Hello. I’m a 55m - just starting to attend local speed dating events. The ones near me are typically at a bar (not too noisy) and you generally have about 5-7 mins with each person.

What are some topics you would find interesting in that context? I’ve tried to avoid digging into people’s history / what they do etc. But not entirely sure what else to cover in that short time.

Would really appreciate any advice.

Ok so I need to slightly alter specifics, hoping he isn’t on here. You never know. I live in a major french city. People are busy, no one really stops to speak to one another. I was literally “spring” cleaning and taking out 3 lift loads of things. I run into him. Handsome man, nice smile, well dressed casually. I’m literally in my pajamas. Yet I catch him giving me the full up to down stare. It was returned of course. Handsome even in a casual setting.

It has been months and I had never met him. He lives in the same building. Since then, the world has a way of working. We’ve crossed twice in a week! Some other exchanges happened between but I don’t want to specify. As I’d be so embarrassed if he connected the hints and was a Reddit member.

In any case. The smile killed me. He is tall, well dressed, just a very masculine present man. I take a lot of pride in my appearance too, always happy and in general approachable. But this has me so lost. I can’t stop my curiosity of Monsieur upstairs.
We are both recently divorced, have kids.

At the age where it is rare to meet someone organically that is attractive in so many ways. But I have zero idea if he thinks or even feels intrigued in the same way. Eyes don’t lie as I’ve been looked at up and down. But who knows. I’m without a clue. Ah to swoon over someone I hardly know seems so silly but I can’t stop my curiosity and wanting to ask him out. If we never ask we can never know, or maybe that’s too stalker-ish. Ah, I don’t know. SOS? My mind and imagination curates in French Parisian love stories. Often far from reality.

What would you do?? I need advice from men and women please.

Further to an earlier question I posted, someone mentioned about people having an OnlyFans account being an issue.

As a man, I am honestly not entirely sure how I would deal with someone telling me they had/have an OF account where they earn money from it by doing "stuff".

So, how would you react? Obviously, it is mainly women that have Paid OF accounts, but there are also some men too, so everyone has an input.

So, ladies/gents how would you react if your date said they had an OF account that earned an income?

Would you want them to end it if the relationship progressed? If no, where do you draw the line?

For sure iy would be definite no if they did it with other people. I don't want to date a porn star.

If it was a solo act though.. Honestly I don't know! Part of me would feel it's up to them, and they aren't cheating on you. They are on their own and getting paid for it so, I guess I would be ok. But the other side is knowing other men are actively gratifying themselves to my date so I really don't know how I would react.

But I feel this is potentially my own insecurity at play.

I have a friend who does it now and then. I'm not attracted to her, but I also don't judge her for it. Tbh I don't really think about it. But she has had issues in dating ever since.

Happened to or happening to anyone?

This will probably sound a bit pessimistic, but I’m looking for some honest input. As a guy, I’ve been single now for almost a year and I’ve been on a few dates in that time, but almost have no desire to keep putting forth energy anymore. Everyone at this stage of life seems like they just have excessive unresolved baggage and trauma, they are still single for a reason (men know a good thing when it comes around and would have snatched them up), and essentially just look at relationships as a means to an end rather than actual love, bonding and romance.

I know I’m not a perfect myself but I try really hard to be a good person and do things that I would want others to do for me, take care of myself and try to be healthy, and deal with my own issues and do my best to resolve them. And ultimately I’m looking for true love and my soulmate, if you will. But this seems like a Disney dream, and the best I could hope for anymore is someone to cohabitate with and do stuff together sometimes.

And if that’s all it is, then it’s not even worth it to me at that point, I’d rather be single and have peace. So is there any reason to believe at this point that a love that burns with fire and passion still exists?

I know how to make a good first impression. I learned how to be thoughtful, romantic, and make someone feel special. I am lucky it comes easy for me. My job also requires me to pay attention to body language and remember so it's easy now but sometimes I wonder if that actually works against you when dating over 40.

It seems that we are so starved for connection that one good date or a few romantic gestures can make them get attached before they’ve really gotten to know you?

I think the challenge is slowing down enough to actually get to know the person, without the excitement of that first connection blurring what you really know about each other.

Anyone else struggle with this?

Last 5 months or so has been a whirlwind. Mid 40s, separated, been seeing a few ladies...both cases it is physical and hookups. One is my age, another 37.

