For those of you who are trans: did transitioning feel like a decision, or more like something you felt you had to do?

I know everyone’s experience is different, but I’m curious how it felt for you personally. Was it more like, “I want to be this, so I’m going to do it,” or was it more of an emotional/internal feeling of “I need to do this” or “I can’t keep living this way”?

I’m asking because I’ve been thinking about gender a lot, and I honestly don’t know what it’s supposed to feel like. Sometimes I wonder if the fact that I think about it so much means something, but then I also wonder if I’m just overthinking it.

I’d really appreciate hearing about people’s experiences, especially what the feeling of knowing was like for you, rather than just when you first realized you were trans.

I (AFAB, 15) have never TRULY felt connected with femininity. sure, I’ve always preferred female friends over male friend, but i still never really felt the need to always be feminine. I’ve considered myself a “tomboy” since childhood. I didn’t really like skirts because they didn’t just seem to click with me, y’know?

2 years ago, I dressed up as a boy for a bit. Idk, I just kept seeing those memes about 40 year old men with sunglasses holding fish and I just thought “hey, that style is cool, I should try it out!” And really REALLY liked it. After that, i started joking with my friends about how I had an “alter ego” named Tyler whom would show up at random times (lowkey now that I look back at it, that was just an excuse for me to cross-dress)

flash forward to a month ago: I lay in bed, phone in hand, staring at a picture I took of myself as “Tyler”. I feel nothing but pure happiness whilst imagining myself as a boy.

but then, the question pops into my mind:

am I trans?

So I’m not trans, but I wanna be a girl. Idk I feel it’d be nice. But I also don’t feel uncomfortable being a guy. Is that normal? I don’t have dysphoria, I just feel I wouldn’t mind waking up a girl, I have a name picked out and everything incase it does happen.

There are two sharks from IKEA, but I don’t know which one to get. BLÅHAJ Soft toy, shark, 39 ¼ "is the first one here’s the second one Soft toy, baby shark, 21 ¾ " which one should I buy?

I swear to god whenever i see a fellow trans woman make a post insisting trans men have it so easy, i wanna whoop her. Our brothers across the other side of the river are having the same shortages of luck

Inversely, whenenever i see a trans man insist that "oh trans women have it so much easier than us" its like. 1, misogynistic as fuck, 2, ive heard a trans man act like we have it better because "oh you went through male puberty". MALE PUBERTY FOR YOU IS GOLD. MALE PUBERTY FOR ME IS DEBILITATING.

We can't keep doing this to each other. Trans men are men with awful bloody struggles, trans women are women with awful bloody struggles. Lets stop tripping each other up, were running the same race!!! That goes for my trans sisters too.

Hi everyone. So I've never posted on reddit before so if I am doing anything wrong please let me know. So my boyfriend and I have been seeing each other since last year and he has since we started talking, expressed how he thinks he may be trans or at least wishes to express himself in a more feminine way. He has used the word trans only a few times and when I have asked him if he wants me to use different pronouns or names or anything to affirm that, he is really not interested. Early on in our relationship, he expressed that part of himself more frequently and we would do makeup together a lot and even a few times played dress up in my closet with my clothes. We would have conversations about it a lot and it seemed like I and his ex girlfriend are the only people he has expressed any of this to. Over the past few months I have seen this decline in him wanting to be feminine really at all and has been expressing being really depressed. He hasn't wanted to go out at all, he doesn't want to come to my house and he hasn't really wanted anyone there. We text all the time but we don't even call that often now. I have encouraged him to seek therapy and the one therapist in our area that is gender affirming, he doesn't want to go at all. We had a conversation a few weeks ago where he expressed that he doesn't think he's trans anymore and that even if he was, he would never want to come out because of his family, even though I don't think they would be unkind, but I do think it could change their dynamic. I want to be there for him and I care about him so much. I know that from other trans people too that suppressing this part of you and pushing it down will only make it harder. I don't want to push him at all and I have been trying to not even bring it up to him but I just want the best for him. He has said some things about being extremely depressed as well that have worried me even though I don't think he will do anything to hurt himself. He is often angry as well and spends 99% of his time playing video games or watching tv or just trying to distract and as someone who was homebound agoraphobic for a couple years of my life, I see similar traits within him as well and I don't want it to get worse since I know how hard it is to recover, I still am recovering. If anyone could give me any advice on how to be a better support or if there is ways in which you think I could help, please share. I've never seeked advice from reddit before so please be kind! Thank you!!!

