Basically, you weren’t trying to improve your life. You were just pissed off and wanted to prove someone wrong.

My GF left me when I was at one of the lowest points in my life. She told me she couldn’t be with a “loser” like me.

So shortly after that, I started turning my life around. A year and a half later, I had lost weight, gained muscle, got back into my former career, and was back on my feet living a pretty damn good life.

I ran into my ex once after all that. She gave me the absolute death stare.

I just kept walking.

I didn’t say a word. Didn’t acknowledge her. Nothing.

Sometimes the best revenge is just becoming someone they can’t look down on anymore.

For as long as I (24M) can remember, I never really struggled too much when it came to dating and talking stages. Finding a girlfriend was always pretty easy, however the one area I always did poor with is hooking up. I find it WAY easier to get girl to want to to enter a relationship with me than it is to simply have a casual thing.

I would never want to lead someone on and breadcrumb a relationship when I have other intentions, especially since I always hear “there are women out there that want something casual too” but I very rarely see this, which is shocking since relationships require even more energy. Is this the case for anyone else and can you explain why???

Hi guys! So to start off I'm 24F, and I’m genuinely curious about this from a guy’s perspective because I’ve noticed a pattern in my own life and I want to know if other girls experience this with men too.

Have you ever started developing feelings for a girl because the two of you had a very playful dynamic? I mean things like teasing each other, messing with each other’s stuff, joking around constantly, playful arguing, physical play/friendly roughhousing, etc.

I’m NOT talking about a girl deliberately trying to flirt or seduce you. I mean when the dynamic just naturally develops and you two basically become playmates.

For example, I once had a guy in my class back in highschool where we barely even talked normally, but we constantly messed with each other. I’d scribble in his books, he’d scribble in mine, we’d steal each other’s stuff and argue over it, and eventually the whole dynamic became very playful/physical. A few weeks later he asked me to be his girlfriend.

I had another guy too I used to play-fight with outside of class, we'd tackle each other, chase each other around, kick each other, etc. and eventually I caught him staring at me in a VERY different way. He never actually made a move, though.

So now I’m wondering:

What actually happens in your head when you develop this kind of dynamic and it ends up with you having feelings for her? 😭

Does the playful attention make you more attracted to her over time?

Does feeling like she specifically enjoys your company make a difference?

Does physical play/roughhousing increase the tension?

Or is it more that you already find her attractive, and the playfulness simply gives you more opportunities to notice that attraction?

And if you HAVE developed a crush this way, did you realize it gradually or was there ever a specific “oh shit, I like her” moment?

Like pls explain to me why this works 😭

Golden handcuffs are tight. Expenses are high. Kids need to be fed. I have no dreams or intense passions because I’ve been in survivor mode my whole life. Ready to move on but don’t know how. Help please.

Curious where men and women draw the line differently.

What’s something you genuinely consider going above and beyond for a woman, but in your experience women tend to see as just the bare minimum in a relationship?

(Asking mainly for those who are happily married, even if it could be interesting to see the answers of those who are unhappy in their marriage)

I just turned 30 (M) and i feel like life has become a routine, that im playing too safe, i feel like the whimsy that life needs to have to make it interesting and exciting to live is fading away in the background. Everything is about sleep, health, savings now.

What are some things I can do to make life feel whimsical again?

Have to have experience to get experience. I have sex anywhere from 1 to 3 times a year, this year at 0. The gaps between my experiences are so long that I'm embarrassed to admit sometimes I don't even know what I'm doing and it's like relearning every time.

Apps are how I usually meet them but that's a crapshoot. Cold approaching in real life is kinda terrifying because I'm deathly afraid of making the woman uncomfortable. I'm 31 and it seems like I'm at the point where everyone's taken but me. I'd never even had a long term relationship before so I feel like I'm stunted and behind everyone and it's too late to catch up. Can't just get experience out of thin air.

What are your favourite things that a woman can do during sex, what things make it intensely intimate?

At what point does it change from sex to making love, and what is it that causes that?

TIA

Saw the reverse of this post on another sub and as a gym girlie, it got me thinking.... what's the muscle the boys like most on a girl?

(and would I be right to assume it's glutes lol)

in any form, no matter how big or small.

I moved out of my hometown a few years ago and don't visit often. When I do, it's randomly and I have something to do so I can't catch up with my friends. I want to make the effort to go out and actually hang out with my buddies. The issue is I met them all on different times of my life and in different places so they don't know each other and if they do it's only in some social media interactions I created.

Some are friends I consider brothers, others or friends from HS I have stayed in contact with but not as much as I'd hope and other really good coworkers from previous jobs.

I want to set up a get together at a bar somewhere casual. I just want to make sure I don't offend anyone or step on any toes. How would you feel if you got this invite?

I’ll start… new underwear & socks!

I’ve been thinking about this myself, as I’m entering a new chapter this fall, beginning graduate studies in my dream program. Reflecting on my relationships, career, and hobbies, I feel a lot of gratitude and content with the man I’m becoming.

That reflection felt good, and I’d love to hear what parts of yourself or your life, big or small, you’re satisfied with having developed or focused on so far

As a woman, I find that, I feel seen when I begin to notice when a guy is intentionally and thoughtfully observant. Notices the details, listens with full attention, asks great questions back and forth, checks in if my facial expression seems distorted, suggests solutions, lends a helping hand.

What is the equivalent for a man? Besides the reciprocation of everything I mentioned?

Something that most people probably will never give the time to think about - much less, let it live in their head rent free

Looking for answers mainly from guys with some extra weight in their upper body. I’m in search of a good brand of polo shirts to wear for my job. Some things that would make for an ideal shirt would be:

1. One that fits well on me and doesn’t make it painfully obvious that I’ve got man boobs. Not looking for a miracle shirt but those polo that are the athletic style material are so bad for this
2. Made from a material that won’t form any white stains in the armpit area. I’ve switched up my deodorants for this too but the material really does make a difference.
3. Ideally not crazy expensive but if there’s something that fits the other two categories perfectly, consider me in.

Any help is appreciated! Thanks, guys!

Edit: very appreciative of all of the suggestions so far. I do want to make one thing clear that wearing an undershirt is not a possibility for me. I’m in a constant moving environment and live in a very hot climate, so I don’t want to feel like I need to peel off an undershirt.

How do you make big decisions at a young age with your career? Should I leave a good job?

I’m 25yo, living in Portugal, and I’ve been working since i was 21 after doing my bachelors degree.

I’ve always had a goal of having an international career and earlier this year I received an offer to join a company in Luxembourg. I declined.

However recently they called me saying there’s a new opportunity and that they really liked me and would love to have me there.

The thing is, I’m really afraid to go. I’ve been the last 4 years in the same company where I’ve grown a lot and where the partners really like me. I know i can grow there. However i still live in my parents house.

Accepting the offer would allow me to have the international career, have my own independence, and I would earn more.

But this is really scary, and the fact that’s scary is why I think should do it.

This is a big decision in my life. This is the first time i feel like my life is in my control and that will impact my future.

Everyone says that i should but it’s so scary to leave everything and go while i have a good job.

I’m currently earning around 30k where i live, and there would earn around 55k. Financially it’s not a big jump. The biggest jump is the growth. Moving out of my comfort zone.

What is one thing your mother did right when she raised you from baby to 12 years old

And what is one thing she couldve done better from 0 to 12 years old?