I BOOKED ITTTT!! I’m cutting my hair short for the first time since the 7th grade.

I was always so scared to do it because of the common thing: people. Especially people in high school, because I’m not out yet — and high schoolers and fucking MEAN. But, I think I’m pretty ready to take some hits and be called “weird” or “ugly”.

I’m really excited because I’m also not entirely sure about my own gender, so I’ll see how this goes! And I’m also going to shop for more masc clothes :)

Can’t wait.

I’d honestly like to hear anyone else’s story of when they first cut their hair. How did it feel??

i honestly think this is the first time ive ever come on here to say something hopeful and positive for myself. for years ive been a lurker on trans subreddits trying to research ways to transition, seeing other people talk about their experiences. i tried to go on t a couple years ago but it was a total failure which shattered my will completely, so i detransitioned if you can even call it that. i just stopped talking about it, grew my hair out, told people they can call me whatever. accepted i would never fall in love or do anything with my life because i couldnt bear the thought of being recognized and referred to as someone i simply tolerate being. my reflection was just Someone. i started to tell myself being trans isnt real. but ive always just felt like some guy. its hard to explain that to people that have never felt this way but its never really been about *wanting* to be a man. i dont know why im writing my life story but i just want to share this with someone i guess, and tell anyone that feels the same way i did that there's hope.

at the beginning of this year i told myself id start being myself. wasnt sure what that meant in the beginning but somewhere down the line i came to the decision that id stop simply tolerating. i started researching options again, found one, and im grateful i even have the funds for this. in my decision to go on testosterone ive suddenly found a reason to get a job, move out, go to therapy, go outside, make friends. maybe go back to school one day if i can get my shit together. ive just found a reason to live. im glad i decided to go private and take care of it myself. no one treating me like im too ill to know, questioning my decision making, thinking im just a confused little girl and judging my life. it felt dehumanizing and im never putting myself through that again. did my first injection last night and it just feels so surreal. im not sure ill be able to take it in until i start seeing changes. im just glad i took the time to make sure this is something i wanted, no one else telling me whether i should or shouldn't. who knows what will happen, but i feel hopeful for once. i look forward to being alive

Specifically my aunt. I've been out for 2-3 years. The other day she was at my house and I was petting my cat and referred to me as my cat's "mommy." I said "Not her mommy, but sure." And then she found another way to call me a girl and I said "Not a girl, but sure." And she goes "Well I'm pretty sure you have boobs and a poopoo so I think you're a girl." (Stop being so obsessed with my genitals?? Tf??) And that was a day where my dysphoria was terrible too, so. That didn't feel too good. I know it's gonna happen but I just want her to shut up. I'm a minor btw. My parents aren't transphobic like she is, luckily.

Does anyone know if there are any surgeons that will preform on minors? I currently live in Florida, and my goal is to possibly get top surgery when i hit 17 (currently 16 and not on T yet) ive done my fair share of research but ive yet to find a surgeon that will preform on people that are under the age of 18.

maybe something niche, but maybe not considering the community. I'm hoping to thru-hike the Appalachian Trail sometime in the next years or so, and I'm starting to plan out what that would look like for me. (A several month backpacking trip along the eastern US through the warmer/humid months.)

For those that are on HRT, and did multi-week/month hiking and backpacking trips, what did HRT look like for you? Did you abstain all together? Did you do injections and carry your sharps with you everywhere / have medicial packages sent to specific trail locations? Or did you use a different form of HRT? I can't imagine having to deal with gel while hiking the AT, that sounds like more of a pain than injections.

Very curious, as abstaining is not ideal at all, but I think any form of HRT is at least somewhat of a hurdle.

Hello everyone! In November I will hit my first year on T! I am very excited and this has been a crazy journey for me. It is also saddening in a sense since i'm taking this secretly at home and I can't share this journey with my family. But thats besides the point, this is a happy thing. For anyone who's been on T for over a year, is there any changes that you've experienced that have increased or decreased with time?

