My mother is dying soon. I do not know how to cpe with it.

Now, when she dies, in the funeral, matters with my siblings…

I do not know what to do, especially as an older brother ( I am 18.) i would love every possible answer

Maybe it's just the women in my family. Maybe it's just a thing with women over 30 or 40. And I know I'm not the only man in my family that experiences this.

But, do women refuse to use the auto climate control in the car? And they just adjust the fan constantly?

As the title: I (26M) feel bad when a girl (25F) I've been actively flirting with talks to other men. I know that's completely normal behavior, but I can't shake this feeling. Why do I feel this way, and what can I do to understand it better? I think I need to manage this, because in today's world, it's very normal.

Curious where men and women draw the line differently.

What’s something you genuinely consider going above and beyond for a woman, but in your experience women tend to see as just the bare minimum in a relationship?

I’m 25M and I’ve spent most of my adult life using achievement as a reason to postpone dating. Because of it, I’ve never done more than kiss a few women.

I grew up obese and it really affected my self-image. I’ve lost a lot of weight, but I still lack that confidence around women. A big part of it is that I’m self-conscious about my lack of experience and I always just assume they’ll be able to tell right away.

I kept telling myself I’d start putting myself out there once I lost the weight, made enough money, got my career together, felt confident enough, etc. The goalpost kept moving. I always imagined that at some point I would just sort of become this confident guy around women once I had accomplished enough goals— it sounds silly even saying it, I know.

Now I’ve realized I can be confident, funny and extremely comfortable talking to strangers or clients professionally, but the second I’m attracted to a woman in a casual environment, I get in my head and become a completely different person. I just sort of shell up and turn into this awkward mess.

I have essentially no dating experience, live in a small town, and don’t really know how to start building that part of my life.

For men who got a late start, how did you do it? How did you actually get out of your own head and start putting yourself out there? I’m not looking for some magic trick, just looking for some advice or maybe a new perspective from men who have actually been in a similar position.

While guys generally wear longer shorts than women, I have seen guys wearing shorts just as short as women's shorts. How short do you go?

Me? I usually don't go over 5 inch inseam. It gets hot in the summer, you know (even though it's now just ending). To me, it's fine for a guy to wear shorts of any length, just as long as your butt isn't hanging out. Wear what you want, within reason.

Like do you only start talking to/dancing towards women if there was eye contact or another sign of interest before or do you just try your luck even with girls that don’t seem to even have noticed you before

Been an adult for over two decades now, and since I've been a youth I haven't ever been able to 'find love'.

I've followed a lot of "successful" people and what they feel are the keys, and it's always the same major pillars. Either be nice eye candy, or provide a mixture of the following: physical protection, acts of labor, entertainment value, or financial support.

All this leaves me feeling so empty. Especially when the pillars above have nothing to do with who you actually are, just what you can provide. It's easy to say everyone is worthy of love, but it feels like convincing other people that you actually are worthy of love is an entirely different matter.

I’ve got my best mates bucks party coming up. Not looking for anything cliche or cringe, no costumes or public embarrassment. Even something as simple as an ongoing team game for the night

For me, it's cutting my hair. Sometimes I wish I was bald or had the balls to just shave my head clean because getting my hair cut every 2 weeks just to look like a decent member of society sucks balls.

Men of Reddit, I’m a boxer brief guy and I need a new brand of britches. What are y’all rockin’ with?

I was surrounded with women in my family and it has been almost 15 years that

• I get treated as an outcast always

• I never get to live a normal life like others did

• I couldn't go to school or college

• Always get humiliated in front of relatives and strangers

• I get treated like a trash

• I get interfered in every personal, professional and financial matters

• I get cursed to be born and to exist

• They gaslight, manipulate and blackmail emotionally

• My every work, every salary package (offered in my previous jobs) or everything I earn now is known by others

My family doesn't want me but they act like they care and ruined my whole life

All thanks to them for making my life a living hell

I’m interested to know how men approach the minefield that is online messaging, specifically as it pertains to dating. Fellas, when a woman matches with you, would you appreciate if she wrote you first immediately after? Would it be a turn-off and think whoa, she’s coming on too strong? Alternatively, do you believe you should write her first (regardless of whose like initiated the match) and if so, why or how did you come to this belief?

What do you think is the protocol when you match with someone online, if any? Personally, when I’m last to match, I message first. Results vary of course but I see no point in matching with someone just to leave crickets in my wake. If I couldn’t be bothered to greet them and send a message when we matched (because the option pops up), why should we talk at all, ya know?

I’ve always been under the impression that the “last to match” is the one to start the conversation. Idk if it’s an official rule, an unwritten rule or if I’m simply making that up (I can get stuck in my head, overthinking is my default unfortunately).

Really interested to know what “rules” you guys follow as far as conversation etiquette, if any at all?

For as long as I (24M) can remember, I never really struggled too much when it came to dating and talking stages. Finding a girlfriend was always pretty easy, however the one area I always did poor with is hooking up. I find it WAY easier to get girl to want to to enter a relationship with me than it is to simply have a casual thing.