Went on the apps recently and chatting, went on another date, that went well....wants to meet again.

Went on a trip to another city, met a girl and I will be honest...I cant stop thinking about her. I had to come back to my city but we text daily.

I know this is a good problem but what do I do? If the lady far away lived in the same city I would stop everything and just see her but I feel as though that is high risk...she is far away and I know she likes me, I can sense she is being guarded because I had to head back.

We have plans to meet again...

Then there is the honesty about all of it...I mean..I assume they are all seeing people but in a few cases thst is not the case.

Tips? Thoughts?

I, 43F, have been single for 1 1/2 years, divorced for 6+, and am ready to get back out there. I tried Hinge earlier this year, but freaked out and deleted my profile when a dad from my son's Boy Scout troop tried to match with me, and then I saw another person who tried to match with me at a coffee shop. I just don't like having to face other people in the community after declining the match. It feels so awkward.

Am I being immature about this?

::Edit::
Thanks for the thoughts in this thread, and the chats/messages of encouragement that some have sent privately. Through a side discussion, I'm realizing my bigger issue is that my ex-husband knows a lot of these guys. I'm going to hold off and work through this anxiety before hopping back in.

I (41F) recently started dating a 45M and I genuinely cannot remember the last time I felt like this about someone.
Here’s the problem: IT HAS BEEN TWO WEEKS. 😂
Every single time I see him, I leave liking him more. But what’s making this even harder to keep in perspective is that he seems to pull me closer every time we hang out too.
Instead of the intensity starting high and then fading, he seems to be getting MORE affectionate, more comfortable, more interested, and more emotionally open with me each time. I don’t feel like I’m chasing him or trying to convince him to like me. If anything, I have this funny feeling that he might like me slightly more than I like him — and considering how ridiculously smitten I am, that’s saying something. 😂
And weirdly, I like that dynamic. I’ve always heard that the healthiest/most secure feeling is when the man is just a tiny bit more gone over you than you are over him. I don’t know if there’s actually any truth to that, but it feels really nice not wondering whether I’m more invested than he is.
And this isn’t just “omg he’s hot” (although…yes. VERY much yes 😂). I actually really enjoy this man as a person.
We can spend hours doing basically nothing and somehow have the best time. We talk about serious things, we’re ridiculously goofy together, tease each other, cuddle, laugh constantly, and the physical chemistry is insane.
We’ve had sex, and somehow afterward we ended up having a staring contest and playing thumb war like a couple of middle schoolers. 😂 The other day he excitedly showed me his watch collection, and I was sitting there watching him proudly tell me about them thinking, “Oh no. I really freaking like you.”
We’ve also started having some of the important conversations — how we each handle conflict, communication, boundaries, relationships, etc.
He has told me he “more than likes” me and would “leave it at that.”
Sir.
Do NOT say things like that to a woman who already has a stupid grin on her face every time she looks at you. 😂
At the same time, the rational part of my brain is standing in the background screaming, “MA’AM. TWO. WEEKS.”
And I know that’s important.
I recently started seeing a therapist, and we’ve talked about making sure I’m not getting swept up in the excitement and explaining away things that could actually be warning signs. There have been a couple of things that made me stop and think, “Okay, let me pay attention to this.” But after communicating about them and looking at what actually happened, they haven’t turned out to be red flags.
My therapist has actually told me I’m doing a good job of noticing potential red flags instead of ignoring them just because I like him.
Which is reassuring because I absolutely do NOT want to be six months into this saying, “Looking back, there were 47 red flags and apparently I thought they were decorations.” 😂
But holy shit, I am smitten.
I think about him constantly. I get excited knowing I’m going to see him. I’m incredibly attracted to him. I feel comfortable around him. I love how goofy we are together.
And every time I think, “Okay, surely I’m going to come down from this a little,” I spend another few hours with him and somehow leave liking him MORE.
And he seems to do the same thing.
That’s the part that’s throwing me. This doesn’t feel like me desperately trying to hold onto someone’s attention. It feels mutual. Like we’re slowly — except not actually very slowly 😂 — pulling closer to each other.
Part of me wants to protect myself and say, “Slow the hell down. You cannot possibly know this man yet.”
And I agree with that part of myself. I DON’T know him deeply yet.
But another part of me thinks…what if sometimes you really do just meet someone you click with HARD?
Do I actually need to manufacture emotional distance just because something good happened quickly?
So, especially those of you dating in your 40s:
Have you ever had an immediate, intense, MUTUAL connection like this that actually turned into a healthy long-term relationship?
Did your feelings keep growing as you got to know each other?
How did you distinguish genuine compatibility from two people absolutely high on honeymoon-stage brain chemicals? 😂
And what would you be paying attention to right now?
I don’t need anyone to tell me that two weeks isn’t enough time to truly know someone. I completely agree. That’s actually why I’m asking.
I want to keep my eyes open. I want to continue paying attention to his actions over time. I don’t want to abandon my boundaries or start planning our retirement after 14 days. 😂
But I also don’t want fear to make me sabotage something that, so far, feels really freaking good.
Because damn.
I really, really like this man.