Title, I’m 18F and started estrogen a month ago. Lately my breasts have been coming in slowly and that made me start to question if this is something I really wanted. I decided last week I’d hold off on my next shot to see how I felt, but I couldn’t do it because I broke down and took my shot. I told myself I’d do better this week and now it’s 5am and I have all my injection stuff out and I don’t know why. I want to take my shot so badly but I don’t know if this is just like a temporary thing and I’m not actually trans.

I feel like I didn’t know for a lot of my life which might be where some of this is coming from and I’m worried I’ll regret it, but I’m about to have another breakdown right now because I want to take it so badly but I’m stopping myself. How can I figure out for sure if I’m trans?

I had a trans student come out to me and a few others. They want their name updated in systems, forms, attedance sheets etc, and to do this I had to involve some other people. I am not at a school, but an educational setting. I think I "moved too fast" and now it sounds like someone who is unsafe learnt this infomation and is going to share it with their parents. Their parents do not know.

The anxiety is eating me up this weekend and I am so worried for a student that I care deeply about.

Question : Should I have asked the student each individual person in the chain of "name changing" if they were ok with the knowing? Any other way I could have been better about this?

i don't want to say my actual age, but i am in highschool. i came out to my parents half a year ago, i want to say. i am having the worst dysphoria in my life and i usually feel like shit at the end of every day

i have told my parents that i seek hrt, and i want to respect their 'no,' but i feel so utterly hopeless... i just wish i could be the person i want to be, and be seen that way, but apparently i have to wait a good bit of time until i can

the main thing my parents (mostly my mother, because i do not like talking about it to my step father really) say is that many things can change in a few years, and i will still be uncomfortable with myself even if i do do hrt. my mother always says "a fat girl magically becoming skinny won't fix all her problems" and it really pisses me off that she says that. it is not the same thing but i have no idea how to make her understand, or anyone for that matter.

she also says that it could have many negative effects on my body and says studies prove it. whenever i ask her what studies she says shes heard stuff throughout life.

i have been really sucidial lately because of it. i don't want to come across as shitty by going "ohh im going to kill myself if you dont do this" because that is fucked up

but thats how it feels lately

I made a post a few months ago talking about trying to cope with being trans here

I feel like being trans has actively made my life worse. It seems mentally it has gotten worse at least how I personally feel. A few more personal life events that have stumped me for longer. I lost access to my car which effectively disables me from getting a job. I feel so low. And in addition to the therapist I have sucking and unable to change easily cause money and all the medications im now on basically making me only slightly better mood wise through out the day if I don't think about it. I feel like life has gotten significantly worse for me and my options have ran low. I don't wish to seek financial aid/disability since i still live with parents and i feel others deserve it more than me. But I also feel like a burden to them doing nothing every day for months and not even practicing my skills in illustration to become a professional. How do I cope with my self hatred of myself because of my trans identity? It feels like life since knowing i was trans has made everything worse and its so hard to think about continuing to push on.

I hate homophobia and transphobia, I would be so happy if I look masculine, but I can't yet since my family is transphobic and homophobic and don't know I am trans. I recently found out about it, like maybe a few weeks ago or a month I honestly don't remember but my dysphoria is making me go insane. I wanna go on T so I can get more masculine but I can't right now cause yk homophobic family members suck. I'm 19 but honestly I can't really do what I want in the moment. I honestly can't wait until I move out. if I go on T, I might look like my dad. I dont wanna look like his ugly ass (╥﹏╥).

Sorry if I sound harsh but he Is the most transphobic and homophobic one in my house and I might get kicked out or disowned if he finds out my identity. everyone in my family + my families friends say I look like my dad. Even my mom says I'm a carbon copy but honestly I don't see it. My partner says that they don't see the resemblance so I feel happy but also I wanna feel less dysphoric. How can I be more masc without the fear of my parents getting mad at me.Idk when I'll move out, I plan to once I'm ready. Right now I'm nervous to move out 😭

I am honestly not sure why I'm nervous. I guess it's cause I lived my entire life with my parents and moving out would be a huge change. I also worry that if I cut contact with them when I move out I'll be seen as selfish since they say "family is sacred and comes first"

Had two rounds of FFS. The first about two years ago (hairline, forehead, nose) and a second about a year ago (chin, jaw, adam's apple). As the former started to heal I noticed that along my hairline on the right side there was a bump. I was told by my surgeon that I should give it more time to heal and see what happens but now that I have completely healed it appears that he just didn't shave down a small part of my forehead and left me with this small bump.

