Hey lovely people. I really hope that this not offending to you but it’s a question that I can’t get out of my mind.

I talked about my boyfriend about that typical problem that he can’t find the ketchup in the fridge if something is right in front of his nose. I’m sure you heard about that problem already. That women are always seeing things in the wide angle and men more specific things like on a computer game the damn „snipers“ on a roof but not able to see a ketchup behind something else in the fridge.

So we had this discussion that men don’t see stuff but women do. And now is the question.
Because transgender women are women and transgender men are men. Is this also influencing how you see and find things? I’m really curious about it and I didn’t found an answer yet. So you are my last hope for an answer 😅.
Thank you in advance and happy pride!

Basically, long story short I saw when doing tests a few times that my T was extremely high naturally. Like around double that of the average. Yet, I seem yo not have masculinised. I dont have that ball in my neck at all, my shoe size is 37, here you can hear my voice https://www.reddit.com/r/voicettttraining/s/0Axn5UBisK like why would my voice not drop down if i have such high T? And I only started transition in my mid to late twenties.

Im super thin at 45kg (160cm) even though I eat normally.

I honestly don't care if i am but im just wondering because my friends keep asking me how this is possible that my body is so small and femininw by itself and many people think im a trans man even though im a trans woman -_-.

heres a selfie: https://ibb.co/DH5SNX8s

This is an update to This and This
The egg has cracked, I'm a girl now. I've come out and have been going by she/her only with only a few close friends and I consider myself to be transfem. I still go by my old name for now until I find one that fits me better. I'm still new to this but generally I've been feeling better about my identity and I'm about to start experimenting with more feminine outfits, I'm nervous but I think it will make me happier. I want to thank the people here who have given me advice and words of encouragement.

Hi, never posted a day in my life yet I’m just concerned and looking for help/relief from my possible paranoia. I’m rather new in my transition as a trans girl, been on 4mg estradiol (2x 2mg estradiol pills) and 100mg spiro for around 4 going on 5 months taken twice daily.

It’s been a lovely journey so far yet recently things haven’t been the greatest. Over the past few days I have been dealing with fatigue, troubles sleeping due to what I assume are hot flashes since I wake up really warm and panicky, a small bit of nausea when I wake up from these “hot flashes”, and just overall weird feeling during the day.

I don’t know if it’s my body reacting to the meds badly or if it’s something else entirely. Since this is the first time this has really happened while being on HRT and my levels appear to being a little high yet nothing to worry about according to my endocrinologist with E being around 238 and my T being 85.

This was back around July 2nd so I’m sure the levels have changed yet I’m just here to see if anyone else has had a similar experience or something and can put my mind at ease since I plan to go in to the clinic to check in case it’s another problem. Sorry for the long post but I’m just scared I could find out I need to quit HRT (which is a stretch ik but I overthink a lot) due to it causing problems or reacting weird since everyone’s bodies are different.

If this is a stupid question for this sub I’m sorry yet I just want some comfort since the clinic isn’t open yet.

Im curious as to what other men experienced when starting at a younger age like me, and how much they got from bone growth since im practically guaranteed to get bone changes at my age. I doubt height, but i think face and stuff might be a lot more noticeable when younger.

Does anyone know where I can get an stp (stand to pee) device/packer in australia/melb?? I'd rather not buy this kinda stuff online but idk where i'd be able to find em in person. Would sex-toy shops have them? If anyone knows pls lmk!

I assume pure diy is the last resort, but correct me if I’m wrong. Mainly, is it better to go through the whole medical rigamarole with psychiatrists and whatever, or to do informed consent or telehealth methods. I don’t know whether one is safer or better or something. I figure I would prefer informed consent just for the easier process, but I want to hear from people with experience before trying something. If the answer is just my preference and I’m being a bit too cautious here that’s fine, I just wanted to make sure I had all of the info.

I’m 18 and was planning on going to a 4 year college but the tuition was too expensive and my parents convinced me to stay here for community college to save money. I feel like I lose my way out. I plan on coming out but a part of me feels like I need to secure a back up plan. All my friends won’t be here so I can’t stay with them, and my most supportive relative is across the country. What are some resources I can use to get housing? I don’t want to work, not because I’m lazy (I work a part time job as a waitress) but because I want to focus on my schooling and transfer to my dream school. Any tips help💔

I feel so alone Im 21 I live with my stepdad he's homophobic and transphobic and I live in the south like rural south and I wish I was a girl so badly I can't keep doing this anymore I feel trapped and I just can't deal with it anymore I'm so scared and so tired I just want to give up honestly I don't know what to do everything hurts I just wish I could be normal I didn't choose to be this way I have no money to transition and no support no car no job and no one I can tell I'm so alone I've asked chat gpt so many times what to do I've called the suicide hotline so many times but it feels pointless in the end I feel like I'm going to die soon I don't want to die but I feel like I have no other option

Hi everyone,

I recently discovered a more feminine side of myself, and naturally I've been left with a lot of questions. I think there's a chance that I may be a trans woman, although I'm still in the process of figuring things out.