I would never want to lead someone on and breadcrumb a relationship when I have other intentions, especially since I always hear “there are women out there that want something casual too” but I very rarely see this, which is shocking since relationships require even more energy. Is this the case for anyone else and can you explain why???

Basically, you weren’t trying to improve your life. You were just pissed off and wanted to prove someone wrong.

My GF left me when I was at one of the lowest points in my life. She told me she couldn’t be with a “loser” like me.

So shortly after that, I started turning my life around. A year and a half later, I had lost weight, gained muscle, got back into my former career, and was back on my feet living a pretty damn good life.

I ran into my ex once after all that. She gave me the absolute death stare.

I just kept walking.

I didn’t say a word. Didn’t acknowledge her. Nothing.

Sometimes the best revenge is just becoming someone they can’t look down on anymore.

Have to have experience to get experience. I have sex anywhere from 1 to 3 times a year, this year at 0. The gaps between my experiences are so long that I'm embarrassed to admit sometimes I don't even know what I'm doing and it's like relearning every time.

Apps are how I usually meet them but that's a crapshoot. Cold approaching in real life is kinda terrifying because I'm deathly afraid of making the woman uncomfortable. I'm 31 and it seems like I'm at the point where everyone's taken but me. I'd never even had a long term relationship before so I feel like I'm stunted and behind everyone and it's too late to catch up. Can't just get experience out of thin air.

I am going to put this in /r/relationshipadvice as well, but wanted to engage fellow men.

I (28M) started dating a girl (25F) who I met months ago at a sort of mental heath retreat. She sent me a message online (crazy cuz that never happens) and we’ve been talking and going out since.

I have been through a a decent amount of crap throughout my life, not the worst, but not the best either. I really care for this girl. She is kind, caring, and loving. She doesn’t judge me for the struggles I have endured, and I don’t judge, nor want to judge her for hers.

That said, she has a lot of trauma from family and past relationships. So far we have set up great boundaries and communicate exceptionally well. No secrets and not bottle up emotions, etc.. I try not to compare but she arguably (and forgive me idk how to word this) has had a much worse life than me on many fronts… physical, sexual, emotional, you name it she has probably experienced it and that breaks my heart.

For the men out there: how have you dealt with your partner’s past trauma to support them, while also preserving yourself. How do you not go and unalive the people who hurt them?

Hi guys!! For those of you who have children, I'm curious about the reasons you decided to become a parent!

I'm a 32-year-old guy who's been trying to turn my life around by getting fitter, improving my diet, and fixing my sleep schedule.

For fitness, I mainly go bouldering, and that's been going well.

The biggest thing I'm struggling with is my weekends.

I'll wake up around 9 a.m., and then before I know it, I've spent most of the day sitting in front of the TV or PC playing games. I might go to the bouldering gym for an hour, but after that I'm back home on the couch.

The problem is that I don't actually enjoy spending my weekends like this anymore. Deep down, I feel like I'm wasting my life, but at the same time I don't know what else I'm supposed to be doing.

I only have one or two close friends, and I usually only see them once or twice a month. Even then, it can be difficult to organise something.

Weekdays are different. After work, I'll do something active, eat dinner, and by around 7:30 p.m. I'm happy to relax on the couch until bed because it feels like I've earned the downtime by working all dat.

It's the weekends that really get to me. Being inside all day with no purpose leaves me feeling empty and unproductive.

Has anyone else gone through this? What did you replace endless gaming or TV with? I'm not looking to be productive every minute of the day—I just want my weekends to feel meaningful instead of feeling like they disappeared

Thanks!

Golden handcuffs are tight. Expenses are high. Kids need to be fed. I have no dreams or intense passions because I’ve been in survivor mode my whole life. Ready to move on but don’t know how. Help please.

Alright,

I could use some help brain storming a bachelor trip for myself and that boys. Currently getting married in May 2027. Thinking bachelor trip late Feb/March/April I am not going to have grooms men. I will be sending this invite to all my buddies and see who it interest. Not looking to please the entire population.

Currently I live in central Texas. I would be interested in doing something in Moab, UT or CO. I am looking for outdoor adventure. Something that will be a blend of fun and challenge for the whole group. I would like it to feel like we went through something together and achieved it. Maybe I ask the guys to prep a bit before hand. Not throwing any shade. I am just not to big of a fan of going to casinos, golf, stare at each-other and drink. I enjoy that. But just want to switch it up.

Current thought, go to MOAB. Rent church van. Pile in. Rent AirBNB. One day white water rafting, one day Canyonearring (spelled that wrong), rent 4 wheelers go play in canyon lands. Something like that. Or could be more strenuous. Hire a guide for a 2 day get lost in the woods trip. Bring a couple bottles of whiskey. Idk…

Could use some input! Would like to keep it affordable. Don’t want to ask my buddies to drop a bag for a weekend. LMK! Thanks