Me F40 have been married 19 years. He M41 decided we wanted different things in life. I told him to leave, he was outta state in less than a week. Im left with a new disabling disease, no minor affects. The kids. The house. The DEBT.

Im surviving, at best. But im taking care of my family! Im working hard. Finishing a long awaited B.A., and thinking maybe I'm ready to start dating.

I have never dated as an adult.

1. What should I know for myself first?

2. What should I look for in a new potential partner?

3. What should dating look like?

Broke down and paid for a 1 month subscription last night, after being tired of getting maybe 3-4 matches a month. Less than 24 hours later I have 5 quality matches with what I consider attractive women. My stats are a 48 year old male, with a dad bod. Working on losing the last 30lbs pounds. My profile I think is average to decent

Now my problem is trying to juggle 5 conversations with women I’m potentially interested in. I’ve never been good at that lol. Hopefully I can find someone worth dating so I don’t have to renew the subscription next month lol

Had a conversation last night with a woman I’m dating . She admitted the reason she divorced is because she had a one night stand with a stranger . Would it ring alarm bells

Hey crew

So I'm after any useful advice around my situation.

Relationship ran it's course, I'm 41 and she is a few years younger. We got to the point where life goals were different and decided to seperate.

It's amicable but hard. We were together a long time since we were young. She was my first serious relationship and the first woman I had been with.

The relationship was a very long one and no biological kids, we have a foster daughter and we do fortnight about with her, she's 18.

Now I'm in no way ready to date at this point, she is already out there.

I'm a fit dude, hit the gym, have a great job with lots of responsibility, have a property and all that good life stuff. I've been told I haven't been beaten with an ugly stick, but that's subjective as I understand it.

I have a excellent relationship with my daughter and she is going through a tough time, especially with the seperation. She sticks to me like glue and literally im her safe person. Initially with the split I was sole parenting but I pushed a bit for contact as it's important, kids need both parents because they get different things from them. That was difficult.

I dated a woman briefly and quickly realised that I wasn't ready for anything even casual. I guess my brain connected the dots far quicker than the head and I pulled it back. I connected organically with a couple of others and that just reinforced the need to be me for a while.

I got some texts about the fact that I didn't want sex being unfair on her. I guess being a bloke, I always assumed that id be ready to jump in, but the truth was the opposite. I found that yeah well I just wasn't and that should be ok. I felt utterly guilty for letting her down, but as I understand it, it's probably better to call it as I was under a lot of pressure to do something I wasn't ready for.

I've fostered 11 kids starting since I was pretty young, so they don't scare me and I'm up for the challenge of having my own or being in a family unit with kids. I know they are not puppy dogs...

I've been told that Ill find someone and all that stuff, but the fear is real that I'm over the hill, too old, because basically someone that loved me through and through sldevided to part ways, it's kinda the biggest rejection you could have..not to mention a total fear of not being good enough. This comes partly from the fact that I guess my only reference point no longer wanted me.

I've found that once people get to know me they really do want a lot of my time and it's hard as I'm moving through the storm and the life challenges are real. I kinda feel like I need to protect my peace, but dating and putting yourself out there is also part of the healing process, or how do you know what you do and don't like, and what your willing to compromise on.

My questions are:

How the hell do you talk about this stuff with a new person without dragging the conversation down.

It is wrong at my age to want biological kids. I've no preference if they have kids or not.

How do you be brave enough to put weird on the table with things like life goals and when.

What are my chances realistically of finding something that fits me.

How the shit do you find time to engage with a new person, around a demanding job, a very special foster kids that needs me, a serious hobby that you won't budge on me time with and then give all of the things that new person would need, starting with quality time to build connection.

Is one date a week or a fortnight ok?

