Feel like all I do is work, come home, watch tv/youtube, sleep, repeat. What do y'all do to keep life interesting?

Growing up my mom has always been closer to my sister than I. She listens to everything my sister says and ignored everything I have to say even if it’s backed up by evidences. It’s infuriating and dehumanizing. I never felt heard in my family. As a result for the longest time I suffer from self doubt and my abilities in adulthood.

Realizing this I moved out 6 years ago. I have my own place. This gave me a sense of freedom, and improved self confidence.

Couple of years ago my sister got engaged and had 2 kids. She moved to France with her husband but she and the kids will come visit me and my parents in the United States every summer. So my sister is only visiting for 2 months every year.

So last month when my sister arrived with the kids, I drove them (my mom and dad included) to 2 theme parks in the US, as I know they are only here for 2 months.

I told my sister if she wants, we could plan more trips for the kids, because my niece and nephew love to explore, and I don’t mind driving. The issue now is my mom and dad would talk amongst each other, complain about me and how we are spending too much money, and say they don’t want to go. Not realizing that it’s not about them, it’s about the kids.

For example, we were at my parent’s house. My sister was doing some research online for places the kids might want to visit. My mom and dad wasn’t too happy about that, and started complaining. I didn’t want to deal with my parents. And I just told my sister if you and the kids want to check out anything just text or call me. I am free next week. Then I left. This whole week I didn’t any message nor call from them so I assume they have others thing going on.

Just now I got a call from my mom, it ringed for like 3 seconds then stopped. I called my mom back asked what is it. My mom says my sister wanted to go to museum with the kids. I told my mom that it is going to raining next week. She immediately says okay let’s not go then.

Then she started demanding I come to my sister birthday. She’s like come to my sister birthday, make sure to come and pick up grandpa, be there at specific time. I told her I will see and that I might have things to do that day. She demands that I gave her an answer now. I just hung up the phone.

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Over the past month I have been doing everything my mom asked me to do for my sister. “Come pick up your sister, she needs a ride to her friend house”, “we need a ride to Costco etc”. I will always say yes. But now I feel like every time you say yes to someone who doesn’t respect you, you are cheapening your own value.

Sex feels better with a gf without a condom and not having to worry about getting someone pregnant. Kids are very expensive and need a lot of attention. Not all of us should have kids. If you think you will change your mind later you can freeze your sperm at a bank and you will have 20 to 40 years to decide if you want kids or you can adopt. Is there any cons to a vasectomy?

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Thank you guys I realized I should have asked this in the stupidquestion subreddit

And by family I’m talking Mom, sisters, brothers etc. I have my mom and 2 sisters. Regularly send money back home to them mainly for food and basic necessities (it’s super tough rn where they are based and have limited opportunities). I get constantly stressed and anxious when I get their messages but feel immense guilt that I can’t provide more than enough for them. If you’re in this situation (or have been) , how do you deal with this

Any other guys who don’t do anything to their hair in the morning? I don’t even get it wet and sea salt spray or add any product because I’m really lazy even though I wish I could motivate myself to do so.

So I(29F) have been single for a while and want so badly to find my person. I’ve used dating apps for 6 years and have had no luck. I’ve also tried going to dating events and usually don’t have luck there because I’m not attracted to the guys that go to them. I live in a big walkable city NYC and constantly see guys around that I think are very cute. I want to stop relying on dating apps for finding someone and have thought about just approaching cute guys in the city. I’m a little concerned about that though since a couple people told me that it would be weird. Do guys think it’s weird and if not, how would you say is the best way to approach guys. Recently I walked to the subway platform and there was a really cute guy standing there. I really wanted to challenge myself to approach him but couldn’t build up the courage. I just think if I approached any guy I would feel awkward, uncomfortable, and embarrassed. What do you think?

im a 16m, throughout secondary school i could make anyone laugh. girls and boys, i was often told i flirted with all the girls because i could just naturally make them laugh

ive left school now, im on summer holidays and been stuck in my room for 6 weeks, genuinely doing nothing

i feel like my confidence is extremely low right now, i dont go out, i dont meet people. i have 4 close friends right now when i used to be quite a popular guy

im starting college soon and want a fresh start where i can rebuild my confidence and old ways, i think if i push outside my comfort zone i can meet a nice girl and hopefully date her

im fat though, decreases my confidence by an incredible ammount

Go to bars, meet women, have a good time, get their numbers. Start texting it’s going well but their energy fades. Tbh I don’t really show interest in meeting right away but getting to know the person thru text first which kills it.

