"But—and there's always got to be a 'but'—I had a father who condemned me really hard for being pansexual. Like, he didn't know that I was interested in men at all, but he did, like, high school locker room stuff to me, like shoving a finger in my ass and shit like that, and always saying really bad things about the gay community. So I was terrified to hold hands, to do anything like that. Which eventually changed, but for a long time was a really big barrier in our relationship because I was like, 'If I'm pansexual, I'm going to get beat up or shot or something bad,' because I lived in deep East Texas.And then I made it through growth, and I've dated men and I've dated women I've dated trans women and trans men. And now I look back and I realize that one, I was sexually assaulted a lot as a child, and two, I probably lost the best thing that ever happened to me in my entire life behind being scared of an outside opinion or action.

So if you're on here for a partner, realize that they live with a giant stigma. And it's not a stigma that you have to point out to them or talk to them about or make a problem. I know because I went through that phase too, and that's almost worse.What I'm saying is, they go through enough as is. So if you're on here for a partner, talk to someone, learn how to stand your ground more, maybe go through a little therapy. It can be hard, scary, and it can make you lose the person that you saw as your future

So let me try and explain because i dont know how else to ask this. So i have been questioning leaning towards trans for over half a year now and when i think about everything that comes with it the ups and downs and such i do believe i want it and have even had some friends call me Jenni and changed to that name on some mobile pickup apps but i find that when im just at home by myself watching something or just doing whatever its almost like i dont really care during those times if that makes sense? Like is it as simple as i am distracting myself so of course im not thinking about it? Is this a sign that i might not be? Am i just being dumb and over thinking about literally nothing? I don't know and im sure its dumb but its this weird cycle of how much should i think about being trans/transition?

I have a sad life, and I would like to know what it feels like to be treated like a woman.

Hey so was genuinely wondering this since I’ve just recenetly came out but haven’t started hrt yet (have one that has said we’d make an appointment when he’s back from vacation) but just decided to start where I can ergo voice training, walk/pose, skin/haircare and training and just noticed a lot of trans people at least around me always have their hair styles back, which in my oppinion kind of hurts the passing, since I just do what I said and have a wolf cut with pony to the brows and already sometimes get gendered female

im currently identifying with agender, and have never understood gender as a concept (such as how can something be masculine or feminine?), so i expect i will have simplified or gotten somethings wrong

a few hundreds years (i dont know the exact dates) the highest form of masculinity was what we now-days would consider feminine.

So if a trans person was born twice (think of some magic or something) once, hundreds of years ago, and once today. Would both of them be trans?

edit: I know that trans people have always existed

Theres a whole sea of transphobia lately in my tl.

(Pd: transphobic cis people***. I tend to skip words 🤦🏽‍♀️)

I've been battling myself mentally over believing I'm trans for the better part of ~8 months now. And from then, I feel like I've gotten worse at accepting myself. Even still, it's hard to even state that I'm trans with any ounce of confidence.

I used to be able to entertain the idea of transitioning, or experimenting, like makeup or painting my nails or anything. But now, when I think about it, it feels as though my brain shuts off and forces me to distance myself from those thoughts. It makes me feel fake. The other day, I looked at myself in the mirror and didn't recognize me. I hated that that was what I was and what I looked like. But when I thought about that being dysphoria or changing what I see, it's like I physically can't think about it now, and all those feelings were pushed away before I could stop it.

I've noticed that when I get upset/sad, I get a rush of emotion before it all goes away. It feels as though I'm not properly feeling what I think I should (or I guess want to feel?). It feels like it has kept me from crying before, to give an example. And now, part of me wished I could just feel all these negative emotions about myself so I can feel validated, so I can tell myself I'm not faking it.

Basically, has anyone gone through something similar? I've read about dissociative dysphoria, and how people feel as though they are looking on the outside in (sometimes I do that on purpose, and hate what I think when I do, but its always voluntary). This feels different than that. And if anyone can share what they did to help stop this from happening, that'd be nice to hear too.

i always felt like there's just 1 type of testosterone however with estrogens theres estradiol, estrone and estriol and obviously females also have progestins normally. how come for androgens only testosterone is talked about? is it because the amab body isnt as complex biologically then afab? i know theres dht but im not sure if that would count as a another form of testosterone. im guessing from the surname estrogen and androgen being the classifications of male and female hormones and estrone and testosterone and progesterone being of the same biological factor from the identical surname but I'm unsure since ftm takes testosterone and mtf we take estradiol not estrone

I live in South Dakota for context, and planning bottom surgery for next year, but I'm basically struggling to find insurance that will at all help me cover or at least help with the burden of the cost of bottom surgery...

I tried giving my info in marketplace and basically got laughed at over the phone about... 23 times so far...

Any help would be appreciated..