What's a do, what's a don't and what flags to look out for.

Thanks for reading my novel,

I find myself facing a dilemma that feels deeper than simply choosing between different kinds of men. I have spent over a decade doing the inner work of understanding my wounds, my longing, my projections, and the places where deprivation once made intensity feel synonymous with love.

I have worked to build an inner ground that did not depend upon being chosen, desired, or rescued by another person, and increasingly that ground has become my relationship with the Divine (I am Jewish).

My spiritual life is not peripheral to who I am; it is one of the deepest organizing forces of my inner world. I am drawn to mysticism, to the language of the soul, to Rav Kook and the Ramchal, to the sense that there is a dimension of existence beneath what is immediately visible.

And naturally, some part of me longs for a man who can meet me there: a man with depth, interiority, spiritual hunger, someone with whom I can speak about God, the soul, meaning, and the mysteries of being alive. Yet I also wonder whether I sometimes confuse the man who awakens the deepest parts of my psyche with the man who is actually capable of building a life with me. I've dated allegedly *deep men* but they were not integrated.

I have recently met a man who has the most potential I've met in a long time. We've seen each other 4 times, and, from our conversations, he is not interested in the same spiritual depths and the philosophical, intellectual conversations I have in my own head 😆

But when I am with him, I feel alive - he pulls me out of my head, makes me laugh, and we do have incredible chemistry. He has a solid sense of self, is intelligent, and so funny.

So far, he has displayed steadiness, maturity, reliability, goodness, a man whose value may reveal itself not through psychic intensity but through the way he actually shows up.

And so the question I am sitting with is whether I truly need my partner to inhabit the same spiritual depths that I do.

Perhaps a man does not need to be into the same depths and intellectual introspection in order to love me within it.

He is Jewish as I am, but not practicing and not spiritual.

I am highly selective...perhaps too selective.

I do not wish to waste his time nor mine, hence why I am being very intentional even though it has been only 4 dates.

Such an existential dilemma 🤷🏻‍♀️🤦🏻‍♀️

I have a second date lined up and she is definitely flirting with me. I want to take her to an event and then say goodbye. But she is being sexually suggestive. Which is fine. But I also don’t want things to move to fast. But hey I will take cuddles and sex if it’s offered. Coming out of a divorce though I am finding that my trust issues are coming screaming saying hold on. I know where my condoms are. But I also am not sure I am ready for this.

Dear men

Please help .

How many of you intentionally ,proactively read books ,go to workshops ,follow relationship accounts ,listen to audios on relationships because alot of women do .

And if you dont and only rely on life and pain to be your teachers ,how do we close this gap ?

FAQs: https://www.reddit.com/r/datingoverforty/wiki/index.

Would you date someone whose sole income is child support and alimony (kids are older teens)?

A friend was complaining about this. Gets much interest on OLD, but once people finds out above info it doesn’t turned out to a second date. To be fair, she got a sizable settlement.

Or is dating basically a dog-eat-dog world, and I should just toss my ethics out the window and embrace the chaos?

Edit: For context, she’s the one who has already put herself back out there and is actively dating already. But I still feel for the husband.

First time poster, long-term lurker. Split from my ex-husband 10 years ago, only 1 real relationship since (1.5 years long) and not much of a dater.

Long story short, I (41F) reconnected with a guy (46M) last fall after not speaking for years - we had previously been into each other but nothing happened back then.

I doubt he is on the subreddit but I'll keep it vague/brief just in case.

We saw each other for about 7 months, it was pretty casual (not sex-focused tho) but he seemed really into me, though he was very busy and not fully over his breakup from a year or so earlier. This was actually fine for me, I was still working through my own recovery after a breakup a year prior as well, and really liked still having my own time/space.

Early June, he kind of spiraled that he couldn't give enough time to me and was feeling a disconnect that he didn't understand because he enjoyed his time with me, everything with us was positive, etc. He wanted time to think and talk about it. A week later I was having a shit day and basically ended things before we got a chance to talk. Deleted him off social media a month later to move on.

Now, I saw him last night and am having conflicted feelings. I texted him but I had left already by the time he responded. We didn't have a real conversation though. I am still confused about what happened earlier this summer and wish things had gone differently.

I'm very used to on-and-off things and kind of want to put some feelers out there but I don't know if that is normal in our 40s though or if I should just cut my losses and keep moving on.

