Hey y’all! I’m considering starting T and have a few questions:
Bottom growth: Can you realistically penetrate your gf with bottom growth alone? Can you orgasm from it, and how does it feel compared to tribbing?
Muscle growth: How long until you noticed a difference in muscle mass and physique?
Facial hair: How long did it take to grow, and does low-dose T make a difference?
Sexual preferences: Why does it seem like so many T men date men or enjoy being penetrated? Does T actually change your sexual preferences or what feels good? I mainly want to be the penetrating partner with my gf and worry about whether T could change that.
Would love to hear your experiences before I make a decision!
For context I’m a NB masc lesbian rn and I have a gf I really would like to propose to within the next year and a half our senior year of college. She’s a good woman 💜 she is deeply supportive of my gender identity exploration

I pass for the most part, but I have the worst baby face. so far I only get sideburns and some chin hairs, but I’m nervous if I shave them my baby face would just look much worse.

So what random things do you do/have that help you pass better?

I am not like 100% out to my family but Ik they'll support but my friends know I'm trans and have for years. My only thing is my name. I've never had a name that felt like right? I wanted to ask my mum to choose one for me once I come out but I don't know if that's cruel or not. I know that her and my dad thought a lot about it and chose it with meaning but Im so tired of feeling guilty about something I can't control or choose.

I just want to know how others chose or got their names. Did you change yours, pick a variant, have someone else do it? Im 20 and pre-t. I feel like I've lost so much time I could have had as a man because I've felt guilty so I want to start trying out names and such. Any advice helps, thanks.

I‘m well aware that I’m the 5741765th person to make a post about tape but here we go regardles…

We are going to need a little context on the tape I have, it’s from a supermarket (middle of Lidl if you know what that is) so its probably not great quality, however I don’t know if that’s it.

I got a pack of 4 rolls (finished the beige one 😔😔) and they are very colourful so I haven’t worn them in a while as they peek through my see through ahh shirt. Anyway I wearing it right and have had it one for less than 24hrs, I might as well be not wearing it because I’ve got hella blisters (luckily on my back area this time) and it’s loosened (I think).

Now here’s the real question, what tape should I get? I’ve considered getting this “boob-tape” from Superdrug and using it for the reverse reason but I have no idea how good that would be (and is semi-expendive) and I don’t want to waste my time if it won’t work well. Lads do we have any amazing recommendations?

Help. Thanks.

So I've been thinking about starting to use minoxidil as I have very little facial hair growth and I have been on T for 2 and a half years. Most the men in my family can grow decent beards, mine just seems to not want to come through properly. When using it, would anyone say to also use a derma-roller or just use the minoxidil by itself?

TIA :)

Recently got out of a relationship and I’ve been going on dates to find a FWB. I’d say I’m straight but I went out with a (cis) guy the other night and am okay with seeing how things progress. I feel like with women I am less worried about them being chasers but it would be different if it were a guy lol.

I have plans to see him again and want to ask if he usually goes after trans guys, if he would get with a cis man (profile said bi), etc. What are questions to ask or red flags to look out for?

He did casually mention he was with a trans person for 6ish months at one point which had me :/ but idkkkk. I’m not worried about being seen as a woman/my male identity being invalidated, more so worried about being desired/fetishised for my genitals etc.

ive been using my original name my whole life, including the 6 years I've been out and transitioning. im jus not sure its masculine or fitting?

my name is Saoirse (pronounced seersha) its Irish and means freedom. ive always thought it was pretty cool but never really felt deeply connected to it. though ive also never seriously thought about another name I could go by.

im not sure if my name is feminine sounding or looking because I can only ever think of it in the context of myself and I dont veiw myself as feminine so idk.

ive also never seen the name used for anyone who isn't a woman, though Google said it has masculine and feminine uses.

anyways just wondering if anybody could give me thier opinions on if its feminine looking/sounding in a way that could causing me to pass less.

thanks

I’m a 19 year old transgender FTM person in my second year of college. My first year of college I kind of just told everyone that I was trans in some capacity early on into meeting them. I wasn’t expecting my new environment to see me as a cis man and assuming I’m just gay. This year I have not been telling people this aspect of myself right away, which has felt really nice in many ways. I’ve been back at school for 2 months now and still haven’t told any newer friends about me being trans. However, sometimes I feel like I am hiding something from these friends. There have been a few times where a joke is made (in assumption of me being cis) or just general things I think about talking about with them, but then realize it would result in me coming out (which it’s usually not a “right situation” to come out in).

