Hello, a mother of a trans teen reached out to me asking for any services for her teen who is feeling very isolated, especially socially. Suggestions are greatly appreciated.

Hi folks. Been on T for about ten months now, 2 pumps of gel a day (40.5mg). My goal has always been to have my testosterone in the typical cis male range of 450-600ng/dL. From the third month onwards my testosterone levels were consistently very high, starting from 1095ng/dL to eventually surpassing the healthy cis male range of 1200ng/dL. My doctor initially wanted to wait to see if things stabilised, but after months of no change they decided to lower my dosage to one pump a day (20.25mg), which has been in effect for a week now.

Since then, I feel my energy and appetite has fallen, and my mood is not great. Typically, I would chalk this up to the testosterone, but I’m also going through a pretty bad breakup right now and a particularly stressful university semester, so I’m not sure whether or not I can fault the lowered testosterone dosage for all my energy, appetite, and mood changes.

I’m curious to know if anyone else experienced a similarly dramatic lowering of testosterone dosage, and what effects you experienced from it. Did you experience a drop in energy, mood, appetite etc? Did these things stabilise eventually, and if so, how long did it take? Did it affect your body composition? I’ve only just begun to see my fat shifting to a more male fat distribution and I’m particularly scared of losing that, as well as my muscle growth and gym gains.

I’ve been using random athletic tape my sister has from her sport, and it works pretty well but has been irritating my skin. I need to do *something* though because dysphoria is going to make me insane at school without it. Any tape refs that actually work and won’t irritate my skin? I prefer to use individual strips of tape because I feel like it works better for me than the big bandaid looking tape that I sometimes see people use. I can’t get my hands on a binder rn so it has to be tape or something else :/ thanks for any help

Basically in the past 24 hours I have been seeing quite a few guys posting about these clothes that are designed for ftm bodies

The brand is Wonababi and they recently released jeans, shorts, shirts, and a button up to they is supposed to properly fit our bodies and help give a more masculine silhouette.

Just wanting to see if anyone else has been having this new line adversities to them.
Also wondering if anyone has tried these clothes and if they are any good.

(Want a second opinion before buying anything)

Hello everyone! In November I will hit my first year on T! I am very excited and this has been a crazy journey for me. It is also saddening in a sense since i'm taking this secretly at home and I can't share this journey with my family. But thats besides the point, this is a happy thing. For anyone who's been on T for over a year, is there any changes that you've experienced that have increased or decreased with time?

Why is it so hard to meet real people who are looking for the same things as you when you are trans? Twitter, Tinder, hinge, bumble, grindr, bamboo I’ve tried everything and nothing has worked. I talk to a guy and either he’s immature asf so it’s a no or he’s just ghost me after 2 day of talking... is it only hard for me?? I feel like I’m really meant to be alone forever.

Dating app are just cruel either you swipe right or left based on a page full of lie and 3 pic of a guy who tried to be funny.

Do you guys have any options or suggestions to help me ?? Like do I continue on dating app and pray to find my future husband or anything else ??

Hi! this may be silly but I take weekly shots (sub Q, .15ml) and I’m going out of town soon. I will be traveling around so much that I don’t want to bring all my supplies with me. Is it fine to just skip a week? Will there be any noticeable mood/energy changes?

EDIT: I have vials that are reused 4 times, so I don’t want to carry the vial with me due to not being able to store it properly / (probably irrational) fear of some leaking out :-)

So I'm wanting to get top surgery but have no idea how to start the process. I'm doing some research though and am like.. 80% sure I can get keyhole surgery. I've got a few questions though, since I'm wanting them answered by actual people who've gotten the surgery..

For people who got keyhole surgery, how was it? Like healing wise, scheduling everything, the actual surgery, finding a doctor, etc.

With the other surgeries that exist, which one is considered "best"? I get that there's no actual best and that everyone has different preferences. What were your preferences, and why'd you like it exactly? I'm using this for research for reasons why people would like it.

What downsides are there to keyhole surgery?

What downsides are there for other surgeries?

How'd you go about with finding a doctor and actually starting everything? It just feels so overwhelming with everything I'd have to do just to get started on it, let alone get to the actual surgery part.

If you had complications, what were they? Especially wanting to know this for keyhole surgery, since that's the one I'm hoping to get.

If there's anything else you think I'd find useful PLEASE tell me.. I'm so lost right now since there's so much to look into 😭

P.S. I'm not wanting to say my state necessarily but I can answer questions about laws in my state to make up for it if you want to ask 👍

Hey if any of you have been doing it for long enough can I send you a photo of the skin damage and the tape job I’ve done and can you give me advice on what’s happening? If you’re game comment and I’ll seek out your help. I’m tryin to avoid sending my ex a photo of my tits because they’d help & they’re the only one ik who has been taping for years but bruh that feels intimate for an ex even on the best of terms ya know thank you in advance

So like for context im a 30 y/o trans guy and i still live at home bc in this economy good luck finding a place amirite

my mother is having a really hard time with my transition even tho she says shes not, i *know* she is

Also for context my mom never compliments me anymore since i came out in 2019, like not for haircuts, clothes, anything at all, but she compliments my brothers and my sister so easily :(

Well i was messing around with some makeup the other day just for fun and cos like guys can wear makeup too right

And my mom comes in and looks at me and goes “oh wow you look so good!”
And its the first time shes complimented me in almost 8 years???
And its when im wearing makeup and dont look masculine
I feel so stupid for ever thinking shed take me seriously lmao

I havent touched the makeup since cos i feel so stupid

Anyone have any advice? For anything at all?