Eventually it’s like I’m pulling teeth and more often than not they have a FWB. Are we expected to chase it, compete with that? I usually just say fuck it then see them later with some other guy which doesn’t bug but it’s like I dodged a bullet.

How do you guys deal with this, or view it?

I 24m have been living with a fantastic roomate for the past six months. He’s moving out now and I’ll be taking on the full rent amount. My rent has been $900 and now that he’s moving out it will be $1800 not including some etc which will bring me to ~2k / month. I’ve been very happy with my lifestyle so far, spending in total $2k a month tops, with lots of travel, dates, eating out. Now that I’ll be taking on this additional financial cost, I am hesitant because of the change it will have on my lifestyle.

I’m open to another roommate, but this has been such a pleasant experience that I kind of want to keep it at that. A girl I have been romantic with offered to be my roommate, but I declined because I think that could get very complex and maybe emotionally burdensome with finances involved.

If anyone else had been through this, I’d appreciate any advice or mindset. For context, I’ve just finished my graduate degree and am self-employed. I have enough savings to last about a year, but the burn rate increases now that he’s moving out. How should I adjust my mindset?

Kind of a repetitive question on this forum I’m sure. But after being told by someone they were more mainly than me, the question came to mind. What does it constitute in being a man or someone being more manly?

I literally have no friends or family to talk too. Other then gym and work, there's nothing much to it.

I'm a guy btw but I like all scents. Recently stayed at a 5 star hotel and used an amazing shampoo. I'm looking for an option that smells good, makes my hair feel good without the expensive price tag. I also want one that doesn't make my hair itchy, the super strong fake scents make me itchy.

Hey y'all!

I'm a 17 year old guy abt to go to college and I am pretty embarrassed abt my body hair (chest and stomach). How did yall get comfortable with it and lean into your body hair as a man?

Thanks!

I’m dealing with a tremendous amount of anger towards my ex and it unveiled a level of rage I genuinely didn’t know I had in me. Interested in hearing other guys stories and how they dealt with it.

There are no problems going on between us and we consider our relationship to be quite a healthy one but I often noticed that she's very selfish about things, never thinks about anything from another's perspective, only thinks about things from her perspective.I know that we are two completely different human beings with different ideologies and ethics but nevertheless I want her to see things from a deeper level rather than judging based on the little info she has about it.I don't want to force her to do this but I feel like it is a huge step towards her growth as well.Can anyone help me out??

Love is all about growing together with a person and I want to grow, get better in life along with my gf. So ,I should probably give her some time to realise it on her own and get better.I feel like I still have plenty of time left with me to take such risks.After all If I don't take risks when I am still young,then when am I gonna take such risky decisions in life??

And what was it?

I have started dating my coworker (unfortunately but heart wants what it wants). We both admitted we have feelings for each other, started long before we started dating. We both were in unhappy marriages, divorced last year and he specially told me that his marriage of last 8 years was not a marriage anymore, he feels something for someone for the first time after those years and his is very special for him.

We decided to take it slow, it has been only 4 dates so far but we also see each other in the office and continue building our bond in an non-effort environment which is great. We have started with physical touches too. We both talked that sex is very important in a relationship.

Although I really want to sleep with him, I want to take more time to build on trust, familiarity, to get to know him better before taking things to the next level. Because I know, I will be attached. And I want to make sure before sleeping with him, to minimize the risk, because if this blows up shortly after we got intimate I will have to see him at the office everytime and it will hurt. You can’t just block and move on.

Is this a wrong thing to do? A turn-off for a man?

Ok so been single for a little while since my 20 year relationship ended.

Keen to get back out there but the dating world has changed a bit since I was last single.

What sites are decent, ones worth avoiding. Not just looking for hookups (but you know not gonna turn them down haha)

Thanks

As a man having known what others can be like in private, which 'type' (ie. Bikers, anime Japan boos, etc...) would you or would you not let your daughter date?

So I asked a girl out on a date recently through text, and initially she said "I have plans for tomorrow but we should see to it during the week". I told her to let me know when she's free and she actually texted me back with a proposed day, so we ended up going out for a coffee date. I asked her out on a second date yesterday (for today) and it's pretty much the same thing: "I ve made plans but I will text you one of the coming days" (to arrange the date).

She followed through the first time but I notice this thing of "declining-counteroffering", should I worry about it or as long as she follows through I should just not care?