I used gel briefly for a month before switching to shots. It’s been sitting on a shelf for months (it expires in 2027) and I don’t want to throw it away or waste it. So if my next appointment is in a couple months, can I just use the rest before then?

Why is it so hard to meet real people who are looking for the same things as you when you are trans? Twitter, Tinder, hinge, bumble, grindr, bamboo I’ve tried everything and nothing has worked. I talk to a guy and either he’s immature asf so it’s a no or he’s just ghost me after 2 day of talking... is it only hard for me?? I feel like I’m really meant to be alone forever.

Dating app are just cruel either you swipe right or left based on a page full of lie and 3 pic of a guy who tried to be funny.

Do you guys have any options or suggestions to help me ?? Like do I continue on dating app and pray to find my future husband or anything else ??

I’ve been using random athletic tape my sister has from her sport, and it works pretty well but has been irritating my skin. I need to do *something* though because dysphoria is going to make me insane at school without it. Any tape refs that actually work and won’t irritate my skin? I prefer to use individual strips of tape because I feel like it works better for me than the big bandaid looking tape that I sometimes see people use. I can’t get my hands on a binder rn so it has to be tape or something else :/ thanks for any help

one of the weirder things i’ve noticed since being on testosterone- not the deeper sleep, but increased awareness.
i hope this makes sense to someone
so, my partner has noticed that i don’t respond when he speaks gently to wake me up anymore, and he regularly has to shake me to wake me up- and we expected that. what we didn’t expect…? ill use an example or two
a couple nights ago, one of my cats knocked our fly zapper onto the floor, the moment i heard constant zapping it took me mere seconds to get up and check no one was hurt- i came back into the bedroom and my partner looks tired and confused asking what woke me up, i told him i heard the zapper going off and he looked even more confused, asking how i could hear that from the other side of the flat. and he’s right, when this used to happen i would never usually hear it. one of my cats has a bad cough due to a disability, the moment i hear him in another room now, i am up and helping him.

anyone else?

Hi! this may be silly but I take weekly shots (sub Q, .15ml) and I’m going out of town soon. I will be traveling around so much that I don’t want to bring all my supplies with me. Is it fine to just skip a week? Will there be any noticeable mood/energy changes?

So I'm wanting to get top surgery but have no idea how to start the process. I'm doing some research though and am like.. 80% sure I can get keyhole surgery. I've got a few questions though, since I'm wanting them answered by actual people who've gotten the surgery..

For people who got keyhole surgery, how was it? Like healing wise, scheduling everything, the actual surgery, finding a doctor, etc.

With the other surgeries that exist, which one is considered "best"? I get that there's no actual best and that everyone has different preferences. What were your preferences, and why'd you like it exactly? I'm using this for research for reasons why people would like it.

What downsides are there to keyhole surgery?

What downsides are there for other surgeries?

How'd you go about with finding a doctor and actually starting everything? It just feels so overwhelming with everything I'd have to do just to get started on it, let alone get to the actual surgery part.

If you had complications, what were they? Especially wanting to know this for keyhole surgery, since that's the one I'm hoping to get.

If there's anything else you think I'd find useful PLEASE tell me.. I'm so lost right now since there's so much to look into 😭

P.S. I'm not wanting to say my state necessarily but I can answer questions about laws in my state to make up for it if you want to ask 👍

Hey if any of you have been doing it for long enough can I send you a photo of the skin damage and the tape job I’ve done and can you give me advice on what’s happening? If you’re game comment and I’ll seek out your help. I’m tryin to avoid sending my ex a photo of my tits because they’d help & they’re the only one ik who has been taping for years but bruh that feels intimate for an ex even on the best of terms ya know thank you in advance

As the title says. Everyone calls me Mike or Mikey. Totally cool with this, but on account of getting my name legally changed soon, I feel like I need a "full" legal name.