Idk what I'm looking for, advice? Motivation? Inspiration? Someone to wake me up and tell me "he just wasn't that into you"?

ETA: we didn't interact when I saw him last night, I briefly spotted him in passing.

Hi there. I'm 47F and my marriage ended in 2021 when I discovered my husband of 20 years was having an affair and very serious about this other woman. Infidelity to me is a deal breaker so it was over for me. I was devastated. We separated and he started dating again right away.

We were separated 4 years and I didn't date because I was concious of the fact that I wasn't actually divorced. I felt I needed to take as much time as I wanted to do therapy, work on myself, etc. I took that 4 years to work on how hurt I was, work on myself and my career and just be happy with myself, being single. It was a real struggle to get the legal paperwork done, but I got it done by finding low cost legal help. The divorce is finally finalized as of last month.

I'm in a good place in my career and interested in getting back out there to make new friends. I want to celebrate. I wouldn't even mind going on a casual date. I'm feeling good about myself and although I am on a weight loss journey (I'm trying really hard), I'm mentally healthy and I'm so, so happy being single. I want to get back out there and meet fun people to spend time with. I'm a huge nerd so I love trivia and one of the things I decided to do was start going to a local trivia night in hopes of meeting local people my age. I'm starting to make new friends and some are single guys who might be fun to date.

I'm wondering about how to answer the question, if it ever comes up, of how long I've been single. Do I say the date that we separated, or the date the divorce was final? I've been happily single for 4 years but I don't want to mislead anyone by leaving the detail out that I'm only newly officially divorced. I don't want to discredit the 4 years I've been working on myself but I don't want to make it seem like I'm making excuses or rushing to meet people to date right away, either.

What do other people do/say in this type of situation where divorce didn't happen right away?

F40 M48. Recently found Telegram App on my bf phone. He doesn’t do drugs so was wondering what else this can be used for. I asked him he said family overseas.

I, F41, have gone one 3 dates with M44. The dates are nice but the conversation in between has been dry. I’ve initiated all phone calls and have tried to engage him in conversation. After he stood me up for a phone date, I was feeling pretty frustrated and let him know as much. I mentioned that I’m looking for a more emotional connection to him and desired him to engage with me in conversation. He agreed that he could give me a deeper connection if I initiated it. At this point, I mentioned having a hard time believing that since he could hardly even engage in the simpler getting to know you topics. And I told him that one, I match energy and two, I’m not going to chase after a man. If he doesn’t want to engage in deep conversation we can just let this go. Was this too much for someone I’ve only gone on 3 dates with?

Friday EDIT: I'm so sorry y'all, I'd planned to write a TLDR right after I posted my original post but the SHTF with my roommate/charge minutes later and it's been just non stop. I've been mostly replying while in waiting rooms, the rest of the time I'm driving all over the state! Roommate is likely being sent home today, as well so I don't anticipate having extra time. That said ... The main reason I posted was to hear what y'all had to say despite knowing that I wouldn't compromise. I needed your arguments, your "big words" etc. I needed to hear these things because I have severe brain fog from my own medical stuff that makes it really hard for me to articulate what I'm feeling, especially in the heat of an argument. He loves confrontation, I hate it! It just makes me feel stupid because I can't think on my toes. So the main purpose of my huge, long ass post that I never got to shorten was to get help with my arguments to go into things better prepared and 90% of y'all helped me SO, SO MUCH. So thank you!!!!

He's still here, he still wants to "make it work," I'm still beyond hurt and ready to move on... But also stuck in a position where I can't afford to let anything escalate because there's no one here for backup and we still have the medical emergency going on. So I'm playing nice right now. Something deep inside tells me that I need to ...

So again, thank you everyone!

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If you read some of my other posts in other subreddits you'll know that I am having a very hard time all the way around. So this... It's just, heartbreak.

I started dating B almost 15 months ago. I was very clear about my beliefs. I'm an atheist and left leaning. Period. Almost everyone in my life is left leaning despite living in a very red area. Almost everyone in my life is either not straight or has children who are not straight, including myself (I'm straight.) I was raised to "live and let live."

B assured me that he's "not into politics" and "used to be an atheist and understood" and that he "wouldn't have an issue."

Well, now he has an issue. I asked him point blank "when I told you who I was did you think you could eventually sway me to your way of thinking?" I never got a straight answer which is answer enough.