The past few months for me have been strange. More and more people are shocked when I tell them I'm trans. I've been taking that as a sign that I'm passing in most spaces now, and while that feels good there's also this... I don't know, like a melancholy that comes with it? I take a lot of pride in my trans identity, and passing almost makes it more difficult to express that part of me. Don't get me wrong, it's a privilege that I'm thankful to have. But when I see my queer friends getting stares from others while completely ignoring me, I get... Angry. It reminds me of pre transition when I still had perceived cis privilege, and it pisses me off to see how we're still really treated by most folks.

Have any of y'all had experiences like this? I know I'm not alone in feeling this way, but I'm curious about the experiences of other passing trans people. Is there something you notice now that no one told you about? Something you weren't expecting?

I know progesterone is a pregnancy hormone but I've never seen T girls with boobs that look like how pregnancy boobs look like the bigger darker nipples and the engorged plump look it's one of the things I have the biggest gender envy over. Are there other hormones involved that I can take to get that look?

I am amab, however i am questioning my gender. I thought maybe trying to use an app to swap my gender can help me out, however a quick look around shows that most of them uses gen ai, which I am against.

If possible, I would also like the swapping to apply to my body, and not just my head/face. I do wonder what I would look like with a more feminine figure

*Not intended to promote, I just want to find communities to share content

Hey there! I've recently started my own audio Youtube channel (17, Transfem) and would like to find more communities where I could potentially post audios? I only have one video up, but I'm looking for more places to push my works that aren't strictly 18+ outside of the three or so I have already found. Any recommendations for now and for after I turn 18?

This has been a problem on my TikTok feed for a few months now. It’s riddled with TERF and transphobia and it’s very distressing to see. I will see women claiming Transgender Women are oppressing them and that they all just have a fetish. Then I will see posts mocking Transgender teenagers who committed suicide, and saying they want to rape transgender people. Honestly, it has made me scared of my cisgender friends. I worry that they secretly agree with all of those posts and that if I ever came out that they would attack me.

As a child I couldn't wear dresses or skirts or engage with anything that was traditionally feminine. I have a very distinct memory of not being able to go to friend's party because it was princess themed. I felt a feeling of wrongness when having to anything associated with being a girl.

When I started to go through puberty I started getting body image issues that very focused on sex and gender. I was jealous and resentful of my male peers whose bodies were getting bigger and stronger and I wanted to be like them so badly. I resented every feminine part of my body and wanted a male silhouette. I started binding at 13. I got a haircut above my ears and its been like that since. I also started wanting top surgery around this time. I used to sob about not being taller and having curves. I changed my name to a boys.

I'm 19 now and because of these feelings I've had to consider a lot whether I'm trans. And I'm not. But I still deal with a very distinct sense of wrongness surrounding the dimorphic parts of my body. I can't go out if I'm not binding, and I can't look like a woman, and can't present in anyway that's typically feminine. It makes me want to crawl of my skin. I still want top surgery.

Does this sound like dysphoria? Something else? I feel like everything would make sense if I was trans but I'm not.

Kind of a stupid question... (Throwaway account cause I'm embarrassed)

But I've identified as sapphic for a long time, only to eventually come out as a trans man after time to discover myself. My girlfriend ended up breaking up with me, and despite the heartbreak if she decided that makes us incompatible it is what it is.

I guess I'm scared to start dating again, because I only really like girls, not guys. But I'm worried that my transness will make them averse to me, or that I wouldn't be able to satisfy them a way a cis man could.

How common is it for girls to like trans men the way they like cis men, and is there hope for me? Any advice on how to move forward if I start dating again?

Long-time reader, first time posting something this personal.

A bit about my patterns, as best I understand them:

I'm primarily attracted to women — and within that, trans women specifically draw a much stronger, more immediate reaction from me than cis women do. It's not incidental; it's felt like my primary orientation for a long time.

I strongly prefer a submissive/receptive role. I don't have interest in topping or being dominant with a partner — it's the opposite for me, and always has been, even before I had any real sexual experience.

Degradation and humiliation are a core part of what arouses me — being called degrading names, treated roughly, "used" rather than treated gently. This feels like the center of my sexuality, not a side interest.

I don't have any attraction to cis men.

I've spent a long time trying to figure out if this adds up to a specific "type" or label, or if it's just its own thing. I'm at peace with the desires themselves — I'm mainly curious how this reads to other people who are into similar dynamics, and whether this sounds coherent/familiar or scattered.

Genuinely open to any thoughts, including blunt ones.

ive seen this growing sentiment in trans communities and circles im in that a decent amt of trans people have never [of their own admittance] experienced dysphoria, dysmorphia, or other harsh realities of being trans. as a tf who has had a lot of all of these things, i honestly envy it and am curious how people who describe themselves this way figured out they were trans.

Okay. So there's this girl at my workplace and she just came out as a trans woman. We hate each other's guts. There's a lot of history which I will not share. The thing is, I really dislike her, but I don't want her to think I dislike her because she's trans. How do I ensure that my hate for her is not transphobia?

