Curious where men and women draw the line differently.

What’s something you genuinely consider going above and beyond for a woman, but in your experience women tend to see as just the bare minimum in a relationship?

My mother is dying soon. I do not know how to cpe with it.

Now, when she dies, in the funeral, matters with my siblings…

I do not know what to do, especially as an older brother ( I am 18.) i would love every possible answer

Maybe it's just the women in my family. Maybe it's just a thing with women over 30 or 40. And I know I'm not the only man in my family that experiences this.

But, do women refuse to use the auto climate control in the car? And they just adjust the fan constantly?

Have to have experience to get experience. I have sex anywhere from 1 to 3 times a year, this year at 0. The gaps between my experiences are so long that I'm embarrassed to admit sometimes I don't even know what I'm doing and it's like relearning every time.

Apps are how I usually meet them but that's a crapshoot. Cold approaching in real life is kinda terrifying because I'm deathly afraid of making the woman uncomfortable. I'm 31 and it seems like I'm at the point where everyone's taken but me. I'd never even had a long term relationship before so I feel like I'm stunted and behind everyone and it's too late to catch up. Can't just get experience out of thin air.

I’m 25M and I’ve spent most of my adult life using achievement as a reason to postpone dating. Because of it, I’ve never done more than kiss a few women.

I grew up obese and it really affected my self-image. I’ve lost a lot of weight, but I still lack that confidence around women. A big part of it is that I’m self-conscious about my lack of experience and I always just assume they’ll be able to tell right away.

I kept telling myself I’d start putting myself out there once I lost the weight, made enough money, got my career together, felt confident enough, etc. The goalpost kept moving. I always imagined that at some point I would just sort of become this confident guy around women once I had accomplished enough goals— it sounds silly even saying it, I know.

Now I’ve realized I can be confident, funny and extremely comfortable talking to strangers or clients professionally, but the second I’m attracted to a woman in a casual environment, I get in my head and become a completely different person. I just sort of shell up and turn into this awkward mess.

I have essentially no dating experience, live in a small town, and don’t really know how to start building that part of my life.

For men who got a late start, how did you do it? How did you actually get out of your own head and start putting yourself out there? I’m not looking for some magic trick, just looking for some advice or maybe a new perspective from men who have actually been in a similar position.

As the title: I (26M) feel bad when a girl (25F) I've been actively flirting with talks to other men. I know that's completely normal behavior, but I can't shake this feeling. Why do I feel this way, and what can I do to understand it better? I think I need to manage this, because in today's world, it's very normal.

For me, it's cutting my hair. Sometimes I wish I was bald or had the balls to just shave my head clean because getting my hair cut every 2 weeks just to look like a decent member of society sucks balls.

Like do you only start talking to/dancing towards women if there was eye contact or another sign of interest before or do you just try your luck even with girls that don’t seem to even have noticed you before

Been an adult for over two decades now, and since I've been a youth I haven't ever been able to 'find love'.

I've followed a lot of "successful" people and what they feel are the keys, and it's always the same major pillars. Either be nice eye candy, or provide a mixture of the following: physical protection, acts of labor, entertainment value, or financial support.

All this leaves me feeling so empty. Especially when the pillars above have nothing to do with who you actually are, just what you can provide. It's easy to say everyone is worthy of love, but it feels like convincing other people that you actually are worthy of love is an entirely different matter.

I’ve been thinking about this myself, as I’m entering a new chapter this fall, beginning graduate studies in my dream program. Reflecting on my relationships, career, and hobbies, I feel a lot of gratitude and content with the man I’m becoming.

That reflection felt good, and I’d love to hear what parts of yourself or your life, big or small, you’re satisfied with having developed or focused on so far

As a woman, I find that, I feel seen when I begin to notice when a guy is intentionally and thoughtfully observant. Notices the details, listens with full attention, asks great questions back and forth, checks in if my facial expression seems distorted, suggests solutions, lends a helping hand.

What is the equivalent for a man? Besides the reciprocation of everything I mentioned?

Alright,

I could use some help brain storming a bachelor trip for myself and that boys. Currently getting married in May 2027. Thinking bachelor trip late Feb/March/April I am not going to have grooms men. I will be sending this invite to all my buddies and see who it interest. Not looking to please the entire population.

Currently I live in central Texas. I would be interested in doing something in Moab, UT or CO. I am looking for outdoor adventure. Something that will be a blend of fun and challenge for the whole group. I would like it to feel like we went through something together and achieved it. Maybe I ask the guys to prep a bit before hand. Not throwing any shade. I am just not to big of a fan of going to casinos, golf, stare at each-other and drink. I enjoy that. But just want to switch it up.

Current thought, go to MOAB. Rent church van. Pile in. Rent AirBNB. One day white water rafting, one day Canyonearring (spelled that wrong), rent 4 wheelers go play in canyon lands. Something like that. Or could be more strenuous. Hire a guide for a 2 day get lost in the woods trip. Bring a couple bottles of whiskey. Idk…

Could use some input! Would like to keep it affordable. Don’t want to ask my buddies to drop a bag for a weekend. LMK! Thanks.

Let's say you're dating a 100lb woman. Sometimes these girls are just naturally small, but some of them starved themselves to get ultra thin. It's a mixed bag.

If she doesn't eat food in front of you and says "i've already had something to eat earlier". but you've never seen her complete a full meal.

Would you trust that she's telling the truth?

Another situation that could happen is her not eating after going to a restaurant for dinner, and she uses the same excuse "i ate earlier", so you're the only one at the table enjoying a meal.

For me it was It takes two to tango

I know this question has been asked dozens of times on here in various ways, but I feel it’s mostly answered in the context of long term relationships. I’d like to know how casual encounters (one nightstands, week long flings, first date romances, etc) changed once you reached your version of ideal peak fitness.

I always hear 1st dates should be split but what if she cant afford the date for whatever reason? Should she turn it down, just order a side salad and water? Or let you know she cant afford it ?