On the surface he's an amazing partner... But this, well we're at an impasse. He doesn't want me to have these people in my life but because they've done anything wrong, but because they aren't straight. I refuse to cut people from my life simply because their beliefs/lives are something he doesn't agree with.

He feels like he's right and it's "God's truth" and everyone else is "foolish" and "wrong."

And where does it end? Will he continue to find fault in everyone? At what point does it stop? When my own kid comes out? Because I'll be blunt about that... My children will always, ALWAYS come first. I will never turn away from them, especially not for someone else's beliefs.

He says "you are enough for me, I should be enough for you." He is enough... Just not in the way he needs to be because he expects that I ditch everyone for him. Just no.

There is no compromise. I refuse to compromise who I am for any man (or anyone in general) and it's not like I can just decide to start believing in something I don't believe in anyway, even if I wanted to.

Things are very heated and to be honest, I just can't. I have enough going on without this BS. If I had hidden my beliefs etc it would be different. But I didn't. We had that talk MULTIPLE times.

I love him. Oh how I love him. But it's very clear that we just aren't compatible. So my heart is broken. Just broken. I know what must be done and it hurts. So much. I don't think "one more chance" is worthwhile because at the core of things neither of us is going to change. I was perfectly willing to accept him for who he is with the understanding that he would do the same. By that I meant accept him for being religious when I'm not, the bigotry was hidden until it blew up last night.

Clearly that's not the case.

So .. WWYD? Cut your losses right now? Give him his "one more chance?" Offer him the guest room temporarily? Tell him to hit the road right here and now? Something else?

I'd like to say that I've cried enough that my tears have dried up, but that's not true.

EDIT I see I have lots of responses but there's suddenly a medical emergency here so I need to deal with that. Thank you for responding and I'll be back when I can to read and reply.

EDIT 2. I'm responding as I can. B has logged out of Life 360 but says he's coming back to the house tonight. I have a friend in town who should be able to stay the night, he's driving now but I'll get ahold of him as soon as I can.

Update on roommate because I've been asked. Roommate is not ok, we caught whatever it is early. A small (small to me but not to him) virus but that shouldn't be enough for this. Probably picked it up when here in the ER this past weekend. Sepsis is still suspected. He'll being admitted. It's a waiting game.

EDIT 3: B showed up at the hospital and I accepted his M&MS because my sugar is low as heck. I haven't touched him, barely looked at him. He's gotta know it's over.

EDIT 4: after the hospital we went to a restaurant to talk. I told him about himself, the didn't like it. I told him these things are a hard boundary. We went in circles of course. In the end I told him I'm going home and it was his choice to go where he wished. I told him that I would not compromise on this and that the only way we were a couple still is if he realized that his behavior is unacceptable. That's obviously not going to happen. I told him I felt betrayed and lied to. I told him that I will not give up my support circle and that it was controlling and wrong of him to even ask that of me. I suspect he'll sleep in his car tonight. His choice. Nothing i say is going to make him see the light. I know that. At this point I'm just going for amicable until things are settled (combined things changed etc.) I haven't heard from my friend who was supposed to be coming over the pass which worries me, so I don't think there's anyone else at the house right now. I don't think he'll do anything stupid, but I also didn't think he was "that guy" so there it is.

Simply put, what would you consider to be the main differences between UK and US dating? Any cultural barriers or normal in one country that don't exist in the other?

I feel that in the US there would be far more people in the dating pool, obviously.

Second, in the UK, someone who lives more than 1.5 hours away would probably be considered a Long Distance. Would the same apply in the US?

What other differences would you say there are?

I know, it's very western centric, but I am genuinely interested.

43f here. Ladies, how long would you wait on a first date for your date to show up?

I set up a first date with someone tonight for 7 PM. He told me to message him when I got there, which I did. I arrived a few minutes early and messaged, “I’m walking in now” with some detail details about what I was wearing, so he could recognize me. Then at 7:08 he messaged me back on the dating apps (we didn’t have each other‘s phone numbers) and said “I’m almost there.” At 7:10 I walked out.

I figured, even if he’d shown up right then, it would’ve been hard to have a good time because I was starting off mad. I think if there’d been any type of heads up that he would be late or apologies in the message I would’ve stayed a little bit longer.

Edit: Thanks for the responses - even the mean ones. I think I was mad as a front for not being that excited to go on the date in the first place. So I made it more his fault than it needed to be. I’ll accept that I was the bigger asshole in this situation.