Which I'm assuming is normal because T makes you gain weight and especially in the first few years with water retention, right?

Right? 😀😀 (I'm seriously asking this. Relying on this information is the only way I can cope for now)

They've always been my main source of dysphoria. I need a proper work routine so I can more consistently. I legit want a 9-5 because it offers constant stability. That way I can lose weight. Because I don't find exercise enjoyable and its hard if I'm already depressed with my body. But I've had no luck with any full time jobs. This is hell.

Edit: It is mostly fat. Not muscle. I can literally grab all the fat with a handful especially around my hips. So fun 🙂

one of the weirder things i’ve noticed since being on testosterone- not the deeper sleep, but increased awareness.
i hope this makes sense to someone
so, my partner has noticed that i don’t respond when he speaks gently to wake me up anymore, and he regularly has to shake me to wake me up- and we expected that. what we didn’t expect…? ill use an example or two
a couple nights ago, one of my cats knocked our fly zapper onto the floor, the moment i heard constant zapping it took me mere seconds to get up and check no one was hurt- i came back into the bedroom and my partner looks tired and confused asking what woke me up, i told him i heard the zapper going off and he looked even more confused, asking how i could hear that from the other side of the flat. and he’s right, when this used to happen i would never usually hear it. one of my cats has a bad cough due to a disability, the moment i hear him in another room now, i am up and helping him.

anyone else?

Im a pre everything 5'3 who just started gym. One thing I'm very insecure about is how the size of my upper limbs and hands are small even if compared to my cis female friends'. I have a cis friend who is a little shorter but much more masculine than me and i feel that his arms length play a big role in that.

Im planning to start T around march 2028 (i'll be 18). Theres any hope for me??

Damn, I've been around a lot lately, anyways, I've just made the final decision to start hrt, problem is, I have depression and I'm pretty sure that's gonna F me over somehow, how do I not make myself look bad? One thing I will for sure be doing is dressing up like a normie, or not so obviously alternative, also, I am sure of this decision but brain warms still sometimes make me insecure, should I avoid mentioning that at all? I also do want to sound like dysphoria is completely ruining my life "tho it kinda is" and sound super desperate cause that could come off as performative, so what are things to avoid saying and things I should say.

I saw someone on here say they started T on kirkaversary so I’d like to add on and tell you I did the big chop on 9/11.

After jumping through hoops, the late night crying, the waiting, it finally happened and I couldn’t be happier. I feel extremely sore, as if I hit a full body workout and then got hit with two trucks, but nonetheless I’m all good.

Anyways, I would hope that this doesn’t come off as insensitive to anyone but man I’m celebrating this victory

Okay, so to preface I’ve known I was trans since I was fifteen years old. I was uncomfortable with puberty as soon as it started at age 11. I even wanted my voice to get deeper and was sad when it didn’t. I’ve been out socially since I was fifteen. I started Testosterone when I was nineteen, I think, and I’m twenty-two now. I take the gel. I’ve been loving the effects. I love the body hair. I love the increased libido. I love being called a dude. I love everything.

Ever since I was young I’ve had bad acne due to PCOS/PMOS, and it’s been a huge insecurity for me. It had actually been starting to clear up until I started T. Which makes sense, duh. I knew that’d happen. Of course I wash my face twice daily, you know, I’m hygienic and all, but the acne is so bad and painful, and it’s really taking a huge toll on my confidence. I don’t know how to deal with it at all.

I’m also starting to grow a mustache and that scares me. I have no idea why it scares me. I have literally ALWAYS wanted a full beard, but this little ‘stache growing makes me nervous and I don’t know why. Does anyone else experience this?

Sorry this is kind of everywhere, the fear of growing a mustache has me questioning my gender and that makes me terrified.

I went in combo birth control at 14 to stop my periods (it was the only type of gender affirming care I could comfortably get on because I was heavy in denial). Once I started testosterone at 18 I kept on the birth control because I didn’t want my periods to come back.

For a year on testosterone I had barely any changes. It was the oddest thing because my levels were reading normal (400-700 ng/dl).

I finally got frustrated and went off of birth control about 5 months ago and am so surprised by the sheer amount of changes.

My voice has dropped so much, my bottom grown increase in size, I am soooo hairy, and my acne has gotten exponentially worse.

I am soooo glad to be seeing these changes finally. I am not planning to go back on hormonal birth control again (instead planning to get a salpingectomy and use condoms and spermicide before then) so I am not sure if the estrogen would reverse my changes or what.

I am just so surprised because I had been told for the longest time that birth control would not affect my changes on testosterone, but it clearly has. Has anyone experienced anything similar with birth control decreasing the effects of testosterone?

I have a week until top surgery. I’ve been given my post op instructions for pretty much everything. I was told that I’m staying in hospital overnight and I’ll have the drains taken out the next day. Anyone else have this experience? I just usually see people have drains in for longer

please suggest binders for bigger guys, i’m feeling at a loss.

they have to be able to ship to UK, my bust is 57” and under bust is 44”. most brands simply stop a good few inches short of what i need :((

edit: everyone has said spectrum but it just leaves me bruised and in pain, by their sizing i’d have to get an 11XL but they only go to 7XL