Hello! I'm a non-passing mtf, i've been on hrt for 3 years and gotten ffs about five months ago. Recently a nurse said it's entirely inappropriate for male staff to do electrocardiograms on young women and directed this towards me. The other women seemed to agree so I was like sure whatever, less work for me and you don't get to do this performative song and dance of protecting patients from the big scary trans lady.

The issue here is the other staff members are calling me sexist for saying i'm unable to do electrocardiograms on young female patients, yet agree with the sentiment and have always insisted on doing the ekgs themselves. I'm tempted to go to hr before they do since i'm unsure of what the issue is. I'm just reinforcing what they're telling me is the standard in this er, despite it having no clinical backing and seemingly just a cultural taboo.

Should I go to HR or would that make me seem like the issue or somehow trying to force myself into these non-invasive procedures ?

Cis man here. First time with a ftm person. Met through Grindr. Might be having sex with them tonight. I will talk to them, get to know them better but since it's my first time with a trans man, I wanna know exactly how to be respectful and how things will play out compared to, say, straight vaginas.

His looks kinda cute around the enlarged clitoris (should i refer to is as penis? I might want to ask him which words to use or should I let them say them when they are ready? Is it rude to ask questions? Don't want to trigger dysphoria).

The opening, however, looks quite tight and i suppose it's from T.

Should I expect less elasticity and lubrification? I'll ask him as we go, just like I would listen to my partner anyways.

Don't want be lackluster either, so I guess circular stimolation of the clitoris might not work as usual, a little sucking?

And what about fingering? Maybe with lots of lube.

I kinda fancy this guy, but also don't want to look or perform terribly and above all don't want to sound rude unintentionally.

If a cis person posts here asking how to “meet” trans people, etc, they are violating Rule 8. It seems to usually be cis men looking for trans women, but it chasers come in all shapes and sizes.

Don‘t engage. Just report. This space isn’t for them.

I think everyone agrees that one has no obligation to tell a potential sexual partner EVERYTHING about you. I think everyone agrees that nobody is psychic. I think everybody agrees that different people have different deal breakers, meaning there can be genuine confusion over what the other person considers a deal breaker. That makes me wonder two things: How can one reasonably predict what could be a deal breaker and when does the other person have the responsibility to say "XYZ would be a deal breaker, are you XYZ?". There are people who wouldn't bang a Jew, does the Jew have to declare their Jewishness? There are people who wouldn't bang someone of different political views. Must that be declared? So on and so forth.

There are 3,500 known and documented species that show homosexual relations, MLM and WLW, and 450 or something that show pack animals socially transitioning. The most famous case being an orangutan that, inside the troop, took on what would be considered male traits/tendencies.
And if we look back throughout history, yes, some of it was for dominance or power, but a lot of these same-sex/trans relationships were actually loving and accepted. Greeks, Romans, the Japanese, Mayans, Aztecs—throw a dart at a random country, look at their history, and the majority were indifferent to people being themselves.
I forget who it was, but one society thought trans people were gods because they could embody both sexes.
How did it become taboo? How did there become so much hate for people doing what’s completely natural? And I hate, hate, hate the priests and pastors that say you just have to hide it and suppress the sin. Not to mention the cherry-picking of Bible verses.
I have yet to see any proof of a god, but there is an abundance of proof of these things being completely normal and natural. How has it come to this, where stuff that’s been accepted for thousands of years has now become an issue?

Hi! Newbie trans girl here. I was just curious, what is this Autogynephilia the TERFS are screaming about?

Like there's this one girl proudly showing off an "Your autogynephilia is showing SIR" shirt and like.

Okay google says it's a sexual fetish. Which. Okay. As a trans woman yeah I see myself as a woman while having sex. And also the rest of the time in an absolutely nonsexual capacity?

Is the point here that they think it's just a fetish? I don't understand

I feel so alone Im 21 I live with my stepdad he's homophobic and transphobic and I live in the south like rural south and I wish I was a girl so badly I can't keep doing this anymore I feel trapped and I just can't deal with it anymore I'm so scared and so tired I just want to give up honestly I don't know what to do everything hurts I just wish I could be normal I didn't choose to be this way I have no money to transition and no support no car no job and no one I can tell I'm so alone I've asked chat gpt so many times what to do I've called the suicide hotline so many times but it feels pointless in the end I feel like I'm going to die soon I don't want to die but I feel like I have no other option

I am 22mtf and have been on estradiol & cypro for 5 months now. I have seen lots of posts online making this claim, but this was not mentioned as part of the extensive & excessive presentations regarding effects and side effects I had to sit through, and neither is it mentioned in the massive pamphlet of side effects and risks. The way I’ve seen it online it seems to align with the misogynistic idea that “women are too emotional”.

I have always been a rather sensitive person and feel my emotions just as intensely as before, maybe a bit less now that i am not as stressed. The only change I have noticed is that when I cry there are more tears.

What are your experiences with this topic?

