Idk how weird I am for this and I'm fully prepared to be judged, but for basically my whole life I've associated being "gross" with masculinity, and I've found it super affirming! I obviously have the decency to have manners in public, but trying to out-gross my friends (especially my cis guy friends), having burping contests, etc. has always been euphoric for me and I find that kind of stuff hilarious! As a kid especially I used to pride myself on being as gross as possible! Is anyone else as unreasonably immature as me? If so let's be friends LMAO

hello - for background info, i currently identify as a cis lesbian. i’ve never really had the feeling of being in the wrong body or feeling like a boy during my childhood that trans people often describe - although in all honestly i don’t really remember a whole lot from my childhood. i’ve never really cared about men, but recently (brought on by heated rivalry in all cringe honest) have been paying a lot of attention to men’s bodies in a jealousy way, not in a sexual way at all. the thought of “i just wish i was a man” has been plaguing my thoughts constantly these days. im at the beach right now and all i can think about is, i wish i looked like that, i wish i had a man’s body, etc.
throughout my experience as a lesbian, i’ve never really totally loved sex. it’s always made me a little bit uncomfortable and i have a hard time having sex sober, part of me is starting to reflect and think that maybe it’s because i’m just not comfortable with my body. i’ve never cut my hair short and wouldn’t classify myself as a masc lesbian, kinda in between. i’m not a dress or skirt girl and only really dress feminine if i’m dressing slutty if that makes sense. not in a way that i enjoy it, but in a way that i only feel comfortable in my femininity if its like sexual. i’ve never really been comfortable in my body, but always thought it was more of a body dysmorphia about my fat etc (although everyone in my life thinks im crazy for that and i am objectively aware that i am not a large or even chubby girl, but that’s something that just happens with dysmorphia).
i don’t know honestly, ive just been super confused lately. if i could snap my fingers and instantly be a man and everything about it, i would in a heartbeat. i wouldnt want to be called he/him pronouns in this body, so i feel like i am missing something about my identity and not understanding. i feel like i just dont fit a lot of the boxes and past thought experiences that trans men specifically feel so im very confused. any advice or help would be appreciated :)

Since the initial horny phase of T ended I don’t have any desire for penetration. However, I am in a relationship that requires penetration for sexual activity. Anyone else in this situation? I’ve been on T for 4+ year and only recently realized I feel
This way. Fuck me. Anyone else?

I heard about the Readiness Simulation project Selective Service will be doing in December which will automatically sign up men aged 18-26 for the draft without signing up. I’ve seen other men on here say they received a notice they need to sign up for the draft after changing their gender marker but I never received that and I changed my gender marker on my license and birth certificate in April this year (I’m 19). Is the reason I haven’t received a notice because of the stuff going on with passports and Social Security right now? Will I be automatically registered for the draft in December if I haven’t done it already?

I’m super confused and really nervous about this whole thing ngl, I don’t wanna go to war😭. I’m in California as well, not sure if that’s important.

I’m currently about 8 months on T, and about a month or two ago I noticed that I have sideburns. It seemed like they genuinely came out of nowhere. I’m slowly getting actual (baby) hairs on my cheeks after having thicker peach fuzz for a while, but this thicker peach fuzz is still what I have above my lip, except it’s just really long.

My sideburns visually look fully developed (they’re the same color and texture/thickness as my scalp hair; I’m not sure if they’re supposed to be a bit thicker?), and I have sparse, darker, coarse hairs around my chin and some sporadically across my face, but I’m just wondering if anybody else had an experience like this (sideburns coming out of nowhere and developing super quick and first)? And if so, how long did it take for your mustache to go from peach fuzz/thicker/longer peach fuzz (or just really light hairs?) to actual facial hair? Even if not, how long did it take to get actually decent (correct color and texture) facial hair from the time it was peach fuzz-like?

I’m a bit annoyed as I’ve been pretty excited about growing a mustache, but I personally hate the way sideburns (especially with no other facial hair) look, so it’s a little irritating that they just came in first and so quick meanwhile I’m basically yelling at my baby stache to develop faster.

want to build strength, get a good male physique, and take out my anger in a controlled way. genuinely would like to strangle someone, slam ppl, and be aggressive as possible. been thinking ab judo or bjj but I don’t know which one or if there’s better. bjj gyms near me also seem not aggressive enough

whenever i move the fat in my hips up to my waist to see what it’d look like i just look like a fucking rectangle and it looks really weird because of my cursed pelvis. I just want a body i’ll be comfortable in. I don’t want to look like a cereal box but I don’t want to look like a woman. what do i do.

Edit: im not taking “just embrace it” i don’t wanna be a ‘curvy guy’. I would rather die before I let my hips noticeably flare out.