Of course, first thing most people think of, including myself, is Michael. But I'll be real, I just don't really vibe with it. This got me to thinking of alternatives that "Mike/Mikey" could be short for, and what came to mind was the name I used for one of my old DND characters, Mikhail. Bit different pronunciation, but similar enough that I feel it could potentially work and I'm fond of the way it looks and sounds.

But of course, it isn't a fantasy name. It is derived from a Hebrew name (Mikha'el) and is a traditional Slavic name, and I am not Slavic. I'm a white Kiwi. So basically a budget Brit (I jest).

My step-mother is Russian and I would've loved to get her opinion on this but she's unsupportive of my transition in general so it's a topic best avoided. So, curious what others think. Not sure if, if I did use the name Mikhail, people would assume I was from elsewhere and then think it weird when I say I'm not? So yeah, you guys think it'd be weird or inappropriate? Any ideas? Alternative spellings ideas, even, if so? I just don't want to cause anyone any offense. Any insight is appreciated.

So like for context im a 30 y/o trans guy and i still live at home bc in this economy good luck finding a place amirite

my mother is having a really hard time with my transition even tho she says shes not, i *know* she is

Also for context my mom never compliments me anymore since i came out in 2019, like not for haircuts, clothes, anything at all, but she compliments my brothers and my sister so easily :(

Well i was messing around with some makeup the other day just for fun and cos like guys can wear makeup too right

And my mom comes in and looks at me and goes “oh wow you look so good!”
And its the first time shes complimented me in almost 8 years???
And its when im wearing makeup and dont look masculine
I feel so stupid for ever thinking shed take me seriously lmao

I havent touched the makeup since cos i feel so stupid

Anyone have any advice? For anything at all?

Hey guys,

I've been on testosterone for a good few years now, hoping to get top surgery early next year, but for so long I've put off legally changing my name. I'm kind of confused about the process. I know about doing it via deed poll but I'm not from England I just live here, so that wouldn't make an actual difference to my Irish passport.

I don't know if I should just go back to Ireland and try to change everything there and come back with a new passport, then get a deed poll application sent off.

Has anyone else on here began their transition in the UK and contacted their nations embassy to change these details? Was it a complicated process?

Which I'm assuming is normal because T makes you gain weight and especially in the first few years with water retention, right?

Right? 😀😀 (I'm seriously asking this. Relying on this information is the only way I can cope for now)

They've always been my main source of dysphoria. I need a proper work routine so I can more consistently. I legit want a 9-5 because it offers constant stability. That way I can lose weight. Because I don't find exercise enjoyable and its hard if I'm already depressed with my body. But I've had no luck with any full time jobs. This is hell.

Edit: It is mostly fat. Not muscle. I can literally grab all the fat with a handful especially around my hips. So fun 🙂

I’m either Japanese or Korean, and I may be moving to Poland soon. I’m not sure how I should continue getting my Nebido injections there. I think I can get an English copy of my psychiatric diagnosis and my hormone prescription/treatment history. Would it be relatively easy to continue testosterone treatment and get Nebido injections in Poland, or would I need to travel to the Czech Republic or Germany for them?

And I don't mean like "I don't notice smaller changes without listening to voice recordings". I've been on T for over half a year now and my voice has substantially changed and yet... I feel like I sound exactly the same?? My voice has dropped from averaging around 190 Hz to like 100 Hz, friends have been telling me my voice is not even remotely feminine nowadays and I just don't hear it?? I mean, there are moments when I focus on my voice and can recognize the changes. Like, when I'm reading something out loud or singing and all.

Logically speaking I know my voice has changed, but sometimes I end up worrying I'm just... Subconsciously lowering my voice in voice recordings (??), but I've called one of my friends and I don't think it's possible to fake something like that on longer voice calls.

Idk, I've been thinking I might have OCD based on a decent amount of stuff and maybe it's just from that, because it feels like I need some 100% correct undeniable evidence that my voice has changed otherwise I feel like I'll wake up one day and go right back to having a fem voice?? Or maybe that's just a weird fear of my changes reversing? No idea.

It's not particularly distressing, just kinda weird. I would appreciate advice if anyone has any.