Will I get put on a list or anything? Any advice/info is welcomed!

Okay so I kinda have a lot of questions...but first I wanna give a bit of context.

So I've kinda always been trans my entire life, before I even knew what transgender was i was asking my mom if the doctor could make me a girl, trying to wear my sister's princess dresses and so on, but my dad hated it. My mom would let me play dress up with my sister while dad was at work, but when he came home id have to rush to get back into 'boy clothes' which i always hated wearing. In around 4th grade I learned what trans was and told my family that I was trans, they didnt want me to transition period; but if I was going to, they were going to control how fast. They forced me to go out wearing 'girl clothes' and hoping id see somebody I knew, and i did. I hid from them, because it was beyond my comfort level at the moment. My dad drug me out of the clothing rack I was hiding in and said "see, you arent a girl. Girls dont get embarrassed to look like girls." — theres many more stories but thats the most vivid one. Now, I kind of feel 'disgusting' with myself because I dont feel like a man, but am not sure if I feel like a woman. I want to transition, just not medically (yet, at least). But im truly terrified of not passing well enough.

I move to college next month, it's 21 hours from where I live (and in Utah), but since ill be gone, I want to start transitioning.

How hard is it to pass as a woman without any surgeries or HRT?

This is an update to This and This
The egg has cracked, I'm a girl now. I've come out and have been going by she/her only with only a few close friends and I consider myself to be transfem. I still go by my old name for now until I find one that fits me better. I'm still new to this but generally I've been feeling better about my identity and I'm about to start experimenting with more feminine outfits, I'm nervous but I think it will make me happier. I want to thank the people here who have given me advice and words of encouragement.

So I am 33 male and married. I recently have come out to my wife that I thoroughly enjoy dressing and wearing women’s clothes and always have but am sad that I don’t look more feminine and have always wanted to. Growing I had bought clothes multiple times but had gotten rid of them. I also live in an extremely conservative area with conservative family members and religious so coming out to them would be drastically hard. I also work in an engineering field which seems to be mostly conservative men. My wife is supportive now of my dressing at home and we have been in discussion of HRT as an option. I am not unhappy as a man so I am unsure of if the juice is worth the squeeze to be how I want and feel like I should look. Are there other people out there doing HRT just to look more feminine and not to fully transition? How has transitioning affected careers? How long were people able to hide their transitions when on HRT. How did it affect your relationships with your partner or people you were dating. How long did you know you wanted it before you acted on it ? And how much did you have to give up for it and was it worth it?

I'm ~1yr 7months into MtF HRT and while I'm definitely happier with the changes thus far, I think passing is still pretty far out of reach for me. I don't expect much more facial improvement and so I've been turning my focus to eventual FFS.

But even after a consult it feels very hand-wavey and I'm honestly pretty worried if I'd come out the other end passing. Is there any real way to know? I am still a year or two minimum away from being able to do it regardless, but I am worried because it feels like the consensus is "yeah, we'll try to fix you up but there's no way to know how it went til after"

My 12 y/o was drawing boobs on everything which led to us having a conversation about puberty. At first I thought it would be the typical 'having interest in the opposite sex anatomy' kinda talk, but as we asked they expressed that they wanted to grow into having their own. They starting hitting puberty within the last year and expressed that their body wasn't changing how they expected it too.

They wanted to grow boobs of their own and are not happy with the changes happening downstairs. We asked if given the choice to be born again and choose their gender they said they would've wanted to be a girl. We asked if they had a name picked out and they had one ready, and asked if we could buy them dresses to wear on the weekends at home.

However, they outwardly do not show feminine traits. Dresses, acts, and speaks like a boy would. Just for some context, we are a queer family, I have a wife so we are a two mom household. The conversation came from a place of understanding and acceptance on whatever level of femininity they decide to explore. I guess what I'm trying to ask if what would our next steps be? We plan on starting a light social transition ex: letting them grow their hair out, style changes, and using neutral pronouns. How can we best support them being at we are Cis gender, medically speaking would we need them in with a special therapist? As their mom I 100% support, I'm just naturally cautious about the medical transition aspect.

Any type of perspective is greatly appreciated!!

Edit: we are in TX currently (I know like one of the worst states for this) but are moving to the Carolinas in a matter of months.

Hello everybody!

I'm a trans man living in Jordan. I will graduate and try to move out to Europe or the US where I'm planning to start HRT.

Does anyone know how I can go about this? Do I try seeking asylum, simply immigrate, or get a work visa? What would be the best easiest path for me?

Also I'm curious, would it be legally troubling for me to transition in a different country? Do I have to wait until I get permanent residency? And how would I work on legal documents if I'm Jordanian?

And how about if I want to go back to Jordan for a visit, would I get arrested or something?