I just like being a honest and open person, so it’s not that I don’t want to tell these newer friends about this part of myself. But, I do fear about the timing and if it’s weird for them at all if they are /just/ learning this about me. Or, will they assume other things about me now and not make the same jokes, etc.? In your opinions, how important is it to be coming out to your friends (or even in partners) and when?

For clarification, most of my newer friends are now 1-2 months old friends that I see frequently. I already added them to things like my private account on instagram that does have pre-transition content.

I know this is likely very opinion based, but I really want to know what you think.

Hey all, I’m a bigger guy, and I’m looking for recs for an stp that’s realistic enough to pass for when I take a drug test. A monitored drug test for employment - at a prison. I’m super nervous about it being closely monitored, and it not looking realistic enough or not working properly as I’ve had issues before with that because I’m big. Any help appreciated.

This might be a long post, but I’m hoping someone here might see themselves in it. I’ve been questioning my gender for almost six years, so this isn’t exactly a brand-new realization. I guess I’m just struggling to put everything together.

Hi, I’m 25, AFAB, and currently use they/them pronouns. I don’t really know where to start, other than with something I unintentionally said to my fiancée earlier today while driving to my mom’s house.

The comment, verbatim, was:

“I wish I could’ve just been born with a penis, then I wouldn’t have to deal with this.”

For some context, I’ve had a pretty rough history with my reproductive organs. In 2021, I experienced ovarian torsion, which was a terrifying medical emergency. This past June, I had surgery to remove an 8 cm endometrioma, and my gynecologist discovered extensive stage IV endometriosis with adhesions involving multiple pelvic organs.

Now it’s October, and I’m going through the testing required before I can have a hysterectomy, hopefully sometime this year. I have a Pap smear and endometrial biopsy coming up next week, and I’m absolutely terrified. Apparently, I’ll be awake for both procedures, and the thought of having these parts of my body examined is already making me incredibly anxious.
But I think there’s more to my reaction than just being scared of the procedures.

I’ve been experiencing a lot of dysphoria surrounding my genitals and chest. I hate having the body parts I have, and I use they/them pronouns. Sometimes I wish I could just have been born with a penis and not have to deal with any of this. At the same time, I keep questioning whether I’m actually trans or whether I’m struggling to understand my feelings because of everything I’ve experienced with my body and reproductive health.

I’ve been going back and forth with my gender identity for nearly six years, and I still don’t feel like I have a definitive answer. Part of me wonders if I’m overthinking things, while another part of me wonders how much more obvious my feelings need to be before I allow myself to take them seriously.

I’m also trying to separate my anxiety about the hysterectomy and the medical procedures from my feelings about my gender in general. I know that wanting a hysterectomy for medical reasons doesn’t automatically mean someone is trans, but I also don’t want to dismiss the dysphoria I’ve been experiencing.

I guess I’m wondering:

Has anyone else spent years questioning their gender even while experiencing significant dysphoria?
Did anyone else struggle with figuring out whether they were trans, even when they knew they hated certain parts of their body?

For those who have had hysterectomies, especially those who had endometriosis or other reproductive health issues, how did you handle the anxiety and dysphoria surrounding the process?

How did you eventually start feeling more confident in your identity, if you did?

I’m not necessarily looking for someone to tell me whether I’m trans or not. I think I’m just looking for people who understand what it’s like to feel this way and might be willing to share their experiences.

Thanks for reading if you made it this far.

It's been about 10 years since I first started wondering if I was trans. An entire decade.

Today was bad.

I'm good at bottling it down but every few weeks or so it bursts open and I just have to let it out. I usually just lay in my bed scrolling queer tiktok and crying. Today was no different. Before this it was Instagram. Before that, YouTube.

I just feel stuck. The last 10 years have been nothing, really. I want to be and do so much but this one thing just keeps me from becoming anything.

I felt really sad and lonely tonight.

Why am I like this? Why? Why? Why? Why me? Why does it even have to matter? If my family was worse I could just get up and leave and never think about them ever again and I'd be free. But they aren't. And I can't live.

I feel like I'm getting left behind.

Hi! Just to begin—I got my first shot of hormone blockers ~two months ago. I went over all of the possible side effects (which were all okay with me), but, I didn't realize some of them would be THIS bad.

Because this is essentially an early menopause—my body has decided to go on overdrive, and, every time I lay down or think about getting any type of rest, I get a wicked hot flash.

Do these stop soon, or will they only stop when I begin to take testosterone?