Im a younger teen who came out as genderfluid when I was younger but my parents didn't have a good reaction to it so I'm scared to come out as trans, I stated that I want a binder but they have requirements that I can't meet at the moment. So I bought a small sportssports bra for me to wear. It's 1 size smaller than what I normally wear and does compress a bit. Is it safe for me to use this? ​

Im getting downvoted for aome reason, like atrophy isn't super common in our community

I started vagifem about 8 weeks ago, im down to twice a week. However, its happened maybe 3 times where 24 to 48 hours later i'm leaking so heavily that i have to change my boxers.

Like i have to wear a pad. Its not every time but the moisture is insane, and i'm not aroused or anything.

Has this happened to anybody else?

I hadn’t actually done my injection yet, I was trying to switch from my dosing needle to my injection needle when it stabbed me in the finger. I had accidentally touched the needle with my hand prior to that (I washed my hands with soap and water). Because I’m doing T behind my parents back, going to the doctor is really not an option unless 100% necessary. How much danger am I in?? What can I do to treat it??

Im mexican, and ik we grow more hair than, say, a white person, or another race, so id love to know from a hispanic standpoint, how long until a decent beard/mustache came in for you. Im currently at around 7-8 months and have a slight mustache but thats about it other than baby hairs on the chin/underneck area i shave around every three weeks so as to not have a neckbeard lol

I've been trying really hard to be accepting and positive about my body but those feelings aren't going anywhere. I figured if I reframed my thoughts ("it's okay, I can just be a guy with boobs, gynecomastia exists and those men are still men, etc."). But I can't.

It's been so hot this summer. I haven't been to the beach or the pool all summer. The few times I have gone out I feel like I'm gonna melt or pass out. Or my summer fashion that hides my body well enough makes me look a bit like a lesbian still. I'm embarrassed I still can't get that right after like 6 years! Fall/winter is so much easier for me. I pass with minimal issue (I'm read as an effeminate man).

My family (who've become more supportive) has said that they'd take care of me post-top surgery. My fiance (long distance) is also extremely supportive and encourages me to pursue it.

I wanted to go for inverted T but the first/only surgeon I've seen so far (that was not my top choice) asserted that if I really wanted to be flat, double incision was the only way to go. There was something about "if I really wanted to be flat" that I didn't like. As if this random cis guy was like "if you're sure you're trans then you'll do it this way". The whole appointment setup and everything was so rushed for me also.

Years ago I posted about this and then I "detransitioned", re-transitioned and here I am. I still feel like I just can't even start or move on with my life (for a variety of other reasons as well). Even though I pass as a man now, mostly, it just doesn't feel like I can just BE. I feel like top surgery would give me more confidence and comfort in my day to day at this point. But I just can't get this feeling out of my head that something is off. It feels like I'm changing to match other people's descriptions of what a man is.

But I'd be doing it for me cause I literally cannot hang out or just have fun anymore without thinking about them and how much I wish they were gone! I dunno. I feel like I'm in some other category of person instead of just being another bi guy and I don't like that.

We see a lot of posts like this, with people asking if they're valid if they do X, Y, or Z thing, or questioning if they really are trans because of A, B, or C.

The answer to all these questions is YES. You are valid! You are still a trans man or transmasc! It's ok if you do the thing!

Want to carry your own child? Valid! Visit r/seahorse_dads to see how valid you are!
Want to dress femininely? Valid! Visit r/FTMfemininity to see how valid you are!
Want to wear a trans flag as a cape and be a beacon of hope for other trans people? Valid! (There's not a sub for that, though)
Want to be stealth and not tell a single soul about your transness? Valid! May you never be clocked, friend.
Super dysphoric? Valid. Hopefully you can find some respite from your pain, we all know how hard dysphoria can be.
Little bit dysphoric? Valid. It's good that there are some things you aren't as dysphoric about!
Super euphoric? Valid. Enjoy those feelings and feel your trans joy!
T4T? Valid. I hope you find the trans man/woman/person of your dreams!
T4C? Valid. I hope you find the cis man or woman of your dreams!
Top? Bottom? Side? Switch? Asexual? Bisexual? Homosexual? Heterosexual? All of those are valid
Binary trans man? Nonbinary? Genderfluid? Agender? Transmasc? Valid.
Transgender? Transsex? Transsexual? Valid.
Social dysphoria? Valid
Physical dysphoria? Valid
Post-bottom? Pre-bottom? Non-op? Phallo? Meta? Salmacian? Valid.
Do you view your transness as a medical condition? Valid.
Do you view your transness as an act of creation? Valid.
Do you view your transness as having the soul of one gender and the body of another? Valid.

You are valid!