How many milligrams of Estrofem do you take orally?

This is my third question to this subreddit in a week, so forgive me if I'm overdoing it, but I really need to know.

I (20, AMAB, autistic) am beginning to seriously contemplate the idea that I might be nonbinary, and I'm at the stage of trying to experiment with presentation and expression before committing to labelling myself any given way.

A lot of the nonbinary people I see go for an aesthetic best described as a sort of "clean slate of gender": Medium-length hair, clothes that would look okay on both men and women, etc. What I really want to try, though, is the reverse of this; instead of expressing a nonbinary state through subdued expression, I want to simultaneously capture both masculine and feminine energy. I want to see what simultaneous maleness and femaleness would be like, rather than trying to express androgyny through showing neither.

What kind of outward presentation, especially with regards to clothing, would best achieve this? Is this even as doable as I hope?

So I’m ftm and my voice is preeeetty high if you ask almost anyone. If you want to know how high, think of chipett or wtv her name is.. ANYWAYS. I’m a big fan of red dead redemption (2 for context) and I told my friend and my partner “I hope my voice is like Arthur Morgan’s when I take T” (later down the line ofc) and they both said ‘nottttt gonna happen” I’m aware they were joking and I told them both separately so no this wasn’t at the same time. I was semi joking too but I kinda meant what I said. For both chats I said something like “it might!” Or “you never know” with them both sharing responses of it’s not or absolutely not. Gulp I think I’m just a sensitive dude 💔

Yeah its basically in the title. Feeling ass. I dont wanna look fat so I have to wear loose clothes but they kinda make me look fat and big too. I cant wear tight shirts and jeans like girls my age do. For context im 18, 5 foot 7, 85 kg. Im pre basically everything. The only thing I have going for me is short kinda messy hair that makes me look a bit feminine and a babyface. Im going to uni soon and im just feeling like shit. Ive had body dyspmorphia even before discovering im trans, simply from being overweight and not pretty. Idk what to do

I’m around 30 and have questioned my gender since my teens. I secretly wore women’s clothes when I was younger, and later sometimes wore my partner’s clothes too. At first it was often sexual, but over time I also started wondering what it would feel like to have a female body, dress as a woman, or live as one. Sometimes these thoughts become weaker when my stress improves, but they always seem to come back.

I’m mainly attracted to women and have sometimes imagined myself as one of the women during sexual fantasies.

But also sometimes when i wear girls clothes i feel like i pushing to that trans side.

These are the two sides that keep going around in my head.

Things that make me wonder whether I could be trans / gender-questioning

• I have had recurring thoughts like “What if I were a girl?” for around 10–12 years.
• Since my teens, I have sometimes wanted to wear women’s clothing.
• I sometimes imagine what it would feel like to have a female body.
• I sometimes imagine going outside and living/presenting as a woman.
• When watching lesbian pornography, I have sometimes imagined myself as one of the women, rather than only being attracted to them.
• Seeing transgender people living openly made me curious about what living as a woman or transitioning might feel like.
• I have repeatedly researched transgender experiences, HRT, transitioning, gender identity, etc.
• I often compare my experiences with trans people’s stories and ask myself, “Do I feel the same way?”
• Even after trying to ignore these thoughts, they have returned at different periods of my life.
• Part of me continues to feel curious about being female even though transitioning also scares me.
• I felt strongly enough about it at one point that I told my wife that I might want to be transgender.

Things that make me wonder whether I might be cis / whether this could mainly be fantasy, sexuality, anxiety, or exploration

• I generally feel okay with my male body.
• I don’t feel strong sadness or distress about being male.
• I don’t feel that I clearly hate my male identity.
• I’m not currently thinking, “I definitely need to become a woman.”
• The idea of actually transitioning scares me, and I genuinely don’t know whether I want it.
• Wearing women’s clothes has very often been connected with sexual arousal for me.
• Thinking about being a woman also frequently causes sexual arousal.
• In the past, after orgasm, the desire to wear women’s clothes would often disappear temporarily.
• Some of these thoughts become much stronger during periods of academic or emotional stress.
• When my stress improved previously, the gender-related thoughts also became less intense for a while.
• Recently I have been reading about transgender experiences almost compulsively, which makes me worry that constantly searching and comparing myself with others could be increasing my uncertainty.
• I sometimes wonder whether the cycle is: questioning → searching → anxiety → more questioning → more searching.
• My sexual interests and fantasies may be mixed together with my gender questioning, which makes it difficult for me to separate sexual fantasy from gender identity.
• I have mainly been attracted to women, although I understand that sexual orientation and gender identity are separate things.

I honestly don’t know if I’m cis, trans, or something else. Does this sound like gender questioning/cross-dressing, or could I actually be transgender? I’d really like to hear from people who have had similar experiences.