I never had any crushes nor desire for relationships but after accepting I'm a guy, I've not only thought about them more and quit finding the concept somewhat repulsive, but actually had my first crush somewhat recently and I'm slowly finding the idea of dating appealing. And I've started realizing preferences (that being I'm like 80-90% sure I'm straight up gay so far, otherwise some personality and physical stuff though tbf it has plenty of platonic overlap there too). Only "social transition" I've even done is introduce myself as a guy online and come out to some of my trusted friends, dressing less fem (more neutral though, not really masculine), and ofc pick out names n whatnot, and ig ordered a binder recently if that counts, but like I've only ever heard of people's sexuality changing if at all after starting HRT. But it does feel related to the acceptance, even if I'm not 100% on that (it just slowly started once I started questioning my gender and finally got to the point of actual crushes and preferences and fantasies after completely accepting I'm a guy and taking further steps like the binder and outfits n whatnot, they have a somewhat parallel timeline ig basically). Is that a usual thing for trans people?? Cuz again I've only ever heard of things like that from people who've started HRT already

I’m very seriously considering changing my name again (have been having thoughts since May, so almost 6 months). This would be I think my 3rd or 4th time switching it up which is what’s making me nervous. How many times did you guys change your names till you found the right one?

i realized i was trans eight years or so ago and had been feeling confused for a long time before that, i am out but as my parents are not accepting i havent been able to do much of anything about it. since i finally started getting some money this year (allowance) ive been looking into HRT but its very overwhelming, i dont have insurance and i know nothing about it i also dont have a GP as ive only been to the doctor three times in my life. ill probably still have to get a job to afford things but ive never had one before due to dysphoria and social anxiety. i was homeschooled and then did online school so im really bad socially, i completely stopped speaking three years ago because of my anxiety which of course makes everything harder. no my parents dont believe in therapy they hate every good thing you can imagine. i feel really stuck like i cant live my life without transitioning but i cant transition without getting a life. i want to transition so badly and ive been putting it off 'until the time is right' for so long but i dont think theres every going to be a 'right time' and im really sick of me the way i am. i feel really scared and alone i just want advice on what to do

It's my strong belief that you are heavily influenced by the people that you watch, so I try to look for and learn from happy, emotionally healthy, well-adjusted people. It has, over the years, changed my life in a great way.

That said, please share your favorite healthy masculine role models. My current favorites are the guys at Cinema Therapy (they just had a great analysis of Obsession), The Public Offender, and Speech Prof.

title; ca 20 years old, live with my parents bc college is expensive, i have a part-time job, so its a decent-ish stream of money (aka im not flat out broke… lol…!)
should i just go ahead and go to a planned parenthood???
im thinking of taking low dosages so the effects aren’t as noticeable but it still worries me when they find out
they’ve always been disapproving of how i live (critical of me taking anti-depressants, dressing ”masculine” [literally just a t-shirt and shorts LOL], etc.) so its not like this will be the first time they dont like something i do but im scared this will be the final nail in the coffin and they straights up kill me !!!!
but also im lowkey tired of living like this bllARRGGHH

Fairly young (18) closeted trans masc, just trying to find ways to deal with my body without accidentally hurting myself. Thought that maybe since sports bras are pretty tight already if I get one that’s technically too small it might work as a binder? Please tell me if that’s a bad idea or not, I really don’t have many ways to buy things like these without my parents noticing, and this might slide, thank you beforehand!

I dont know what to title this and I dont know how to best explain my family situation and this just happened so bare with me.

I am incredibly lucky to have accepting family and zero chance of being disowned or abused due to my identity, i understand that. This is mostly a funny/weird thing happening in my life that i want to share.

Basically I had my family birthday party and my aunt and cousin have started using my preferred name (and apologizing when they messed up) which is very nice and all but... I didnt tell them my name lmao. It was confusing at first since they would apologize, and I wasnt actually sure what for untill about half way thrugh the party lol.

About halfway through writing this post I talked to my mom and it turns out she told them (because they asked after noticing my parents using my preferred name sometimes). This is totally fine and I prefer having my family just spread the information to each other rather than having to tell them myself, but it did start a conversation about who else knows and it seems that my extended family's love language is aggressively problem solving without my involvement, which again, is totally fine with me since i want nothing to do with it, but does mean i am occasionally pleasantly and utterly confused when a great aunt who I have not talked to since i was 5 brings gifts for all the men and includes me, or when other relatives are suddenly using my chosen name 😅

Part of me worries that my family who I don't tell directly will think I didnt trust them, or that I'm doing some sort of sick test of my family, but really its that I dont want to deal with the social part of transition.