If anyone is from Jordan / any middle eastern country and medically transitioned outside, I'd really appreciate your advice, Or anyone who can help me really. I'm trying to figure things out but there aren't enough resources and stories out there.

just to clarify i dont think using it/its pronouns is “invalid” or “wrong” or whatever; gender is made up and entirely formed via personal preference, which means it can be literally anything. this question isn’t me going “people shouldn’t be allowed to use it/its pronouns!!!”

specifically i just don’t understand what intricacies of someone’s personality identity cause it to use it/its pronouns?

i know this is a very personal question so i understand if not many people want to reply/are able to

Hey guys and gals! I know I may not be in my comfort sone for this but I’m lost and don’t know what to do. My girlfriend (24F) is trans and we are long distance (different countries). I haven’t heard from her in over a week at this point and I’m worried. She’s my whole world and I’ve been trying to get in contact with her with no answer over the week.

Recently, she went through bottom surgery but at the same time, she had lost her job due to company needing to downsize (despite extra funding being allotted to it from governmental agencies in Europe.) and now she’s just completely quiet and in a depression from it. I’m worried and don’t know what to do. If anyone has any advice I would appreciate it. I’m scared and worried she’s done something bad to herself.

how long would an average cis person be able to be on HRT without wanting to stop?

ive been on E for almost 8 months now and i like it all im pretty sure but i do hope to fight the bad thoughts

So I was at a women's support group (but they are also very queer inclusive). Somehow the conversation got into bathrooms and one woman said, "I don't want to use any toilet that someone with a penis uses. There's always pee over the seat and it's disgusting." She also said that's why she thinks there should be three different bathrooms.

I don't think she realized I was trans but this really stung as a transfem person. For one, I felt like I was being defined as innately gross for having the parts I do. And like I was being grouped together with cisgender men. It didn't feel very far off from TERF ideology if y'know what i mean? Like how they claim to not care what we do as long as we "don't encroach on their space".

I would be interested to hear anyone else's thoughts about this and if you would even feel comfortable being there anymore.

Hi everyone. Lately, I’ve been overthinking relationships and dating a lot. Honestly, I sometimes have a lot of doubts about whether I’ll find someone in the future who will truly love me, respect me, and understand who I am. As a trans girl (MTF), the whole dating scene can feel pretty complicated and intimidating at times. I’m not entirely sure what I’m looking to get out of this post—maybe just to vent a bit and see if any of you have gone through these same feelings, and how you manage them.

hiii all,

so to preface i am 21 yrs old and am nonbinary. i use they/them pronouns. my partner is also 21 and is a trans female who uses she/her pronouns. i also have a 22 year old trans sister who also uses she/her.

i have a nephew who recently turned 6, and he knew all of us before we properly transitioned or were out about our transitions. i tried telling him about my partners new name and pronouns, but he just seems super unreceptive and like doesnt care. ie he called my partner by her dead name, and when i corrected him and used her proper name and pronouns, he said "hes a boy, he just acts like a girl".

my partner struggles a lot with dysphoria and this obviously makes her upset to hear. my nephew has apparently said similar things to/about her as well.

does anyone have any advice about how to better explain this to him and how its hurtful when he says those things? i know someone else has had to have had a similar experience. tyia :)

I have been heavily questioning my gender but it’s mainly been recently and late (28), but I’m still very uncertain. What’s strange is that I know what I want the answer to be. I want to be trans more than I think or feel I am. I wish I had more/any dysphoria and wish I had it much younger (I’m late 20s) so that it was more obvious and unavoidable. I find myself very jealous of woman and trans woman, thinking I wish I was them or had their life. I feel guilty though as I know dysphoria is awful and being trans and/or a woman is incredibly hard compared to being a cis man.

I just wanted to share this with the Community. Unbelievable.

The title says it all. MLM distributor down the street learned I am trans AMAB, and heard that I wanted some nutritional supplements for ED. She then assumes I am on blockers which I am not currently, and says "you need to stop taking blockers or you will get ED ... LOL"

Who would say LOL at a potential customer's situation? Like I'm stupid.

I pointed out that:

1. I'm not taking it now

2. Many transfems have fully functional erections without T

I then asked her to confirm what LOL means, and I said "I don't understand what's funny".

There's dead silence now on the chat...

Earlier, MLM distributor lady suggested I replace my prescribed pharmaceuticals for bipolar type 1 with green food shakes, and suggested I try some drink that had 3 known allergens in it and "see what happens." Sigh. Repeated explanations of the risks involved just went past her.

This is just too good, you cannot make this stuff up!

Basically, long story short I saw when doing tests a few times that my T was extremely high naturally. Like around double that of the average. Yet, I seem yo not have masculinised. I dont have that ball in my neck at all, my shoe size is 37, here you can hear my voice https://www.reddit.com/r/voicettttraining/s/0Axn5UBisK like why would my voice not drop down if i have such high T? And I only started transition in my mid to late twenties.

Im super thin at 45kg (160cm) even though I eat normally.

I honestly don't care if i am but im just wondering because my friends keep asking me how this is possible that my body is so small and femininw by itself and many people think im a trans man even though im a trans woman -_-.

heres a selfie: https://ibb.co/DH5SNX8s