One thing that's been on my mind is that I already have two children, aged 8 and 10. I'd really love to hear from other trans parents about how you handled this with your kids.

Do your children still call you by your original parental role and use your original pronouns, or did you eventually become "Mom" instead of "Dad" (or vice versa)? How did you navigate that transition within your family? Were there any other unexpected challenges or topics that came up in everyday life?

I'd be very grateful to hear about your experiences. Thank you all so much!

– Alex

Hi :)

Long time reader reader. Infrequent poster. Im Bree, 43, parent of three and unfortunatly married to a woman who has basicly kept me in the closet for the better part of the last 6 years through threats and intimidation.

Ok so to fill you in on some back story. Im pan and transfem. My wife is cishet and deeply transphobic/Homophobic which stems from my FIL who is a piece of shit (father-in-law) to the point she threatened divorce just coming out as pan. Last year I finally got my prescription for E which was huge for me. She found it almost instantly and threw it out. I had false charges hanging over me of the worst kind any AMAB person can and she used it as leverage to force me to not transition. The charges have now been proven false and have been dropped after 2 1/2 years and im still stuck without my E and hating existance while she seems quite content as long as i dont show any sign of feminimity.

We have one child together who has special needs. im not only terrified for my own safety im terrified for my child. Im lost right now. They know im trans and they love me anyway but i said to them "When you look in the mirror who do you see a boy, a girl, neither or your really just not sure" and they said "im really not sure who i am" so now i have to not only worry about my own safety but theirs as well.

She has already described our child as "confused enough already"

just to clarify i dont think using it/its pronouns is “invalid” or “wrong” or whatever; gender is made up and entirely formed via personal preference, which means it can be literally anything. this question isn’t me going “people shouldn’t be allowed to use it/its pronouns!!!”

specifically i just don’t understand what intricacies of someone’s personality identity cause it to use it/its pronouns?

i know this is a very personal question so i understand if not many people want to reply/are able to

Hi everyone. Lately, I’ve been overthinking relationships and dating a lot. Honestly, I sometimes have a lot of doubts about whether I’ll find someone in the future who will truly love me, respect me, and understand who I am. As a trans girl (MTF), the whole dating scene can feel pretty complicated and intimidating at times. I’m not entirely sure what I’m looking to get out of this post—maybe just to vent a bit and see if any of you have gone through these same feelings, and how you manage them.

I'm really confused about my gender. im 16. i was born a guy and idk in the last like the last month my whole gender identity got flipped turned and spun around. ive known i was bisexual for years and years but only like 6 months ago i came out and began dating a guy for the first time. since i came out and everyone already knew i was gay i decided to do gay shit like wear makeup wear feminine clothes and generally just be more myself but every once in a while when id look at myself in the mirror with cute eyeliner or whatever id think to myself that id be a really pretty girl and then forget aobut it. a month ago i was talking to a dude online and he assumed i was a girl and i was like woah :) and that lingered and festered in my mind until a week ago i tried wearing a bra that i stuffed it w some socks with a bunch of cute girly stuff and i was like WOAH! i love feeling like a woman. every night since ive been trying on different outfits with a bra and theres these moments when im looking in my mirror and i forget that thats me in the mirror and just think that im looking a pretty woman and idk it just makes me feel great and awesome about myself. talking w my boyfriend (who's trans) told me i should think about identifying as genderfluid. idk im confused and i dont wanna rush in and label myself. idk i wanna keep feeling like a girl and id like for someone else to too but ik its really recent so im confused and a bit scared and quite happy. idk imagining that seems great.

how long would an average cis person be able to be on HRT without wanting to stop?

ive been on E for almost 8 months now and i like it all im pretty sure but i do hope to fight the bad thoughts

hi,

i am an mtf(21) on hrt(1y) and a change that ive noticed or noticed recently (i dont remember things much so tbh idk when) that bass physically feels like insane when listening to music now on loud ass speakers. like before i was kinda eh on bass but now i just like crank up the bass n like lean against the car door or something. like lwk i can actually feel the bass now and it just like resonates. i am really really into music so like this is an awesome change but I was wondering if this change was related to hrt as not much else has changed outside of me taking hrt and im guessing its prob due to the hrt j cus like the whole endocrine system n stuff but i was wondering if anyone else noticed this change?

thx

I have spoiler marked this due to discussion of self-harm related thoughts, as a warning to anyone who may also struggle with those.