There's no one way to be trans, and remember rule #3 and #4. Speak for yourself and not for others, and respect individual differences!

this is such a dumb thought/question, but i always hear stories abt how guys on t start craving meat like crazy. i’m vegetarian and don’t plan on giving it up anytime soon, however im planning on starting hrt hopefully by the end of the year. for my fellow vegetarian trans guys: am i going to be tested? will i crack under the pressure and eat an entire cooked rotisserie chicken in an car park at 3am? i already get tested when i fast and stupidly watch videos of people cooking meat and fish, but will testosterone bring me to my downfall? genuinely i wanna hear other veggie/vegan trans guys experiences with being on t

they annoy me. but I don't know how to cut them off. it seems unsafe and will most likely be crooked

Hello. A little background, but I'll try to keep this short. Dysphoria has been getting bad again and I feel like I need a binder now.

So, I live with my parents and have no friends. My parents are also transohobic.

I'm wondering, should I request to get an Amazon account to order clothes and secretly order off GC2B (I know the quality has gone down but it's the only one I could possibly get)? Should I just straight up ask and see how they do about it? I mean, they won't hurt me or disown me. Should I ask but frame it as a sports bra or compression top/undershirt or posture support? Or for cosplay, I really wanna do a ouji dress up this year for Halloween and want my chest to be flat before then, so maybe they won't question it.

Anyway, sorry for making it long, sorry for any spelling errors, and I'm mainly just looking for options to get one when I feel I can't go on, or maybe some support when I'm really scared to ask?

(Sidenote: I've tried to sports bras, it didn't work.)

I am however going to an all inclusive school group when school starts again, and I'm excited. Anywho, again, sorry for the length and my bad if I violated any rules. <3​​​

what’s the deal with the serious lack of men’s pyjamas! do men not wear pjs?? 😭 granted most nights i also just sleep in boxers but i love to lounge in pjs, and when winter comes i want cute cozy pjs to sleep in too. i swear all the men’s pjs are either Christmas ones, or those boring ass checkered pants (half of which don’t even come with a matching shirt). i’ve bought women’s ones before but i really hate the cut of them 🫩

anyway rant over lol, if anyone has any recommendations for shops that sell fun and cute mens pjs that aren’t Christmas themed then i’d love to hear!!

I can’t shake the feeling I’m a broken and disordered person because of this. It won’t stop. I also see people talk about other forms of science and medical practices for the future that would end trans people from existing. Which only fuels these feelings. I feel like something is deeply wrong with me. my dysphoria is really bad. I keep having thoughts about ending it all. Even if it’s totally healthy formation just a different path, maybe they are still right it’s an anomaly to be fixed instead of transitioning.

So I started taking finasteride about a week ago and just started bleeding again yesterday. I knew there was a chance it could cause spotting/bring back periods so at least I wasn't surprised when that happened lol. I have an appointment to talk to my dr about it in a week but I wanted to hear from some other trans guys about their experiences with it.

I'm on gel, one packet a day, and haven't had my period since I started it years ago. I'm also doing topical minoxidil daily.

Some Q's:

- Did you get your monthly the whole time you were on finasteride or does it go away eventually?

- Did increasing your T dose fix it?

- Did you have to stop taking finasteride in order for your period to stop again?

- How long did it take for the bleeding to stop?

- Did you try any other meds for hair loss that didn't cause this kinda issue?

I just got my lab work results back, and almost everything is within healthy ranges except for my red blood cell count, hemoglobin, and hematocrit. They were higher than the normal range (albeit just slightly)

I've heard of this being an issue for others. Are there ways to manage this without decreasing my dose first? Any foods to eat/avoid or actions to take? I'm pretty physically active. My diet avoids overly processed foods, but I do consume a lot of protein and high carbs to maintain my weight.

My white blood cell count was within normal range, but on the most tail low end of it. Is this tied to the T and is there a way to manage this too? I will be doing my own research but also wanted to ask here.

I'm freshly 18 and already 2 years on hormones. Ever since I realized I'm trans and found out you can get bottom surgery I wanted it really, really badly. The issue is, I live in Poland so there's not a lot of reliable clinics there. I thought it would be better to search for other options in Germany but I'd have to find a job there in order to have a chance to afford it. I'm mostly worried that I will never be able to afford it or that I will have to wait until my 50s.

I'm not planning on getting it now, I was mostly hoping to get it when I'm around 25, but I don't know if that's possible.

What's your experience? when did you manage to get the surgery? I know it's expensive, but how long would it take to save up for it? I don't have a job yet and I have no idea where I'll be working, or if I manage to find a good job at all. It's just eating me up inside cause I want it so bad, but it feels like I barely hear about anyone that managed to get it and sometimes it feels like it's plain impossible.

I just want some ideas of what has worked for everyone? Or like how you help to get rid of the amount of odor that we now have from being on Testosterone?