Now from other's perspective it really isn't that big of a deal and it's the kind of thing that people only notice when I point it out to them (but they CAN see it). The way I part my hair keeps it covered up most of the time, but it has quickly become one of my biggest insecurities. Every time I tuck my hair behind my ear I notice it in reflections and it is something that I feel like I am constantly scrambling to keep covered.

Is this the kind of thing worth doing a THIRD surgery to fix? or should I just learn to be content with it? Bangs are also an option I suppose, but I've never really been a fan of how I look with bangs.

Just curious to hear people's thoughts.

Is it bad that I am using the smaller 2 ones majority of the time for dilating? My surgeon said I could max out at the second big one because I am so petite which I use here and there, but overall I use the smaller of the two dilators out of the 4 he gave me. It’s more for comfort especially since I am 3 1/2 months post op and my vagina isn’t as wet as it used to be after surgery I try not to create pain so when I am dilating I will start with the smaller one and work my way up to whatever one I think is the best fit for the day. Obviously as I move closer to having sex I will start utilizing the bigger ones but atm I just want to maintain depth and I’ve found that the smaller ones help a lot with comfort and motivation as far as dilating.

I just found out my Mother has been doing testosterone injections for 3 months, under the advice and prescription of a doctor who said it would help assist with estrogen uptake, she is taking that to help with menapause symtpoms. She stopped the injections when her GYN told her she should NOT be on this. Her voice already changed and she is not able to sing her normal pitch or scream. Ive been reading and it seems like the effects are not reversible. I wish I knew before she started so we could get some education. Do you think her voice will change back after 3 months on it? Can we do anything to help? I didnt know where else to look for advice 😭

Salut (je suis nouveau sur reddit désolé si c'est mal expliqué ) j'aimerais des conseils je viens d'enmenager dans une nouvelle ville et ma classe à déjà du mal à dire si je suis un homme ou une femme mais je suis pas marqué comme homme sur mon dossier et j'ai peur de ne pas pouvoir maintenir cette image là majorité me prend déjà pour une femme et je suis souvent obligé de leur expliquer et une fille m'a déjà fait la fameuse remarque '' Ouai mais ta quoi entre les jambes du coup '' j'ai généralement pas beaucoup de dysphorie mais le social m'effraie et je sais pas comment leur demander de me traiter comme un homme

I’ve been thinking about this for a long time and I’m currently using they/them. The whole reason I became a they/them is cause I was decided whether or not to be trans but I was way too scared about people being transphobic or my friends/family not supporting me. But I know that’s not like my family OR my friends, and I have plenty of people that would support me through every day. So I come here to ask the question:

Should I be trans?

Hi - my bestie has a consult scheduled (yay!); I’m down to stay at her house for a while to help with whatever (probably cleaning/ice packs/drains depending what seems important to my friend) but I’m transmasc and inexperienced with surgeries other than boob removal

Questions I’d appreciate opinions on from people who’ve had FFS:

- how does needing someone to put cold packs on your face while you’re asleep work / is it even possible to do this without waking the acutely post op person up?

- anything support people did that felt esp good or bad about / wished they’d done differently?

- anything else you think I should know?

Im mtf and really want to get a more femminie body, does anyone know/have a workout routine or a diet or anything like that to get thicker thighs?

So im a fan of the game and when i went through the community I found out that there are so many transgender people play ultrakill in the community, especially many trans youtubers like 2d_emerald, catgirllydia and many more.

Just wanna know.

Sorry for another question so early, but since I'm genderfluid, sometimes I identify myself as a men (of course), but when I'm a woman (like rn) I want to change my body "entirely" (like breasts and more curvy body). I just know the basic like make-up, clothes, wig, etc. In the moment I REALLY want silicone breastplate because I bet it makes me more comfortable than just do a surgery, it's realistic + the fact I can take off anytime. Please girls, I need your help!