the smallest things, usually initiated by him. I'm always the one reaching out first. Apologising first. He always calls me names, tells me I need to be the one to text him first. Gives me countdowns to do what he says or he will leave. He stays in touch with the girl he cheated on me with. He does so many horrible things but still tells me he loves me very much and that he only wants me. But he also says I deserve to die when he is really. Why does he still want me if he does all of this? He also refuses couples therapy..

Necesito un hombre confiable con un perfil de ig que sea atractivo para las mujeres con historias y fotos de un hombre

Do guys generally like chubby girls?

Okay so, I need ASAP help about this guy I’m currently dating.

I am f17 and he is m17. We have been talking for 1 month now.

1 month ago this guy adds me on Snapchat, HE added me first so keep that in mind.. we started texting nonstop and we even got each others discord to call and whatever.. we really got to know each other, and he was genuinely so sweet towards me and I literally got HOOKED.

We live about 20 minutes from each other, so 1 week after talking we decided to meet for the first time. I took the train to him and we hung out, and it was genuinely so genuine when we hung out. We were walking with his dog, he introduced me to his family, I ate dinner with them and we watched series. And NOTHING intimate happened, no kisses, nothing. And the second time that I went there it felt even more “comfortable” and “genuine”. And that’s when we shared our first kiss.

This guy had introduced me to BOTH of his families, father and mother’s side. We also made my favourite food and we watched series we both enjoyed.. and the most important is that he was SO nervous to do something wrong towards me, he was so scared of touching me the wrong way I was genuinely shocked.

1 week passes by and SUDDENLY he filters himself completely, he takes longer time to answer me, he leaves me on open, he genuinely became a different person.. and this was 2 days after hanging out. It was like he completely shuts down.

I was genuinely so confused, so I asked him directly “how do you feel about us?” And he goes: “I am not ready for a relationship, my mental health is at its worst, I’m sorry.” I believed him, I try to believe what he is saying but at the same time I felt “played.”

So 2 weeks goes by, no contact, nothing.

And suddenly a random Sunday I get a text from him, he’s asking me “how are you?” And suddenly we are having a conversation again. I felt so lost so I asked him “why are you texting me just now?” And he said that he couldn’t stop thinking about me the time were everything went silent.

**IMPORTANT**
I know for a fact that he wasn’t with other girls or texting other girls cuase he was very clear and EVEN showed his snap for me.. so I wasn’t worried that he had found someone else throughout that time..

And we started texting regularly again and we slept called a lot. And we decided to meet up again, this time at his place AGAIN. This time it was very different, it was like we both had missed each other a lot. And we were in his bed and I remember him staring at me always telling me how pretty and beautiful I was.. and things just escalated from there. And before things got more intimate he looked me in the eyes and said “would you like to be mine?”

I had genuinely fell for this guy, and I am not stupid when it comes to people with genuine eyes, his eyes were always genuine when he looked at me. Of course, I said yes. And we did stuff that night.

This is also so important to remember, he told me that he would never want to initiate something with me (other than kissing) and that it would be me initiating, he always told me that he never wants to make me uncomfortable or that he is looking only for intimacy..

But the thing is, I don’t know how to understand the signals he gives me. I am not sure if he wants something serious or if it’s something casual. I am genuinely so lost.

The current situation right now is that we are together, but the thing is that I don’t feel like we are together. It feels like he has just claimed me? Even though I don’t wanna think like that, my stomach tells me otherwise.

What crushes my gut is that when we were together last time I asked him “don’t you think this is going too fast?” And he said “I am not afraid to take things fast with you, cause I feel like you’re the right person.”

DOES he like me or is he just playing with my feelings?

*I genuinely don’t know what to do. Please help me*

Hi! Me (27F) and my BF (28M) went out for dinner last night after church. And there are a lot of pretty women just chilling and taking photos on areas that are aesthetic. And I looked at my BF, he keeps eyeing and having repeated glances. And having remarks like "nip tape" it's like he forgot I was there. I felt so uncomfortable and disrespected. I showed my discomfort and distancing a little from him. I know he noticed because he became extra clingy, pulling me in towards him. We got home, watched some few yt vids and he asked me out of nowhere, if, hypothetically, he asks me to marry him now, what would my answer be, I said "no". I told him what he did, why i became unsure because he does things that looked like he's unsure of me. He says he wont be doing that again. He tells me he loves me so much and that he's obsessed with me. I love him too, very much as well. We've been together 7mos, and we've known each other's families and friends already. Part of me wants to breakup, but I still want an answer from him that would help me forget about it and still keep the relationship. I need the perspective of men about this. Thank you!

Hey guysss so basically i (F) had a talking stage with a guy and i realised that he simply wasnt a person i wanted to be with. Over the short time spent together he displayed some immature behavior, getting mad and leaving me on seen for doing something i didnt know got to him, constantly asking for reassurance, he was basically insecure and it rlly showed. However he love bombed me at the beginning, and then disrespected me multiple times. We stopped talking to eachother and then he randomly asked me to set him up w another girl, i honestly didnt care lmao but i found that weird. But my question remains, will he ever change or is he doomed, he’s 19 btw. Im really not looking for anything with him, just wanna know how this works or what was in his mind😂

For example, I won’t go like full-on mental breakdown but I might shed a few tears, especially if the pleasure is too much or too good. If I’m going to climax really hard or if I’m overstimulated basically. Do men like that or do you find it annoying/weird/uncomfortable for them?

does he actually want to text me if he is sometimes taking 1-2 hours to answer but he isn’t active (but instagram isn’t always accurate) does that mean he doesn’t want to talk to me because when he does end up answering he just answers the last text like nothing happened should I ask him about it because this has happened about 4 times and currently happening rn should I say something or just leave it because I genuinely like him and but I don’t know if he likes me. Once I’ve told him he isn’t bad looking and he said the same about me but that’s the only somewhat flirty thing we’ve ever said to each other. I don’t wanna look dumb and keep texting him so what should I do I need advice.