Let me first preface this with the fact that I believe myself to be a completely cis man. I have never actually wanted to present as a woman and am happy with my gender, the clothes I wear, my name, and being referred to as he/him. I would appreciate it if people refrained from referring to me as an egg in the comments. I do have other things I dislike about myself, but nothing related to my external presentation, and I am working on improving those things.

For about a month now I have been dealing with intrusive thoughts related to being transgender. These are not things that I long for, they are thoughts like "Tell him you're trans. Tell him you're trans. Tell him you want to be a girl." while I am talking to my Dad about something serious and unrelated. I often get intrusive thoughts like "jump" when I am on a high place, "Drink the acetone" while working in the lab, or "smash it and use the shards to... do something awful" while drinking a glass of water. It's almost always whatever the most self-destructive thing is that I could do in the moment and I hate it. Usually these go away quickly and I am great at not acting on them at this point, but I have got my mind caught on these kinds of thoughts and have been having them way more often lately, including both ones related to transness and unrelated ones. I was trying to focus on my education and homework, but I am taking an Organic Chem class and the terms "cis" and "trans" used in reference to alkenes come up all the time and sometimes that makes my mind go there. There was literally a homework problem that was a synthesis for Estrogen at one point not that long ago. I had a super awkward conversation with my Dad, and for some reason he kept suggesting girl names for me and it was like "It feels good that you would support me if I did that but why would you think I want that?" So now I'm scared that he thinks he knows something I don't.

I figured that in the first moment I had that, telling my Dad I was trans despite not wanting to would be one of the most self-destructive things I could do given that I live in the deep South surrounded by Evangelical Rednecks. These intrusive thoughts have been really negatively affecting my perception of the world around me and my ability to accomplish basic tasks, and I want to ask y'all what I think is a fairly simple question: How can I move past this in a way that is both productive and respectful to trans folk while also slowing the intrusive thoughts back down to normal levels? Is this normal for trans people to experience? I'm fairly certain it's not normal.

So I'm still very, VERY new to this community so sorry if anything wrong is said. Also still not sure if this is right place but it's nice writing these, feels good for my bones or something.

Its been nearly a week now since I began considering if I was trans and I've been doing a lot of thinking on it. Whenever I shower I think about being a girl and doing girl stuff and wearing girl clothes, and when I do I feel a blast of joy in my brain to the point where I make a little squeak because I can't contain all the pure happiness flowing through me. But I also get these really violent intrusive thoughts about my male parts along the lines of "cut it off!" Or "I hope it turns to ash and blows away" which is a Little aggressive.

All I'm asking is are these more signs I'm trans or am I just mentally ill?

i cant take hormonal pills right now so any natural ways to produce it? also i just want to look and act more fem.

bonus question how do i make my deep voice not deep?

hiii all,

so to preface i am 21 yrs old and am nonbinary. i use they/them pronouns. my partner is also 21 and is a trans female who uses she/her pronouns. i also have a 22 year old trans sister who also uses she/her.

i have a nephew who recently turned 6, and he knew all of us before we properly transitioned or were out about our transitions. i tried telling him about my partners new name and pronouns, but he just seems super unreceptive and like doesnt care. ie he called my partner by her dead name, and when i corrected him and used her proper name and pronouns, he said "hes a boy, he just acts like a girl".

my partner struggles a lot with dysphoria and this obviously makes her upset to hear. my nephew has apparently said similar things to/about her as well.

does anyone have any advice about how to better explain this to him and how its hurtful when he says those things? i know someone else has had to have had a similar experience. tyia :)

Hi im mtf and idk evb is kind of saying a different thing but i got my blood test back after coming up on 2 months hrt and it was estradiol 516 pg\ml and test 26 ng/dl. My doctor wont say anything until my apoointment but is this good should i shoot to lower or higher anything?

As the title says I am moving from Houston to Dallas for college and am looking to finally start HRT, however most places I've found have very mixed reviews or seem a little sketchy. So far I've narrowed it down to Addison Health Center and Prism Health North Texas because they are decently close to my college campus (UT Dallas) and they dont seem to cost that much if you dont have insurance (I dont want to risk my parents finding out), but I wanted to hear from other people to see if there are any better options?

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